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Title: I just need to whimper
Post by: lise on October 17, 2006, 03:29:02 PM
I had to buy a new computer today... because my old one is now a very expensive paper weight. whhhaaaahhhhh! I'm not upset about buying the new computer, although I hadn't budgeted for it, I'm bummed because I had not yet fully backed up my music library or deauthorized the computer.

On the other hand I am now the proud owner of a macbook pro. Its all pretty and stuff.
Title: I just need to whimper
Post by: alexarch on October 17, 2006, 03:41:22 PM
Yay! New things.  New, pretty, glossy, silvery things.  Was your dead computer an Apple?

As I said, we just switched, and I love having my new shiny white iMac sitting sleekly on top of our new zebra wood and stainless steel desk flanked by two white PVC Herman-Miller knock-off office chairs.  We feel so urban and beautiful.
Title: I just need to whimper
Post by: Wowser on October 17, 2006, 04:15:36 PM
http://www.shelleytherepublican.com/2006/10/13/apple-computer-the-homosexuals-favourite.aspx

You're as bad as the terrorists, Alex!  :D
Title: I just need to whimper
Post by: lise on October 17, 2006, 04:38:52 PM
My old computer was a powerbook g4 that I got about 3 years ago. About 2.5 years ago I moved my chair only to discover that the powercord was wrapped around the chair leg. Apparently the place I took it to be repaired did a crap job. Recently my hard drive started making sounds better suited for a wild animal park, and yesterday it went kablooeeyy.

I had a pc before that, but I work a lot in unix and that just got to be annoying as hell.

I love my shiny silver new laptop... but I hate spending gobs of money when I didn't plan on it. Let my pain and tears be a lesson, backup backup backup!!!
Title: I just need to whimper
Post by: Wowser on October 17, 2006, 04:42:07 PM
Was it an (I'd like a new computer now..) "accident"?
Title: I just need to whimper
Post by: alexarch on October 17, 2006, 04:45:32 PM
Quote from: "wowser"
You're as bad as the terrorists, Alex!  :D
My god, how I love unbridled ignorance.
Title: I just need to whimper
Post by: Wowser on October 17, 2006, 04:47:42 PM
Scarily, though a satrirical blog, it's not far off the genuine far-right blogs out there.
Title: I just need to whimper
Post by: alexarch on October 17, 2006, 04:50:17 PM
Quote from: "wowser"
Scarily, though a satrirical blog, it's not far off the genuine far-right blogs out there.
Thank God it's satirical.  They need to say so.  Like you said, it's so close to websites like Got Hates Fags, Got Hates America, and Got Hates [fill in the blank] that one is easily confused.
Title: I just need to whimper
Post by: lise on October 17, 2006, 05:35:19 PM
Quote from: "wowser"
Was it an (I'd like a new computer now..) "accident"?


nope- I would have been better at making sure I didn't lose stuff if it had been. That and the accident that caused my pain and suffering was actually about 2 years ago. :( Regardless of whether the fall caused the disk error, they will use the excuse that it did.
Title: I just need to whimper
Post by: Katebo on October 17, 2006, 05:39:24 PM
Sorry about your computer woes, lise. I had a harddrive die on me last year, causing me to lose 10,000 music files (I'd lost my cd case, which I actually just found a week ago- yay!), so I feel your pain. At least you've got a pretty new computer? Just don't think about the whole it-costing-money thing. :)
Title: I just need to whimper
Post by: MagnusFromBerlin on October 18, 2006, 12:34:18 PM
Quote from: "lise"
I had a pc before that, but I work a lot in unix and that just got to be annoying as hell.

welcome to my world... sorry about your lost data
Title: I just need to whimper
Post by: sodajerk on October 26, 2006, 01:12:35 AM
Sorry about your computer troubles. I've had a Mac in some form since I was about 10 (my dad is a computer geek so we always had one at home).  I had always been in the habit of doing routine maintenance with Norton Utilities or some such program, so last year I thought I'd do the same with my relatively new G5 using TechTools. Well, turns out that OS 10.4 (Tiger) has a lot of those utility functions built in, so when I clicked the button that said "repair" I was actually hitting a button that meant "erase"

Anyway, I feel your pain - and I agree that you should always keep the really important stuff backed up, even if you think it will never happen to you. Luckily, I had my whole iTunes library backed up on my iPod, and there are programs out there that will let you rip the songs off an iPod and back into your iTunes folder.

Also, there's a way to deauthorize computers in your iTunes account options. Go to the iTunes Music Store window and click on the button in the upper right hand corner to sign in. There is a button to deauthorize all computers on that account. Apparently you can only do this once per year.

I hope your new computer consoles you.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: pixote on November 13, 2008, 12:19:34 AM
Oh my god, how have I missed this thread all this time?

I'm totally going to spend all me time here from now on.

*whimpers*

pixote
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: FifthCityMuse on November 13, 2008, 12:22:48 AM
This does look like a fun place to be...


*whimpers also*

Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: FroHam X on November 13, 2008, 02:47:19 AM
yayzorz (roughly translated as "whimper")
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Tequila on November 13, 2008, 06:41:28 AM
I just bought a new computer and you don't see me whimpering. It's awesome!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Emiliana on November 13, 2008, 07:00:50 AM
This is the perfect day for this thread to resurface. I have a terrible cold, but I absolutely have to be at work today and tomorrow. I should be home in bed with a pot of tea and maybe a film or two to watch.... *whines and whimpers*
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: pixote on December 02, 2008, 08:46:33 PM
*whimpers vicariously*
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: worm@work on December 02, 2008, 08:48:46 PM
*whimpers vicariously*

:).
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: saltine on December 02, 2008, 10:00:55 PM
*whimpers pre-emptively*


just in case
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ¡Keith! on May 05, 2009, 02:08:32 AM
i expect to see pixote here come May 9th.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: saltine on May 23, 2009, 09:11:56 AM
I broke my leg Thursday night.   
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: facedad on May 23, 2009, 11:54:37 AM
I broke my leg Thursday night.   
Really? That's terrible. Do you feel ok?
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ferris on May 23, 2009, 12:02:38 PM
I broke my leg Thursday night.   

Ouch!  What happened!!?
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: saltine on May 23, 2009, 12:57:58 PM
I stepped off curbing around a flower bed, twisted my ankle, tore ligament, and broke my tibia.  It hurts, but codeine is helping though I'm trying to limit that intake.  The worst part is the immobility, just lying around for two weeks at least with no weight on my leg or foot.  Plus I'm lousy at crutches.  After two weeks, maybe I can switch to a walking cast.

Thanks for the concern, face and ferris.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Melvil on May 23, 2009, 01:03:01 PM
Oh man, that totally sucks! Evil curbing...

I hope you recover quickly and don't go crazy from immobility. I recommend lots of movies!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oneaprilday on May 23, 2009, 01:12:24 PM
I stepped off curbing around a flower bed, twisted my ankle, tore ligament, and broke my tibia.  It hurts, but codeine is helping though I'm trying to limit that intake.  The worst part is the immobility, just lying around for two weeks at least with no weight on my leg or foot.  Plus I'm lousy at crutches.  After two weeks, maybe I can switch to a walking cast.

Thanks for the concern, face and ferris.

How awful, saltine - I'm so sorry! I hope your recovery goes smoothly.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: saltine on May 23, 2009, 02:26:14 PM
Thanks, melvil and OAD,  I'm watching lots of tv and movies.  This is only Day 2, 12 more in-bed days, uck.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: pixote on May 23, 2009, 06:07:33 PM
This, presumably, is why I don't garden.

Feel better, saltine!

pixote
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: facedad on May 23, 2009, 06:41:56 PM
That's so unfair. It should be much harder than that to break one's leg.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bill Thompson on May 23, 2009, 06:43:42 PM
I stepped off curbing around a flower bed, twisted my ankle, tore ligament, and broke my tibia.  It hurts, but codeine is helping though I'm trying to limit that intake.  The worst part is the immobility, just lying around for two weeks at least with no weight on my leg or foot.  Plus I'm lousy at crutches.  After two weeks, maybe I can switch to a walking cast.

Thanks for the concern, face and ferris.

That sucks, hope you get better.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: alexarch on May 23, 2009, 08:11:02 PM
God bless America, Candace. That sounds so awful (with the exception of the codeine). Get to feeling better soon.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Junior on May 23, 2009, 09:54:16 PM
Oh man, that sucks. You should make good use of libraries and such.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: saltine on May 24, 2009, 08:41:17 AM
Thanks, everyone.  It does suck to be in bed for two weeks, but I have netflix (streaming is great when you're laid up) and Kindle and codeine so I'm making it OK.  Day Three began with less pain and less swelling after a good night's sleep.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ¡Keith! on May 24, 2009, 05:09:48 PM
sorry to hear saltine - hope you are using this time to come up with some great poll ideas ;)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: lise on May 25, 2009, 08:13:40 AM
I just saw this Candace! I think gardening should be a non-contact/severe injury sport... but you obviously know better. I hope you are feeling better!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: edgar00 on May 25, 2009, 08:19:20 AM
I hope you recuperate as quickly as possible saltine.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: saltine on May 25, 2009, 09:26:48 AM
Thank you, lise, _Keith_, and edgar.

It's Day 4 and I'm getting antsy.  No pain unless I misbehave so I'm staying in the sick room, but with lots to entertain me.  I hope everyone has a great holiday today!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ses on May 25, 2009, 06:37:50 PM
Sorry to hear about the leg Candace.  I hope you heal quickly!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: saltine on May 25, 2009, 09:23:53 PM
Thanks, ses...we were going to hike McKittrick Canyon in Guadalupe National Park today, but alas...no can do.  I hope your hike was great.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ses on May 25, 2009, 09:26:09 PM
Thanks, ses...we were going to hike McKittrick Canyon in Guadalupe National Park today, but alas...no can do.  I hope your hike was great.

Hike was good, I am sore as can be, but hopefully that won't last.  Sorry to hear about Guadalupe NP.  I was there last year and we did part of McKittrick.  Hopefully it won't be too hot by the time you are better.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: FifthCityMuse on May 26, 2009, 03:53:56 AM
I'm at this point where I literally feel like I could sleep for 24 hours straight and still wake up tired. I've got another three weeks of school, and I just wanna crawl into bed and stay there for one of them. I don't wanna watch movies, I don't wanna read, I don't wanna do anything. Just sleep. And not have any more of these headaches that have been almost constant for at least a week or so. (And I kinda suspect that's my glasses, and I'm hoping seeing the optometrist in about a month will help that, but still.)

I hope your leg heals up pretty quick Saltine. And just know that I am probably at a stage where I would be prepared to put up with the pain for an excuse to not have to get out of bed.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Thor on July 19, 2009, 02:41:51 PM
Went to see the Chicago Fire last night ([noembed]two late, classy Blanco-inspired goals (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lUWkkWNlRmU)[/noembed] sealing a win over a labouring San Jose team). Leaving the stadium in good spirits, I offered to give the wife a piggyback, but as she leaped on my back I lost my footing, tottered forward, picking up speed in a vain attempt to balance us, and eventually ended up trying to break my fall with my face, diving headfirst into the gravel of the parking lot.

I have taken the skin off my right knee, left elbow, chest, chin, nose and forehead, have a black eye, and a huge oozing welt on my puffy top lip where a piece of gravel was embedded. Mrs. Thor also has damage to her hands and knees, which will bruise up nicely.

Hurts like a motherCINECAST!er.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: pixote on July 19, 2009, 02:45:58 PM
That's adorable!

pixote
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: saltine on July 19, 2009, 02:58:19 PM
Ouch!  Gravel burns and cuts are really painful.  I hope you recover soon.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: facedad on July 19, 2009, 05:52:35 PM
Now you're ready for a hockey game!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: lise on July 19, 2009, 08:14:28 PM
ouch!!! Feel better soon.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: FroHam X on July 19, 2009, 08:19:03 PM
Somebody with power on this forum doesn't like me an has locked my thread about starting a group blog.  :'(

Yay nevermind!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: edgar00 on July 19, 2009, 08:24:42 PM
I am sorry to hear about that accident Thor. Rest easy.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ¡Keith! on July 19, 2009, 11:02:01 PM
hope you enjoyed the bactine bath :-\
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Corndog on July 19, 2009, 11:16:56 PM
wow, that sounds terrible. hope everything heals quickly
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ferris on August 21, 2009, 01:07:01 PM
So...my mom is a heart translant recipient.  She's had it for about 7 years now.  The average life expectancy is about 5.  Problem is that once you've gotten the transplant, you're on 12 meds a day.  Two for the immune suppression and 10 to combat the side effects of the first two.  Because of the meds and the condition, every ailment that comes up from a scrape on the arm to the common cold is a huge friggin deal and necessitates a hospital visit. 

Well what happened was three weeks ago she was having all kinds of complications with her blood pressure and ended up in ICU and things weren't looking good -So we all flew to Houston .  Things have since stabilized and I'm back home now.  But of course we're all on pins and needles waiting for the next episode.  Me and my five endlessly penny-pinching siblings are squabbling over pricey long-term-care options - which sucks all around twice over.

A lot of other interfamiliar Rachel-getting-married type shite went down during the visit but I'll spare y'all all that.

There were a ton of people that expressed their thoughts and concerns over PM here at Filmspotting.  That was very very nice to get (but I feel a bit funny getting sympathy for ailments my Mom is suffering)  - sorry if I didn't write back....but they were read and appreciated :)

Anyways I'm now in the mood to get distracted by movies again - Maybe some more up-beat fare for the time being.  Maybe Funny People (just kidding there)

Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: pixote on August 21, 2009, 03:34:51 PM
Glad things are stable, ferris.  Good to have you back around.

Sorry about John H., though.  :'(

pixote
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ferris on August 21, 2009, 03:51:02 PM
Glad things are stable, ferris.  Good to have you back around.

Sorry about John H., though.  :'(

pixote

I know :(  !!

Although it has been fun listening to all the podcasts and articles do their little tributes.  I don't feel as defensive loving those old movies as much as I do!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Melvil on August 21, 2009, 05:10:07 PM
Sorry to hear you've been having stressful times ferris. Hope everything stays calm for a bit. And definitely glad to have you back around here!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oneaprilday on August 22, 2009, 01:49:58 AM
Yes, really glad you're back, ferris. Thanks for the update. Hoping for the best with your mom.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: pixote on September 05, 2009, 06:44:34 AM
Julianne Moore is not allowed to post in this thread.

pixote
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: pixote on September 23, 2009, 04:45:40 AM
I'm gonna go deal with some self-inflected misery for a day or two or three or whatever.  Hopefully worm and Thor and Tequila and ses and chesterfilms and VmSoze and karlwinslow and ElectricOtter and whoever else start posting like crazy and you don't even notice I'm gone.

Stay excellent to each other.  Oh, and can someone get Tim and flieger and other relative newcomers involved in the Far East bracket?  Thanks!

pixote



Bright Eyes - First Day of My Life (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xUBYzpCNQ1I#normal)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Emiliana on October 02, 2009, 02:00:15 AM
Last night, my hard disk crashed, so I'll be without a computer for a week or so. When that happened, I was ready to scream or cry or something. Hopefully this is now the climax of things that have not been going well recently (trying to help a friend out of his depression, not sleeping, losing my mp3-player), because I am not sure how much more I can take before I go crazy.

I ended up watching two episodes of Buffy last night, because I couldn't even call any of the people I wanted to call to vent: my parents are still in the USA, my brother is on business in Florence, friend A is in London, and I knew that friends B and C were on a date. And I couldn't even tell you lovely people....
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: skjerva on October 02, 2009, 11:07:47 AM
boo :(
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ferris on October 02, 2009, 11:22:12 AM
Last night, my hard disk crashed, so I'll be without a computer for a week or so. When that happened, I was ready to scream or cry or something. Hopefully this is now the climax of things that have not been going well recently (trying to help a friend out of his depression, not sleeping, losing my mp3-player), because I am not sure how much more I can take before I go crazy.

I ended up watching two episodes of Buffy last night, because I couldn't even call any of the people I wanted to call to vent: my parents are still in the USA, my brother is on business in Florence, friend A is in London, and I knew that friends B and C were on a date. And I couldn't even tell you lovely people....


Sorry to hear this.  Especially about the lost mp3 player.  That would really bug me.  Of course you won't read this reply for a week!  :(
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on October 02, 2009, 03:15:55 PM
Last night, my hard disk crashed, so I'll be without a computer for a week or so. When that happened, I was ready to scream or cry or something. Hopefully this is now the climax of things that have not been going well recently (trying to help a friend out of his depression, not sleeping, losing my mp3-player), because I am not sure how much more I can take before I go crazy.

I ended up watching two episodes of Buffy last night, because I couldn't even call any of the people I wanted to call to vent: my parents are still in the USA, my brother is on business in Florence, friend A is in London, and I knew that friends B and C were on a date. And I couldn't even tell you lovely people....

I don't get what you are complaining about, you got a perfect excuse to watch two episodes of Buffy.

Okay, that is bad but don't ever say I didn't try to be an optimist.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oneaprilday on October 02, 2009, 03:26:08 PM
Last night, my hard disk crashed, so I'll be without a computer for a week or so. When that happened, I was ready to scream or cry or something. Hopefully this is now the climax of things that have not been going well recently (trying to help a friend out of his depression, not sleeping, losing my mp3-player), because I am not sure how much more I can take before I go crazy.

I ended up watching two episodes of Buffy last night, because I couldn't even call any of the people I wanted to call to vent: my parents are still in the USA, my brother is on business in Florence, friend A is in London, and I knew that friends B and C were on a date. And I couldn't even tell you lovely people....


So sorry, Em. Hoping things take an upturn soon.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: 'Noke on October 04, 2009, 10:19:24 AM
Last night, my hard disk crashed, so I'll be without a computer for a week or so. When that happened, I was ready to scream or cry or something. Hopefully this is now the climax of things that have not been going well recently (trying to help a friend out of his depression, not sleeping, losing my mp3-player), because I am not sure how much more I can take before I go crazy.

I ended up watching two episodes of Buffy last night, because I couldn't even call any of the people I wanted to call to vent: my parents are still in the USA, my brother is on business in Florence, friend A is in London, and I knew that friends B and C were on a date. And I couldn't even tell you lovely people....


 :( :( :(. hope things get better.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Emiliana on October 05, 2009, 03:09:58 AM
Thank you everyone! Things are looking up - I spent most of the weekend sleeping and watching films, I'm getting myself a new mp3-player today, my new hard disk is going to arrive tomorrow, so my computer should be up and running again by Wednesday or Thursday at the latest. No idea yet if my data can be saved, though.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ¡Keith! on October 05, 2009, 08:42:26 AM
Thank you everyone! Things are looking up - I spent most of the weekend sleeping and watching films, I'm getting myself a new mp3-player today, my new hard disk is going to arrive tomorrow, so my computer should be up and running again by Wednesday or Thursday at the latest. No idea yet if my data can be saved, though.

There are companies that can usually retrieve data from damaged HDs but they are kind of expensive (and it depends on the size of the HD) is it a work thing?
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Emiliana on October 05, 2009, 08:53:52 AM
Thank you everyone! Things are looking up - I spent most of the weekend sleeping and watching films, I'm getting myself a new mp3-player today, my new hard disk is going to arrive tomorrow, so my computer should be up and running again by Wednesday or Thursday at the latest. No idea yet if my data can be saved, though.

There are companies that can usually retrieve data from damaged HDs but they are kind of expensive (and it depends on the size of the HD) is it a work thing?

No, it's not a work thing, so the expense of professional data retrieval would definitely be an issue. I'm going to have a friend try and help me by connecting the HD to a Linux system to see if I can access the data that way, but if that doesn't work, I'll just have to admit defeat. There's nothing absolutely vital on it, just plenty of private stuff that I'd hate to lose (pictures, e-mails, word docs etc.).
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on October 05, 2009, 12:09:02 PM
Thank you everyone! Things are looking up - I spent most of the weekend sleeping and watching films, I'm getting myself a new mp3-player today, my new hard disk is going to arrive tomorrow, so my computer should be up and running again by Wednesday or Thursday at the latest. No idea yet if my data can be saved, though.
I wish my computer would crash.  :P
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oneaprilday on October 05, 2009, 12:18:04 PM
Thank you everyone! Things are looking up - I spent most of the weekend sleeping and watching films, I'm getting myself a new mp3-player today, my new hard disk is going to arrive tomorrow, so my computer should be up and running again by Wednesday or Thursday at the latest.

Great to hear!  :)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: pixote on October 05, 2009, 05:09:00 PM
Hopefully worm and Thor and Tequila and ses and chesterfilms and VmSoze and karlwinslow and ElectricOtter and whoever else start posting like crazy and you don't even notice I'm gone.

I'm gonna go ahead and take credit for this.

Welcome back, chester!!!

pixote
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Junior on October 05, 2009, 09:33:56 PM
Well done. Now leave again and maybe we'll get another one back.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: mañana on October 05, 2009, 10:28:54 PM
Cool trick. Now make Amelia Earhart and Jimmy Hoffa appear.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: pixote on October 12, 2009, 04:12:49 AM
*whimper*
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: pixote on October 12, 2009, 04:20:51 AM
Hopefully worm and Thor and Tequila and ses and chesterfilms and VmSoze and karlwinslow and ElectricOtter and whoever else start posting like crazy and you don't even notice I'm gone.

I'm gonna go ahead and take credit for this.

Welcome back, chester!!!
Well done. Now leave again and maybe we'll get another one back.

Done!

pixote
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ferris on October 12, 2009, 10:57:51 AM
Hopefully worm and Thor and Tequila and ses and chesterfilms and VmSoze and karlwinslow and ElectricOtter and whoever else start posting like crazy and you don't even notice I'm gone.

I'm gonna go ahead and take credit for this.

Welcome back, chester!!!
Well done. Now leave again and maybe we'll get another one back.

Done!

pixote

Cool :)  It's just that easy!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: pixote on October 18, 2009, 05:50:43 AM
Indeed.

pixote
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: facedad on October 20, 2009, 05:32:01 PM
A childhood friend just messaged me today. Hello terribly unhappiness, how are you this eve?
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Melvil on October 20, 2009, 06:11:09 PM
A childhood friend just messaged me today. Hello terribly unhappiness, how are you this eve?

Bad news, or something else? Either way, boo! Sorry to hear it, face.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: alexarch on October 20, 2009, 06:13:12 PM
A childhood friend just messaged me today. Hello terribly unhappiness, how are you this eve?
The content of the message made you unhappy? Or that the childhood friend contacted you at all?
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: facedad on October 20, 2009, 06:16:00 PM
A childhood friend just messaged me today. Hello terribly unhappiness, how are you this eve?

Bad news, or something else? Either way, boo! Sorry to hear it, face.
Thanks.

A childhood friend just messaged me today. Hello terribly unhappiness, how are you this eve?
The content of the message made you unhappy? Or that the childhood friend contacted you at all?
At all.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: alexarch on October 20, 2009, 06:25:28 PM
A childhood friend just messaged me today. Hello terribly unhappiness, how are you this eve?
The content of the message made you unhappy? Or that the childhood friend contacted you at all?
At all.
Why come?
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: facedad on October 20, 2009, 06:33:19 PM
A childhood friend just messaged me today. Hello terribly unhappiness, how are you this eve?
The content of the message made you unhappy? Or that the childhood friend contacted you at all?
At all.
Why come?
I've spoken of this before.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oneaprilday on October 20, 2009, 06:53:37 PM
A childhood friend just messaged me today. Hello terribly unhappiness, how are you this eve?

 :( Sorry, face.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: facedad on October 20, 2009, 07:00:09 PM
Thanks everyone.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: 'Noke on October 21, 2009, 02:11:51 PM
I don't think I know why this makes you unhappy face, but I'm sorry you're unhappy.  :(
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: 'Noke on October 22, 2009, 04:33:07 PM
I've had an awful day:

I woke up feeling crap before the day had even startd, cause yesterday I had ruined my half day by doing nothing.
My friends treated me awfully today.
I felt destroyed after Martial arts and Guitar in a row.
My family were really cranky today, and all they did was shout at each other and me.
My mum squandered any free time I had with chores.
For some reason, my self esteem just deflated today.
I wasnt anything like myself, just all the qualities I hate in me.
And a bunch of other small annoying things happened.

*Sigh*.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ferris on October 22, 2009, 05:15:58 PM
My family were really cranky today, and all they did was shout at each other and me.


:(

Sorry to hear this.  Hugs usually fix these problems even the worst of situations.  But of course, easy for me to say a full 4600 miles away!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: saltine on October 22, 2009, 05:35:11 PM
Gee, 'Noke...I thought the barking dog next door was a burden.

I hope tomorrow is a better day for you and your family.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oneaprilday on October 22, 2009, 05:44:28 PM
I've had an awful day:

 :( Sorry, 'Noke. Hope things turn around for you soon.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ¡Keith! on October 23, 2009, 11:27:13 AM
hope todays goin better for ya gnoke. 
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ses on October 26, 2009, 10:01:59 PM
Why am i having terrible back pain that is wrapping around my right hip and down my right leg all the way to my knee cap?  I can barely walk.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ferris on October 26, 2009, 10:09:44 PM
Why am i having terrible back pain that is wrapping around my right hip and down my right leg all the way to my knee cap?  I can barely walk.

ouch ouch ouch.  Time to see the chiropractor! (and to clean the receipts out of your wallet!)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ses on October 26, 2009, 10:10:47 PM
Why am i having terrible back pain that is wrapping around my right hip and down my right leg all the way to my knee cap?  I can barely walk.

ouch ouch ouch.  Time to see the chiropractor! (and to clean the receipts out of your wallet!)

I am not George Constanza!  Plus I carry a purse.  ;)  Yeah, I don't know what's up, I just popped some Advil.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ferris on October 26, 2009, 10:13:53 PM
Why am i having terrible back pain that is wrapping around my right hip and down my right leg all the way to my knee cap?  I can barely walk.

ouch ouch ouch.  Time to see the chiropractor! (and to clean the receipts out of your wallet!)

I am not George Constanza!  Plus I carry a purse.  ;)  Yeah, I don't know what's up, I just popped some Advil.

Oops!  Sorry So you're the one on the right, not the one on the left?  (your avatar). 

Either that or i should respond "it's a European carry-all"  :) 
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ses on October 26, 2009, 10:18:05 PM
Why am i having terrible back pain that is wrapping around my right hip and down my right leg all the way to my knee cap?  I can barely walk.

ouch ouch ouch.  Time to see the chiropractor! (and to clean the receipts out of your wallet!)

I am not George Constanza!  Plus I carry a purse.  ;)  Yeah, I don't know what's up, I just popped some Advil.

Oops!  Sorry So you're the one on the right, not the one on the left?  (your avatar). 

Either that or i should respond "it's a European carry-all"  :) 

I'd like to think I am more like Grace Kelly.  :), don't worry ferris, I am frequently referred to as a guy on the boards, somehow I assume everyone knows I'm female, but it often isn't the case.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Junior on October 26, 2009, 10:19:59 PM
I get people confusing my gender all the time, too. I'm awesome, not a man or a woman, just awesome. DUH.







But seriously, I'm a man. An awesome man.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: enzobot24 on October 27, 2009, 02:54:53 AM
I have 4 poems to revise for a poetry class.

I'm generally very good at lit. related things (essays, short stories, literary analysis) but poetry is freakin' hard.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: 'Noke on October 27, 2009, 05:31:32 AM
Why am i having terrible back pain that is wrapping around my right hip and down my right leg all the way to my knee cap?  I can barely walk.

ouch ouch ouch.  Time to see the chiropractor! (and to clean the receipts out of your wallet!)

I am not George Constanza!  Plus I carry a purse.  ;)  Yeah, I don't know what's up, I just popped some Advil.

Oops!  Sorry So you're the one on the right, not the one on the left?  (your avatar). 

Either that or i should respond "it's a European carry-all"  :) 

I'd like to think I am more like Grace Kelly.  :), don't worry ferris, I am frequently referred to as a guy on the boards, somehow I assume everyone knows I'm female, but it often isn't the case.

I thought this way when I first arrived, but then it was because you were going through all those amazing dog avatars. I realized the truth when I noticed your blog was called Sarah's Kitchen Adventures.

As for the back, hope it gets better soon!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: 'Noke on October 27, 2009, 05:32:09 AM
I get people confusing my gender all the time, too. I'm awesome, not a man or a woman, just awesome. DUH.







But seriously, I'm a man. An awesome man.

you transcend gender with awesomeness. I like it.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Kevin Shields on October 27, 2009, 01:20:13 PM
My check still isn't here and I'm afraid that if it doesn't arrive by Sat. and comes late, I won't be able to cash it in.  I've now become incredibly depressed and unwilling to write anything until I get what is owed to me.  I guess this means I won't be seeing anything and will end up spending whatever I have left.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ferris on October 27, 2009, 02:27:20 PM
My check still isn't here and I'm afraid that if it doesn't arrive by Sat. and comes late, I won't be able to cash it in.  I've now become incredibly depressed and unwilling to write anything until I get what is owed to me.  I guess this means I won't be seeing anything and will end up spending whatever I have left.

