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Title: Ladies & Gentlemen (Manners)
Post by: Corndog on April 02, 2010, 10:46:35 PM
I had this brilliant idea inspired by this post by smirnoff (http://www.filmspotting.net/boards/index.php?topic=6395.msg430204#msg430204), a manners thread! But this isn't like any boring, typical manners thread, this is going to be a fun one, where anything goes. The idea is that you come in here and state something that you did, or didn't, do or something that you feel isn't done enough in this day and age. It can range from anything being serious to anything sarcastic or slightly outrageous. Let me give a few examples and maybe you will understand what I mean. Oh, and there is one qualifier, you have to end whatever it is you are saying with "...like a gentleman." or "...like a lady."; it just makes it funnier, to me at least.

Using smirnoff's post as an example: "I chatted up the cute girl working the deli counter and smiled to myself afterward. I resisted the urge to make meat-related sexual innuendos like a gentleman."
...this one would be more on the silly side, but it could also be serious, like...

"I took an attractive girl on a lovely date the other night and as I was walking her home and the air became chill, I offered her my jacket like a gentleman."

...or again, something silly like: "In my latest loss in cornhole (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cornhole), I was gracious in defeat, shaking the hand of my low-life, good for nothing, cheater of an opponent, like a gentleman.

Make sense? I hope so.

Maybe we can all, once again, become upstanding ladies and gentlemen.
Title: Re: Ladies & Gentlemen (Manners)
Post by: smirnoff on April 03, 2010, 08:11:03 AM
The other day I farted but I blamed it on the dog... like a lady.

Am I doing it right? ;)
Title: Re: Ladies & Gentlemen (Manners)
Post by: Corndog on April 03, 2010, 08:15:39 AM
The other day I farted but I blamed it on the dog... like a lady.

Am I doing it right? ;)

Yay!
Title: Re: Ladies & Gentlemen (Manners)
Post by: Bill Thompson on April 03, 2010, 08:24:57 AM
Yesterday I held the door open for a few of the ladies when we arriving for work. That counts, right.  ???
Title: Re: Ladies & Gentlemen (Manners)
Post by: Colleen on April 03, 2010, 08:36:47 AM
Yesterday I held the door open for a few of the ladies when we arriving for work. That counts, right.  ???

You forgot to say "like a gentleman".
Title: Re: Ladies & Gentlemen (Manners)
Post by: Bill Thompson on April 03, 2010, 08:41:33 AM
Yesterday I held the door open for a few of the ladies when we arriving for work. That counts, right.  ???

You forgot to say "like a gentleman".

Ah, let's try this again then,

Yesterday I held the door open for a few of the ladies when we were arriving for work... like a gentleman.
Title: Re: Ladies & Gentlemen (Manners)
Post by: Corndog on April 04, 2010, 09:44:32 PM
I was at an Easter Egg hunt and me and some chick went for the same egg at the same time. I thought I clearly beat her too it, but she was struggling because she sucked, so I told her that and she was like, "I'm 6." And so I was like "Yea, but you suck." Then I let her have the egg anyway...like a gentleman.
Title: Re: Ladies & Gentlemen (Manners)
Post by: Corndog on April 12, 2010, 09:44:55 PM
In my softball game today I was on first base and the guy hitting behind me hit a deep double to centerfield, but we were up by like 20 and it was late in the game, so instead of running hard into home, I just coasted into third....like a gentleman.
Title: Re: Ladies & Gentlemen (Manners)
Post by: edgar00 on April 13, 2010, 11:48:36 PM
I offered my seat in the subway to an elderly lady...like a gentleman.
Title: Re: Ladies & Gentlemen (Manners)
Post by: íKeith! on April 13, 2010, 11:49:45 PM
I offered my seat in the subway to an elderly lady...like a gentleman.

FYP - also did you call her M?
Title: Re: Ladies & Gentlemen (Manners)
Post by: pixote on April 13, 2010, 11:50:25 PM
I offered my seat in the subway to an elderly lady...like a gentleman.

FYP - also did you call her M?

He edited before you posted (and before I tried to post the same thing, lol).

pixote
Title: Re: Ladies & Gentlemen (Manners)
Post by: edgar00 on April 13, 2010, 11:51:37 PM
I offered my seat in the subway to an elderly lady...like a gentleman.

FYP - also did you call her M?

No, but she thought I was a gentleman.
Title: Re: Ladies & Gentlemen (Manners)
Post by: Bondo on April 13, 2010, 11:59:58 PM
Was letting a friend drive my car (since she was dropping me off at a party so I wouldn't have to fetch my car the next morning after walking back drunk) and she grinded the fender against a pole supporting the parking structure due to a tricky backing situation and I avoided yell at her...like a gentleman.
Title: Re: Ladies & Gentlemen (Manners)
Post by: Corndog on April 19, 2010, 05:07:33 PM
I refused to quote anything out of context from the "Life" thread (http://www.filmspotting.net/boards/index.php?topic=6269.msg438501#msg438501)...like a gentleman.
Title: Re: Ladies & Gentlemen (Manners)
Post by: tinyholidays on April 19, 2010, 06:19:12 PM
I'm doing an independent study next semester on American prescriptive literature (i.e. etiquette books) of the 30s-70s. Hell yeah. If you have a favorite old guide to being a girl or something, I'd love to know!
Title: Re: Ladies & Gentlemen (Manners)
Post by: Clovis8 on April 19, 2010, 06:36:54 PM
I'm doing an independent study next semester on American prescriptive literature (i.e. etiquette books) of the 30s-70s. Hell yeah. If you have a favorite old guide to being a girl or something, I'd love to know!

I remember an episode of The West Wing where the president was reading this book. Older than you mention but might be fun.

(http://www.enlightenedredneck.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/02/gw_rules_civility1.jpg)
Title: Re: Ladies & Gentlemen (Manners)
Post by: tinyholidays on April 19, 2010, 07:14:54 PM
I'm doing an independent study next semester on American prescriptive literature (i.e. etiquette books) of the 30s-70s. Hell yeah. If you have a favorite old guide to being a girl or something, I'd love to know!

I remember an episode of The West Wing where the president was reading this book. Older than you mention but might be fun.

(http://www.enlightenedredneck.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/02/gw_rules_civility1.jpg)

Thanks, Clovis! I've browsed through that book before, and it's a lot of fun.
Title: Re: Ladies & Gentlemen (Manners)
Post by: saltine on April 19, 2010, 09:39:40 PM
tiny, the old Girl Scout manuals (like from the 50s) had a section on manners.  I think there was even a merit badge!
Title: Re: Ladies & Gentlemen (Manners)
Post by: tinyholidays on April 19, 2010, 09:48:14 PM
tiny, the old Girl Scout manuals (like from the 50s) had a section on manners.  I think there was even a merit badge!

Oh, great idea, saltine! I'll definitely have to look for those.
Title: Re: Ladies & Gentlemen (Manners)
Post by: Bondo on May 24, 2011, 01:38:42 PM
Nabokovbump.

Unlike the guy in the novel Lolita, I wouldn't marry a widow to get to her daughter, I'd marry the teen directly, like a gentleman.
Title: Re: Ladies & Gentlemen (Manners)
Post by: jdc on May 26, 2011, 05:56:35 AM
I refused to quote anything out of context from the "Life" thread (http://www.filmspotting.net/boards/index.php?topic=6269.msg438501#msg438501)...like a gentleman.

Hey wait, where is the "life" thread?  (I am suppose to be avoiding here and the internet in general the next two weeks but I am still at the airport so I will start later.
Title: Re: Ladies & Gentlemen (Manners)
Post by: FLYmeatwad on May 26, 2011, 05:58:36 PM
Pay attention I'm stabbing your women friends, like a gentlemen.
Title: Re: Ladies & Gentlemen (Manners)
Post by: 1SO on October 23, 2014, 12:20:18 AM
Looking for a good thread to revive for this. May have more to do with social interaction than manners, but since I often do this wrong...