Man I've been there - running out of money and pacing by the mailbox.  not fun.  Not fun at all. 
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Colleen on October 27, 2009, 09:23:21 PM
I was on vacation in Florida 2 weeks ago.  Lovely, but unlike in the uniform division, work keeps piling up while you are gone, so I'm behind.  I was only able to actually work on my stuff one day last week.  I developed a nasty infection that had me out of work 2 days, then came back on Friday to do the fall inservice I'd missed on Thursday (and got a nasty cut on my palm while at the range--memo to self, hold flashlight NEXT to the gun in low light situation not on top of it where the slide action will bite you).

So now I'm still behind (behind-er) and I feel absolutely crappy today.  I'm coming down with a cold or sinus infection AND it's my Special Girly Day and as I mentioned in the Weather thread, it's cold and pouring rain.  I want nothing more than to be home in bed.  I still have 90 min to go.  I'm barely productive, AND I fell off the wagon with the eating better thing as soon as I realized I'd forgotten to bring my dinner to work with me.  Off to Mickey D's and I'm sipping the rest of my cup of Coke from dinner now.  That I let slide because Special Girly Day means all bets are off when it comes to sensible eating and doing any exercise.

Also, I have the sergeants exam on Thursday and I've done very little studying and I alternate between worrying that I'm going to go down in flames (but barely able to concentrate on studying) and feeling cocky because (a) I've always been good at taking tests, esp. multiple choice ones and (b) Passing is 65%, 100 questions and I should be able to get that on what I know now without really studying and (c) they can't make it super hard because everyone failing will look really bad.  Also I'm not even all that motivated to get promoted.  I kind of like where I am.

87 minutes til I can go home and go to bed.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: 'Noke on October 27, 2009, 09:29:56 PM
:(. Tough luck Colleen. Hopefully it'll get better soon.

Good Luck on the Sergeant's exam!!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: saltine on October 27, 2009, 09:32:54 PM
Good luck on the sergeants exam and hope you feel better quickly. 
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ferris on October 28, 2009, 12:51:37 PM
Good luck on the sergeants exam ...

Well I think you want good luck.  Somehow I'm reminded of when Kirk got demoted back down to captain in Star Trek 4
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Corndog on November 02, 2009, 04:56:18 PM
The GM at Jimmy John's is probably in the top 4 idiots of all time. So at the beginning of the quarter I gave my availability to the old GM (best boss I've ever had, she was great) and she said yes to all the hours I wanted, which totaled about 20 a week, good enough considering I am going to school full time too. So then she leaves to go to Nashville, where she wanted to be, good for her.

The new GM comes in, tells me that whatever I told Val, those would be my hours. So great. Then he hires all of these stinkin' new people who don't know what they are doing and aren't the best workers (I take a lot of pride in being a good worker). Some of them are good workers, but for the most part no. He is doing this because he is implementing all the things corporate had always wanted to do, but Val never did them because she knew they wouldn't work. So now everything is a mess, labor is high because of all these new people, and he starts cutting my hours (in addition to the new people, some of which are getting less than 10 hours a week, hardly worth it). I get pissed, he tells me he is going to fix it but doesn't.

So now this brings us to today. He wasn't the manager (Monday we get someone else who is a million times better/nicer). He had changed my hours from 11-5 to 12-5, so when I showed up at 11 he told me I'd only be paid til 4, even if I stayed til 5. What!? (He was there doing some auditing). So then he leaves a little after I get there and it turns out the delivery driver wants to leave early. I have my bike, so I say I'll deliver for the last two hours and he goes home. Come 5 o'clock I go to clock out and see that he has already done it so that I only get my 5 hours. Insane! So the shift manager gets probably more pissed than I do and leaves a strongly worded message for the GM in my defense.

Honestly, this guy is a puppet.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: facedad on November 03, 2009, 01:55:51 AM
Keep in mind, if you want it to go to that level, that there are legal routes to take this.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: facedad on November 03, 2009, 09:15:45 PM
So, my 31 year old sister had a small stroke this week stemming from a blockage in her carotid artery. Her phase went numb, she had aphasia, the whole bit. She's had migraines and cluster headaches for years (along with smoking and taking the pill), so now that it's happened, it seems she's prone to it. Supposedly it was caught early and with blood thinners and other medication she'll be fine. She'll be in the hospital until Friday to be sure, and this is the first time she's been away from her 10 month old daughter for more than a few hours.

Both my other sister and I (as we both get migraines) are going to the doctor just to address the problem, but we don't have great reason to believe there will be a problem for us. I'm much more worried about not being around and it's really making it hard to live across the border, 7 to 12 hours away.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: saltine on November 03, 2009, 09:24:27 PM
This is tough, face.  So sorry to hear about your sister.  Please do get checked out!

In an aside, few people know that it's dangerous to put your head back in a shampoo bowl as you're usually seated in salons while having your hair washed.  It compresses the carotid artery and can cause a stroke. My sister-in-law had a small stroke as a result of this.  She's a medical doctor and knew the risk, but didn't think it would happen to her.  She's more careful now.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oneaprilday on November 03, 2009, 09:47:03 PM
Wow, so sorry, face, - must so difficult to be away from your family at a time like this. I really feel for your sister, too, having to be a away from her baby, who is about my own little one's age.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Junior on November 03, 2009, 09:47:50 PM
That super sucks and is super scary.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: facedad on November 03, 2009, 11:27:03 PM
Thanks everyone. Trying to get home next friday.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Clovis8 on November 03, 2009, 11:35:37 PM

In an aside, few people know that it's dangerous to put your head back in a shampoo bowl as you're usually seated in salons while having your hair washed.  It compresses the carotid artery and can cause a stroke. My sister-in-law had a small stroke as a result of this.  She's a medical doctor and knew the risk, but didn't think it would happen to her.  She's more careful now.

What the hell! Great now I have to worry about getting my hair cut too! I would have never thought of this one.

I hope your sister is ok Face.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ¡Keith! on November 03, 2009, 11:48:22 PM
Thanks everyone. Trying to get home next friday.

my sympathies and best of luck getting back.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Colleen on November 04, 2009, 12:03:13 AM
Sorry to hear that Face.  For the record, after I told my doc that my mom had (at age 63) surgery for a 90% blockage in her carotid, she had me start taking the baby aspirin a day thingie.  Probably not a bad idea for you and your sibs, unless your doc says differently.  (Note to self: remember to get a new bottle of baby aspirin)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ferris on November 04, 2009, 03:10:56 AM
Thanks everyone. Trying to get home next friday.

Good luck Face.  Thoughts and prayers to be sure...
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: facedad on November 05, 2009, 12:00:11 AM
She's ok. Three months without driving or picking up anything over 20 lbs (including her infant daughter) until she gets another MRA and then who knows. It completely screwed her plans to get pregnant again and she's stuck taking Plavix and baby aspirin, but she's ok.

Still going home next week.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Clovis8 on November 05, 2009, 12:01:54 AM
good to hear
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oneaprilday on November 05, 2009, 12:03:09 AM
She's ok. Three months without driving or picking up anything over 20 lbs (including her infant daughter) until she gets another MRA and then who knows. It completely screwed her plans to get pregnant again and she's stuck taking Plavix and baby aspirin, but she's ok.

Still going home next week.
Thanks for the update. Glad she's OK. Sorry to hear it's going to be such rough going for the next few months though.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ses on November 05, 2009, 04:47:51 PM
Sorry to hear about your sister, face, I am glad to hear that she is okay.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Junior on November 05, 2009, 11:41:35 PM
It seems that certain medical issues have returned. With a vengeance.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: pixote on November 05, 2009, 11:43:51 PM
Aww...  :'(

pixote
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: FroHam X on November 06, 2009, 10:15:59 AM
It seems that certain medical issues have returned. With a vengeance.

Not good. Medical issues are never good.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: facedad on November 06, 2009, 11:55:40 AM
It seems that certain medical issues have returned. With a vengeance.

Not good. Medical issues are never good.
Indeed.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ferris on November 06, 2009, 01:14:30 PM
It seems that certain medical issues have returned. With a vengeance.

Not good. Medical issues are never good.
Indeed.

especially the ones that have to be discussed in vague terms.     Sorry man.  :(

Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on November 07, 2009, 02:45:44 AM
I'm with you, Junior.  I can't afford my medication and the results are unpleasant.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: saltine on November 07, 2009, 02:49:40 AM
I'm with you, Junior.  I can't afford my medication and the results are unpleasant.

sorry to hear this, stevekimes
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: FifthCityMuse on November 07, 2009, 03:56:42 AM
I'm at school, at 8.45pm on a Saturday. the construction of the showreel for the screening is going on in the room. I'm on standby to support my teacher and the one fellow student who is here to do the work. I honestly don't know if I'm going to be leaving any time in the next 12 hours. I don't know if there's actually any work for me to do as of this stage. I should be doing my documentation, but... Blerg.

I'm tired.

I finished my film about 3 hours ago. It was due on Thursday 11pm. There is so much that has gone on since Thursday 7pm, and the majority of it I haven't explained here, and I'm not sure how I feel and it's all complex, and the main reason I haven't said anything is because I'm not sure how things are now. Sorry to be vague, but I think it might still be best.

I have so much documentation that needs to be done by wednesday, so I have no idea how much sleep I'm actually liable to get between then and now.

Although it does look like I might get home tonight now. My teacher's telling me to go, and I'm not gonna go yet (I haven't got the all clear on my film yet, and I'm not going before I get that), but I might be going within the hour.

I'm so done. Just done.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: saltine on November 07, 2009, 04:02:35 AM
I'm at school, at 8.45pm on a Saturday. the construction of the showreel for the screening is going on in the room. I'm on standby to support my teacher and the one fellow student who is here to do the work. I honestly don't know if I'm going to be leaving any time in the next 12 hours. I don't know if there's actually any work for me to do as of this stage. I should be doing my documentation, but... Blerg.

I'm tired.

I finished my film about 3 hours ago. It was due on Thursday 11pm. There is so much that has gone on since Thursday 7pm, and the majority of it I haven't explained here, and I'm not sure how I feel and it's all complex, and the main reason I haven't said anything is because I'm not sure how things are now. Sorry to be vague, but I think it might still be best.

I have so much documentation that needs to be done by wednesday, so I have no idea how much sleep I'm actually liable to get between then and now.

Although it does look like I might get home tonight now. My teacher's telling me to go, and I'm not gonna go yet (I haven't got the all clear on my film yet, and I'm not going before I get that), but I might be going within the hour.

I'm so done. Just done.

 :( hope it works out
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bill Thompson on November 09, 2009, 09:44:34 AM
My family, yeah, my family. The lowdown goes like this,

My one brother is cool, lives with his ex-girlfriend and her parents and takes care of himself. My other brother, Pat, is perpetually in trouble, and he lives with my mom in Wisconsin. My mother is a basket case, she goes from job to job and has trouble keeping friends, jobs and boyfriends because he has a crazy temper. She likes to complain all the time and she never thinks things through, her solution to any problem is to fly off the handle.

Last night my brother Pat called me at 10:30 yelling about how my mom's boyfriend was kicking them out of the house and calling the police on them. My brother and mom wanted me to drive to the Dells and pick them up, but I had my first day of work and knew I wouldn't make it back in time. They yelled and screamed about how I was abandoning them and all that stiff and then hung up on me. Of course it doesn't matter to them that it took me a year to find a job, or that I had to get up at 3 in the morning for work, they called me at least three more times and then started txting me at 1 in the morning to tell me that things had been smoothed over.

Of course no apology was ever offered by them, which is par for the course. My mother put me into bankruptcy and her and Pat have borrowed close to 5 thousand dollars from me over the past year, money that I'll never see again. I love my family, I really do, but I don't know how much more of this I can take.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Colleen on November 09, 2009, 10:27:18 AM
My family, yeah, my family. The lowdown goes like this,

My one brother is cool, lives with his ex-girlfriend and her parents and takes care of himself. My other brother, Pat, is perpetually in trouble, and he lives with my mom in Wisconsin. My mother is a basket case, she goes from job to job and has trouble keeping friends, jobs and boyfriends because he has a crazy temper. She likes to complain all the time and she never thinks things through, her solution to any problem is to fly off the handle.

Last night my brother Pat called me at 10:30 yelling about how my mom's boyfriend was kicking them out of the house and calling the police on them. My brother and mom wanted me to drive to the Dells and pick them up, but I had my first day of work and knew I wouldn't make it back in time. They yelled and screamed about how I was abandoning them and all that stiff and then hung up on me. Of course it doesn't matter to them that it took me a year to find a job, or that I had to get up at 3 in the morning for work, they called me at least three more times and then started txting me at 1 in the morning to tell me that things had been smoothed over.

Of course no apology was ever offered by them, which is par for the course. My mother put me into bankruptcy and her and Pat have borrowed close to 5 thousand dollars from me over the past year, money that I'll never see again. I love my family, I really do, but I don't know how much more of this I can take.

Bill,

1. They are grownups.  Grownups, particularly parental grownups, don't lean on their kids like that unless it's truly dire straits and there is no other choice at all.

2. You are doing what grownups do.  You are taking care of yourself and supporting yourself.  No one else is going to do that for you, therefore that is your number one priority.

3.  Someone who doesn't recognize that and respect it, and respect the obligations it places on you, is not respecting YOU.  Family or no.

4.  You can't just kick someone out of the house if they have established residency.  Even if their name isn't on the lease, even if you pay all the bills.  You have to go through the eviction process.  The boyfriend can't legally force them to leave right then and there.  And even if he does force them, they have options other than demanding you drive to B.F.E. in the middle of the night, whether or not you have to work at 3AM.  They can sleep in the car, or go to the Dells equivalent of a Waffle House and drink coffee til things calm down.  They can call the police and get the police to explain to the boyfriend about not being able to kick them out.  They can figure out how to support themselves so that they aren't dependent on a boyfriend providing a roof over their heads.

5.  The fact that you considered going and getting them and only decided you couldn't because of your work obligation is to your credit. 

6.  But there's nothing wrong with distancing yourself from unhealthy people, even if you are blood relations.   "Blood relation" doesn't mean "I get to bleed you dry taking care of my needs."  They have made choices in their lives, grown ups live with the consequences and deal with it.  You know that you can't change them, you can only change how you react.

My personal suggestion, if it was me, is that once the drama has died down for this go-round, express clearly and calmly how you feel about the incident, including the fact that they don't recognize that they were imposing on you beyond a reasonable amount, and the fact that they didn't apologize for disrupting your life and laying emotional bullshit on you to manipulate you into doing what they want.  Then tell them how you will handle such incidents going forward and stick to that. 

If you don't want to do that much because they won't hear it anyway, just tell them the latter part.  If that's too much and will only open a can of worms, then tell yourself how you will handle it and stick to that.

Relationships are like bank accounts.  You keep taking from the ATM without allowing time for interest to accrue or without making deposits in the account, the account gets drained and overdrawn.  Sounds like your bro and mom are overdrawn at the moment.

Oh and best not to think of the money you gave them as a loan, even if they say they will return it.  That way it won't eat you up when they don't repay it.  If they do, it will be a pleasant bonus. 

Distance is good, distance helps things stay civil when they are f'd up.  You are completely within your rights to draw the boundary you need and maintain it.  It's taken me a long time to recognize this and accept it for myself in my parental relationship and I still have to give myself essentially the pep talk I'm giving you (although my parents don't depend on me like your mom leans on you, there is still the emotional stuff and the guilting).

Good luck with the new job!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bill Thompson on November 09, 2009, 07:09:13 PM
Sorry I missed this earlier, but thanks.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: 'Noke on November 13, 2009, 06:44:10 PM
I nearly got run over by a car today.

It was my stupid mistake for thinking the guy was gonna stop when he was speeding incredibly fast. It was on a moterway with awful crossroads and lights, but I still shouldve been more careful.

But the worst part was the guy who, once I was standing in the middle of the freeway, decided the best thing to do to somebody whose been traumitised by a near awful accident is to go over to the guy and shout "You're lucky to be alive, you stupid F***ing C***!". Which made me feel sick to my stomach, and now I just can't help but feel utterly depressed.

And I have my friends birthday party tomorrow, which I cannot get excited about now.

 
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oneaprilday on November 13, 2009, 07:25:47 PM
That sounds horrible, 'Noke. Glad you're ok.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Melvil on November 13, 2009, 07:53:52 PM
Yeah, I know that feeling, it sucks. Hopefully the party will lift your spirits some.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bill Thompson on November 13, 2009, 08:22:06 PM
I nearly got run over by a car today.

It was my stupid mistake for thinking the guy was gonna stop when he was speeding incredibly fast. It was on a moterway with awful crossroads and lights, but I still shouldve been more careful.

But the worst part was the guy who, once I was standing in the middle of the freeway, decided the best thing to do to somebody whose been traumitised by a near awful accident is to go over to the guy and shout "You're lucky to be alive, you stupid F***ing C***!". Which made me feel sick to my stomach, and now I just can't help but feel utterly depressed.

And I have my friends birthday party tomorrow, which I cannot get excited about now.

 

If you want I can go have a word with the bloke for you? I am the resident tough guy of the boards after all. I can beat him up and then go too far and you'll have to pull me off, it will be fun, trust me.  :)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: smirnoff on November 13, 2009, 08:29:01 PM
Put him in the sharp shooter like Brett Hart!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bill Thompson on November 13, 2009, 08:32:43 PM
Put him in the sharp shooter like Brett Hart!

I'm a figure four man myself, but since it is Ireland I'll be going to maybe I need to bust out Fit Finlay's finishing move, whatever the heck it was.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ¡Keith! on November 17, 2009, 09:28:00 AM
sorry to hear flieger, the last of my GPs passed a couple years ago.  there is certainly been a missing spot in any family gatherings since.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oneaprilday on November 17, 2009, 10:06:34 AM
My wife's grandfather passed away tonight. He was 88. She has no more living grandparents. That's incredibly sad.  :'(
I'm so sorry to hear this, too, flieger. My last living grandparent is 89, and I've just been thinking I need spend time with her more regularly.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: roujin on November 17, 2009, 10:12:35 AM
I wonder where my grandparents are.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oneaprilday on November 17, 2009, 10:13:33 AM
I wonder where my grandparents are.
:(
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: UberGeekyGirl on November 17, 2009, 10:17:20 AM
Put him in the sharp shooter like Brett Hart!

I'm a figure four man myself, but since it is Ireland I'll be going to maybe I need to bust out Fit Finlay's finishing move, whatever the heck it was.

Fit Finlay's finishing move was a Tombstone Piledriver. *smiles* Do it!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ferris on November 17, 2009, 10:21:30 AM
My wife's grandfather passed away tonight. He was 88. She has no more living grandparents. That's incredibly sad.  :'(

Sorry, man.  It's always tough...
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: UberGeekyGirl on November 17, 2009, 10:23:27 AM
My wife's grandfather passed away tonight. He was 88. She has no more living grandparents. That's incredibly sad.  :'(

I lost all of my grandparents too... its really hard when you realize all the stories are gone forever. *sigh* Sorry to hear...
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: DrKimble on November 17, 2009, 10:48:50 AM
My wife's grandfather passed away tonight. He was 88. She has no more living grandparents. That's incredibly sad.  :'(
I'm so sorry to hear, flieger.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: alexarch on November 18, 2009, 04:18:53 PM
The AIA is going through a huge Re-Org (i.e. layoffs). The newsletter that I edit may not be around next year. Right now, that is the only money I make, and it is a measly amount.

But, you know, the economy is on the rebound!

I am so goddamn sick of hearing that.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ¡Keith! on November 18, 2009, 10:33:14 PM
The AIA is going through a huge Re-Org (i.e. layoffs). The newsletter that I edit may not be around next year. Right now, that is the only money I make, and it is a measly amount.

But, you know, the economy is on the rebound!

I am so goddamn sick of hearing that.

you should start a viral blog - something to do with poo...
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: pixote on November 18, 2009, 11:58:32 PM
The AIA is going through a huge Re-Org (i.e. layoffs). The newsletter that I edit may not be around next year. Right now, that is the only money I make, and it is a measly amount.

But, you know, the economy is on the rebound!

I am so goddamn sick of hearing that.

you should start a viral blog - something to do with poo...

@shitmydadshits?

pixote
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ¡Keith! on November 19, 2009, 12:14:15 AM
1000 times yes.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: crumpet on November 20, 2009, 04:41:58 AM
I want need somewhere to live. Now.

I want somewhere to live that isn't an overpriced dump in the middle of nowhere.

Related: I hate landlords.

Also related: I especially hate landlords who seem to suffer from cynophobia.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oneaprilday on November 20, 2009, 12:34:44 PM
I want need somewhere to live. Now.

I want somewhere to live that isn't an overpriced dump in the middle of nowhere.

Related: I hate landlords.

Also related: I especially hate landlords who seem to suffer from cynophobia.
I hear you.  :-\  Hope you find something soon.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: lise on November 20, 2009, 01:17:58 PM
I want need somewhere to live. Now.

I want somewhere to live that isn't an overpriced dump in the middle of nowhere.

Related: I hate landlords.

Also related: I especially hate landlords who seem to suffer from cynophobia.

I think dealing with landlords is in fact one of the levels of hell
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: OmNom on November 20, 2009, 02:56:37 PM
I want need somewhere to live. Now.

I want somewhere to live that isn't an overpriced dump in the middle of nowhere.

Related: I hate landlords.

Also related: I especially hate landlords who seem to suffer from cynophobia.

I think dealing with landlords is in fact one of the levels of hell

If there's any justice, my landlord will be sent there.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Junior on November 20, 2009, 03:10:59 PM
Quote from: Jonathan Swift
I have reckoned upon a medium that a child just born will weigh 12 pounds, and in a solar year, if tolerably nursed, increaseth to 28 pounds.

I grant this food will be somewhat dear, and therefore very proper for landlords, who, as they have already devoured most of the parents, seem to have the best title to the children.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: crumpet on November 21, 2009, 01:55:13 AM
Thank you all for your words of hate.

Our current landlord decided, apparently on a whim as she only gave us 60 days notice, that now is the time to move back from Italy to Australia. We've been here for over five years and now have until the 30th of December to move. Yes, that's right — SMACK BANG IN THE MIDDLE OF THE CHRISTMAS/NEW YEAR BREAK WHEN EVERYTHING IS CLOSED, INCLUDING REAL ESTATE AGENCIES. Thanks landlord for that incredible amount of forethought and kindness. Did I mention that the Mister just sold our car? Well, he did, so we really need to move while we still have transport.

We were accepted for one place, which we then decided to reject because it wasn't really good enough in location or quality, especially for the price they were asking. We've since been rejected by two other landlords for houses we do want, because they seem to be unduly scared of our dogs. Despite the fact that we have a reference from a neighbour attesting to their loveliness and general good behaviour. We want to move in. The real estate agents want us to move in. Nobody else is applying for these houses (one has yellow walls and no aircon, one has a substandard description/photos and is just over $350 per week, which seems to be most people's magic cutoff number), so we are calling the agents every day in the hope that at least one of the landlords will cave from desperation. Sigh.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: lise on November 23, 2009, 12:45:11 PM
yep... landlord = evil
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: crumpet on November 25, 2009, 06:16:23 AM
Someone is asking $380 per week for this. Words fail me.

http://www.youtube.com/user/squozen#p/a/u/0/JVYF3AVRmrM (http://www.youtube.com/user/squozen#p/a/u/0/JVYF3AVRmrM)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: mañana on November 25, 2009, 04:30:03 PM
Someone is asking $380 per week for this. Words fail me.
http://www.youtube.com/user/squozen#p/a/u/0/JVYF3AVRmrM (http://www.youtube.com/user/squozen#p/a/u/0/JVYF3AVRmrM)
In Australia, do you pay rent by the week?
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Thor on November 25, 2009, 11:31:45 PM
The last film I saw in the cinema was Night at the Museum 2.

Yours missingly,

Thor
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: saltine on November 25, 2009, 11:51:52 PM
Someone is asking $380 per week for this. Words fail me.
http://www.youtube.com/user/squozen#p/a/u/0/JVYF3AVRmrM (http://www.youtube.com/user/squozen#p/a/u/0/JVYF3AVRmrM)
In Australia, do you pay rent by the week?

You might not pay it every week, but that's how rentals are priced.

Also some accommodations like B&Bs etc are priced pppn as in per person per night. 
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: mañana on November 26, 2009, 01:02:12 AM
Someone is asking $380 per week for this. Words fail me.
http://www.youtube.com/user/squozen#p/a/u/0/JVYF3AVRmrM (http://www.youtube.com/user/squozen#p/a/u/0/JVYF3AVRmrM)
In Australia, do you pay rent by the week?
You might not pay it every week, but that's how rentals are priced.
Interesting, I wonder why.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ¡Keith! on November 26, 2009, 02:26:48 AM
The last film I saw in the cinema was Night at the Museum 2.

Yours missingly,

Thor

there's so much sadness in the world.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ferris on November 26, 2009, 01:59:25 PM
The last film I saw in the cinema was Night at the Museum 2.

Yours missingly,

Thor

there's so much sadness in the world.

There's a video I want to show you

(http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_KiKDykb0sFg/R777kMKiRtI/AAAAAAAAA2w/UlE1IVz7d6E/s400/american+beauty+bag.jpg)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: DrKimble on November 26, 2009, 02:03:59 PM
The last film I saw in the cinema was Night at the Museum 2.

Yours missingly,

Thor

there's so much sadness in the world.

There's a video I want to show you

(http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_KiKDykb0sFg/R777kMKiRtI/AAAAAAAAA2w/UlE1IVz7d6E/s400/american+beauty+bag.jpg)

You know what ferris, I completely agree with you. There is so much more littering then sadness in the world. You're a wise man.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oneaprilday on November 26, 2009, 02:48:41 PM
You know what ferris, I completely agree with you. There is so much more littering then sadness in the world. You're a wise man.
:D
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: crumpet on November 27, 2009, 01:56:21 AM
Someone is asking $380 per week for this. Words fail me.
http://www.youtube.com/user/squozen#p/a/u/0/JVYF3AVRmrM (http://www.youtube.com/user/squozen#p/a/u/0/JVYF3AVRmrM)
In Australia, do you pay rent by the week?

It's usually monthly, but the weekly price is what's displayed in listings. I think for the semantic reason that months are not all the same length, so the week is a good standard measure. One month = Weekly Rent X 52 / 12
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: pixote on November 29, 2009, 06:51:26 PM
I'm tired.  Of this.  :(

pixote
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: 'Noke on November 29, 2009, 06:52:52 PM
I'm tired.  Of this.  :(

pixote

 :-[.  :-*
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: FifthCityMuse on December 04, 2009, 10:22:19 PM
My father's parents are... frustrating.

His mother fell over on Tuesday and broke her hip. She's had a partial hip replacement.

His father called to tell him this yesterday (Friday). Apparently they tried to call his youngest brother on Tuesday, but he's changed his number, so he did nothing till now.

We have a strained relationship with them in any case. They are hard, fairly solitary people, very stuck in their ways. We don't have a lot of contact, which probably isn't good, but they're hard people to have contact with. They turned down an invitation to their oldest grandson's wedding (my older brother), the first of their grandchildren to get married.

I don't know how to feel about the whole situation. I hope she's well. I'm worried that when they pass, we're not going to find out until they've been buried.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: 'Noke on December 06, 2009, 12:40:54 PM
I'm tired of being 16.

I'm tired of dealing with the same shallow friends over and over again. I'm tired of being a different person then who I want to be. Tired of parents, tired of dealing with boring parents' friends, tired of keeping all my emotions bottled in because I have noone to talk to.

I hate it. I hate it soo much.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on December 06, 2009, 05:14:43 PM
I'm tired of being 16.

I'm tired of dealing with the same shallow friends over and over again. I'm tired of being a different person then who I want to be. Tired of parents, tired of dealing with boring parents' friends, tired of keeping all my emotions bottled in because I have noone to talk to.

I hate it. I hate it soo much.

The greatest thing about being 16 is that eventually this whole situation passes.  Until you're 70. 
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: pixote on December 06, 2009, 05:51:34 PM
I love 'Noke. I love 'Noke soo much.

pixote
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: StarCarly on December 06, 2009, 11:26:26 PM
I'm tired of being 16.

I'm tired of dealing with the same shallow friends over and over again. I'm tired of being a different person then who I want to be. Tired of parents, tired of dealing with boring parents' friends, tired of keeping all my emotions bottled in because I have noone to talk to.

I hate it. I hate it soo much.

You're gonna be the best college kid ever. I can't wait. You're so much smarter than I was when I was 16 (holy cow that was 4 years ago...)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oneaprilday on December 07, 2009, 01:35:24 AM
I didn't much like being 16, either, 'Noke. I'm sorry. :(

In the meantime, we're rooting for you!
Charlotte's Web- Chin Up (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R5I_vv2UN1U#normal)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: DrKimble on December 07, 2009, 02:47:51 AM
The greatest thing about being 16 is that eventually this whole situation passes.  Until you're 70. 
Oh boy what a cliffhanger! You have me hooked! Do I need to buy the book to find out what happens after 70? Please tell me! Feel free to spoil the ending! I NEED TO KNOW!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on December 07, 2009, 09:27:53 AM
I'm tired of being 16.

I'm tired of dealing with the same shallow friends over and over again. I'm tired of being a different person then who I want to be. Tired of parents, tired of dealing with boring parents' friends, tired of keeping all my emotions bottled in because I have noone to talk to.

I hate it. I hate it soo much.
Yea, when I was 16 I didn't talk to anyone under 30 because I hated the immaturity of kids my age.

I was such a snob. Good times.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ¡Keith! on December 07, 2009, 09:30:50 AM
I was such a snob.

the tense of this sentence seems off.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on December 07, 2009, 09:32:38 AM
I was such a snob.

the tense of this sentence seems off.
Yea, I still am, but I talk to people my age now...sometimes.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on December 07, 2009, 09:49:15 PM
The greatest thing about being 16 is that eventually this whole situation passes.  Until you're 70. 
Oh boy what a cliffhanger! You have me hooked! Do I need to buy the book to find out what happens after 70? Please tell me! Feel free to spoil the ending! I NEED TO KNOW!

As soon as I get there.  It's a long song...
Jethro Tull - Life's A Long Song, 1971 - The Minstrel Looks Back 2-DVD (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rioYOoFqyAo#normal)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: OmNom on December 07, 2009, 09:58:49 PM
I'm tired of being 16.

I'm tired of dealing with the same shallow friends over and over again. I'm tired of being a different person then who I want to be. Tired of parents, tired of dealing with boring parents' friends, tired of keeping all my emotions bottled in because I have noone to talk to.

I hate it. I hate it soo much.

(http://i48.tinypic.com/11m6nhv.jpg)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on December 09, 2009, 12:49:37 AM
Sorry, folks, if I seemed a bit testy on the Pet Peeves thread.  I live, work and am the poor all the time-- people who work hard and who often don't make ends meet, through no fault of their own.  I'm at the top, because we get stuff donated to us, like our house, so I can make some sacrifices and take some time off.  But it's hard.  As hard as it is to make ends meet as a middle class person, or as the child as a middle class person, it is much more expensive to be poor.

I'll try not to be so irritated.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: OmNom on December 09, 2009, 01:00:27 AM
Sorry, folks, if I seemed a bit testy on the Pet Peeves thread.  I live, work and am the poor all the time-- people who work hard and who often don't make ends meet, through no fault of their own.  I'm at the top, because we get stuff donated to us, like our house, so I can make some sacrifices and take some time off.  But it's hard.  As hard as it is to make ends meet as a middle class person, or as the child as a middle class person, it is much more expensive to be poor.

I'll try not to be so irritated.

I hear ya.  I'm not poor at the moment, but I have been poor at times.  It doth bite.   :(
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: facedad on December 16, 2009, 06:08:41 PM
So, it may have occurred to some of you that I've been gone for a few days. I'll try to be quick:

My funding got cut-off. Which essentially means I've been kicked out of school as I have no other means of paying for it. Which also means I've been kicked out of the country by the end of the year (Cait too). Which means I have to break my lease and that will apparently require me to pay 3-6 months worth of rent as a settlement because I can't rent this terrible, overpriced apartment, especially not during the middle of December when the rental company has such a terrible reputation that they are banned from certain advertising services, like my former university's.

So all that means that we're rushing back to the States, to South Jersey to stay with my parents who don't have a room for us until we can get on our feet as we're going to be completely broke because of all the costs of escaping Montreal. That will also mean I'll be in the middle of my parents who are all but too alcoholic to take care of themselves trying to help out my still recovering from her stroke sister.

None of this is considering my wife's overdue student debt. Frankly, it's been a relief to opt out of Christmas, which is sort of a depressing thought, if that's clear.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Junior on December 16, 2009, 06:10:52 PM
That super sucks, face. Good luck with the 'rents.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: mañana on December 16, 2009, 06:12:34 PM
Sorry to hear that, face, that all sounds truly awful. Good luck and keep us posted.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: saltine on December 16, 2009, 06:15:55 PM
So sorry to hear your tale of woe, face.  Really, that's all too bad. 

At least you still have us at no charge.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oneaprilday on December 16, 2009, 06:16:49 PM
face, I'm so sorry. Will be thinking of you and Cait - do keep us posted.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Basil on December 16, 2009, 06:20:17 PM
I'm really sorry, face.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: facedad on December 16, 2009, 06:22:34 PM
Wow, um, thanks everyone. I'm a bit surprised by the quick response. Is it rush hour here?
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: FLYmeatwad on December 16, 2009, 06:23:38 PM
face, I'm so sorry. Will be thinking of you and Cait - do keep us posted.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ses on December 16, 2009, 06:26:24 PM
So sorry to hear about that face, I hope you and Cait get back on your feet again really soon.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: mañana on December 16, 2009, 06:26:48 PM
Is it rush hour here?
Nope, we just like you.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bill Thompson on December 16, 2009, 06:29:04 PM
Is it rush hour here?
Nope, we just like you.

This, and ya know, that sucks and I hope things get better.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: 'Noke on December 16, 2009, 06:46:20 PM
That sounds awful Face. I'm so sorry. :( Hope things pick up.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: smirnoff on December 16, 2009, 07:07:25 PM
Is it rush hour here?
Nope, we just like you.
Exactly :) I Hope this coming year treats you better face! Take care.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: StarCarly on December 16, 2009, 07:54:19 PM
That sucks, face. I hope things turn around for you guys soon. Keep us updated.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: skjerva on December 16, 2009, 09:01:10 PM
face, so sorry.  that really sucks.  it sounds like there is no way you'll stay - anything stop-gap that might give you time through the spring to get a better sense if you can work stuff out?
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Colleen on December 16, 2009, 10:47:37 PM
God, that really does suck.  The situation you are suddenly being shoved out of AND the one you are being shoved into.

Where in S.Jersey?  Have we had this conversation before?

As for paying off the rental company, I say screw 'em.  You are leaving the city and the country.  Keep the money for what you need and pay them later if you can.  the worst that can happen is a ding to your credit.  I seem to remember you rented your place and Cait came later.  Rent the next one under her name :)  Or let people know when you are trying to rent from them what the situation was when you broke the lease.

Hang in there! 

The good news is, that rents (at least around here, probably in a lot of other places) have dropped off quite a bit due to the real estate crash.  I noticed quite a few apartment complexes that had been renting in the 7-800 dollar range have had signs out advertisng $550.  So there's one silver lining to the recession anyways.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: facedad on December 16, 2009, 10:54:06 PM
anything stop-gap that might give you time through the spring to get a better sense if you can work stuff out?
Nah, the getting kicked from the nation blocks pretty much everything.
Where in S.Jersey?  Have we had this conversation before?

As for paying off the rental company, I say screw 'em.  You are leaving the city and the country.  Keep the money for what you need and pay them later if you can.  the worst that can happen is a ding to your credit.  I seem to remember you rented your place and Cait came later.  Rent the next one under her name :)  Or let people know when you are trying to rent from them what the situation was when you broke the lease.

Hang in there! 

The good news is, that rents (at least around here, probably in a lot of other places) have dropped off quite a bit due to the real estate crash.  I noticed quite a few apartment complexes that had been renting in the 7-800 dollar range have had signs out advertisng $550.  So there's one silver lining to the recession anyways.
Camden Co. and yes we have.

We thought about that but they said in no uncertain terms that they'd sue and Cait's credit is already shot to hell, but the last bit is pleasant.

Everyone else thanks so much, I really appreciate it.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: 1SO on December 16, 2009, 11:04:56 PM
So sorry to be getting the news so late.  Wish I could offer some comfort, but at least the number of responses on the board should let you know how much we care for your situation.

We're all here for you.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Colleen on December 16, 2009, 11:34:06 PM
anything stop-gap that might give you time through the spring to get a better sense if you can work stuff out?
Nah, the getting kicked from the nation blocks pretty much everything.
Where in S.Jersey?  Have we had this conversation before?

As for paying off the rental company, I say screw 'em.  You are leaving the city and the country.  Keep the money for what you need and pay them later if you can.  the worst that can happen is a ding to your credit.  I seem to remember you rented your place and Cait came later.  Rent the next one under her name :)  Or let people know when you are trying to rent from them what the situation was when you broke the lease.

Hang in there! 

The good news is, that rents (at least around here, probably in a lot of other places) have dropped off quite a bit due to the real estate crash.  I noticed quite a few apartment complexes that had been renting in the 7-800 dollar range have had signs out advertisng $550.  So there's one silver lining to the recession anyways.
Camden Co. and yes we have.

We thought about that but they said in no uncertain terms that they'd sue and Cait's credit is already shot to hell, but the last bit is pleasant.

Everyone else thanks so much, I really appreciate it.


They'll sue, so what?  You don't show for court and they get a summary judgment.  In another country.  that they almost certainly won't be able to enforce.  Again, they might be able to ding your credit.  But that's about it.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ¡Keith! on December 17, 2009, 09:19:42 AM
CINECAST!in french canadians.

hope you can remove yrself from yr parents as quickly as possible (again) ;)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: facedad on December 17, 2009, 12:22:41 PM
anything stop-gap that might give you time through the spring to get a better sense if you can work stuff out?
Nah, the getting kicked from the nation blocks pretty much everything.
Where in S.Jersey?  Have we had this conversation before?

As for paying off the rental company, I say screw 'em.  You are leaving the city and the country.  Keep the money for what you need and pay them later if you can.  the worst that can happen is a ding to your credit.  I seem to remember you rented your place and Cait came later.  Rent the next one under her name :)  Or let people know when you are trying to rent from them what the situation was when you broke the lease.

Hang in there! 

The good news is, that rents (at least around here, probably in a lot of other places) have dropped off quite a bit due to the real estate crash.  I noticed quite a few apartment complexes that had been renting in the 7-800 dollar range have had signs out advertisng $550.  So there's one silver lining to the recession anyways.
Camden Co. and yes we have.

We thought about that but they said in no uncertain terms that they'd sue and Cait's credit is already shot to hell, but the last bit is pleasant.

Everyone else thanks so much, I really appreciate it.


They'll sue, so what?  You don't show for court and they get a summary judgment.  In another country.  that they almost certainly won't be able to enforce.  Again, they might be able to ding your credit.  But that's about it.
Yeah, but we really need my credit.

Wait, you're law enforcement! Where's all this coming from?
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ¡Keith! on December 17, 2009, 12:36:31 PM
the cops are the most corrupt - at least thats what every movie ever made on the subject has taught me.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ferris on December 17, 2009, 02:03:36 PM
the cops are the most corrupt - at least thats what every movie ever made on the subject has taught me.

and the military are idiots, parents are abusive or out-of-touch, religious leaders are immoral, and politicians are corrupt...

...says something about authoritiy figures and screenplay writers.  those poor suffering soals!

Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: DrKimble on December 21, 2009, 07:12:05 AM
That sounds awful Face. I'm so sorry. :( Hope things pick up.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: facedad on December 21, 2009, 08:39:40 AM
Thanks.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: pixote on February 19, 2010, 06:07:54 PM
Hi.

pixote
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on February 19, 2010, 06:58:02 PM
Hi.

pixote

Doing any better?
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: pixote on February 19, 2010, 11:31:19 PM
Doing any better?

Not really.  But don't tell my friends and family I said that.  They're a bunch of worrywarts.  :D

pixote
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: mañana on February 21, 2010, 11:24:29 PM
Get well soon, pix. No Reese's for breakfast.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ferris on February 21, 2010, 11:29:47 PM
Get well soon, pix.

What he said.  And GD it do try and get some sleep!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: pixote on February 22, 2010, 12:34:30 PM
Get well soon, pix. No Reese's for breakfast.
Hehe, I had these (http://i46.tinypic.com/2429xrm.jpg) for breakfast today.  Feelin' alright!  Plan to go running later (and subsequently get yelled at for doing so).

pixote
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: smirnoff on February 22, 2010, 12:38:50 PM
Those look delicious!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ¡Keith! on February 22, 2010, 12:41:56 PM
its important to keep your core crazy.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on February 22, 2010, 01:23:58 PM
Get well soon, pix. No Reese's for breakfast.
Hehe, I had these (http://i46.tinypic.com/2429xrm.jpg) for breakfast today.  Feelin' alright!  Plan to go running later (and subsequently get yelled at for doing so).

pixote

It's a good thing to be yelled at because of overreaching.   :)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oneaprilday on February 22, 2010, 01:39:01 PM
Get well soon, pix. No Reese's for breakfast.
Hehe, I had these (http://i46.tinypic.com/2429xrm.jpg) for breakfast today.  Feelin' alright!  Plan to go running later (and subsequently get yelled at for doing so).

pixote
Bad pix. No candy for breakfast!

(But I'm really glad you're feeling better. Go easy on yourself with the running. Maybe a gentle lope? :) )
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Colleen on February 22, 2010, 02:55:16 PM
Seriously on going easy.  As I recall from my college bout with mono, you can do long term spleen and liver damage if you don't take care of yourself, and you seem to have a severe case, pix.  Running (and any other strenuous exercise) taxes the spleen because it has to get more red blood cells into circulation to carry the extra needed oxygen--the spleen is where the extras are stored. 

There's pretty much only one cure for spleen damage and that's removal; it's basically a big bag o' blood that doesn't take well to be stitched up or otherwise patched.  And while you can get along without it, you don't really want to.  It will tax both your ability to do any strenuous exercise and undermine your immune system.  Also, if a spleen suddenly ruptures, you can end up in a life threatening situation really quickly due to blood loss.

So be nice to your spleen and do what the doctors tell you!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ¡Keith! on February 22, 2010, 03:06:22 PM
do what the doctors tell you!

that shirt won't work on me!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Melvil on February 23, 2010, 02:24:59 PM
Ants have overrun my kitchen again. :'( This sucks.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ¡Keith! on February 23, 2010, 02:29:10 PM
Ants have overrun my kitchen again. :'( This sucks.

or are they Antz?
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ferris on February 23, 2010, 02:34:30 PM
Ants have overrun my kitchen again. :'( This sucks.

when the lived in south this would happen so often we had to keep all dry food in the panty in ziplock bags. 
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Colleen on February 23, 2010, 05:05:28 PM
Ants have overrun my kitchen again. :'( This sucks.

when the lived in south this would happen so often we had to keep all dry food in the panty in ziplock bags. 

Yep.  We do that, plus when they start to get active (we have an old house and they get in around edges of the windows) in the spring or fall we'll put out baits of the kind where they take the poison back to the nest.  They don't get interested in the baits on their own, but I'll put a little dab of peanut butter in front of the "doors" of the bait and they'll go for that, and then a feeding frenzy will develop and they'll move inside and start taking the bait too; a few days later the incursion is gone again for a couple of months.

Last year some biting variety of ant took up residence in our mailbox.  That wasn't fun.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ferris on February 23, 2010, 05:25:49 PM
Ants have overrun my kitchen again. :'( This sucks.

when the lived in south this would happen so often we had to keep all dry food in the panty in ziplock bags. 

Yep.  We do that, plus when they start to get active (we have an old house and they get in around edges of the windows) in the spring or fall we'll put out baits of the kind where they take the poison back to the nest.  They don't get interested in the baits on their own, but I'll put a little dab of peanut butter in front of the "doors" of the bait and they'll go for that, and then a feeding frenzy will develop and they'll move inside and start taking the bait too; a few days later the incursion is gone again for a couple of months.

Last year some biting variety of ant took up residence in our mailbox.  That wasn't fun.

I've often stated that red aunts chased us out of Texas.  Man I hate those little buggers
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Colleen on February 23, 2010, 05:57:16 PM
Ants have overrun my kitchen again. :'( This sucks.

when the lived in south this would happen so often we had to keep all dry food in the panty in ziplock bags. 

Yep.  We do that, plus when they start to get active (we have an old house and they get in around edges of the windows) in the spring or fall we'll put out baits of the kind where they take the poison back to the nest.  They don't get interested in the baits on their own, but I'll put a little dab of peanut butter in front of the "doors" of the bait and they'll go for that, and then a feeding frenzy will develop and they'll move inside and start taking the bait too; a few days later the incursion is gone again for a couple of months.

Last year some biting variety of ant took up residence in our mailbox.  That wasn't fun.

I've often stated that red aunts chased us out of Texas.  Man I hate those little buggers

Commie relatives are the worst!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: mañana on February 23, 2010, 05:58:04 PM
I was just about to make the same joke.  ;D
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on February 23, 2010, 06:03:47 PM
Been watching THEM! I take it.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: zarodinu on February 23, 2010, 09:26:14 PM
Is this the official whimper thread?

Today i found out that:

1.  For my Genetics lab I have to sort 1000 fruit flies by eye color (orange, red, or brown)
2.  My lab partner, whose job it is to help me do this, is apparently tint blind and can't tell the eye colors apart.  So i get to do this all by myself...  YAY!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ferris on February 23, 2010, 09:37:02 PM
Is this the official whimper thread?

Today i found out that:

1.  For my Genetics lab I have to sort 1000 fruit flies by eye color (orange, red, or brown)
2.  My lab partner, whose job it is to help me do this, is apparently tint blind and can't tell the eye colors apart.  So i get to do this all by myself...  YAY!

I like that terminology "tint blind" - it's a far more accurate way of saying "color blind".
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: facedad on February 23, 2010, 09:48:41 PM
Well, aren't you in a crap situation. Sorry.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: zarodinu on February 23, 2010, 10:30:06 PM
Well, aren't you in a crap situation. Sorry.

Ain't that the sad truth, thanks for the good word.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Junior on February 24, 2010, 12:16:18 AM
My mouse's eye is glowing red at me. This either means that it has achieved sentience and will attack at its earliest convenience, or it has almost run out of batteries. It's probably the first one.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: DrKimble on February 24, 2010, 01:58:08 AM
Well, aren't you in a crap situation. Sorry.

Ain't that the sad truth, thanks for the good word.
This is a chance for you to achieve something extraordinary. How many people can claim they sorted 1000 fruit flies by their eye color, single-handedly? If that doesn't get you laid I don't know what does!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: facedad on February 24, 2010, 11:58:43 AM
Well, aren't you in a crap situation. Sorry.

Ain't that the sad truth, thanks for the good word.
This is a chance for you to achieve something extraordinary. How many people can claim they sorted 1000 fruit flies by their eye color, single-handedly? If that doesn't get you laid I don't know what does!
Is this a problem you need help with doc?
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Junior on February 24, 2010, 02:23:57 PM
Gonna have some surgery next Friday. First overnight stay at a hospital. Better load up on podcasts and shit.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: joker on February 24, 2010, 02:27:19 PM
Found out today that I tore part of my right bicep... and that I can't work out for awhile with that arm...

barely can lift it
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: zarodinu on February 24, 2010, 02:28:15 PM
Found out today that I tore part of my right bicep... and that I can't work out for awhile with that arm...

barely can lift it

How did you do it?  Lifting weights?
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: joker on February 24, 2010, 02:32:04 PM
Found out today that I tore part of my right bicep... and that I can't work out for awhile with that arm...

barely can lift it

How did you do it?  Lifting weights?

yep... I was doing Sevens with my workout partner... a curling routine where one does 7 curls with a ezbar... then you hand it to your partner... he does 7, then hand it back to you.... you do 6... then he does 6.... 5,5.... 4,4... all the way to 1....

I got going on it, and right when I got up with my curl, my hands shot open with pain... dropped the wieght, my arm was literally stuck in a upword curl position... I had my body pull it down....
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Colleen on February 24, 2010, 02:34:09 PM
Found out today that I tore part of my right bicep... and that I can't work out for awhile with that arm...

barely can lift it

How did you do it?  Lifting weights?

yep... I was doing Sevens with my workout partner... a curling routine where one does 7 curls with a ezbar... then you hand it to your partner... he does 7, then hand it back to you.... you do 6... then he does 6.... 5,5.... 4,4... all the way to 1....

I got going on it, and right when I got up with my curl, my hands shot open with pain... dropped the wieght, my arm was literally stuck in a upword curl position... I had my body pull it down....

CINECAST! whimpering, I'd be screaming...
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Melvil on February 24, 2010, 02:34:32 PM
Ouch. That sounds pretty bad. Good luck with whatever recovery is necessary.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: joker on February 24, 2010, 02:35:56 PM
the doctor thinks I tore it when my buddy pulled my arm down....

and then made it worse when I decided to continue working out
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: zarodinu on February 24, 2010, 02:36:29 PM
Eeeek...  Sounds really painful.  Sorry man.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: joker on February 24, 2010, 02:39:32 PM
Eeeek...  Sounds really painful.  Sorry man.

the doctor says 8 - 12 weeks before it heals itself up enough to start working out again...

 I'll start in a week or two...
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: zarodinu on February 24, 2010, 02:40:58 PM
Eeeek...  Sounds really painful.  Sorry man.

the doctor says 8 - 12 weeks before it heals itself up enough to start working out again...

 I'll start in a week or two...

Might as well make a second appointment now...
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: joker on February 24, 2010, 02:45:18 PM
Eeeek...  Sounds really painful.  Sorry man.

the doctor says 8 - 12 weeks before it heals itself up enough to start working out again...

 I'll start in a week or two...

Might as well make a second appointment now...

nah, I'm like Wolverine...
Heart Surgery when I was 16... Was playing HS Football 1 week later.
Collarbone broked when I was 18.... was out snowboarding 5 weeks later
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ¡Keith! on February 24, 2010, 10:43:53 PM
Gonna have some surgery next Friday. First overnight stay at a hospital. Better load up on podcasts and shit.

actually i think you're supposed to fast before hand right?
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on February 24, 2010, 10:59:06 PM
I have a pimple inside my eyelid and it hurts like hell. Plus we couldn't get drugs tonight because all the pharmacies were closed.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ¡Keith! on February 24, 2010, 11:00:05 PM
I have a pimple inside my eyelid and it hurts like hell. Plus we couldn't get drugs tonight because all the pharmacies were closed.

what type of pimple drugs can you schmear on the inside of yr eyelids?
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Colleen on February 25, 2010, 07:35:56 AM
some kinda eyedrops maybe. 
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: zarodinu on March 26, 2010, 09:40:00 PM
Ok, so we are only half way through the semester and my college already had 4 student suicides including 3 bridge jumpers.  My college has a big gorge going right through the middle of it, so we have half a dozen bridges that cross it, several people used these bridges to end their life.    :(

(http://florisvanbreugel.smugmug.com/Landscapes/Human-Elements/Floris200803010034clone2/261090271_bUdwn-S-1.jpg)

The university came up with a brilliant f*cking solution to the suicide problem.  They put giant ten foot high chain link fences complete with pickets and barbed wire on all the bridges, and on the scenic path that goes around the gorge.  The effect is depressing and aesthetically revolting since it makes the whole campus look like a concentration camp.  It is a cynical bureaucratic fig leaf, as if people will not find another way to kill themselves.  Its not going to prevent any suicide, and the rest of us have to deal with a campus that looks like the DMZ.  Instead they should provide better counseling and maybe not work the premeds and engineers nearly as hard as they do.  Heck, open a strip club on campus and I bet the suicide rate would go down in half.

            

 

 
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Corndog on March 27, 2010, 03:46:40 PM
is that Cornell?
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: zarodinu on March 27, 2010, 04:28:48 PM
is that Cornell?

Yes, although these days it look more like a gulag  :-\
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Melvil on March 29, 2010, 08:35:21 PM
Half way into The Assassination of Jesse James by the Coward Robert Ford the disc became unreadable. >:(
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on April 01, 2010, 01:44:31 AM
Since I put Totoro on the top of my Netflix queue and on hold at the library IN NOVEMBER, at least five filmspotters have been able to watch it and post reviews.  I WANT MY TURN!  :'(  Waaah!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: StarCarly on June 19, 2010, 02:15:27 AM
Got very drunk. Was called ugly to my face by friends of a friend. Got in a huge screaming fight with one of my best friends in the middle of the street.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: 'Noke on June 19, 2010, 05:54:17 AM
Got very drunk. Was called ugly to my face by friends of a friend. Got in a huge screaming fight with one of my best friends in the middle of the street.

 :(. Hope things work out.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bill Thompson on June 19, 2010, 02:57:56 PM
Got very drunk. Was called ugly to my face by friends of a friend. Got in a huge screaming fight with one of my best friends in the middle of the street.

I know it probably doesn't mean much coming from me Carly, but trust me, anyone who calls you ugly is a complete moron, you are the very definition of beautiful.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: FroHam X on June 19, 2010, 03:36:27 PM
Got very drunk. Was called ugly to my face by friends of a friend. Got in a huge screaming fight with one of my best friends in the middle of the street.

I know it probably doesn't mean much coming from me Carly, but trust me, anyone who calls you ugly is a complete moron, you are the very definition of beautiful.

Plus, anyone who's BFFs with me and corndog has to be a catch.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: 'Noke on June 19, 2010, 03:42:11 PM
Got very drunk. Was called ugly to my face by friends of a friend. Got in a huge screaming fight with one of my best friends in the middle of the street.

I know it probably doesn't mean much coming from me Carly, but trust me, anyone who calls you ugly is a complete moron, you are the very definition of beautiful.

Plus, anyone who's BFFs with me and corndog has to be a catch.

Duh.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: StarCarly on June 19, 2010, 04:51:46 PM
Thanks you guys. A little perspective came this morning and I'm feeling much better  :)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on June 19, 2010, 05:35:06 PM
Got very drunk. Was called ugly to my face by friends of a friend. Got in a huge screaming fight with one of my best friends in the middle of the street.

I know it probably doesn't mean much coming from me Carly, but trust me, anyone who calls you ugly is a complete moron, you are the very definition of beautiful.

Plus, anyone who's BFFs with me and corndog has to be a catch.
True that.  ;)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ferris on June 19, 2010, 09:22:04 PM
...you are the very definition of beautiful.

I've seen your picture. This is true.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: zarodinu on June 19, 2010, 10:35:36 PM
Got very drunk. Was called ugly to my face by friends of a friend. Got in a huge screaming fight with one of my best friends in the middle of the street.

Sorry Carly, hope you and your friend made up.

PS:  Paintballs are painful and leave bruises.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Corndog on June 20, 2010, 12:20:41 AM
You want me to take 'em out?

by the way, this is a standing offer for any people who give you trouble
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: 'Noke on June 20, 2010, 03:54:08 AM
You want me to take 'em out?

by the way, this is a standing offer for any people who give you trouble

And Corndog is a very tough man. I can tell by facebook. I'd offer to help too, but I'm afraid I'd just get in the way.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Corndog on June 20, 2010, 07:59:07 AM
You want me to take 'em out?

by the way, this is a standing offer for any people who give you trouble

And Corndog is a very tough man. I can tell by facebook. I'd offer to help too, but I'm afraid I'd just get in the way.

meh, truth be told I'm a softie. But if the situation called for it, I would totes throw down.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bill Thompson on June 20, 2010, 10:41:04 AM
You want me to take 'em out?

by the way, this is a standing offer for any people who give you trouble

And Corndog is a very tough man. I can tell by facebook. I'd offer to help too, but I'm afraid I'd just get in the way.

meh, truth be told I'm a softie. But if the situation called for it, I would totes throw down.

I don't know why these conversations are always happening? We all know that there is one man on these forums who is the official throw down guy as well as the official defender of honor.  :D
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: tinyholidays on June 20, 2010, 11:48:31 AM
I don't know why these conversations are always happening? We all know that there is one man on these forums who is the official throw down guy as well as the official defender of honor.  :D

(Guys, I think Bill might be Batman.)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bill Thompson on June 20, 2010, 12:02:17 PM
I don't know why these conversations are always happening? We all know that there is one man on these forums who is the official throw down guy as well as the official defender of honor.  :D

(Guys, I think Bill might be Batman.)

I'm shooting more for Captain America, or the Monarch of a small European country who goes by then name, of Doom, Viktor Von. :)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Corndog on June 20, 2010, 01:51:12 PM
I don't know why these conversations are always happening? We all know that there is one man on these forums who is the official throw down guy as well as the official defender of honor.  :D

Ooooo, look at the big tough nice guy flexing his muscles. Yea, you're tough. And I was in Toy Story 3.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on July 03, 2010, 12:51:22 PM
A wasp stung me in the side of the head. So now the left side of my head, plus my ear, feels swollen and I can't think straight because of all the pounding pain.

Usually bug stings don't bug me that much, but this one, because of its location, is excruciating.

And yea, I took drugs. Haven't helped yet.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: edgar00 on July 03, 2010, 12:58:15 PM
I don't know why these conversations are always happening? We all know that there is one man on these forums who is the official throw down guy as well as the official defender of honor.  :D

(Guys, I think Bill might be Batman.)

I'm shooting more for Captain America, or the Monarch of a small European country who goes by then name, of Doom, Viktor Von. :)

Just watch out that you don't get the attention of Her Majesty's Secret Service, otherwise your reign won't last long.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: tinyholidays on July 03, 2010, 12:59:42 PM
A wasp stung me in the side of the head. So now the left side of my head, plus my ear, feels swollen and I can't think straight because of all the pounding pain.

Usually bug stings don't bug me that much, but this one, because of its location, is excruciating.

And yea, I took drugs. Haven't helped yet.