It starts with a post from ses under What Are You Doing?
I'm still a bit confused at the encounter I had at Target today.  I was walking out of the bathroom and someone was walking in at the same time.  I said "Oh, excuse me." and she said "Nope" and continued into the bathroom.  Nope?  How weird was that?  Nope, you aren't excused for trying to exit the bathroom at the same time I was trying to enter?  Beats me.

This was my response.
Last week I pushed open a door to exit. A woman quickly walked through the narrow gap between the door and me (ducking under my arm.) Even stranger, she then tried to close the door behind her as she passed. It's like I was invisible and the door opened automatically for her.


My intention when writing it was to throw in with ses' confusion over the rudeness of people concerning door etiquette. I'm piggybacking on her point with a similar recent incident. However, after writing it I wondered if it came off like I was hijacking her post. Instead of responding directly to what ses wrote or acknowledging it, I turn the conversation spotlight onto me. Is that how it reads? Is there a better, more polite or respectful way I should have entered so as not to give the impression I was looking to turn the thread in my direction?
Title: Re: Ladies & Gentlemen (Manners)
Post by: Bondo on October 23, 2014, 12:32:01 AM
Well, if you buy into very gendered notions of conversation (Men are from Mars and that jazz), you actually exhibited an aware, feminine response. The male approach would be to try to "solve the problem" which keeps the focus on her, but may not respect what she's actually going for. The female approach would be to offer a similar narrative to signal that she relates to the story.

Now, I am NOT buying into the gendered aspect of this discussion, but suggesting that relating a similar story of door awkwardness isn't about story topping or egotistical redirection, but actually an act of empathy and social acuity. Though I'm sure context is key here and there are ways to do it that make it the one and ways that make it the other, and I definitely don't have the social skills to know which is which.
Title: Re: Ladies & Gentlemen (Manners)
Post by: ses on October 23, 2014, 09:57:01 AM
I didn't take it as hijacking my post.  My first reaction at reading it was "man, why are people so weird and oblivious to other's actions".  I saw your response as acknowledging mine by you comparing your own experience.  I could, however, see how someone could take it that way, as you hijacking the post, and it says something that you are aware of that, but that's not how I viewed it.

Title: Re: Ladies & Gentlemen (Manners)
Post by: pixote on October 23, 2014, 01:27:51 PM
I have friends who are too narcissistic to carry on a conversation with:

Me: "I went to the story today, and this kid knocked over a whole stack of cereal boxes. I went to help him pick them all up, and--"

Friend: "Oh yeah, I need to go to the store. I was going to go before work, but I was running late. Maybe I'll go before dinner. There are like a billion things I need to buy... [continues for two more minutes]..."

pixote
Title: Re: Ladies & Gentlemen (Manners)
Post by: Sandy on October 23, 2014, 01:59:22 PM
 :))

the worst!


...So when you helped him pick up the cereal, did you two build a castle with it? This is how I picture it in my mind.

(http://i57.tinypic.com/5yu7vq.jpg)
Title: Re: Ladies & Gentlemen (Manners)
Post by: Junior on October 23, 2014, 02:16:41 PM
Yeah, well I work with what I call a Topper. Anything you've done or had, she's done or had better (or worse). I've stopped trying to talk with her. The best is when she gets going with another, milder Topper. They can talk about themselves at each other for hours.

And yes, I understand that I just topped you. Apologies.
Title: Re: Ladies & Gentlemen (Manners)
Post by: ses on October 23, 2014, 02:30:12 PM
I've never heard the phrase Topper, we call them One Uppers, but yeah, I know a few of those too.
Title: Re: Ladies & Gentlemen (Manners)
Post by: Jared on October 23, 2014, 04:04:15 PM
Topper is my favorite Dilbert character.

http://search.dilbert.com/comic/Topper

Title: Re: Ladies & Gentlemen (Manners)
Post by: smirnoff on October 23, 2014, 04:16:23 PM
You are all describing my aunt. Impossible to talk to.

Kristen Wiig's SNL character Penelope is another great example of that character. There are clips on Yahoo but they don't play in Canada. Funny though. :)