Ahhhh!!! Be careful, sammy-boy. We don't want you having an allergic reaction.  :-\
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on July 05, 2010, 05:30:12 PM
Pff, that was nothing. Today I stepped on a nail, and just as we were almost done working too. This is not shaping up to be my month.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Adrienne on September 09, 2010, 05:14:03 AM
Pff, that was nothing. Today I stepped on a nail, and just as we were almost done working too. This is not shaping up to be my month.

Careful. Lockjaw.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Adrienne on September 09, 2010, 05:33:43 AM
Pff, that was nothing. Today I stepped on a nail, and just as we were almost done working too. This is not shaping up to be my month.

Careful. Lockjaw.

True. My great-grandfather died from that.

And my g g grandmother  :(
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on September 09, 2010, 07:37:51 AM
Pff, that was nothing. Today I stepped on a nail, and just as we were almost done working too. This is not shaping up to be my month.

Careful. Lockjaw.

True. My great-grandfather died from that.

And my g g grandmother  :(
I had my tetanus shot, so I'm good.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Katebo on September 09, 2010, 07:44:53 AM
I stayed up all night helping my sister bake a chocolate cake only to have it crumble and smash to the floor when it slipped off the cooling rack. Then I was awoken by her making cupcakes to replace it this morning, so I helped with that and now I'll be running on *far* too little sleep. Plus I'm driving five hours today. Thank you for this thread. I'm off to get a nap before leaving for campus. *whimper*
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: saltine on September 09, 2010, 07:55:56 AM
Pff, that was nothing. Today I stepped on a nail, and just as we were almost done working too. This is not shaping up to be my month.

Careful. Lockjaw.

True. My great-grandfather died from that.

And my g g grandmother  :(
I had my tetanus shot, so I'm good.

How long ago for the tetanus shot?  If you have a puncture injury in a dirty environment, you should have a new shot right away, not rely on an old shot's effect.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on September 09, 2010, 03:41:39 PM
Like a year or two I think. We called them and they said I was golden. If anything happened, I think I'd be a leg less by now. :P
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Adrienne on September 09, 2010, 03:44:37 PM
Like a year or two I think. We called them and they said I was golden. If anything happened, I think I'd be a leg less by now. :P

Phew
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: St. Martin the Bald on September 12, 2010, 01:36:04 PM
Like a year or two I think. We called them and they said I was golden. If anything happened, I think I'd be a leg less by now. :P

But a wooden pirate leg would be kinda retro cool....
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Emiliana on September 12, 2010, 02:08:12 PM
I stayed up all night helping my sister bake a chocolate cake only to have it crumble and smash to the floor when it slipped off the cooling rack. Then I was awoken by her making cupcakes to replace it this morning, so I helped with that and now I'll be running on *far* too little sleep. Plus I'm driving five hours today. Thank you for this thread. I'm off to get a nap before leaving for campus. *whimper*

Did you get there safely? And have you had a good night's sleep since then?
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on September 13, 2010, 10:16:10 AM
Like a year or two I think. We called them and they said I was golden. If anything happened, I think I'd be a leg less by now. :P

But a wooden pirate leg would be kinda retro cool....
I'll admit I have had that idea before.  :D

Although, an M4 would be cooler.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Katebo on September 13, 2010, 03:24:37 PM
Yes and just barely. I ran on too little sleep again this weekend. I plan to make it up today and tomorrow. Thanks!

Also, I vote wooden leg- it takes way less upkeep than an M4.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on September 13, 2010, 05:02:21 PM
But guns prove masculinity! (http://i6.photobucket.com/albums/y246/prinnypublic/smilies/machinegun.gif)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: St. Martin the Bald on September 13, 2010, 05:21:43 PM
Sam if you were a stripper w/ a heart of gold, an M4 would be great but you are a curmudgeonly film snob so...
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on September 13, 2010, 05:34:39 PM
True that. I'd probably just end up shooting someone when I tried to cross my legs in the theater.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: pixote on September 14, 2010, 02:25:36 AM
I ran up a exit ramp to catch a stray dog that was wandering towards the highway traffic. I got within a dozen feet of him. He ran into the oncoming headlights. I yelled NOOOOOOOOOOO! like in the movies. Totally f—king helpless. The dog made it across to the median. He didn't last long there. Goddammit. Goddammit. Goddammit.

pixote
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Emiliana on September 14, 2010, 03:08:28 AM
Oh no, how sad. Poor dog, and so sorry pix that you had to watch that happen.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Adrienne on September 14, 2010, 06:26:45 AM
I ran up a exit ramp to catch a stray dog that was wandering towards the highway traffic. I got within a dozen feet of him. He ran into the oncoming headlights. I yelled NOOOOOOOOOOO! like in the movies. Totally f—king helpless. The dog made it across to the median. He didn't last long there. Goddammit. Goddammit. Goddammit.

pixote
Very very sad. Hope this story makes you feel a bit better:

One wet and windy November night 4 years ago, my son came home and said a fox had just got knocked down at the end of our road. I went up there to see if it needed to be moved. But it wasn't a fox, it was a dog, with a big hole in her side. So I took her to the vet and said if no-one claims her, can I have her? Nobody did so she became mine. She is a very happy dog and I am a very lucky person! Cat loves her too.
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Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Katebo on September 14, 2010, 08:04:50 AM
I'm really sorry, pixote- that's horrible. Thanks for the boost, Mosca.
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Post by: Junior on September 14, 2010, 08:06:49 AM
That really sucks.
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Post by: oneaprilday on September 14, 2010, 12:36:05 PM
I'm really sorry, pixote- that's horrible. Thanks for the boost, Mosca.
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Post by: ses on September 14, 2010, 01:27:14 PM
I am sorry pix, that is awful.  When I was about 9 years old, I was walking my dog and across the street two kids, much younger than me, were fighting over holding a puppy.  They had no supervision that I remember seeing, and they were right by the road.  The puppy got away from them and ran across the street towards my dog.  He was hit by a car going way too fast down my street.  It's an image that still sticks with me to this day, so I know how you are feeling.
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Post by: tinyholidays on September 14, 2010, 04:15:15 PM
I ran up a exit ramp to catch a stray dog that was wandering towards the highway traffic. I got within a dozen feet of him. He ran into the oncoming headlights. I yelled NOOOOOOOOOOO! like in the movies. Totally f—king helpless. The dog made it across to the median. He didn't last long there. Goddammit. Goddammit. Goddammit.

pixote

 :(

I'm so sorry, pix. That sounds awful. Poor dog.

I work for a pet recovery service and had to listen to a guy hold a dog that he found in his arms as it died by a highway last week. Really awful. Keep your pets safe, everyone.
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Post by: smirnoff on September 14, 2010, 04:18:01 PM
All dogs go to heaven. (http://noffload.net/uploader/files/1/econs/icon_pai.gif)
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Post by: zarodinu on September 14, 2010, 04:52:21 PM
I ran up a exit ramp to catch a stray dog that was wandering towards the highway traffic. I got within a dozen feet of him. He ran into the oncoming headlights. I yelled NOOOOOOOOOOO! like in the movies. Totally f—king helpless. The dog made it across to the median. He didn't last long there. Goddammit. Goddammit. Goddammit.

pixote

Oh gosh, that seriously sucks.  I had something similar happen to me on my trip to Toronto a few days ago, saw a dog running in the middle of a busy street, dodging cars left and right.  I had to stop at a red light, and it disappeared from view.  Didn't see it again, dead or alive, maybe some good Samaritan helped it, probably got run over, sad.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: pixote on September 14, 2010, 07:00:03 PM
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The one and the left is my huskie, Diego. He's technically not mine but close enough. After last night, I was looking forward to spending some extra time with him today. But when I went to take him for a run just now, he didn't want to get up. Eventually he did, but even then, he refused to go out the front door. Normally he jump at the chance. He's a very frisky and rambunctious dog. Not today, though. He's totally lethargic. He didn't touch his food, either.

I went running alone.

pixote
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Post by: ¡Keith! on September 15, 2010, 08:28:06 AM
dogs can't get mono right?
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Post by: pixote on September 15, 2010, 09:40:30 AM
Heh, that was my first thought as well.

He seems all better today, yay!

pixote
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Melvil on September 19, 2010, 07:14:25 PM
My mom called me to tell me that my bird died today. She was a pretty cool bird, and I got her when I was about 10, so it's a big bummer.
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Post by: ¡Keith! on September 19, 2010, 07:31:50 PM
My mom called me to tell me that my bird died today. She was a pretty cool bird, and I got her when I was about 10, so it's a big bummer.

I will not exploit your sadness in the QooC thread.  Sorry to hear.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: joker on September 23, 2010, 10:18:37 AM
Hiatal Hernias suck... and people that push their hippy ass products at me, suck even more.  No, Aloe Vera juice is not going to repair a herniated diaphram. 
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ses on October 15, 2010, 08:10:51 PM
I am worried about my mother.  She hurt her knee about a month ago, and finally had to get it checked out.  In the process, she found out that she has extremely high blood pressure.  She has always put her health on the back burner, and I am worried that she is doing it again with this.  She has had some financial difficulty, and her health has taken a back seat while at the same time, her stress level has skyrocketed.  She knows what she has to do, and I finally had to talk with her about my feelings tonight, so it is just what is on my mind. I have offered my help, both personally and financially, and I just wish she will just take my help because I don't know what more I can do.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Clovis8 on October 15, 2010, 08:17:44 PM
I am worried about my mother.  She hurt her knee about a month ago, and finally had to get it checked out.  In the process, she found out that she has extremely high blood pressure.  She has always put her health on the back burner, and I am worried that she is doing it again with this.  She has had some financial difficulty, and her health has taken a back seat while at the same time, her stress level has skyrocketed.  She knows what she has to do, and I finally had to talk with her about my feelings tonight, so it is just what is on my mind. I have offered my help, both personally and financially, and I just wish she will just take my help because I don't know what more I can do.

I hope everything turns out ok for you and your mother. Luckily there are pretty effective blood pressure medications now, hopefully your family can afford them. Best wishes.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: saltine on October 15, 2010, 08:22:02 PM
I am worried about my mother.  She hurt her knee about a month ago, and finally had to get it checked out.  In the process, she found out that she has extremely high blood pressure.  She has always put her health on the back burner, and I am worried that she is doing it again with this.  She has had some financial difficulty, and her health has taken a back seat while at the same time, her stress level has skyrocketed.  She knows what she has to do, and I finally had to talk with her about my feelings tonight, so it is just what is on my mind. I have offered my help, both personally and financially, and I just wish she will just take my help because I don't know what more I can do.

My best to you and your mom.  I know it's difficult to be honest with a parent, but hypertension is nothing to mess around with.  I take the meds and they are effective and inexpensive, so worth it for my peace of mind.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ses on October 15, 2010, 08:26:18 PM
It is difficult to talk to your parents about these things because you feel like you are being the parent.  And I am in a position to help her financially, but that is also a sticky situation because I think on some level she feels like her daughter shouldn't have to help her because she is the parent.  But it is because of her that I am in that position to help her.  It's a tricky situation, I just want her to be okay, she is far too young (54 yrs old), for anything to happen to her.
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Post by: oneaprilday on October 15, 2010, 08:28:09 PM
It is difficult to talk to your parents about these things because you feel like you are being the parent.  And I am in a position to help her financially, but that is also a sticky situation because I think on some level she feels like her daughter shouldn't have to help her because she is the parent.  But it is because of her that I am in that position to help her.  It's a tricky situation, I just want her to be okay, she is far too young (54 yrs old), for anything to happen to her.
That's so difficult, ses. Thinking of you and hoping for wisdom for you in this situation.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Adrienne on October 16, 2010, 11:52:41 AM
It is difficult to talk to your parents about these things because you feel like you are being the parent.  And I am in a position to help her financially, but that is also a sticky situation because I think on some level she feels like her daughter shouldn't have to help her because she is the parent.  But it is because of her that I am in that position to help her.  It's a tricky situation, I just want her to be okay, she is far too young (54 yrs old), for anything to happen to her.
You are a lovely daughter. She is obviously a great mum to have produced you!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bill Thompson on October 16, 2010, 12:35:52 PM
Sorry to hear all that Ses, hopefully it will turn out for the best.
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Post by: ¡Keith! on October 16, 2010, 12:37:26 PM
hoping for the best for you and yr mom ses.
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Post by: 'Noke on October 16, 2010, 02:03:20 PM
I hope things turn out for the best Ses.
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Post by: ses on October 16, 2010, 02:12:11 PM
Thanks for the well wishes everyone, I truly appreciate it.
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Post by: edgar00 on October 16, 2010, 04:10:04 PM
Our thoughts are with you, ses.
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Post by: zarodinu on October 17, 2010, 12:44:02 PM
There was this nurse I used to court back in Oregon, we worked in the ICU together and she was a real fun person to hang out with (though somewhat older than me).  Anyways, after a messy divorce that took years, a suicidal kid, and a string of lousy relationships, she became addicted to methamphetamine and lost her job.  She kinda spiraled since then, and has been constantly in trouble with the law.  This week the judge has finally had enough and tossed her into the slammer for several years for running from the cops while under the influence and not showing up to court.  Really, really, sad, and nobody was able to help her... 

Amazing that a person can go from an ICU nurse to a convict in a matter of a year or two.  People who sell meth outta be hanged from light posts.

Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ses on October 17, 2010, 01:24:45 PM
I am so sorry to hear that Z, it is really hard to see someone you care about go through so many tough things.
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Post by: zarodinu on October 17, 2010, 01:30:58 PM
I am so sorry to hear that Z, it is really hard to see someone you care about go through so many tough things.

Thanks ses, what got me was how absolutely inevitable the whole thing was in retrospect, its like a demonic possession or something, a person completely loses control of their life.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ses on October 17, 2010, 01:34:46 PM
It is unfortunate that she let it get to the point to where she has to spend in time in prison, but maybe this will be the wake up call to get her life back on track. It could turn out to be a positive thing in the end.   :-\
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Post by: Bill Thompson on October 17, 2010, 03:01:18 PM
It is unfortunate that she let it get to the point to where she has to spend in time in prison, but maybe this will be the wake up call to get her life back on track. It could turn out to be a positive thing in the end.   :-\

It could be, depending on what prison she gets sent to. Z, are they sending her to a normal prison, or to a prison with a specialized drug treatment wing?
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Post by: zarodinu on October 17, 2010, 03:21:47 PM
It is unfortunate that she let it get to the point to where she has to spend in time in prison, but maybe this will be the wake up call to get her life back on track. It could turn out to be a positive thing in the end.   :-\

It could be, depending on what prison she gets sent to. Z, are they sending her to a normal prison, or to a prison with a specialized drug treatment wing?

I honest to God have no idea, she is not getting sent off for drugs per say though, so I suspect it will be ordinary female prison.  The thing is, she is not exactly asking for help or anything, I don't think much can be done without her initiative and she is in no state to make initiatives.  :-\ 
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bill Thompson on October 17, 2010, 04:26:49 PM
It is unfortunate that she let it get to the point to where she has to spend in time in prison, but maybe this will be the wake up call to get her life back on track. It could turn out to be a positive thing in the end.   :-\

It could be, depending on what prison she gets sent to. Z, are they sending her to a normal prison, or to a prison with a specialized drug treatment wing?

I honest to God have no idea, she is not getting sent off for drugs per say though, so I suspect it will be ordinary female prison.  The thing is, she is not exactly asking for help or anything, I don't think much can be done without her initiative and she is in no state to make initiatives.  :-\ 

Some states have full on drug treatment prisons now, or drug treatment wings within prisons. You don't need to be sent away for drug abuse, but if you are addicted to drugs and they played a role in your actions leading you to prison, then the treatment center is where they end up. They have been very effective in the states that have employed them, here's hoping your friend ends up in one.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Corndog on October 26, 2010, 12:03:33 PM
This seems like the best place for this.

I just found out that someone I knew, my age, died. I saw that someone had written on his facebook wall "rip". From what I can tell, his personal problems pushed him over and I assume he committed suicide, though I can't confirm that. He was someone I worked with and that was the extent of the relationship. I hadn't seen him in a while, but he always was nice to me and fun to talk to. This is the first person even remotely close to me and my age that has died. I don't quite know what to make of it. Like I said, I didn't really know him and I hadn't seen him in a while, but it is still having a tremendous impact on me. I teared up reading his facebook wall. It is just a weird, kind of empty feeling. My thoughts go out to all of those that knew him much better than I did.

R.I.P. Andrew
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Post by: oneaprilday on October 26, 2010, 12:06:36 PM
This seems like the best place for this.

I just found out that someone I knew, my age, died. I saw that someone had written on his facebook wall "rip". From what I can tell, his personal problems pushed him over and I assume he committed suicide, though I can't confirm that. He was someone I worked with and that was the extent of the relationship. I hadn't seen him in a while, but he always was nice to me and fun to talk to. This is the first person even remotely close to me and my age that has died. I don't quite know what to make of it. Like I said, I didn't really know him and I hadn't seen him in a while, but it is still having a tremendous impact on me. I teared up reading his facebook wall. It is just a weird, kind of empty feeling. My thoughts go out to all of those that knew him much better than I did.

R.I.P. Andrew
That's so awful, Corndog.
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Post by: 'Noke on October 26, 2010, 12:08:48 PM
 :'(
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ¡Keith! on October 26, 2010, 12:57:28 PM
This is the first person even remotely close to me and my age that has died.

R.I.P. Andrew

sorry to hear corndog - you are quite fortunate to have gone this long without coming upon this.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Corndog on October 26, 2010, 01:42:13 PM
This is the first person even remotely close to me and my age that has died.

R.I.P. Andrew

sorry to hear corndog - you are quite fortunate to have gone this long without coming upon this.

Yea, my grandma died when I was in 6th grade. I feel now that I think I was too young for it to really impact me. And this is definitely the first time someone my age has died. Quite a shock.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Corndog on October 26, 2010, 10:10:01 PM
Awesome. Now I guess my two best friends, who have been fighting for a while, have "broken up"? Weird thing, not sure if there is actually a term for this, but yea. It's over something really stupid and honestly I don't see them "making up". Really weird, really sad, and really sucky for me no having to associate with two separate groups of people. Oh, and I got partially blamed for some reason, so that makes me happy. Sweet day. When does tomorrow start again?
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: zarodinu on October 26, 2010, 11:00:00 PM
Awesome. Now I guess my two best friends, who have been fighting for a while, have "broken up"? Weird thing, not sure if there is actually a term for this, but yea. It's over something really stupid and honestly I don't see them "making up". Really weird, really sad, and really sucky for me no having to associate with two separate groups of people. Oh, and I got partially blamed for some reason, so that makes me happy. Sweet day. When does tomorrow start again?

I always liked when this happens.  You always feel like a third wheel when around a couple, even when they both were your friends before, its awkward.  When they break up, you can be friends with both again, I always preferred when friends dated people I never met.       
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Emiliana on October 27, 2010, 12:22:25 AM
Jeez, I haven't been in this thread in two weeks - ses, z, CD: I am so sorry that you have to deal with these difficult situations. Hang in there.

Awesome. Now I guess my two best friends, who have been fighting for a while, have "broken up"? Weird thing, not sure if there is actually a term for this, but yea. It's over something really stupid and honestly I don't see them "making up". Really weird, really sad, and really sucky for me no having to associate with two separate groups of people. Oh, and I got partially blamed for some reason, so that makes me happy. Sweet day. When does tomorrow start again?

I always liked when this happens.  You always feel like a third wheel when around a couple, even when they both were your friends before, its awkward.  When they break up, you can be friends with both again, I always preferred when friends dated people I never met.       

Sorry z, can't disagree at all, not all couples are annoyingly couply and difficult to be around, and it is perfectly possible to be friends with both of the coupled people. It may be rare, but if it was that way with Corndog's friends, I really feel for him.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Beavermoose on October 27, 2010, 12:40:41 AM
I think on some level she feels like her daughter shouldn't have to help her because she is the parent.
I don't think parents think like that. Family members look out for each other regardless of who is who. Parents will take care of us growing up and then we're to take care of them when they get older.
My dad always reminds me how he had to change my stinky diapers and that he's expecting me to change his when he gets older. He was probably being sarcastic... I think.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Corndog on October 27, 2010, 06:01:55 AM
Awesome. Now I guess my two best friends, who have been fighting for a while, have "broken up"? Weird thing, not sure if there is actually a term for this, but yea. It's over something really stupid and honestly I don't see them "making up". Really weird, really sad, and really sucky for me no having to associate with two separate groups of people. Oh, and I got partially blamed for some reason, so that makes me happy. Sweet day. When does tomorrow start again?

I always liked when this happens.  You always feel like a third wheel when around a couple, even when they both were your friends before, its awkward.  When they break up, you can be friends with both again, I always preferred when friends dated people I never met.       

Sorry z, can't disagree at all, not all couples are annoyingly couply and difficult to be around, and it is perfectly possible to be friends with both of the coupled people. It may be rare, but if it was that way with Corndog's friends, I really feel for him.

You guys misunderstood. They were not dating. It is two of my guy friends who were real buddy buddy and everything. We all lived together for two years. That is why I thought it weird to say "broken up", because they were just friends and that doesn't really happen much. Maybe I should have said they had a falling out instead.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: zarodinu on October 27, 2010, 04:59:59 PM
You guys misunderstood. They were not dating. It is two of my guy friends who were real buddy buddy and everything. We all lived together for two years. That is why I thought it weird to say "broken up", because they were just friends and that doesn't really happen much. Maybe I should have said they had a falling out instead.

Oh, OK, well that is a different story, certainly sucks, it happens though.  Honestly, guys are not good at holding grudges (unless its over a girl), try to have them makeup.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Adrienne on October 28, 2010, 10:34:38 AM
It's impossible to catch up on posts after a few days away
Someone do me a Reader's Digest please.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on October 29, 2010, 02:26:24 AM
It's impossible to catch up on posts after a few days away
Someone do me a Reader's Digest please.

Something happened and then something else happened.  But it's complicated.

That okay?   ;)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Adrienne on October 29, 2010, 07:53:15 AM
It's impossible to catch up on posts after a few days away
Someone do me a Reader's Digest please.
Something happened and then something else happened.  But it's complicated.
That okay?   ;)
Very succinct  :D
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on October 29, 2010, 11:25:13 AM
I've got a bunch I need to do this week, write about 7 pages, read a couple hundred pages, study some material. Plus I got a GRE pre tomorrow.

Now none of this is an issue, I don't mind lost of work, but I'm sick, my head is throbbing and I can't focus.

Of course, I could be attempting to write something instead of whining in this thread.  :P
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: joker on October 29, 2010, 12:40:53 PM
Somone go to town on me.  I don't want to work tomorrow.  It's my second job, and I make great money there, but I don't want to deal with the shit I deal with on a weekly basis there.

Seriously, go on about unemployment rates, foreclosures, and that I have a family... someone slap me straght, tell me to be a man, and stop my mother CINECAST!ing whinning.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on October 30, 2010, 12:29:26 AM
Nick-- you could always do MY job.

I get super long hours, many headaches, people complaining all the time, not enough help, and, for most people, it helps no one in the long term.  And I get no paycheck.  Most of the time I'm lucky to pay my basic bills.

However, I still can pay for Netflix, which kindly just sent me Winter Bone.  If I don't watch it tonight, it will happen tomorrow.

Anyway, Nick, suck it up.  At least you get a paycheck.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: FLYmeatwad on October 30, 2010, 12:07:05 PM
It may be a matter of circumstance, but you are the first people I am telling this to at present.

I am in the midst of having a mental breakdown. I come home every day torn apart, losing more self confidence and self worth by the day. I have gone beyond a point of stress in student teaching to developing a feeling of worthlessness, which has caused me great distress about my future. This is coupled with my finally facing the social deficiencies I have developed over the years, which have resulted in paranoia, constant anxiety, devout cynicism, and mild depression. I am going to be talking with my mom about this likely in an hour, but I need to start re-evaluating my life. I know what brings me joy, and I am being incredibly self centered in thinking that I have it bad by any means. But these feelings have weighed on my mind so much that I have started inadvertently causing physical pain to myself. Not directly, but I find myself unable to eat most days, I find full nights of sleep even harder to get, and there are days where I do not feel like going forward. I need serious retooling of my life, and reevaluation. I know I am not meant to teach, though I hardly know what I am meant to do, but it cannot be that, and I may feel like I am running away from life, life is shitty, but I need to do what is going to keep me healthy, I suppose.

I do not know if this means seeking self help, professional help, medical help, or more likely a combination of the three. I don't know if I'll be on here more or less. I'll get to dictations, but I can't keep doing what I'm doing, it's not healthy. I need a lot of work, and it will be a long road, but I feel I have squandered so many years of my life, and now that is beginning to negatively affect those around me, and I can't let that happen, and I can't continue to be who I am.

And I'm sorry, sorry to everyone.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ses on October 30, 2010, 01:38:47 PM
I am sorry to hear this FLY, but you need to care of yourself first and foremost.  I hope you get the help you deserve.  And you are young, you may feel that you have squandered years of your life, but you have so much of your life left that there is plenty of time to change to do something with which you will be happy.  The point is, you are coming to this realization now, and you have enough self-awareness that you need to do something about it.  I wish you the best.  The forum will still be here when you feel better.  :)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: 1SO on October 30, 2010, 01:55:38 PM
I know what brings me joy,

This is good.  This is what you should focus on.  It'll be your new center to build a better life around.

Remember, you are the one and only FLY.  There will never be another.  And we're all here for you.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Beavermoose on October 30, 2010, 02:26:09 PM
Learning to socialize is one of the most difficult things I've ever had to do.
I also have these things you speak of: paranoia and anxiety; always afraid that people won't like me, always afraid I'll say the wrong thing. Its hard to deal sometimes and then I watch a movie or do something I like and it keeps me going. You just have to take it one step at a time.

In the words of the good but not great Christopher Nolan.

Batman - Why-()+Do._^We.F4LL... II (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YY3-34EOtGg&feature=related#)
 ;)

Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on October 30, 2010, 04:18:25 PM
Do whatever you need to do to figure things out. We'll be here if/when you need us.  ;)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bondo on October 30, 2010, 05:06:14 PM
I do not know if this means seeking self help, professional help, medical help, or more likely a combination of the three.

I can vouch for this. One of the main things that stresses me is basically I get frustrated that the world can't meet me halfway vis a vis my social disabilities. I feel like all the jobs out there really want outgoing, social people and I'm not sure I can nor want to be that. But a therapist can do a lot to help push for ways to make small steps in the right direction.

And I guess a different way to put it is I had a bit of a breakdown around your age and have had a few since...but also in the interim I had a number of really awesome years, gained some great friends (who unfortunately are scattered to the ends of the country/earth), etc. It is a tricky world to find one's place so one has to take in stride that initial plans aren't going to hold all the time.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on October 30, 2010, 08:25:15 PM
I do not know if this means seeking self help, professional help, medical help, or more likely a combination of the three.

I can vouch for this. One of the main things that stresses me is basically I get frustrated that the world can't meet me halfway vis a vis my social disabilities. I feel like all the jobs out there really want outgoing, social people and I'm not sure I can nor want to be that. But a therapist can do a lot to help push for ways to make small steps in the right direction.


On the more social professional side of things, I just want to emphasize that Bondo is right on here.  From what you were talking about, FLY, it sounds like you need to speak to a professional counselor and they can recommend to you who else you need to seek, if anyone.   

What you are feeling isn't the same as everyone, but it isn't abnormal, either.  You are unique, and that is a good thing.  You have unique things to offer the world.  There are times when you feel that the world doesn't want what you have to offer, or that the loneliness is hard to bear.  But there are others who appreciate you, or who WILL appreciate you.  In the mean time, you've got to keep on going, keep on trying, keep striving to make of life and yourself the best you can. 

Nothing worthwhile comes to pass unless we go through severe struggle and self doubt.  Just as the movies have taught us.  :)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oneaprilday on October 30, 2010, 08:57:55 PM
Hang in there, FLY.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: mañana on October 31, 2010, 02:07:25 AM
I'm sorry to hear you're having such a hard time, FLY. I think opening up to your mom is a good start. Good luck.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: DarkCrystal on October 31, 2010, 04:16:30 AM
I am in the midst of having a mental breakdown. I come home every day torn apart, losing more self confidence and self worth by the day. I have gone beyond a point of stress in student teaching to developing a feeling of worthlessness, which has caused me great distress about my future. This is coupled with my finally facing the social deficiencies I have developed over the years, which have resulted in paranoia, constant anxiety, devout cynicism, and mild depression. I am going to be talking with my mom about this likely in an hour, but I need to start re-evaluating my life. I know what brings me joy, and I am being incredibly self centered in thinking that I have it bad by any means. But these feelings have weighed on my mind so much that I have started inadvertently causing physical pain to myself. Not directly, but I find myself unable to eat most days, I find full nights of sleep even harder to get, and there are days where I do not feel like going forward. I need serious retooling of my life, and reevaluation. I know I am not meant to teach, though I hardly know what I am meant to do, but it cannot be that, and I may feel like I am running away from life, life is shitty, but I need to do what is going to keep me healthy, I suppose.

I do not know if this means seeking self help, professional help, medical help, or more likely a combination of the three. I don't know if I'll be on here more or less. I'll get to dictations, but I can't keep doing what I'm doing, it's not healthy. I need a lot of work, and it will be a long road, but I feel I have squandered so many years of my life, and now that is beginning to negatively affect those around me, and I can't let that happen, and I can't continue to be who I am.

And I'm sorry, sorry to everyone.

Fly - I just joined the forum a few weeks ago, and even though we haven't really spoken via PM or on the boards before, your post caught my eye and I felt compelled to respond:

Big, BIG props to you for opening up...both to your mother, and here on the forums.  Those of us that are in the midst of pain, especially emotional/mental, tend to think that we can beat or conquer everything by ourselves, and tend to downplay our own anxiety, sadness, and day to day struggles, comparing our own pain to others.

The difference between the people that make it and improve vs. those that stay mired in that negative place is one big thing: the ability to admit to yourself that a. you are struggling big time  b. you've tried, and tried hard, but things are not improving  c. you can't beat this on your own, need help, and reach out the hand for it.  You're starting to do that, and you starting to do so is no small feat, and it's not cheesy in the slightest to make a big deal about it.  Be proud of yourself...it's CINECAST!ing hard to admit a weakness and open up to another about it.  It's the first, and most important step.  Always.  

There is no such thing as being "self centered" when it comes to pain and opening up about it and sharing it with others.  Pain is pain.  You mention "not really having it that bad"...buddy, it sounds like you've been struggling a lot.  The kind of anxiety, self doubt, questioning, paranoia, social struggles, and general life struggles you've described is really hard to go through...it can be crippling.  To throw a wrench in that cycle, and learn to reflect and get a better handle on your life, is no small fish to fry...it takes courage to do that, and meet it head on.  Don't ever downplay your own struggles.  We each walk our own path, we each have the right to find our own way to being the best we can be, and I think it's nothing less than awesome you are deciding to make some changes in your life, and awesome that you are turning to those that can help you begin this journey.

Two thoughts I'll leave you with, both from my own personal experience of being in a similar boat as your own years ago):

-When you can, move forward.  Always move forward.  Inertia.  If you find yourself caught in isolating yourself from others...lost in the world of anxiety, depression, cynicism and self doubt you sometimes find yourself in...remember ANY step you take in a different direction, is a step in the right direction.  And it's the little things make all the difference.  Getting out of the apartment and going for a walk or drive to soothe your thoughts.  Leaving the physical location of where these emotions are taking place.  Calling someone...anyone...to talk, even if it's just BS'ing about movies.  Writing.  Reading.  Movie watching.  Giving yourself a time out, taking some deep, long breaths to calm yourself down.  Any step in ANY direction away from that well of negativity...is a positive.  

-Small, tiny changes over a long period of time...can go a long way.  One suggestion I'd give: awareness.  Become aware of your inner-negative-chatterbox...there's a great power in simply knowing when, where and how it exists...and when, where and how it can start to take you over.  I'd imagine you are artistic, whether visually, musically, writing, painting...one of them, given that you are on a film forum.  Artistic people tend to have a huge ability to evoke images & sounds inside their heads.  Each time you become aware of that Fly voice filling you with whispers of doubt...forgive yourself for thinking that way, know it's ok, and then simply change the inner-chatter language to something positive.  "It's cool that I just yelled at myself for being too X or that I couldn't do Y, or hate myself for Z...but you know what?  I'm working on it, and I will try my CINECAST!ing hardest to attain (this positive thing)."  Words, and images in our mind are very, very powerful.  It's a small change you can begin to make that doesn't cost a dime...becoming aware when the negative chatter hits, and inserting a new, healthier word or image in your mind...every time you can.  If you do it often, over the long haul it can really retrain your mind into building an entire new engine of "I can" and positive self esteem inside your head.  

Keep opening up to your Mom, do your best to find a great therapist/psychologist/specialist or whatever professional is needed to help you through your rough times, and I send my sincerest warm wishes of success your way.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Adrienne on October 31, 2010, 06:24:36 AM
Hang in there, FLY.
This is true FLYmeatwad.
All things pass and change...you would be amazed at how many people have suffered something akin to what you're going through. You have your mum, talk to her, she will be there for you.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: FLYmeatwad on October 31, 2010, 02:35:06 PM
Thank you all for the wishes and suggestions, both on here and through PM, we are still looking for exactly where to go and what to do, but thank you all.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on October 31, 2010, 04:40:26 PM
The support that people give, both on this thread and many others is one of the best things about the forum. 

I love the community support here!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: enzobot24 on November 02, 2010, 03:48:47 AM
Note to self, don't wait until 4 hours before a class to read a novel.

I got through it (165 pages), but damn, my brain hurts.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: St. Martin the Bald on November 06, 2010, 06:45:23 PM
It may be a matter of circumstance, but you are the first people I am telling this to at present.

I am in the midst of having a mental breakdown. I come home every day torn apart, losing more self confidence and self worth by the day. I have gone beyond a point of stress in student teaching to developing a feeling of worthlessness, which has caused me great distress about my future. This is coupled with my finally facing the social deficiencies I have developed over the years, which have resulted in paranoia, constant anxiety, devout cynicism, and mild depression. I am going to be talking with my mom about this likely in an hour, but I need to start re-evaluating my life. I know what brings me joy, and I am being incredibly self centered in thinking that I have it bad by any means. But these feelings have weighed on my mind so much that I have started inadvertently causing physical pain to myself. Not directly, but I find myself unable to eat most days, I find full nights of sleep even harder to get, and there are days where I do not feel like going forward. I need serious retooling of my life, and reevaluation. I know I am not meant to teach, though I hardly know what I am meant to do, but it cannot be that, and I may feel like I am running away from life, life is shitty, but I need to do what is going to keep me healthy, I suppose.

I do not know if this means seeking self help, professional help, medical help, or more likely a combination of the three. I don't know if I'll be on here more or less. I'll get to dictations, but I can't keep doing what I'm doing, it's not healthy. I need a lot of work, and it will be a long road, but I feel I have squandered so many years of my life, and now that is beginning to negatively affect those around me, and I can't let that happen, and I can't continue to be who I am.

And I'm sorry, sorry to everyone.


Read your post - my heart goes out to you.

I have been in your position before and I just wanted to tell you that your level of self-awareness in this situation is a huge plus. A willingness to change or seek help is the very first step on a new journey.
Don't think that you need to have your life figured out or even a path chosen. There is no timer, and it's not a race. It's a journey - and it's meant to be filled with mistakes, setbacks and disappointments because those are the opportunities by which we learn and grow.

You are young - these yrs you spent pursuing an education (in education?) are not waste. They are simply an experiment who's results you didn't like. Regroup - do it again.

After 44 yrs - that's all I can tell you - that it's never too late and no path taken was never a mistake if you learned something.

Take care of yourself and treat yourself with loving kindness - too many times we are so unjust with ourselves.

We'll be here.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: 'Noke on November 06, 2010, 06:50:54 PM
FLY, these people, these older and wiser people, they have said it better then I ever could.

I can't help but feel your pain, not because I know what you are going through, I don't, but because I hope more then anything right now that you can come out of it.

I love you FLY. I unadulterated, no strings attached love you. You are easily one of the most unique and kind people I know, and my life has been greatly enriched by having you as a part of it.

My heart goes out to you. I hope you can feel better, and soon.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Adrienne on November 07, 2010, 07:05:03 AM
The kindest people in the world live HERE  :)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Junior on November 07, 2010, 11:51:45 PM
I'm really sorry to hear this, FLY. You're among the more controvetial of the members around here but you're still a valuable part of what makes this whole thing tick.

From what I've found life is tough and that's the point of it. For some it is tougher than others and I hope you get through this and do what is best for you.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: 1SO on November 12, 2010, 10:30:15 AM
I've written a script that's been making the rounds in Hollywood.  Recently it's been in the hands of some major talent (financial and creative) including a Filmspotting acting favorite.  (Not JGL, but up there.)  In person, he loved the story.  Loved the character.  Said it was exactly the kind of part he's looking for.  This morning I got an email from him saying he wasn't going to do the movie.

"It's a really good script, but it's not for me right now.  You're a great writer."

Okay, first of all I know this is just typical Hollywood B.S.  They always love it when you first pitch them and then 3 months later you get some contradictory reason on why they're passing.  Not my first time on this not-so-merry go round.  But it's the quote that I find amusing. 

How often do you hear an actor or director complain about the lack of good scripts out there?  the lack of good writers?  How they have to pick through piles of terrible scripts to find one worthy part.  Have you ever heard an actor say "I read this one great script.  Real good writer.  Great part.  But I said no anyway."?

You know an actor would cut off a finger for a great role.  Which means the truth is he didn't like the script.  And he's not asking about other material.  Which means he doesn't think I'm a good writer who might have something else that is for him right now.

[/end grumble]
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Melvil on November 12, 2010, 11:43:00 AM
First of all, very cool that you've A) written a script, and B) had it circulating in the hands of major talent. I feel congrats are in order for that alone!

I don't think that's Hollywood BS though, I feel like that's your everyday variety of BS. People often just try to be nice. I understand the frustration of that situation, but I wouldn't hold it against this person. I guess my missing piece in this story is how misleading he was in person, but with any hollywood project there's a lot of factors involved, and I wouldn't jump to any conclusions about his judgment of your writing. I'd take the time and response he gave your script (plus the encouragement of your talent) as a positive.

Perhaps that naivety, but I'd rather go with optimism. :)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oneaprilday on November 12, 2010, 11:45:40 AM
First of all, the fact that you've written a script that has gotten this kind of attention - wow, how cool is that?! That's awesome, 1SO.
But it must be so frustrating and heartbreaking to be so close to something and then in the end to feel strung along after getting the answer you got - my heartfelt sympathies.
The script must have something, must be good to get as far as it's gotten though, right? Here's hoping the right reader, the right actor will come along and pick it up!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: zarodinu on November 12, 2010, 12:02:41 PM
1.  Grats, for every guy like you there are a thousand who say they will write something but do not, it takes real self discipline to actually write a script or novel, let alone one that doesn't suck.

2.  Take it as a complement, all Hollywood makes these days is crappy remakes and sequels that cash in on audience nostalgia, scripts perfectly engineered to play on audience emotions and adhere to formula.  Anything remotely original or hard to classify will have trouble finding a home.

3. Have patience.  Long is the way and hard is journey, if you have the kind of strength it takes to actually write something that is not crap, I am sure you can also find a home for this baby.

4.  If all else fails, write something based on an old TV show with Will Smith (anyone making a Fresh Prince of Bel-Air movie?).  Shouldn't take you more than a weekend, and you will have all the money and cocaine you can eat.  :P
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Clovis8 on November 14, 2010, 08:40:42 AM
I am a bit of a foodie snob. I have had the good fortune to dine at some of the best restaurants in the world and I am a firm believer that everyone should spend the money once in a while to eat amazing food.

Anyway, so a new fine dining establishment opened here in Calgary and it was getting some good buzz. I took my girlfriend and wow was it horrible. The chef must think fusion means putting something from every single culture on one plate. My main course had a miso sauce, a curry, and a mole; on the same plate. I hate paying that much for bad food, but worse; people are going to go to a restaurant like this and confirm their preconceived notions about fine dining.  

Luckily it was not super expensive ($150 for the two of us).

The moral of this whining is that fusion needs limits.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: St. Martin the Bald on November 14, 2010, 11:24:01 AM
I could see the curry and the mole together but with miso? Ugh - not for my palate!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: verbALs on November 14, 2010, 12:20:48 PM
You know an actor would cut off a finger for a great role.  Which means the truth is he didn't like the script.  And he's not asking about other material.  Which means he doesn't think I'm a good writer who might have something else that is for him right now.

[/end grumble]
Not a criticism but it doesn't mean any of those things. In fact I could think of two dozen other 'reasons' for a person passing on your proposal, but the point is don't waste time trying to think of reasons. Instead think of how you can use his response to keep this conversation going. Successful people don't respect taking no for an answer because that's not how they became successful.
If you think the script was good and so does he, there must something more you can do.How about telling him you would appreciate him giving you input into how the script could be improved. In a sales situation expecting or going for the big close is sometimes unrealistic but a small close like getting a commitment to speak to him about it again in six months, especially if he is generally positive about it is acceptable and might even be expected by a player like him. Don't be offended by refusal and don't assume it is a case of the guy being dishonest.
I am saying this because I think you still have a chance from what you wrote. How about asking if there is a contact of his who might be interested. It might put it in his mind that he wouldn't want to give up a juicy role to a friend of his. These are competitive people, play on the fact. I would now be disappointed myself if I didn't hear you pursuing this further, so don't let me down man....Team 1SO ftw!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on November 14, 2010, 12:58:44 PM
Luckily it was not super expensive ($150 for the two of us).
$150!?!?!

That's like food for a month for me.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: FroHam X on November 14, 2010, 01:25:12 PM
So sorry to hear that, 1SO. I know from our private talks that you were excited about the project potentially coming together, and the actor in question would definitely have given some clout to probably get it made. Hope you keep working on it and get it or something else produced though. Then I'll came visit you in LA and join in on parties with cool famous people.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: 1SO on November 14, 2010, 02:02:54 PM
This isn't over.  I still feel that some way and in some form the script will be filmed.  Other actors - Oscar nominees and winners - have shown various amounts of interest in the project.  And this recent actor talks about meeting up to go into specifics (probably after the holidays.)  I just found his quoted reason for passing to be humorous.

And this isn't my 1 and only script.  I work on in production to make money, but I write because that's my passion.  Currently, I'm negotiating with another character actor to write for them a modestly-budgeted star vehicle.  So this didn't crush my soul.  Just wanted to whimper a little.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: 'Noke on November 14, 2010, 02:06:43 PM
This isn't over.  I still feel that some way and in some form the script will be filmed.  Other actors - Oscar nominees and winners - have shown various amounts of interest in the project.  And this recent actor talks about meeting up to go into specifics (probably after the holidays.)  I just found his quoted reason for passing to be humorous.

And this isn't my 1 and only script.  I work on in production to make money, but I write because that's my passion.  Currently, I'm negotiating with another character actor to write for them a modestly-budgeted star vehicle.  So this didn't crush my soul.  Just wanted to whimper a little.

I find it wonderful that you are creating these scripts and are getting them in the hands of high up hollywood stars. And, yes, this thread was made for this.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: zarodinu on November 14, 2010, 02:25:47 PM
Anyway, so a new fine dining establishment opened here in Calgary and it was getting some good buzz. I took my girlfriend and wow was it horrible. The chef must think fusion means putting something from every single culture on one plate. My main course had a miso sauce, a curry, and a mole; on the same plate. I hate paying that much for bad food, but worse; people are going to go to a restaurant like this and confirm their preconceived notions about fine dining.  

Luckily it was not super expensive ($150 for the two of us).

The moral of this whining is that fusion needs limits.

Got a problem with diversity racist?  ;D

I could have told you not to waste your $150.

I have a millionaire friend who took me to some really expensive places in Vegas where he wouldn't even let us look at the bill, but it just confirmed by firm belief that a good meal should never ever cost above 20$.  The best places I have ever been to have all been rundown little hole in the walls that happen to have an amazing chef.  The best Russian food on earth is made by a grandmother in Toronto who sells the stuff out of her apartment, the Best Thai-Laos food I ever had was made by a bored Vietnam bride in a deserted little cafe in a redneck town, the best kebobs I ever had are made in a dirty little shack in the Arab section of Jerusalem.  Non of it costs more than 10$ a meal.  A retired French chef we know living on the Oregon Coast can make a meal that would be worth 200$ in a city for 30$, souffle and everything.  

Yeah sometimes I go to the "fancy" places to impress a lady or with a wealthy friend, they give you a chicken bone the size of your... pinky, give you a tea spoon of curry overdouched mashed potatoes, and the chef drizzles some brown jiz all over the plate.  Then they give you a bottle of wine for three times what it is worth, and you lose all your money while remaining hungry.        

Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on November 14, 2010, 02:27:49 PM
Luckily it was not super expensive ($150 for the two of us).
$150!?!?!

That's like food for a month for me.

I saw that number and just about had a heart attack.  My wife and I didn't spend that much on our twentieth anniversary. 

It's okay, my breathing will pick up again soon.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Clovis8 on November 14, 2010, 02:31:02 PM
Anyway, so a new fine dining establishment opened here in Calgary and it was getting some good buzz. I took my girlfriend and wow was it horrible. The chef must think fusion means putting something from every single culture on one plate. My main course had a miso sauce, a curry, and a mole; on the same plate. I hate paying that much for bad food, but worse; people are going to go to a restaurant like this and confirm their preconceived notions about fine dining.  

Luckily it was not super expensive ($150 for the two of us).

The moral of this whining is that fusion needs limits.

Got a problem with diversity racist?  ;D

I could have told you not to waste your $150.

I have a millionaire friend who took me to some really expensive places in Vegas where he wouldn't even let us look at the bill, but it just confirmed by firm belief that a good meal should never ever cost above 20$.  The best places I have ever been to have all been rundown little hole in the walls that happen to have an amazing chef.  The best Russian food on earth is made by a grandmother in Toronto who sells the stuff out of her apartment, the Best Thai-Laos food I ever had was made by a bored Vietnam bride in a deserted little cafe in a redneck town, the best kebobs I ever had are made in a dirty little shack in the Arab section of Jerusalem.  Non of it costs more than 10$ a meal.  A retired French chef we know living on the Oregon Coast can make a meal that would be worth 200$ in a city for 30$, souffle and everything.  

Yeah sometimes I go to the "fancy" places to impress a lady or with a wealthy friend, they give you a chicken bone the size of your... pinky, give you a tea spoon of curry overdouched mashed potatoes, and the chef drizzles some brown jiz all over the plate.  Then they give you a bottle of wine for three times what it is worth, and you lose all your money while remaining hungry.        



Cheap good food is great, and I eat cheaply most of the time, but you will never experience the divinity of foie gras, black truffle, caviar, kobe beef, or sabayon for $20.

Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: tinyholidays on November 14, 2010, 02:33:44 PM
The word "fusion" almost seems like a guarantee that the food will be centered around the idea of "hey, wouldn't it be funny if," rather than actual flavors.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Adrienne on November 14, 2010, 02:35:00 PM
The word "fusion" almost seems like a guarantee that the food will be centered around the idea of "hey, wouldn't it be funny if," rather than actual flavors.
THERE you are  :)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on November 14, 2010, 02:35:10 PM
Anyway, so a new fine dining establishment opened here in Calgary and it was getting some good buzz. I took my girlfriend and wow was it horrible. The chef must think fusion means putting something from every single culture on one plate. My main course had a miso sauce, a curry, and a mole; on the same plate. I hate paying that much for bad food, but worse; people are going to go to a restaurant like this and confirm their preconceived notions about fine dining.  

Luckily it was not super expensive ($150 for the two of us).

The moral of this whining is that fusion needs limits.

Got a problem with diversity racist?  ;D

I could have told you not to waste your $150.

I have a millionaire friend who took me to some really expensive places in Vegas where he wouldn't even let us look at the bill, but it just confirmed by firm belief that a good meal should never ever cost above 20$.  The best places I have ever been to have all been rundown little hole in the walls that happen to have an amazing chef.  The best Russian food on earth is made by a grandmother in Toronto who sells the stuff out of her apartment, the Best Thai-Laos food I ever had was made by a bored Vietnam bride in a deserted little cafe in a redneck town, the best kebobs I ever had are made in a dirty little shack in the Arab section of Jerusalem.  Non of it costs more than 10$ a meal.  A retired French chef we know living on the Oregon Coast can make a meal that would be worth 200$ in a city for 30$, souffle and everything.  

Yeah sometimes I go to the "fancy" places to impress a lady or with a wealthy friend, they give you a chicken bone the size of your... pinky, give you a tea spoon of curry overdouched mashed potatoes, and the chef drizzles some brown jiz all over the plate.  Then they give you a bottle of wine for three times what it is worth, and you lose all your money while remaining hungry.        



Cheap good food is great, and I eat cheaply most of the time, but you will never experience the divinity of foie gras, black truffle, caviar, kobe beef, or sabayon for $20.


I've had caviar and foie gras.  I don't think I'm missing much.  I'll stick with hamburgers and Mexican food, thank you.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on November 14, 2010, 02:38:00 PM
This isn't over.  I still feel that some way and in some form the script will be filmed. 

So this didn't crush my soul.  Just wanted to whimper a little.
At least you've got a chance of getting it made, which is a lot more than most can say. Getting in is the hardest part. You can't expect a perfect situation the first time around.

Sam has no sympathy.  :P
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Melvil on November 14, 2010, 02:38:45 PM
I'll stick with hamburgers and Mexican food, thank you.

Oh, yes please! Now you've made me hungry. That other stuff just sounds like decoration. ;)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Adrienne on November 14, 2010, 02:40:31 PM
foie gras = disgusting  >:(
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: tinyholidays on November 14, 2010, 02:51:22 PM
The word "fusion" almost seems like a guarantee that the food will be centered around the idea of "hey, wouldn't it be funny if," rather than actual flavors.
THERE you are  :)

 ;D

Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on November 14, 2010, 02:52:17 PM
The word "fusion" almost seems like a guarantee that the food will be centered around the idea of "hey, wouldn't it be funny if," rather than actual flavors.
THERE you are  :)

 ;D



Where have you been, young lady?
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: tinyholidays on November 14, 2010, 02:56:57 PM
Where have you been, young lady?

You guys, did I miss curfew? Oops.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Beavermoose on November 14, 2010, 03:00:04 PM
Where have you been, young lady?

You guys, did I miss curfew? Oops.

No curfew in Canada.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bondo on November 14, 2010, 03:02:44 PM
This isn't over.  I still feel that some way and in some form the script will be filmed. 

So this didn't crush my soul.  Just wanted to whimper a little.
At least you've got a chance of getting it made, which is a lot more than most can say. Getting in is the hardest part. You can't expect a perfect situation the first time around.

Sam has no sympathy.  :P

I kind of echo this...by being involved with a fabulous film like Dakota Skye, you've already had more film success (because film quality is the moral victory alternative to blockbuster success) than most people. Of course, having been involved with a fabulous film like Dakota Sky means I want more fabulous stuff to watch so they don't just deter you by not making the film, they deter me. So I'm going to focus on how much it sucks for me not to be able to watch the film. ;D
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on November 14, 2010, 03:06:07 PM
Maybe it's just me, but it seems like most of the stuff people are complaining about aren't nearly all that bad.

I expect really tragic stuff: like divorce, deaths, loosing jobs and horrible breakups, lost pets and the likes.

Instead, it's all about how everything in our lives isn't excellent or how every now and again something doesn't meet our expectations.


Take this as my early (or late, depending on where you are) Thanksgiving post. Most of us ain't got shit to complain about if this thread is any indication. Let's hope it stays that way.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Clovis8 on November 14, 2010, 03:12:29 PM
Maybe it's just me, but it seems like most of the stuff people are complaining about aren't nearly all that bad.

I expect really tragic stuff: like divorce, deaths, loosing jobs and horrible breakups, lost pets and the likes.

Instead, it's all about how everything in our lives isn't excellent or how every now and again something doesn't meet our expectations.


Take this as my early (or late, depending on where you are) Thanksgiving post. Most of us ain't got shit to complain about if this thread is any indication. Let's hope it stays that way.

That's the whole point of the thread Sam, thus the word whimper. It's about silly little things that are bothering us.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: verbALs on November 14, 2010, 03:20:58 PM
Maybe it's just me, but it seems like most of the stuff people are complaining about aren't nearly all that bad.

I expect really tragic stuff: like divorce, deaths, loosing jobs and horrible breakups, lost pets and the likes.

Instead, it's all about how everything in our lives isn't excellent or how every now and again something doesn't meet our expectations.


Take this as my early (or late, depending on where you are) Thanksgiving post. Most of us ain't got shit to complain about if this thread is any indication. Let's hope it stays that way.
You have an admirably dark heart, Sam. I'll see if I can walk under a bus soon, so you have something chew on. ;D
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on November 14, 2010, 03:21:51 PM
That would be great, Thanks.  ;D
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: verbALs on November 14, 2010, 03:25:43 PM
That would be great, Thanks.  ;D
;D
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bondo on November 14, 2010, 03:30:17 PM
I expect really tragic stuff: like divorce, deaths, loosing jobs and horrible breakups, lost pets and the likes.

Well, I've been unemployed for 9 of the past ten months (and didn't get any unemployment benefits) and we had to put my cat (who admittedly was 19) down in May. Does that make you...happier?

I've also got terribly low emotional intelligence and thus am unable to enjoy a lot of allegedly great films. ;)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: 1SO on November 14, 2010, 03:36:42 PM
I understand Sam's point.  Usually when I see a new post here it means somebody had a loss in the family (inc. pets) or a breakup.  My complaint wasn't anything new in this business.  I've had my script turned down lots of times for various reasons.  I just found the quote to be worth sharing and wanted to post it.  Didn't shed a tear about it.  My skin's too thick.  I expect rejection in this business.  The fact that this actor was even considering it was big enough for me.

But I don't think we should discourage anyone from sharing if they're feeling a bit down.  That's what friends are for.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on November 14, 2010, 03:37:40 PM
Good to hear 1SO, I was afraid you were getting soft. Keep strong. ;)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: zarodinu on November 14, 2010, 04:16:26 PM

I suspect people are more willing to share a bad experience with a cop or a meal that wasn't worth the money, than some deep mental problem or some tragedy in their life, especially when it comes to strangers on the internet.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Beavermoose on November 14, 2010, 04:44:16 PM

I suspect people are more willing to share a bad experience with a cop or a meal that wasn't worth the money, than some deep mental problem or some tragedy in their life, especially when it comes to strangers on the internet.

There's another topic with tragedies and problems.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on November 14, 2010, 04:48:52 PM
Maybe it's just me, but it seems like most of the stuff people are complaining about aren't nearly all that bad.

I expect really tragic stuff: like divorce, deaths, loosing jobs and horrible breakups, lost pets and the likes.

Instead, it's all about how everything in our lives isn't excellent or how every now and again something doesn't meet our expectations.


Take this as my early (or late, depending on where you are) Thanksgiving post. Most of us ain't got shit to complain about if this thread is any indication. Let's hope it stays that way.
You have an admirably dark heart, Sam. I'll see if I can walk under a bus soon, so you have something chew on. ;D

Filmspotters are just so considerate!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Adrienne on November 15, 2010, 07:34:55 AM
Maybe it's just me, but it seems like most of the stuff people are complaining about aren't nearly all that bad.

I expect really tragic stuff: like divorce, deaths, loosing jobs and horrible breakups, lost pets and the likes.

Instead, it's all about how everything in our lives isn't excellent or how every now and again something doesn't meet our expectations.


Take this as my early (or late, depending on where you are) Thanksgiving post. Most of us ain't got shit to complain about if this thread is any indication. Let's hope it stays that way.
You have an admirably dark heart, Sam. I'll see if I can walk under a bus soon, so you have something chew on. ;D
nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: St. Martin the Bald on November 15, 2010, 08:26:24 AM
In an effort to create more safety awareness (as a proactive move) in my shop - I am strictly enforcing the rule requiring protective eye wear - this is like herding cats especially when inmates are involved. Quite frustrating I tell you.

Nothing very serious - but worth a whimper (sorry Sam)...
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Adrienne on November 15, 2010, 08:48:35 AM
In an effort to create more safety awareness (as a proactive move) in my shop - I am strictly enforcing the rule requiring protective eye wear - this is like herding cats especially when inmates are involved. Quite frustrating I tell you.
Nothing very serious - but worth a whimper (sorry Sam)...
Inmates? A prison?
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: St. Martin the Bald on November 15, 2010, 09:08:26 AM
In an effort to create more safety awareness (as a proactive move) in my shop - I am strictly enforcing the rule requiring protective eye wear - this is like herding cats especially when inmates are involved. Quite frustrating I tell you.
Nothing very serious - but worth a whimper (sorry Sam)...
Inmates? A prison?

I am the assistant reconditioning manager for an auto auction and I run the detail department directly - I use inmate work crews from the local state woman's prison (I have used mostly men in the past but the women are much better workers and their prison culture lends itself to a teamwork based working environment). All of my civilian workers (myself included) have been background checked, approved and trained to work with these inmates - they work along side of us and make a much better wage than they would working on the yard. A lot of them have families on the outside that they can still contribute to - also - a lot of times this is the inmate's first real job and we hopefully give them some real world work and people skills.
These girls are the very best, non-violent, low custody inmates in the system - it is a real privilege to have a job in this program and they are very proud of what they do here. We are very big on instilling self confidence in our crew.
It's a great program and I am very proud of the success we have had - some of these inmates have gone on to key positions working here at the auction. They also has a much lower recidivism rate than the regular inmate yard-based work programs.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bondo on November 15, 2010, 09:18:24 AM
Wait, you mean your comment in the other thread was based on actual, real world experience. How dare you ;D. Anyway, sounds like a pretty good program, and as someone who used to work in injury prevention I can approve of safety measures.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: zarodinu on November 15, 2010, 09:22:04 AM
That would be a really interesting experience St. Martin, you probably heard alot of interesting stories from these folks, the best part of any kind of people work is the stories you hear.  Female prison has a teamwork culture?  That's interesting, we need to start hiring prisoners at my nurses station...  I wonder if this is still true among the more serious female offenders.  Well, if not wearing the goggles is among the bigger problems you have, that's probably a good thing.



 
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: St. Martin the Bald on November 15, 2010, 09:41:45 AM
The women will help out each other and pick up the slack when someone is struggling - the men were very concerned about someone doing less work than them and their usual MO was to find the quickest and easiest way of doing things, no matter what our expectations were. When doing this sort of work it's not always the quickest way that is the correct way. It was a constant battle with them - and then you bring the racial "politics" of their culture into the mix and it was exasperating.
And yeah - i have heard some very interesting stories - some heartbreaking, some funny - some just plain stupid. But it's that element that keeps me coming back - the human element of this. I really love to see them succeed and then take that success out into the real world and make something of it.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Adrienne on November 15, 2010, 04:06:40 PM
I like the cut of your jib  :)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: St. Martin the Bald on November 15, 2010, 04:31:00 PM
I like the cut of your jib  :)

So my first thought was Frank Hoennikker in Cat's Cradle...?
Are you quoting Cat's Cradle to me - because if you are - I may just follow you around like a puppy dog.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: St. Martin the Bald on November 15, 2010, 04:31:29 PM
But at any rate - thank you - I like the cut of yours as well my cheese queen.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Adrienne on November 15, 2010, 04:35:25 PM
I like the cut of your jib  :)
So my first thought was Frank Hoennikker in Cat's Cradle...?
Are you quoting Cat's Cradle to me - because if you are - I may just follow you around like a puppy dog.
It would be a foma if I said yes, so no.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: St. Martin the Bald on November 15, 2010, 04:37:44 PM
I like the cut of your jib  :)
So my first thought was Frank Hoennikker in Cat's Cradle...?
Are you quoting Cat's Cradle to me - because if you are - I may just follow you around like a puppy dog.
It would be a foma if I said yes, so no.

At any rate I consider you to be part of my karass.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Adrienne on November 15, 2010, 04:38:39 PM
I like the cut of your jib  :)
So my first thought was Frank Hoennikker in Cat's Cradle...?
Are you quoting Cat's Cradle to me - because if you are - I may just follow you around like a puppy dog.
It would be a foma if I said yes, so no.

At any rate I consider you to be part of my karass.
Whew. As long as we're not a duprass.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: St. Martin the Bald on November 15, 2010, 04:42:06 PM
I like the cut of your jib  :)
So my first thought was Frank Hoennikker in Cat's Cradle...?
Are you quoting Cat's Cradle to me - because if you are - I may just follow you around like a puppy dog.
It would be a foma if I said yes, so no.

At any rate I consider you to be part of my karass.
Whew. As long as we're not a duprass.

Not with Costner in the picture. I think with him - you might be a sin-wat.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Adrienne on November 15, 2010, 04:43:24 PM
I like the cut of your jib  :)
So my first thought was Frank Hoennikker in Cat's Cradle...?
Are you quoting Cat's Cradle to me - because if you are - I may just follow you around like a puppy dog.
It would be a foma if I said yes, so no.

At any rate I consider you to be part of my karass.
Whew. As long as we're not a duprass.

Not with Costner in the picture. I think with him - you might be a sin-wat.
You know me too well, I fear.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Adrienne on November 15, 2010, 04:44:22 PM
I want to boku-maru with him.  :o
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: St. Martin the Bald on November 15, 2010, 04:44:56 PM
I like the cut of your jib  :)
So my first thought was Frank Hoennikker in Cat's Cradle...?
Are you quoting Cat's Cradle to me - because if you are - I may just follow you around like a puppy dog.
It would be a foma if I said yes, so no.

At any rate I consider you to be part of my karass.
Whew. As long as we're not a duprass.

Not with Costner in the picture. I think with him - you might be a sin-wat.
You know me too well, I fear.

I want to boku-maru with him.  :o

Busy, busy, busy...
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Clovis8 on November 20, 2010, 09:41:24 AM
(http://i51.photobucket.com/albums/f363/clovis8/weather.jpg)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Adrienne on November 20, 2010, 11:18:17 AM
Issa cccccold
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: smirnoff on November 20, 2010, 05:44:15 PM
(http://i51.photobucket.com/albums/f363/clovis8/weather.jpg)

Man, Grey Cup is gunna be a cold mother f'r in Edmonton this year :D
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: zarodinu on November 20, 2010, 10:49:08 PM
(http://i51.photobucket.com/albums/f363/clovis8/weather.jpg)

Al Gore lied to you.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: 'Noke on December 02, 2010, 06:31:17 PM
I am having an awful day.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oneaprilday on December 02, 2010, 06:38:14 PM
Sorry, 'Noke. :(  Cyber-hug!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: DarkCrystal on December 03, 2010, 08:28:50 PM
I am having an awful day.


Noke - My attempt at a pick-you-up:

Your ridiculously awesome analysis about Princess Mononoke, which I had only seen once (liked it a lot but wasn't as wow-ed as others, thought it was a bit overhyped), was the single reason I went and gave it a second chance before checking out the remaining Miyazaki's I hadn't yet seen.

The rewatch of Mononoke was:

-One of the top 5-7 best rewatches of a movie I have ever had (as far as my reaction between 1st and 2nd viewing)
-Vaulted the movie into my top 20 favorites, ever, any genre, of all time (yes, I liked it that much)
-Hit me on an intellectual, emotional, and film-analysis-dork level.  

You have my thanks, sincerely.  What an incredibly layered, amazing, beautiful movie.  
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: 'Noke on December 04, 2010, 05:14:59 PM
Yay! thanks guys. And reading that, DC, just makes my day! Thank you!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Mike Shutt on December 04, 2010, 05:16:34 PM
I am having an awful day.

I am right there with you.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Junior on December 05, 2010, 10:43:02 PM
I started Every Day a Photo around 3 years ago now. I've move from site to site and I'm currently residing at squarespace. I like the customizing options but it also costs money. When literally 1 other person goes per day I feel like the cost is too much (especially since I don't currently have a job). So I think I'm going to go back to blogger. They've grown in the customization area (basically I need to have the pictures as big as possible) and it should work for what I want. It just kind of sucks that I can't maintain a viewership/money flow to justify the cost.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bill Thompson on December 07, 2010, 03:08:38 PM
My relationship has hit a huge, huge snag, I really hope we can get through this...
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Melvil on December 07, 2010, 03:24:45 PM
Damn, sorry to hear that Bill. Hope things work out.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oneaprilday on December 07, 2010, 03:29:04 PM
:(  :(  Hope everything works out, Bill!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ses on December 07, 2010, 03:38:54 PM
My relationship has hit a huge, huge snag, I really hope we can get through this...

I am sorry Bill, hope you guys can work it out.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: zarodinu on December 07, 2010, 04:04:51 PM
My relationship has hit a huge, huge snag, I really hope we can get through this...

Sorry Bill, hope things work out.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: 'Noke on December 08, 2010, 08:51:12 AM
My relationship has hit a huge, huge snag, I really hope we can get through this...

 :(. Hope things get better Bill!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bondo on December 08, 2010, 10:29:50 PM
I wouldn't classify myself good at job interviews, partly for reasons I can't fix, but the one this evening was brutal. I felt like a lot of the questions were cheap tricks almost. I mean, they asked so many questions that they know you probably can't answer because the whole purpose of the organization is to bring new people into teaching who are otherwise highly qualified. And the unfortunate part is this was for what was probably my best long-term career opportunity. I think I did well on the other aspects of the interview "event" though so maybe...

I've got another interview tomorrow for a more near-term opportunity that I suppose could expand to a longer-term thing. I feel better about that one. It would at least break up my current stretch of unemployment.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Clovis8 on December 08, 2010, 10:50:21 PM
I wouldn't classify myself good at job interviews, partly for reasons I can't fix, but the one this evening was brutal. I felt like a lot of the questions were cheap tricks almost. I mean, they asked so many questions that they know you probably can't answer because the whole purpose of the organization is to bring new people into teaching who are otherwise highly qualified. And the unfortunate part is this was for what was probably my best long-term career opportunity. I think I did well on the other aspects of the interview "event" though so maybe...

I've got another interview tomorrow for a more near-term opportunity that I suppose could expand to a longer-term thing. I feel better about that one. It would at least break up my current stretch of unemployment.

The biggest thing to remember about interviews is that people obsess far too much about WHAT they say and far too little about HOW they say it. The most important thing about any interview is how you come across not the facts you can recite.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: zarodinu on December 08, 2010, 10:52:31 PM
Interviews are always humiliating and unpleasant, just think how good it will feel when you get the job Bondo. 
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bondo on December 08, 2010, 11:27:25 PM
The biggest thing to remember about interviews is that people obsess far too much about WHAT they say and far too little about HOW they say it. The most important thing about any interview is how you come across not the facts you can recite.

Yes, but the how I say it is the part that I'm not sure I can fix.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Pseuds on December 09, 2010, 06:24:34 AM

I've had a swollen foot for over a week now, I finally went to the Doctor today only to find out it may be a clot in the foot/lower leg and I have to wait until tomorrow to know. Ooops, maybe I should have gone earlier, but I would have missed a week of awesomeness.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: edgar00 on December 09, 2010, 11:45:28 AM
My relationship has hit a huge, huge snag, I really hope we can get through this...

I hadn't picked up on this earlier. Very sorry to read that. Keep your chin up. And to hell with the Rambo rebuttal. You do what you need to do.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bill Thompson on December 09, 2010, 02:39:15 PM
My relationship has hit a huge, huge snag, I really hope we can get through this...

I hadn't picked up on this earlier. Very sorry to read that. Keep your chin up. And to hell with the Rambo rebuttal. You do what you need to do.

It appears as if we are working through it, it's going to be hard I think, but I have hope. Thanks for all the kind words guys.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: StarCarly on December 09, 2010, 10:25:29 PM
My relationship has hit a huge, huge snag, I really hope we can get through this...

I hadn't picked up on this earlier. Very sorry to read that. Keep your chin up. And to hell with the Rambo rebuttal. You do what you need to do.

It appears as if we are working through it, it's going to be hard I think, but I have hope. Thanks for all the kind words guys.

Glad to hear this. You guys seem like a good couple.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ¡Keith! on December 09, 2010, 11:10:11 PM

I've had a swollen foot for over a week now, I finally went to the Doctor today only to find out it may be a clot in the foot/lower leg and I have to wait until tomorrow to know. Ooops, maybe I should have gone earlier, but I would have missed a week of awesomeness.

clots are bad - get that done with quickly.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ses on December 14, 2010, 09:28:33 PM
I am in a deep winter funk, just can't seem to get out of it.  And worse, it's almost Christmas, my favorite time of year, and I am not even excited about it, doesn't seem like it is almost here.  :'(
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Clovis8 on December 14, 2010, 09:51:42 PM
I am in a deep winter funk, just can't seem to get out of it.  And worse, it's almost Christmas, my favorite time of year, and I am not even excited about it, doesn't seem like it is almost here.  :'(


I prescribe some It's a Wonderful Life with a The Grinch who Stole Christmas chaser. Guaranteed to up your spirits.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Corndog on December 14, 2010, 09:53:20 PM
Also Elf and The Santa Clause. Both will renew your spirit and belief in the holiday.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ses on December 14, 2010, 09:56:57 PM
Aw pix, where did your quote go? It literally brought tears to my eyes. I am in that kind of mood.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: pixote on December 14, 2010, 09:58:06 PM
If you just learn a single trick, Scout, you'll get along a lot better with all kinds of folks. You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view... Until you climb inside of his skin and walk around in it.

pixote
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ses on December 14, 2010, 09:58:44 PM
If you just learn a single trick, Scout, you'll get along a lot better with all kinds of folks. You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view... Until you climb inside of his skin and walk around in it.

pixote

 :)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: pixote on December 14, 2010, 09:59:06 PM
Aw pix, where did your quote go? It literally brought tears to my eyes. I am in that kind of mood.

Sorry, I was fine-tuning.  :)

You should come over to Mom's and help make our gingerbread house! Then blog about it!

pixote
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: St. Martin the Bald on December 14, 2010, 10:00:55 PM
I am in a deep winter funk, just can't seem to get out of it.  And worse, it's almost Christmas, my favorite time of year, and I am not even excited about it, doesn't seem like it is almost here.  :'(

This makes me sad - you have been my rock all year (its been a year since the big break) - someone who listened w/o any prejudice and always gave me honest heartfelt advice. You deserve the most wonderful of Christmases because you give all year round.
That's my opinion at least. ;D
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ses on December 14, 2010, 10:02:30 PM
Aw pix, where did your quote go? It literally brought tears to my eyes. I am in that kind of mood.

Sorry, I was fine-tuning.  :)

You should come over to Mom's and help make our gingerbread house! Then blog about it!

pixote

I would love that.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ses on December 14, 2010, 10:03:01 PM
I am in a deep winter funk, just can't seem to get out of it.  And worse, it's almost Christmas, my favorite time of year, and I am not even excited about it, doesn't seem like it is almost here.  :'(

This makes me sad - you have been my rock all year (its been a year since the big break) - someone who listened w/o any prejudice and always gave me honest heartfelt advice. You deserve the most wonderful of Christmases because you give all year round.
That's my opinion at least. ;D

Thanks Marty you are the best.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: 'Noke on December 15, 2010, 02:50:51 PM
We all get like that ses. Silly as it sounds, concentrate on good things, which shouldn't be too hard to find this far into the holidays.

Have a wonderful and colourful and happy filled christmas Ses.

Oh, btw, that goes for the rest of you too. :)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on December 16, 2010, 10:32:26 AM
Yesterday my hard drive crashed, along with some important files.  On the plus side, I get a new hard drive thats ten times as big...

But now I'll have to reload everything back on the computer.  Blah.

You know what's really sad?  I was 3/4 of the way watching A Fistful of Dollars when it crashed.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Pseuds on December 16, 2010, 10:06:52 PM
Yesterday my hard drive crashed, along with some important files.  On the plus side, I get a new hard drive thats ten times as big...

But now I'll have to reload everything back on the computer.  Blah.

You know what's really sad?  I was 3/4 of the way watching A Fistful of Dollars when it crashed.

I feel your pain, I had the same problem a couple of months ago.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bondo on December 29, 2010, 04:14:06 PM
So apparently days can get worse retroactively. A few weeks back I had an interview up in Denver that went terribly and on the way from the school where the interview was to the interstate I was taking some roads I wasn't totally familiar with. Anyway, I had seen a couple flashes and thought it might be the ticketing cameras but I had no idea what I might have been doing wrong. Well, today I found out. Apparently the area had been designated a work zone and the speed limit reduced to 25. Never mind that I was driving through at night when no work was being done and that it was a three-lane, one-way, non residential road and would never rightfully be a 25 speed limit otherwise, apparently going an otherwise completely reasonable speed is enough for them to want to collect.

Not a terrible fine so it isn't the end of the world and I suppose the City/County government needs the money, but I probably need it more. Bah.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: smirnoff on January 24, 2011, 09:36:58 PM
I drank some water that tasted like pipes this morning and now I have a sore throat. I hope I feel better in the morning. These Halls aren't doing anything. :(
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oneaprilday on January 24, 2011, 10:24:04 PM
Hope you feel better soon, 'noff.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: smirnoff on January 25, 2011, 06:32:59 AM
It's much better this morning, thanks :)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Mosca on February 14, 2011, 02:44:46 PM
Odd socks  >:(
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Melvil on February 22, 2011, 01:09:20 PM
I just can't get better. It's becoming a real problem. :(

Also, its not even the cool kind of sick where I get to watch movies all day. I'm so tired that my attention span is super short (even though I can't sleep, it's impossible not to try). It's really a waste.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on February 22, 2011, 01:23:41 PM
Sorry to hear that Melvil.  Actually, I watched the film Stargate in that kind of condition and never liked anything from that series again.  Of course, it may have just been bad.

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Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: smirnoff on February 22, 2011, 01:27:31 PM
That sounds incredibly frustrating Melvil. I hope you start to feel better soon!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oneaprilday on February 22, 2011, 01:40:35 PM
So sorry, Melvil, that sounds awful.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Mosca on February 23, 2011, 02:22:30 PM
I just can't get better. It's becoming a real problem. :(

Also, its not even the cool kind of sick where I get to watch movies all day. I'm so tired that my attention span is super short (even though I can't sleep, it's impossible not to try). It's really a waste.
That sounds really miserable. I hope you've seen a quack.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: pixote on February 24, 2011, 08:20:53 AM
Also, its not even the cool kind of sick where I get to watch movies all day. I'm so tired that my attention span is super short (even though I can't sleep, it's impossible not to try). It's really a waste.

Yeah, that's the worst. I'm only fifteen minutes into a movie I started an hour ago. Just can't focus. And I'm not even sick (I hope).

pixote
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Totoro on February 25, 2011, 05:56:05 PM
I think I'm going to quit my job and find another one.

So, this is what happened. I call in to tell them I'm sick. My manager says, "Oh, well, I mean, gosh... you've had a pretty poor attendance record in the past." Me: "WHAT?!" Him: "Yeah, I mean... you've called in sick before (honestly, I've done it about twice in my 2 years of working there) and you've switched shifts before a lot (this is true, but when does shift switching have to do with a attendance record?" Me: "Well, I've only been sick once or twice before and I don't understand-" Him: "We'll talk about your attendance when you come in sometime. I'll cover you now, but ___(my name)___, I run a business."

Okay, so here's some new discoveries: my work just hired about 8-9 new people, all starting in the section I work in. They have some leverage with me even though I've never done anything that they've nailed me on with a warning or whatever. Perhaps I'm getting too comfortable at work. It's just, ugh. I don't like any of my managers - none of them are friendly. The job has been really soul sucking the last few months. Of course I'll set up myself for a new job before I do anything. I've gone through this kind of sh-- before. They say, "you're too comfortable" and I act all "yes, master, anything you say master, please don't fire me, master", but now it's getting a little redundant and tired.

Any advice, filmspotting? It really sucks because I've been there for so long. Also, I didn't know where else to post this.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: zarodinu on February 25, 2011, 08:20:56 PM
I think I'm going to quit my job and find another one.
...
Any advice, filmspotting? It really sucks because I've been there for so long. Also, I didn't know where else to post this.

I don't know what you do for a living and how hard it is for you to find a new job, but that is not the most pleasant situation.  The incident by itself might have been just one particular manager being an arse, but if its part of a pattern or your work place is going through readjustments it may be serious.  If it has gotten to the point where you are thinking of your job in terms of leverage and what excuses they can use to give you the chop, I would look for other places to work in, keeping an eye out for better opportunities can't hurt. 

I never stay long in places where I am treated badly or where I have to grovel before the boss.  Even if you do not lose your job, no man should be treated like that, dogs grovel, men deserve respect.  I have lost jobs because I refused unreasonable demands by bosses or unions, sometimes you gotta accept certain things to put food on the table, but atleast as a long term goal, I always try to find work where I am respected.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sandy on February 26, 2011, 04:18:38 PM
Well said zarodinu.  Good luck Totoro--maybe there is a reason that you're "comfortable". What is it that you really want to work for? What is your passion?
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Totoro on February 27, 2011, 02:44:16 AM
I think I'm going to quit my job and find another one.
...
Any advice, filmspotting? It really sucks because I've been there for so long. Also, I didn't know where else to post this.

I don't know what you do for a living and how hard it is for you to find a new job, but that is not the most pleasant situation.  The incident by itself might have been just one particular manager being an arse, but if its part of a pattern or your work place is going through readjustments it may be serious.  If it has gotten to the point where you are thinking of your job in terms of leverage and what excuses they can use to give you the chop, I would look for other places to work in, keeping an eye out for better opportunities can't hurt. 

I never stay long in places where I am treated badly or where I have to grovel before the boss.  Even if you do not lose your job, no man should be treated like that, dogs grovel, men deserve respect.  I have lost jobs because I refused unreasonable demands by bosses or unions, sometimes you gotta accept certain things to put food on the table, but atleast as a long term goal, I always try to find work where I am respected.

Thank you. You have given me some courage in looking for another job.

Sandy, I want to get into the film business. But the problem is, a lot of the stuff that I apply for are internships, usually no pay. I'm still a college student. I need money.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Mosca on February 27, 2011, 09:21:02 AM
Well, that's a nasty tale! Lucky you are able to deal with it. My view is that if you find yourself talking about work in a negative way, and can't stop it even when not AT work, it's time to move on. Usually the things that rile someone are the things that will never change because of someone else's incompetency or inertia. Just check the turnover of staff - that's always a good indication of how a place really is.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: pixote on March 07, 2011, 07:21:14 PM
*whimper*

Just because.

pixote
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Mosca on March 08, 2011, 12:37:31 PM
Charlie Sheen is ill. Engaging with his ramblings is comparable to laughing at him. It's a pity. And this is not me being a prude.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Clovis8 on March 08, 2011, 01:28:49 PM
Charlie Sheen is ill. Engaging with his ramblings is comparable to laughing at him. It's a pity. And this is not me being a prude.

I completely agree.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on March 08, 2011, 02:47:42 PM
Same. I don't see why anyone should be entertained by what is actually a pretty serious problem.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bill Thompson on March 08, 2011, 04:57:07 PM
Same. I don't see why anyone should be entertained by what is actually a pretty serious problem.

Because it is, funny.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: smirnoff on March 08, 2011, 05:44:04 PM
Dude's so far gone, he needs to hit rock bottom and no amount of support is going to useful until that happens.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: zarodinu on March 09, 2011, 01:06:26 AM
I have an ex-flame who got into drug addiction and basically destroyed her life, its not funny, and I wonder how bad he needs to get to be committed.  You wouldn't laugh at a a retarded child or a demented old man, and you shouldn't love at this poor soul.

The most disgusting part is the media that feeds off the thing under the guise of "concern", can't blame them, what with no war, economic collapse, labor protests, or massive upheavals in the Middle East to report on...   
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bill Thompson on March 09, 2011, 07:07:25 AM
You wouldn't laugh at a a retarded child or a demented old man, and you shouldn't love at this poor soul.

I would, so would a lot of people, and a lot of comedians would craft jokes about them. All of life is funny, it's what helps make even the most heartbreaking things more heartbreaking and real.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Mosca on March 09, 2011, 03:15:18 PM
You wouldn't laugh at a a retarded child or a demented old man, and you shouldn't love at this poor soul.

I would, so would a lot of people, and a lot of comedians would craft jokes about them. All of life is funny, it's what helps make even the most heartbreaking things more heartbreaking and real.
Bill, I am trying to reconcile your view here on Charlie Sheen (and retarded child or demented old man) with your view that you found Notorious repugnant because of the abuse of a female (as you saw it). Where's the difference between the latter and the former?
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Melvil on March 09, 2011, 04:31:00 PM
The fuel sensor in my car has been acting up lately, apparently it's a known issue with this model. I just found out that it's going to cost me a good $300 to fix. Meanwhile, my license plate expires Monday, and I have to get emission-tested this year before I can renew. BUT, they automatically failed the car just because the freaking check-engine light is on (because of the fuel sensor). So I won't be able to pass emissions before my plate expires, meaning I have to go buy a temporary plate from the BMV. After all this is taken care of, then I finally have the privilege of renewing my plate for another $100.

I know it's only money, but...

*whimper*
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bill Thompson on March 09, 2011, 06:16:48 PM
You wouldn't laugh at a a retarded child or a demented old man, and you shouldn't love at this poor soul.

I would, so would a lot of people, and a lot of comedians would craft jokes about them. All of life is funny, it's what helps make even the most heartbreaking things more heartbreaking and real.
Bill, I am trying to reconcile your view here on Charlie Sheen (and retarded child or demented old man) with your view that you found Notorious repugnant because of the abuse of a female (as you saw it). Where's the difference between the latter and the former?

In the case of Sheen, it's a guy just being himself. Maybe it will all end up being an act, but it's one man saying things that he wants to say and acting the way he wants to act. There's a master hand at play in Notorious, Hitchcock presents that relationship to us and wants us to like it, he pushes the abuse as lovely in some way. It's the hand of god factor that is the difference in my eyes.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: zarodinu on March 10, 2011, 03:01:53 PM
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I am applying for a nurse assistant position to help me achieve my long term goal of eating three times a day.  I have an Oregon nurse assistant license, however it is a whole process to get a New York one from that.  I have to fill out this ridiculously long piece of paper, after which I need an endorsement letter from my previous job, and a 50$ fee, AND a copy of my Oregon license.  Thing is I do not have a physical Oregon license, they do not make them anymore its all digital, so I have to send the letter to Oregon with ANOTHER 50$ processing fee so they give me a stamp that I am kosher.  Once that is done I need to report to a place twenty miles away to have my fingerprints taken.  All this done I can wait however long it takes them to process, so that I can finally start looking for the job I may or may not find.  Mind you all this bureaucracy, licensing, and regulation is for a job where you spend most of your time wiping ass.        
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on March 10, 2011, 03:08:57 PM
But you've got to kiss asses first.  :D
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bill Thompson on March 10, 2011, 03:12:55 PM
I'm in the middle of filling out applications for EMT-B, patient tech, and firefighter positions, it is a bit maddening.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bondo on March 10, 2011, 03:14:31 PM
I just lectured about bureaucracy and spent some time in the State and Local class talking about the Colorado Department of Regulatory Agencies and asked the question of whether we are overregulated with regard to employment (and zoning and such). One student brought up the example of being a nursing assistant and moving states.

FWIW, my answer is that almost undoubtedly these things are overregulated, though your example is a problem of federalism. State by state standards means you can't necessarily trust that another state's recognition should be relied upon.

Speaking of licensing stuff, I filed for a substitute teaching license (which just requires a Bachelor's degree and passing a background check) and paid money to do all the documentation back in October and still haven't heard anything back from it. Maybe they fired all the staff who processes these things as part of budget cuts (it takes people to run government effectively where government is needed).
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: zarodinu on March 10, 2011, 03:32:19 PM
Its not even the fact that you need a license, I wouldn't want a pederast or a convict to work in a nursing home or hospital.  It is the frightful ass-backwards inefficiency of the whole thing.  

It takes me exactly 10 seconds to check my license status, you go here:

http://osbn.oregon.gov/onlineverification/Search.aspx (http://osbn.oregon.gov/onlineverification/Search.aspx)

and enter my name.  There is no need for forms, fees, stamps, or letters, or long ass waiting periods, it can be done over the phone in a moment.  There is no need to fingerprint me either, they can do a police search without fingerprints, and my prints are already on file both with NYS police and federal immigration.  Why do I need to pay 100$ for this?  I would love an invoice detailing where exactly each cent of that goes, its not that I do not have 100$, its that I do not appreciate being nickle and dimed by the good folks in the government.  

Well...  On the bright side this gives me enough time to piss all the THC out of my body.

But you've got to kiss asses first.  :D

To get to the top one must be prepared to kiss alot of bottom.

FWIW, my answer is that almost undoubtedly these things are overregulated, though your example is a problem of federalism. State by state standards means you can't necessarily trust that another state's recognition should be relied upon.


As someone who is intimately familiar with the subject, do you think they make it complicated on purpose to levy charges on citizens, or is it just the way government does everything?
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bondo on March 10, 2011, 04:11:09 PM
FWIW, my answer is that almost undoubtedly these things are overregulated, though your example is a problem of federalism. State by state standards means you can't necessarily trust that another state's recognition should be relied upon.


As someone who is intimately familiar with the subject, do you think they make it complicated on purpose to levy charges on citizens, or is it just the way government does everything?

I wouldn't be surprised if part of it was the allure of collecting fees. Can't raise taxes to pay for services? Slap a fee on it. Fees are okay if the service you are providing is something you want less of (replacement driver's licenses...you don't want to encourage people losing them) but otherwise fees are regressive and inefficient so I'd rather just have an efficient tax but alas no one has offered me dictatorial power yet. Like, I recognize that the University of Colorado is drastically underfunded (though having served on the student union there, I think there are tons of unnecessary fluff that drives up student fees if not tuition) but I get really annoyed that I can't get a good, electronic, official copy of my transcript for free. Instead I had to pay like $10 for them to send me some encrypted thing that self-destructs after a week. That is just terrible service for something that costs them essentially nothing. Especially to nickel and dime someone who gave them a lot of the federal government's money through student loans.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Totoro on March 11, 2011, 11:52:08 PM
The girl who always said, "I won't be the one to break up with you" just told me (after a fight we had about not seeing each other and my feeling of her not being as passionate as she once was for me) that she needs some time off.

2 1/2 years. This has never happened before. I don't know what to do. I just have absolutely no idea what to do.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: zarodinu on March 11, 2011, 11:54:04 PM
The girl who always said, "I won't be the one to break up with you" just told me (after a fight we had about not seeing each other and my feeling of her not being as passionate as she once was for me) that she needs some time off.

2 1/2 years. This has never happened before. I don't know what to do. I just have absolutely no idea what to do.

For now make yourself a stiff drink or several stiff drinks and don't do anything rash.  Tomorrow think it over and decide what to do.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ses on March 12, 2011, 12:18:15 AM
The girl who always said, "I won't be the one to break up with you" just told me (after a fight we had about not seeing each other and my feeling of her not being as passionate as she once was for me) that she needs some time off.

2 1/2 years. This has never happened before. I don't know what to do. I just have absolutely no idea what to do.

I am so sorry Totoro. 
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: tinyholidays on March 12, 2011, 01:25:52 PM
Doc says I gots the mono, pop.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on March 12, 2011, 02:01:34 PM
Doc says I gots the mono, pop.

Ah, that means you got it from pix, not Melvil.

I hope you get better quick!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ses on March 12, 2011, 02:40:12 PM
Doc says I gots the mono, pop.

take care of that spleen

I had mono when I was in college, never felt so tired in my life (before I became chronically sleep deprived, now I am tired all the time)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: pixote on March 12, 2011, 03:42:22 PM
Oh no!!!!!!!!!!!!!

pixote
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: roujin on March 12, 2011, 03:45:45 PM
I blame pixote.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: tinyholidays on March 12, 2011, 04:22:53 PM
Thanks for the well-wishes everyone. Definitely the worst part of this is that I haven't been able to work or show my apartment, and I'm trying to move. But slowly, slowly recovering.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: 'Noke on March 12, 2011, 05:31:54 PM
I'm sorry tiny. But it'll get better!!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oneaprilday on March 12, 2011, 07:19:16 PM
Really sorry, tiny. :(  Hope you get better soooon!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Melvil on March 12, 2011, 07:26:00 PM
Noooo! Feel better quick, tiny!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bill Thompson on March 12, 2011, 08:20:32 PM
Noooo! Feel better quick, tiny!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Mosca on March 14, 2011, 12:27:22 PM
You wouldn't laugh at a a retarded child or a demented old man, and you shouldn't love at this poor soul.

I would, so would a lot of people, and a lot of comedians would craft jokes about them. All of life is funny, it's what helps make even the most heartbreaking things more heartbreaking and real.
Bill, I am trying to reconcile your view here on Charlie Sheen (and retarded child or demented old man) with your view that you found Notorious repugnant because of the abuse of a female (as you saw it). Where's the difference between the latter and the former?

In the case of Sheen, it's a guy just being himself. Maybe it will all end up being an act, but it's one man saying things that he wants to say and acting the way he wants to act. There's a master hand at play in Notorious, Hitchcock presents that relationship to us and wants us to like it, he pushes the abuse as lovely in some way. It's the hand of god factor that is the difference in my eyes.
Well explained Bill  :)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Monty on March 15, 2011, 03:24:26 AM
A picture is worth a thousand words.

(http://i54.tinypic.com/1hp6w6.jpg)

It's just devastating the watching the events in Japan.  :'(
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Mosca on March 19, 2011, 10:37:59 AM
What a sad world.   :'(
I have lost my mojo, has anyone seen it?
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Totoro on March 19, 2011, 10:48:35 PM
My girlfriend has made it clear that she doesn't have time for me right now. At all. So, I changed our relationship status from it's complicated to single. She went berserk. What, you want to own me, but ignore me? I'm not going to wait around until you decide that you're passionate enough for me or have enough time to spend with me. It was still pretty sad, though.  :(

I still love her very much and will pursue her on a dime, but I can't take this wishy washyness anymore.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: 'Noke on March 21, 2011, 05:27:22 PM
Not to stomp on Totoro's much more important problems, but I need to vent.....

It's 10:24. Thankfully, I've been told that the biology presentation that I thought was due tomorrow isn't due till next week. However, that still doesn't make my missing set of results magically appear.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: FLYmeatwad on March 21, 2011, 05:32:50 PM
I found out that my college needs a printed copy of my PRAXIS scores for certification. I told the PRAXIS to mail my scores to the college, which they did, but when I went to pick up my certification application they said they needed printed scores as well. I wish they would have told me this at any point in the past so I could have printed them out for free as soon as they were posted online back in October. Now I need to pay $80 to have them mailed on top of the $200-300 for the certification.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Clovis8 on March 21, 2011, 05:38:45 PM
I found out that my college needs a printed copy of my PRAXIS scores for certification. I told the PRAXIS to mail my scores to the college, which they did, but when I went to pick up my certification application they said they needed printed scores as well. I wish they would have told me this at any point in the past so I could have printed them out for free as soon as they were posted online back in October. Now I need to pay $80 to have them mailed on top of the $200-300 for the certification.

The standardized testing industry is such a scam. I dont even want to think of all the money I spent on the GRE.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: FLYmeatwad on March 21, 2011, 05:43:32 PM
I found out that my college needs a printed copy of my PRAXIS scores for certification. I told the PRAXIS to mail my scores to the college, which they did, but when I went to pick up my certification application they said they needed printed scores as well. I wish they would have told me this at any point in the past so I could have printed them out for free as soon as they were posted online back in October. Now I need to pay $80 to have them mailed on top of the $200-300 for the certification.

The standardized testing industry is such a scam. I dont even want to think of all the money I spent on the GRE.

Indeed. My GRE was a couple hundred as well. If I want to retake it when I am ready to leave with my MA to boost my subpar verbal I have to not only pay again, but figure out the way the rehauled verbal section works. It also jeopardizes my writing/logic score, which was in the 95th percentile nationally, if I do worse on that section and the schools I apply to average the grades. Not even sure if it will be worth retaking if I decide to apply to places for Ph.D work. Not to mention that I definitely will have to take my content specific GRE, which will be a pain in itself. Some schools require it and some schools only recommend it, and I suppose a few others I looked at said it doesn't matter one way or the other, but that would always be good to have so I am sure I need to take that in the next six months or something. It's all run through the same company, I think.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Clovis8 on March 21, 2011, 05:53:49 PM
I found out that my college needs a printed copy of my PRAXIS scores for certification. I told the PRAXIS to mail my scores to the college, which they did, but when I went to pick up my certification application they said they needed printed scores as well. I wish they would have told me this at any point in the past so I could have printed them out for free as soon as they were posted online back in October. Now I need to pay $80 to have them mailed on top of the $200-300 for the certification.

The standardized testing industry is such a scam. I dont even want to think of all the money I spent on the GRE.

Indeed. My GRE was a couple hundred as well. If I want to retake it when I am ready to leave with my MA to boost my subpar verbal I have to not only pay again, but figure out the way the rehauled verbal section works. It also jeopardizes my writing/logic score, which was in the 95th percentile nationally, if I do worse on that section and the schools I apply to average the grades. Not even sure if it will be worth retaking if I decide to apply to places for Ph.D work. Not to mention that I definitely will have to take my content specific GRE, which will be a pain in itself. Some schools require it and some schools only recommend it, and I suppose a few others I looked at said it doesn't matter one way or the other, but that would always be good to have so I am sure I need to take that in the next six months or something. It's all run through the same company, I think.

Ya I was so pissed when I had to retake the GRE between my MA and PhD as if somehow I would get dumber since the MA. It is nothing but a money grab.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: mañana on March 21, 2011, 05:56:14 PM
as if somehow I would get dumber since the MA.
Depends what school you went to.  :)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: tinyholidays on March 21, 2011, 06:12:40 PM
Or be like me and forget your scheduled GRE date. Twice.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bondo on March 21, 2011, 06:40:57 PM
I took the PLACE, the Colorado teacher cert test and the one place I needed to send my stats was not on their list of places to have it sent so I didn't fill anything in. When I contacted them to get the results sent (since they claim the first is free) they said it didn't count so I had to pay. Between that whole process, my transcripts and my sub license application (still haven't heard back after six months), I've spent a lot of money trying to get into teaching and have since abandoned that aspiration.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on March 21, 2011, 07:38:04 PM
I didn't think it was that bad, but if I've got to take it again to get into the PhD program, that would be pretty silly.

Most of Texas ignores the verbal section, so I didn't have to worry about it.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Melvil on March 21, 2011, 08:06:25 PM
One of my cats is dying. I spent a few hours at my parents house after work today because she's going downhill fast. Not eating, labored breathing, barely any strength, and her face is very vacant. It's completely heartbreaking. They're 17, so it's not terribly unexpected, but we've had these cats since I was 5...I really don't remember a time before that.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Clovis8 on March 21, 2011, 08:12:52 PM
The worst part about the GRE is that I crushed it both times, getting top percentile scores in everything (except math), yet I dont think it reflected the skills I need in grad school at all.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: FLYmeatwad on March 21, 2011, 08:18:53 PM
One of my cats is dying. I spent a few hours at my parents house after work today because she's going downhill fast. Not eating, labored breathing, barely any strength, and her face is very vacant. It's completely heartbreaking. They're 17, so it's not terribly unexpected, but we've had these cats since I was 5...I really don't remember a time before that.

Sorry to hear that, Melvil. It's always rough to lose a pet. Over the summer I thought my dog was on her last legs, and for the most part she is, but we were fortunate enough to get some things to keep her going and now she has up and down days. Still, she's losing nearly all of her fur, having trouble walking, and has a scrunched face, mostly can't hear, and has something wrong with her eyes. All you can really do in a time like this is spend as much time as you can with the animal. It's sad, but at least you're there. That's how it is with me anyway.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on March 21, 2011, 08:24:47 PM
The worst part about the GRE is that I crushed it both times, getting top percentile scores in everything (except math), yet I dont think it reflected the skills I need in grad school at all.
Of course it didn't. All standardized tests are only good gage of how good you are at taking that particular test.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Mosca on March 22, 2011, 04:23:35 PM
One of my cats is dying. I spent a few hours at my parents house after work today because she's going downhill fast. Not eating, labored breathing, barely any strength, and her face is very vacant. It's completely heartbreaking. They're 17, so it's not terribly unexpected, but we've had these cats since I was 5...I really don't remember a time before that.
I'm sorry, I know this is very upsetting. I try to keep in mind that animals have no expectations of life and hence have no idea of mortality. Sometimes that helps, but after the event...never during.  :'(
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: FroHam X on March 22, 2011, 08:16:59 PM
Thank you, public audiences for making me walk out of a screening of Taxi Driver. Yeah, go ahead and ruin screenings of Paul, that's fine, it's a crappy movie and it's playing every day anyway. But why do you have to ruin Taxi Driver for me? Two screenings, with one already passed, and tonight being the only one I could make. I love the movie, so I know I'd enjoy it, but no, you guys won't let me. So thank you. Thank you to the three people scattered around the front who kept pulling out your cell phones. Thank you to the guy next to me who breathes louder than the audio coming out of the speakers. Thank you to the couple two rows behind me who decided to bring in Subway sandwiches and crinkle paper and plastic bags for 20 minutes straight. Thank you to the couple directly behind me who would not stop moving around and inadvertently knocking my seat. Thank you to the guy two seats down who wouldn't stop whispering to his friends. And thank you to the guy a couple rows down who felt the urge to repeat every great line right after it left the actors' mouths.

Thank you and go CINECAST! yourselves.


(PS, I saw enough to know that this is one of the best looking film restorations I've ever seen. Good job, Sony.)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bill Thompson on March 22, 2011, 08:19:48 PM
I think you need to cut the breathing guy some slack, people breathe loud, it's an accepted thing, especially when there might be a condition involved.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: FroHam X on March 22, 2011, 08:24:33 PM
I think you need to cut the breathing guy some slack, people breathe loud, it's an accepted thing, especially when there might be a condition involved.

Still annoying, and it was one of many extremely irritating things going on in the theatre that actually caused me to walk out of a movie for the first time in ages. And I only ever walk out because something unexpected comes up, or in a couple cases because I was tired and fell asleep. And again, it's not just walking out of any movie, this is a classic movie that I already love and that doesn't exactly show up on the big screen on a regular basis, and certainly not looking this good. I stand firmly by my "CINECAST! yourselves" comment.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bill Thompson on March 22, 2011, 08:27:23 PM
I think you need to cut the breathing guy some slack, people breathe loud, it's an accepted thing, especially when there might be a condition involved.

Still annoying, and it was one of many extremely irritating things going on in the theatre that actually caused me to walk out of a movie for the first time in ages. And I only ever walk out because something unexpected comes up, or in a couple cases because I was tired and fell asleep. And again, it's not just walking out of any movie, this is a classic movie that I already love and that doesn't exactly show up on the big screen on a regular basis, and certainly not looking this good. I stand firmly by my "CINECAST! yourselves" comment.

I'm not saying anything about the others, but I would advise letting up on the breathing heavy guy. It may be annoying, but tons of people can't control how heavy they breathe.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: smirnoff on March 22, 2011, 09:45:36 PM
You should've brought a whoopie cushion froham and let out a bronx cheer at all serious bits.

Travis Bickle: I first saw her at Palantine Campaign headquarters at 63rd and Broadway. She was wearing a white dress. She appeared like an angel. Out of this filthy mess, she is alone. They... cannot... touch... her.
*ppbbbbbbbbbbffffffffffffffffpbpbppbpbpbppbpbbp!*

Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: FroHam X on March 22, 2011, 09:47:00 PM
hahahahaha. I really did identify with Bickle during the screening.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ¡Keith! on March 22, 2011, 10:26:08 PM
It was probably a Jodie Foster thing.


Wait, is this chat?

i scoff at your boundaries!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: St. Martin the Bald on March 23, 2011, 02:17:56 PM
Thank you, public audiences for making me walk out of a screening of Taxi Driver. Yeah, go ahead and ruin screenings of Paul, that's fine, it's a crappy movie and it's playing every day anyway. But why do you have to ruin Taxi Driver for me? Two screenings, with one already passed, and tonight being the only one I could make. I love the movie, so I know I'd enjoy it, but no, you guys won't let me. So thank you. Thank you to the three people scattered around the front who kept pulling out your cell phones. Thank you to the guy next to me who breathes louder than the audio coming out of the speakers. Thank you to the couple two rows behind me who decided to bring in Subway sandwiches and crinkle paper and plastic bags for 20 minutes straight. Thank you to the couple directly behind me who would not stop moving around and inadvertently knocking my seat. Thank you to the guy two seats down who wouldn't stop whispering to his friends. And thank you to the guy a couple rows down who felt the urge to repeat every great line right after it left the actors' mouths.

Thank you and go CINECAST! yourselves.


(PS, I saw enough to know that this is one of the best looking film restorations I've ever seen. Good job, Sony.)

Awww - sorry Corey that your experience wasn't so good.
I was lucky - it was a nearly empty theater and I got my usual seat along the rail so I could put my feet up. I hate AMC popcorn though (it really sucks)...

As for the film - it was my first time watching it all the way through and I loved it. So not the ending I was expecting at all...
I saw flashes of later Scorcese - especially Bringing Out The Dead.
Great experience.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: FroHam X on March 23, 2011, 02:47:52 PM
Glad you enjoyed it so much. I'm lucky in that I did get to see Taxi Driver at the Lightbox back in the Fall. It wasn't the restoration, but I still got to see it in a theatre. I might have stuck out the awful screening had I not seen it projected before.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: pixote on March 24, 2011, 04:02:05 PM
AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

pixote
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on March 24, 2011, 04:03:34 PM
AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

pixote


Now THAT's a loud whimper.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: enzobot24 on March 27, 2011, 03:51:07 AM
Just endured my first car crash. Woman rear-ended me when I slowed down (a car two ahead of me was turning into an apartment complex). All of the sudden... boom. She hits me and pushes me into the car in front of me. And I proceeded to pinball back and forth.

Car is probably totaled. Which sucks... I commute to college daily.

Nobody was hurt (well, I just have a scrape on my hand and a bruised shin).
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Clovis8 on March 27, 2011, 08:44:50 AM
Just endured my first car crash. Woman rear-ended me when I slowed down (a car two ahead of me was turning into an apartment complex). All of the sudden... boom. She hits me and pushes me into the car in front of me. And I proceeded to pinball back and forth.

Car is probably totaled. Which sucks... I commute to college daily.

Nobody was hurt (well, I just have a scrape on my hand and a bruised shin).

Good thing nobody was hurt. Are you libel for hitting the car in front of you? Some places you would be I think.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: jdc on March 27, 2011, 08:55:56 AM
Just endured my first car crash. Woman rear-ended me when I slowed down (a car two ahead of me was turning into an apartment complex). All of the sudden... boom. She hits me and pushes me into the car in front of me. And I proceeded to pinball back and forth.

Car is probably totaled. Which sucks... I commute to college daily.

Nobody was hurt (well, I just have a scrape on my hand and a bruised shin).

Good thing nobody was hurt. Are you libel for hitting the car in front of you? Some places you would be I think.

I have been told that the car in the rear is responsible for the accident here regardless of the facts.  To the point that is there is a chain for cars that crash, the car in the rear may just back into the car behind them to pass the blame.  Pretty much the last car take full responsibility.  I am happy for trains buses and taxis and not having to worrying about driving anymore
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Clovis8 on March 27, 2011, 09:16:09 AM
Just endured my first car crash. Woman rear-ended me when I slowed down (a car two ahead of me was turning into an apartment complex). All of the sudden... boom. She hits me and pushes me into the car in front of me. And I proceeded to pinball back and forth.

Car is probably totaled. Which sucks... I commute to college daily.

Nobody was hurt (well, I just have a scrape on my hand and a bruised shin).

Good thing nobody was hurt. Are you libel for hitting the car in front of you? Some places you would be I think.

I have been told that the car in the rear is responsible for the accident here regardless of the facts.  To the point that is there is a chain for cars that crash, the car in the rear may just back into the car behind them to pass the blame.  Pretty much the last car take full responsibility.  I am happy for trains buses and taxis and not having to worrying about driving anymore

I think in some places he would be libel. I can see it both ways. It's obviously mostly the fault of the first car but you are suppose to be far enough back from the car in front of you to prevent a chain reaction.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: tinyholidays on March 27, 2011, 10:20:35 AM
I'm glad you weren't hurt, enzo. What a headache.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bondo on March 27, 2011, 10:51:25 AM
My understanding is along the lines of jdc, last car in a pile-up is at fault in this sort of thing.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: enzobot24 on March 27, 2011, 10:53:05 AM
Yeah, pretty headache inducing.

I was a good 10-15 feet behind the car in front of me (I was almost at a complete stop too). This 20-year-old woman behind hit me hard and closed that gap damn fast.

She said she didn't see me stopping.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Totoro on April 06, 2011, 12:36:27 AM
_____, when a relationship stops working there's not usually much point in talking about reasons. I think maybe we were together at the wrong time in our lives, with me leaving for college. i always felt that i came second to everything for you, and while that's completely fair, that doesn't work for me. I felt insecure with you a lot of the time, and that wasn't good for either of us .I think it was difficult for you to have a girlfriend that wanted to see you more than once every couple of weeks. it was just hard because it made me seem clingy. let's try to remember the wonderful times we had.

Closure.  :-\  :'(  ???

I tugged her for it over FB. Wide range of emotions. Of course she blames me. Of course.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Tim on April 06, 2011, 02:23:36 AM
I have had no internet since last friday - the phone line at home is broken. I have only had very short sporadic internet access at work too. If I wasn't so busy I would use the non-internet time to watch films, but alas I already have a mountain of marking sitting around, and a conference article to finish by friday arvo........   :'(
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Totoro on April 08, 2011, 02:46:39 PM
WOW. I found out on FB that she's now dating a 30 year old guy. Not only that, but she met him while I was still with her. She's only 18. She fell for him when they met.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bondo on April 08, 2011, 03:48:46 PM
WOW. I found out on FB that she's now dating a 30 year old guy. Not only that, but she met him while I was still with her. She's only 18. She fell for him when they met.

Sounds a lot like I went through. I had expressed some concerns about a mutual friend (something about him wanting to gift her something worth $1500 while she was dating me and how that wasn't an innocent friendly gift) who my ex described as "like an older brother." As things were falling apart she admitted she loved him and within a year was dating him even though she was 18 and he was 31. Lesson learned, girls always want to screw their older brothers, especially if they are of greater means.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bill Thompson on April 08, 2011, 05:06:39 PM
Being peeved at DirecTV. Due to the horrendously unprofessional actions of one of their installers I have already canceled my service before it even began. We made an appointment for between 4-8 tonight, then he shows up at 2 when there's no one at the apartment, calls the landlord to let him in, tracks mud all throughout the apartment, turns my PS3 on without turning it back off and left without installing a thing. The landlord, who is a bad person to begin with, has decided to fine us for having to let him in, even though we never wanted him let in and didn't authorize him showing up early when he did. On top of this the landlord has decided to put a new lease addendum into the new leases that come up in a few months that no one will be allowed to have DirecTV and she's telling everyone it's because of us. I was really looking forward to the channels DirecTV offered and to leaving Comcast's crappy service and bloated prices behind, but now thanks to an idiotic installer I'm right back where I started. :(
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Pseuds on April 10, 2011, 08:06:35 AM

I haven't been in the forum for a while, after 2 1/2 years of operations my father recently found out he may loose his leg due to a serious infection in his knee. This was caused by a woman who ran a stop sign whilst he was on his way home on his motorcycle. The woman on the other hand has only  lost her licence for six months and was slapped with a fine equal to a parking ticket. He's had about eight operations on his wrist, pelvis and knee and no matter how many times you think it can't get any worse, it does. To make things that little bit more depressing,  I have a very sick grandfather in New Zealand but as I'm starting a new job, there's little possibility I'll get to see him before he passes away.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: saltine on April 10, 2011, 08:52:30 AM
That's sad, pseudo3D.  I hope things work out for you and yours.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: tinyholidays on April 10, 2011, 08:55:24 AM
That sounds like such a sad, immensely frustrating time, pseudo. It's so hard to see loved ones in pain.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on April 10, 2011, 09:49:17 AM
That is terrible about your father, Pseudo.  It must be hard to see him in such pain over such a long period of time.

Don't get too angry about the woman who injured your father, though.  We all make mistakes, it is just that our mistakes don't usually have such horrible consequences.

Is your father's treatment being paid for?
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: jdc on April 10, 2011, 10:47:26 AM
i dont know, an amazing day but i see bad things beginning.  I feel good but very sad for what I think...
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Pseuds on April 11, 2011, 03:38:59 AM

I'm not really angry at the woman, it's the justice system that seems to fail and the insurance company treats him like the criminal instead of a victim. He's fully covered by private insurance so that's a plus, the hospital is newly refurbished and pretty amazing. I guess the saddest thing is remembering what he was like before the accident and what he's like now.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on April 11, 2011, 01:08:42 PM

I'm not really angry at the woman, it's the justice system that seems to fail and the insurance company treats him like the criminal instead of a victim. He's fully covered by private insurance so that's a plus, the hospital is newly refurbished and pretty amazing. I guess the saddest thing is remembering what he was like before the accident and what he's like now.

The system sucks.  And it is tragic.  So sorry for your dad.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Clovis8 on April 14, 2011, 07:37:38 AM
THIS WINTER WILL NOT END!!!!!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: FifthCityMuse on April 14, 2011, 08:24:58 AM
We're such sooks here. I'm sure there are foreigners walking around Melbourne enjoying the relative warmth. Most of the locals are already pulling on winter coats and jackets. It's 15C apparently right now. Yesterday was mid to high teens and I was walking around the house in three layers, including a thermal t-shirt. Such sooks.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: MartinTeller on April 14, 2011, 09:50:26 AM
I'm so sick of rain I could scream.  Yeah I know it's stupid to expect otherwise in Portland, but ENOUGH ALREADY.

See me again in 4 months when I'm bitching about how hot it is.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Corndog on April 14, 2011, 10:11:12 AM
I like the rain. And if it keeps up like this, May should prove to be quite beautiful. That is if it keeps up its end of the bargain.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bondo on April 14, 2011, 11:15:00 AM
What is rain?

/desertdweller
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oneaprilday on April 14, 2011, 11:20:37 AM
I'm so sick of rain I could scream.  Yeah I know it's stupid to expect otherwise in Portland, but ENOUGH ALREADY.
I'm with you, MT, a little sun ONCE in a while would be nice.  Been waiting to get my garden going for several weeks, but it's been so soggy, I can't.  Ugh.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: FroHam X on April 14, 2011, 11:40:45 AM
THIS WINTER WILL NOT END!!!!!

Hehe, Albertans.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: FLYmeatwad on April 14, 2011, 01:33:45 PM
I like the rain. And if it keeps up like this, May should prove to be quite beautiful. That is if it keeps up its end of the bargain.

Q: April showers bring Mayflowers, but what do May flowers bring?

A: The boys to the yard.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bondo on April 14, 2011, 03:31:29 PM
Q: April showers bring Mayflowers, but what do May flowers bring?

More hay fever :no:
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: 'Noke on April 14, 2011, 03:42:53 PM
I like the rain. And if it keeps up like this, May should prove to be quite beautiful. That is if it keeps up its end of the bargain.

Q: April showers bring Mayflowers, but what do May flowers bring?

A: The boys to the yard.

Post of the month here. Literal lols.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Clovis8 on April 14, 2011, 04:42:44 PM
You guys are not allowed to complain about rain when I am under 20cm of snow!  >:(
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: FroHam X on April 14, 2011, 04:43:46 PM
You guys are not allowed to complain about rain when I am under 20cm of snow!  >:(

Hehe, Albertans. WHERE'S YOUR HARPER NOW??
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Clovis8 on April 14, 2011, 04:47:28 PM
You guys are not allowed to complain about rain when I am under 20cm of snow!  >:(

Hehe, Albertans. WHERE'S YOUR HARPER NOW??

He ain't my Harper. You can take him please.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: FroHam X on April 14, 2011, 04:50:19 PM
Toronto disowned Harper a long time ago.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: zarodinu on April 14, 2011, 08:54:03 PM
Something happened to me today that to me seems to symbolize everything wrong with the modern world.  I live in a student apartment complex with two on site maintenance guys and a lady named Tira at an on site office who I always assumed was the landlord or directly answering to him.  Few weeks ago I get email that the apartment complex has been sold to some other company, whatever, my rent is already signed for next year.   

Anyways today I see a slip under my door telling me that my rent is two weeks overdue and they are charging 80$ late/bounced check fee in addition to the rent which if I do not pay in 3 days I will be kicked out.  I go downstairs to Tira and try to explain to her that I made the payment online and that maybe something went wrong but its not my fault.  She informs me that she feels my pain, but there is nothing she can do to waive the fee since only the company that now owns the building can do it and she can't make decisions without them.  When I ask who I can talk in the company she tells me the company just owns the property from far away and does not have any desire or infrastructure for dealing with tenants.  They basically just collect a check every month, its like a stock for them.  I badger her to give me the number but she swears that there is no contact information or higher up or anything, finally she goes to their website and gives me the corporate number and tells me I am wasting my time.

I call the company and explain to a very nice lady my problem.  She is genuinely vexed, the company owns property but doesn't in any way deal with the practical aspects of landlordism, they do not have a customer service or accounting line I can talk to.  After talking to her for half an hour she finally transfers me to an even nicer secretary who listens to my story again and tells me she didn't even know the company owned real estate in my state.  Finally she tells me she will have Mr. Morgan deal with it who judging by the hushed tone is somebody who can actually make decisions there.

I sit home pissed off waiting for the call back, instead I get a visit from Tira who is all crying and shaking, evidently Mr. Morgan just called her instead, yelled at her, told her to waive the fee, and explained to her he never ever wants to be bothered about this crap again.  So I got my money back but I feel like an arse even though I never once said anything bad about Tira while on the phone. 

I think it is a real window into how large corporations are run.  The owners view the business in abstract terms as a bottom line at the end of the year, they do not care about the people the business serves and have no desire to in any way forge a relation with them.  The employees at these places are cynical and alienated feeling like they have no power or authority and completely unwilling to help.  This is why the service at Walmart sucks, why cable companies have help lines where its impossible to reach a person, and why Hollywood makes sh*t movies.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Clovis8 on April 14, 2011, 09:01:32 PM
That sucks. The good news is you might be the only anti-government and anti-corporate person on earth.  ;D
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: zarodinu on April 15, 2011, 12:43:26 AM
That sucks. The good news is you might be the only anti-government and anti-corporate person on earth.  ;D

I just hate everyone.  Except you Clovis, you will always be my stud muffin.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: mañana on April 15, 2011, 08:41:32 AM
Toronto disowned Harper a long time ago.
But don't you live in Vaughan or something?
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: FroHam X on April 15, 2011, 10:43:32 AM
God no! Dad is in Aurora. Mom is in Toronto proper. Neither has snow.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on April 21, 2011, 04:05:20 AM
I'm very certain I have an ingrown toenail. The pain is so bad I can't sleep, nothing I seem to do can give it any relief. I really have a good number of things I need to do today as I've got no class tomorrow and a couple of impending things to do at school before class returns next week.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: FroHam X on April 21, 2011, 09:33:25 AM
It might be in your best interest to go see a doctor about that.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: mañana on April 21, 2011, 10:10:40 AM
Try soaking it in warm salt water and taking Advil. If that doesn't help, you might have to seek a professional.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: smirnoff on April 21, 2011, 10:15:09 AM
(http://www.butlerservice.co.uk/Cigar%20Cutter.jpg)

That toe's got to go!

I kid. See a doctor. THey'll knwo what to do.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: mañana on April 21, 2011, 10:23:42 AM
Ralston that toe!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on April 21, 2011, 11:27:38 AM
It's subsided some so I think I'm in the green. But I'm trying not to walk on it cuz it still is really sore.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: FLYmeatwad on April 21, 2011, 12:38:46 PM
If you can't sleep, always use Nyquil.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on April 21, 2011, 12:40:17 PM
I hate using Nyquil because it makes me groggy for all the next day.  I'm often better off just not sleeping.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: FLYmeatwad on April 21, 2011, 12:44:03 PM
Groggy is one of my favorite feelings. Usually it makes me work against myself, so I feel more triumphant when I catch my regular wind.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: pixote on May 04, 2011, 06:09:50 PM
I lost a friend today. Not a close friend, but still someone whose death has me in tears. I haven't seen him since he first checked into the hospital three weeks ago due to fever and dehydration. I visited him that night and talked to him a bit and wished him the speedy recovery that I was pretty confident he'd have. I hugged him goodbye one last time, and I'm grateful for that. Now he's on life support for another twenty-four hours, to give people the chance to say their final goodbyes, but I'm not sure I want to see him like that. I prefer to remember him as he was. But I worry a final visit is sort of expected of me and would be appreciated by his closer friends and his family, so I don't know what to do.

pixote
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: FLYmeatwad on May 04, 2011, 06:16:02 PM
Sorry to hear that pix, I can imagine it's a rough time. I know you said that you're not that close to him, and that you want to preserve the memories, so I would say do what you feel most comfortable doing. I know when my dad was on life support before he died I didn't see him, but I was young and it's a different dynamic. Still, it's something I continue to regret. It sounds like you had closure though, which will be helpful in the future I am sure. Stay strong, take care of yourself, and do what you need to cope. If you feel comfortable going, then go, but if not there's no reason you should feel pressured in to ruining your sense of closure. Let me know if you need to talk or anything, I'm sure the forum will do all we can to help you out.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: tinyholidays on May 04, 2011, 06:39:13 PM
What a tough situation, pix. I'm sorry for your loss.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ses on May 04, 2011, 06:41:41 PM
I am so sorry pix.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bill Thompson on May 04, 2011, 06:42:09 PM
I am so sorry pix.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bondo on May 04, 2011, 06:44:51 PM
That is tragic. :(

Did his condition just take a turn for the worse or did he get a hospital-aquired infection or something, because that's not uncommon and just a really terrible trend in our health care system and I can't imagine having to cope with it personally.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Junior on May 04, 2011, 10:12:36 PM
That super sucks, pix. It's always a sad thing when stuff like this happens.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Totoro on May 05, 2011, 02:19:00 AM
You should see him.

And I'm sorry for your loss.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oneaprilday on May 05, 2011, 01:00:30 PM
I'm so sorry, pix.  Wish I had some really great advice for you - it's an awful dilemma.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Pseuds on May 06, 2011, 07:14:12 AM
I'm sorry to hear of your sad situation Pixote, life is always more fragile than we realize.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: 'Noke on May 06, 2011, 11:08:10 AM
Im so sorry pix.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: edgar00 on May 06, 2011, 11:11:22 AM
I'm very, very sorry to read that, pix. Stay strong.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: 1SO on May 06, 2011, 11:18:39 AM
We're all here for you, pix.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on May 10, 2011, 02:11:56 AM
My fourth week of being sick and I don't think it's getting better.  Maybe it's time to see a doctor.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oneaprilday on May 10, 2011, 11:20:40 AM
Feel better, oldkid!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Melvil on May 10, 2011, 01:03:10 PM
Oh no! That's horrible. It's probably worth going to a doctor if it has lasted that long. Get better!
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Post by: tinyholidays on May 10, 2011, 05:51:59 PM
Steve! Go to a doctor! I procrastinated on going to the doctor for weeks in March, and I shouldn't have.
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Post by: St. Martin the Bald on May 11, 2011, 12:37:06 AM
Steve - go see a doctor - moderator's orders.

Pix - I am so sorry for your loss. What a crap situation.
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Post by: Sandy on May 11, 2011, 11:58:17 AM
St. Martin has spoken! Get well soon Steve.
I'm sorry pixote, hope you are doing okay.
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Post by: oldkid on May 14, 2011, 09:45:51 PM
Thanks, guys.  I took your counsel and went to a doctor and am doing better in the midst of a round of antibiotics.

Right now I'm depressed because we poured our hearts out on a fundraiser and we only made enough money to break even for our expenses.  I'm feeling like I'm just coasting, like I'm not really doing anything, blah, blah, blah.  Self pity doesn't sound like me and I shouldn't bother because things work out, they always do.  But we'll have to close one of our facilities, probably and it seems that so many organizations can do this and everyone recognizes that we are really edgy and streamlined, but we don't get enough finances to give even one person a salary. 

Wow, I must be depressed.  I'm only writing this way because I'm afraid if I don't I'll find some excuse to yell at someone.  And that's stupid.  And you guys are the only people I can write without making it sound like I'm trying to apply some kind of guilt trip on.

Thanks for listening.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: tinyholidays on May 14, 2011, 09:52:29 PM
I've definitely never felt like you were trying to put a guilt trip on us. And that's definitely something worth writing about. How frustrating, especially when so much is at stake. I am glad that you are feeling physically better. Please keep taking care of yourself in all ways.
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Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on May 14, 2011, 10:23:01 PM
Bummer, man. I'll pray things work out (as, like you said, they always tend to do). For now, just focus on getting better. That's the real progress you need to work on right now.
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Post by: Beavermoose on May 24, 2011, 03:19:40 PM
I usually only work 2 nights a week but  the guy who does all the other nights just quit and my boss was too stupid to hire anyone else to do those shifts so I'm stuck working nights all week. I asked for a raise and she told me that I'd be getting to work more hours so I'd be making more money anyway so she wouldn't give it to me. I really considered just quiting because she's been a real pain in my ass since the beginning but I just signed a lease to a new apartment which is a bit more expensive than the one I'm at right now so I can't afford to spend a week not working and looking for a new job. I won't be able to go look around for a new job anyway now because I'll be working nights and sleeping during the day.

I usually hate people who use FML. But seriously FML right now!
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Post by: jdc on June 08, 2011, 09:47:52 PM
my fears are confirmed....she will leave this sunday to prepare for a new job in Germany....
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Totoro on June 09, 2011, 05:16:28 AM
Ugh. When will I stop thinking about my ex? Ugh ugh ugh. Can't sleep. Haven't been sleeping. Stupid cheating hoe. Why did she have to do it? Why does she hate me so much? How was it so easy for her to get over me? :(
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Post by: jdc on June 09, 2011, 05:21:13 AM
hmmm. sorry about that... for me, i am losing one but more due to her free spirit and opportunity to want to see the world which she couldn't make happen here.  hmmm...could i live in germany?
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Post by: Totoro on June 09, 2011, 05:25:17 AM
Is she worth the move? Can you get a job there?
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Post by: jdc on June 09, 2011, 05:34:25 AM
Is she worth the move? Can you get a job there?

I am not sure about the job, I have a good one here with good opportunities which would be hard to match.  Yes, she is worth it.  She may still be in and out of the region often as it is and this is not the end though i was hoping something better had come through here which could also satisfy her nature...
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Totoro on June 09, 2011, 04:24:57 PM
How old are you?

Girls come and go, jobs can last forever. Don't do it unless you can get a job.

Speaking of jobs, I got fired today. Woo CINECAST!ing woo.
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Post by: smirnoff on June 09, 2011, 04:30:17 PM
Damn Totoro, when it rains it pours eh. Not a good week for you at all. :( What did you do if you don't mind me asking (I mean what kind of work, not what did you do to get fired)? Will it be tough to find a similar position elsewhere?
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: jdc on June 09, 2011, 05:04:36 PM
How old are you?

Girls come and go, jobs can last forever. Don't do it unless you can get a job.

Speaking of jobs, I got fired today. Woo CINECAST!ing woo.

First thing.. sorry about your job.. not sure what sucks more from your previous post.. but that sucks.

I'm 42 and not going to do anything that irrational.  For the time being, we keep things the way they are as we will still get to see each other once a month or maybe more.

I'm 42, I wouldn't do it without a job. 
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Post by: Totoro on June 09, 2011, 05:05:25 PM
Well, about a month ago I took a counterfeit 100 dollar bill. Then today I found out that I accidentally turned off the cafe fridge on a closing shift a few nights ago which incurred 200 dollars of charges. Two accidents. Ok, so I technically wasn't "fired", they gave me the choice of resigning immediately or firing me. So I resigned. Still blows though.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Totoro on June 09, 2011, 05:07:04 PM
How old are you?

Girls come and go, jobs can last forever. Don't do it unless you can get a job.

Speaking of jobs, I got fired today. Woo CINECAST!ing woo.

First thing.. sorry about your job.. not sure what sucks more from your previous post.. but that sucks.

I'm 42 and not going to do anything that irrational.  For the time being, we keep things the way they are as we will still get to see each other once a month or maybe more.

I'm 42, I wouldn't do it without a job.

That's rough and you're probably more mature than me to handle a long distance relationship (you're twice my age). Good luck though.
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Post by: jdc on June 09, 2011, 05:20:54 PM
Perhaps, but also know from experience that they are difficult to maintain.  She is 30, care-free and live's life without any regrets which has made the last couple of months exciting and a bit crazy. 
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Post by: Bondo on June 09, 2011, 05:28:35 PM
Totoro, I definitely feel your pain, I got involuntarily resigned a year ago January based on one fluke mistake. I've had two short-term jobs adding up to six months since then.

jdc, I expect care-free and non-exclusive is the only way for an LDR to work. I tried having mine be neither and it didn't work out so well.
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Post by: jdc on June 09, 2011, 11:57:10 PM
jdc, I expect care-free and non-exclusive is the only way for an LDR to work. I tried having mine be neither and it didn't work out so well.

yes, we have sort of talked about that policy and the benefits of the freedom when dating somebody that works for the airlines.  I think at the moment it is just the initial shock of falling for somebody so quickly and under messy circumstances only to have that person get a great offer a few weeks later that will have her move.  Not that this is the end...
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Post by: ses on June 09, 2011, 11:59:37 PM
I have been in a long distance relationship for three and a half years.  It's been exclusive the whole time.  It can work.
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Post by: Clovis8 on June 10, 2011, 08:30:20 AM
I have been in a long distance relationship for three and a half years.  It's been exclusive the whole time.  It can work.


jdc, I expect care-free and non-exclusive is the only way for an LDR to work. I tried having mine be neither and it didn't work out so well.

yes, we have sort of talked about that policy and the benefits of the freedom when dating somebody that works for the airlines.  I think at the moment it is just the initial shock of falling for somebody so quickly and under messy circumstances only to have that person get a great offer a few weeks later that will have her move.  Not that this is the end...


That's the thing about relationships; what works for some will fail for others. All we can do is try to negotiate something that works for both people. In my experience this type of situation would make monogamy very difficult but as Ses points out, perfectly fine for many people.

I think your chances of success might increase if you are willing to open up the relationship a little but that would entirely depend on the two of you and your comfort levels.
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Post by: jdc on June 10, 2011, 02:02:49 PM
Yes, it is all very different for many people. I have been in a couple of LTR before (North Carolina to Vegas and Singapore to Tokyo) with mixed results.  But in the end, I am not sure the distance is what did them in, there were always other issues and distance became an easy answer as distance could have been solved.

This might be the first person I dated where our minds think too much alike and it is not so much analyze it if this can work or not.  It is just do and what happens is just what is meant to be.  But thanks for all the feedback, not normally my thing to talk much about it.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Totoro on June 17, 2011, 03:35:40 AM
I just found out my friend is into furry porn. We've been friends for three years.
 :'(  :'(  :'(
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: jdc on June 17, 2011, 04:03:02 AM
I curious, how did you happen to find that out?
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Post by: Bondo on June 17, 2011, 07:22:42 AM
Why the  :'(? It seems harmless enough.
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Post by: smirnoff on June 17, 2011, 07:52:59 AM
Don't end the friendship based on that. Just make fun of them like we do when people get their hair cut. :)
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Post by: Clovis8 on June 17, 2011, 08:01:40 AM
I just found out my friend is into furry porn. We've been friends for three years.
 :'(  :'(  :'(

You found out you friend is a normal adult. And the problem is?
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Post by: ses on June 17, 2011, 08:29:09 AM
I have been in a long distance relationship for three and a half years.  It's been exclusive the whole time.  It can work.


jdc, I expect care-free and non-exclusive is the only way for an LDR to work. I tried having mine be neither and it didn't work out so well.

yes, we have sort of talked about that policy and the benefits of the freedom when dating somebody that works for the airlines.  I think at the moment it is just the initial shock of falling for somebody so quickly and under messy circumstances only to have that person get a great offer a few weeks later that will have her move.  Not that this is the end...


That's the thing about relationships; what works for some will fail for others. All we can do is try to negotiate something that works for both people. In my experience this type of situation would make monogamy very difficult but as Ses points out, perfectly fine for many people.

I think your chances of success might increase if you are willing to open up the relationship a little but that would entirely depend on the two of you and your comfort levels.

Yeah, I agree, I think it has to be about the right person at the right time.  Probably at any other time in my life the long distance thing wouldn't have worked.  But I know what I want and who I want it with and that person just happens to live 5 hours away from me, at this point.  I know that is only temporary which helps.  He is finishing his PhD, I am doing post-doctoral fellowship.  Our jobs aren't permanent, and when we get through our necessary training, we are going to be in the same place.  If that wasn't the case, I don't know if I could go my whole life like this.  It is very hard.  But like I said, I am not at the point in my life I used to be where I would be going out 5 nights a week and meeting people and whatnot.  It's not my thing anymore.  I am happy with who I am with, and that's what matters, not that he lives apart from me at this time.  Plus, it's only 5 hours, so I see him 3 out of 4 weekends a month.  We are very lucky, most people in long distance relationships don't get that.  And I am so busy during the week that it makes it that less difficult. 




Totoro - I don't know why what your friend is into would be a problem.  Who cares?  You probably have lots of friends that are into lots of stuff you don't know about.  It's perfectly normal. 
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: MartinTeller on June 17, 2011, 08:35:38 AM
Yeah, just look at Bondo.  He's really into movies about rape and sexual predators and teens having sex, and he makes kinda creepy posts about "Team Elle" but he's perfectly normal.  Right?

...right?
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: saltine on June 17, 2011, 08:37:21 AM
I just found out my friend is into furry porn. We've been friends for three years.
 :'(  :'(  :'(

You found out you friend is a normal adult. And the problem is?

Unless he's a US Congressman, then he should be publicly humiliated and made to resign.  I'm just saying...
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bondo on June 17, 2011, 08:44:30 AM
I just found out my friend is into furry porn. We've been friends for three years.
 :'(  :'(  :'(

You found out you friend is a normal adult. And the problem is?

Unless he's a US Congressman, then he should be publicly humiliated and made to resign.  I'm just saying...

Don't get me started. I actually wouldn't have a problem with Vitter not resigning if it weren't for the blatant hypocrisy of the whole thing. I think what he did should be legal.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: jdc on June 17, 2011, 09:26:20 AM
I have been in a long distance relationship for three and a half years.  It's been exclusive the whole time.  It can work.


jdc, I expect care-free and non-exclusive is the only way for an LDR to work. I tried having mine be neither and it didn't work out so well.

yes, we have sort of talked about that policy and the benefits of the freedom when dating somebody that works for the airlines.  I think at the moment it is just the initial shock of falling for somebody so quickly and under messy circumstances only to have that person get a great offer a few weeks later that will have her move.  Not that this is the end...


That's the thing about relationships; what works for some will fail for others. All we can do is try to negotiate something that works for both people. In my experience this type of situation would make monogamy very difficult but as Ses points out, perfectly fine for many people.

I think your chances of success might increase if you are willing to open up the relationship a little but that would entirely depend on the two of you and your comfort levels.

Yeah, I agree, I think it has to be about the right person at the right time.  Probably at any other time in my life the long distance thing wouldn't have worked.  But I know what I want and who I want it with and that person just happens to live 5 hours away from me, at this point.  I know that is only temporary which helps.  He is finishing his PhD, I am doing post-doctoral fellowship.  Our jobs aren't permanent, and when we get through our necessary training, we are going to be in the same place.  If that wasn't the case, I don't know if I could go my whole life like this.  It is very hard.  But like I said, I am not at the point in my life I used to be where I would be going out 5 nights a week and meeting people and whatnot.  It's not my thing anymore.  I am happy with who I am with, and that's what matters, not that he lives apart from me at this time.  Plus, it's only 5 hours, so I see him 3 out of 4 weekends a month.  We are very lucky, most people in long distance relationships don't get that.  And I am so busy during the week that it makes it that less difficult. 


thanks for sharing, in our case, she will be in Germany and I am in Singapore but hopefully will still be able to see each other 1 or 2 times a month.  Either here or I fly to Hong Kong.  If all works out, she moved in August so I plan to visit China sometime next month before she moves out.  Not that this part makes me whimper, but this put a huge wedge with one of my friends and we had a falling out a month or so ago and hadn't spoken since until last night.  A few of us ended out for drinks and though I can see he is still a bit pissed and not so much wanting to talk or look at me, we at least started to communicate some.
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Post by: 'Noke on June 17, 2011, 09:57:56 AM
he makes kinda creepy posts about "Team Elle"

Not true. That's the acronym.
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Post by: FLYmeatwad on June 17, 2011, 10:17:46 AM
he makes kinda creepy posts about "Team Elle"

Not true. That's the acronym.

Actually, I think it's both. Bondo is a fellow cohort in the good fight. Go Team Elle!
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Post by: 'Noke on June 17, 2011, 10:28:35 AM
he makes kinda creepy posts about "Team Elle"

Not true. That's the acronym.

Actually, I think it's both. Bondo is a fellow cohort in the good fight. Go Team Elle!

You are the leader of the fan club though, right?
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Post by: FLYmeatwad on June 17, 2011, 10:32:37 AM
Bondo is actually more well versed in Team Elle's body of work than I. However, I will take credit for spearheading the current Filmspot campaign for Supporting Actress, and adding on the Team (I think?), but until I see Phoebe in Wonderland I probably can't be the president.
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Post by: Bondo on June 17, 2011, 11:05:06 AM
Yeah, just look at Bondo.  He's really into movies about rape and sexual predators and teens having sex, and he makes kinda creepy posts about "Team Elle" but he's perfectly normal.  Right?

...right?

As has been mentioned, FLY started up the whole Team X manner of speaking. I just found it fun to go along. All the rest of your post is true. But then being queer, I make no claim to normality.

FWIW, I actually studied the politics of gender and sexuality academically, so I'm naturally going to be interested in material that deals with taboo in those areas.
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Post by: 1SO on June 17, 2011, 11:10:59 AM
I'd stand up in court for either of them any day.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ses on June 21, 2011, 08:28:00 PM
I just found out a co-worker passed away today.  Such a wonderful guy with a big heart.  Really, really sad.
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Post by: saltine on June 21, 2011, 08:39:29 PM
So sad, sorry to hear that, ses.
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Post by: oneaprilday on June 21, 2011, 08:46:58 PM
That's awful, ses; I'm so sorry.
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Post by: ses on June 21, 2011, 09:02:08 PM
It's just a shock.  He was in his early 40s, his brother went to his house because he hadn't heard from him in a few days and found him collapsed on the floor.
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Post by: mañana on June 21, 2011, 09:07:43 PM
That's terrible.
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Post by: oldkid on June 22, 2011, 01:51:45 AM
I had a similar thing happen to me a few years ago.  Hard when someone you know is just gone, suddenly.
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Post by: ses on June 22, 2011, 08:59:41 PM
Yeah, it was a tough day at work today.
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Post by: tinyholidays on July 13, 2011, 11:20:08 AM
Laptop has gone blue-screen kaputt. I work remotely across the country from the office where the software I use to do my work was installed. I'm looking at maybe being out of work while I'm supposed to be saving for moving expenses (again).
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Post by: mañana on July 13, 2011, 11:35:01 AM
That sucks, tiny.  :(
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Post by: Corndog on July 13, 2011, 11:36:34 AM
Computer trouble is one of the worst things imaginable in this day and age. Sorry, tiny.
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Post by: 'Noke on July 13, 2011, 11:43:32 AM
That sucks Tiny. :(
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Post by: oneaprilday on July 13, 2011, 11:49:21 AM
That sucks, tiny.  :(
:(
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Post by: michael x on July 13, 2011, 12:33:30 PM
Here's hoping everything works out for ya, tiny.
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Post by: pixote on July 14, 2011, 09:51:14 AM
Things are as bad as they seem.

pixote
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Post by: oneaprilday on July 14, 2011, 10:11:57 AM
 :(
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bondo on July 19, 2011, 03:54:49 PM
So my car's security system is a little key thing that connects below the wheel that if you remove prevents the car from starting. I've never once removed it for security reasons so this is a bit like the car's appendix. Well, it has been becoming clearer and clearer in recent weeks that the car was developing appendicitis. Going back a few years I've had occasional issues getting it started and perhaps even unnecessarily replaced the starter (mechanics can be crooks or incompetent). In the past week or two it basically required holding the key just so to get the car to start. Today the appendix burst. Can't get the car to start.

Obviously I should have been getting the car into the shop while I was still able to start it but money's tight and I'm not sure how much they'll decide it costs to disable the security device (hopefully a not too difficult bit of electronics but who knows) but now I guess I've got no choice.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: jdc on July 26, 2011, 05:02:32 AM
Day 5 of being sick and after 3 visits to the doctor I don't feel any progress.  The last 24 hours were the worst
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Post by: Sandy on July 26, 2011, 10:59:52 AM
Day 5 of being sick and after 3 visits to the doctor I don't feel any progress.  The last 24 hours were the worst

Hang in there jdc. Maybe it's time for a new doctor. I advise against watching any movie you love when you are sick--it ruins it. :P
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Post by: jdc on July 26, 2011, 08:04:53 PM
Very little movie watching.  My sleep has been so disruptive that it would be hard to get through 2 hours at one go.  I think I only watched Buried and the original True Grit as I never had seen it before.  Otherwise, 2 seasons of breaking bad, re-watched 2 seasons of community and various seasons of Curb.  At least then it doesn't matter if I fall asleeep.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Totoro on July 29, 2011, 10:54:48 PM
When you watch your parents suffer, you wonder what you can do to save them.

But ultimately, you feel helpless. They brought you into the world, they know so much more than we do at the point you are in your life. So how do you live with yourself knowing these people you love are going through so much pain? You try to help, but nothing seems to work. Perhaps living a good and successful life works as a remedy for them.

But I don't think that can soothe all of the wounds.

Some scars never go away.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on July 31, 2011, 12:44:25 AM
Well, I don't know how often I will be on for the next couple weeks.  My computer's motherboard gave up the ghost, and it will be a bit until I get another one.  I'll be able to use the family computer, especially in the mornings, but I won't be on as frequently.   :'(

Even sadder, I won't be able to watch very many movies.  I've only got a computer to share with others and no TV or DVD player apart from computers in my house.  So my prep for the top 100 will be harmed, certainly.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Melvil on July 31, 2011, 12:58:39 AM
Awww, bummer Steve! I hope you get things back to normal quickly!
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Post by: Lobby on July 31, 2011, 01:08:49 AM
That's painful. Like toothache. /hug
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Post by: Clovis8 on August 01, 2011, 08:41:24 AM
Wrapped up my major excavations for the year this weekend which always makes me sad. I love digging so much. On the plus side this was one of the best years of my career having found dozens of new sites, including a very rare type of kill site called the Outlook culture. It's about 2800 years old.

I sometimes wish I lived down south so I could excavate all year long.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ses on August 01, 2011, 09:38:49 AM
Totoro, I hope things get better.  I am sorry, I know it is hard to watch your parents in pain.
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Post by: saltine on August 01, 2011, 12:58:03 PM
@ Clovis, where is "down South"?
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Post by: Clovis8 on August 01, 2011, 01:00:23 PM
@ Clovis, where is "down South"?

somewhere without seasons  ;D

I only get 4 months max up here.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bondo on August 02, 2011, 08:14:26 PM
There was a (not unexpected) death in the family. :-\

The sad part isn't the death so much (my grandfather was in his 90s and had been fading) as that my dad, who was set to drive to see him tomorrow, didn't get a final chance to see him before he passed. Two more days and he'd have been able to say goodbye in person.
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Post by: oneaprilday on August 02, 2011, 09:18:43 PM
I'm so sorry, Bondo.
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Post by: ses on August 02, 2011, 09:21:42 PM
I am very sorry to hear that Bondo.
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Post by: Clovis8 on August 02, 2011, 09:24:42 PM
Sorry to hear that Bondo. My thoughts are with you and your family. 90 is a pretty great run. I am sure he led a great life.
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Post by: Clovis8 on August 08, 2011, 02:58:38 PM
Ugh. I am losing my shirt in the market today. GG America!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Monty on August 08, 2011, 03:17:24 PM
London Riots.

Blimey that fire is really whipping up a storm in Croydon, looks like it's going to burn through that entire block of houses.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: FroHam X on August 08, 2011, 03:53:22 PM
I just watched a movie for my marathon that nearly killed me. I can see now, this is going to be a very long and painful marathon. If only I could stay in the more innocent days of Borzage films. Alas, I must move into the uncharted waters of films that try to bore me to the point of madness.
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Post by: Junior on August 08, 2011, 03:55:16 PM
O! Those halcyon Borzage days!
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Post by: MartinTeller on August 08, 2011, 03:59:59 PM
I just watched a movie for my marathon that nearly killed me. I can see now, this is going to be a very long and painful marathon. If only I could stay in the more innocent days of Borzage films. Alas, I must move into the uncharted waters of films that try to bore me to the point of madness.

Considering it was one of my picks (and in my top 100), it's going to be a painful marathon for us both.
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Post by: 1SO on August 08, 2011, 04:29:14 PM
Please at least do a little research on this one before you go all crazy on it.
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Post by: FroHam X on August 08, 2011, 04:42:58 PM
Nope. I know enough about Hunagrian history to fill in any potential gaps in knowledge there. Anything else to learn I don't really care about in the context of my upcoming review. There is nothing you could tell me about the making of the film that could make me like it more.

And Marty, sorry I didn't like it, though from what I know about some other films you submitted I will probably have a better time with those.
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Post by: MartinTeller on August 08, 2011, 04:49:02 PM
There is nothing you could tell me about the making of the film that could make me like it more.

What if I told you Pixar made it?
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Post by: FroHam X on August 08, 2011, 05:03:50 PM
Contrary to what you may think about me, that would have absolutely no impact.
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Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on August 08, 2011, 05:24:38 PM
There is nothing you could tell me about the making of the film that could make me like it more.
:-\
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Post by: Bondo on August 08, 2011, 05:30:54 PM
Hello! (http://www.filmspotting.net/forum/index.php?topic=7343.msg496363#msg496363)
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Post by: jdc on August 08, 2011, 08:19:25 PM
Ugh. I am losing my shirt in the market today. GG America!

Oach, I thought last Thursday was bad.  This would out do the worst day I've ever had including the financial crisis.  Oh well, I know I shouldn't look at my computer while on vacation.
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Post by: Tequila on August 09, 2011, 05:26:27 AM
London Riots.

Blimey that fire is really whipping up a storm in Croydon, looks like it's going to burn through that entire block of houses.
That all looks and sounds horrible, hope our Brits are okay.
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Post by: Monty on August 09, 2011, 05:45:06 AM
London Riots.

Blimey that fire is really whipping up a storm in Croydon, looks like it's going to burn through that entire block of houses.
That all looks and sounds horrible, hope our Brits are okay.
It's just been awful watching the news over the past few days.
I'm not sure how many members on the forum are from London, but there has also been cases reported in Bristol (verbALs' area), Birmingham (Milkshake's area) and Liverpool.
Tequila how would similar circumstances be dealt with in Germany?
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Post by: Lobby on August 09, 2011, 05:55:36 AM
I stumbled upon this eye-witness report from a journalist who lives in the area. An interesting read/perspective on it. And disturbing.

http://trialbyjeory.wordpress.com/2011/08/08/watching-the-looting-in-bow-pictures/ (http://trialbyjeory.wordpress.com/2011/08/08/watching-the-looting-in-bow-pictures/)
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Post by: Tequila on August 09, 2011, 06:03:08 AM
I have no idea, Monty, I don't remember anything like that happening around here in my lifetime.
I came across this (http://www.guardian.co.uk/uk/2010/sep/15/theresa-may-cut-police-budget-without-violent-unrest) yesterday.

Quote
The home secretary, Theresa May, has dismissed fears that deep spending cuts could undermine the ability of the police to tackle possible civil unrest, and insisted the British did not respond to austerity by rioting on the streets.
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Post by: oneaprilday on August 09, 2011, 06:03:53 PM
That all looks and sounds horrible, hope our Brits are okay.
Have just been listening to some more reports about this and thinking the same. 
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Post by: Lobby on August 19, 2011, 01:18:38 AM
I just read an interview with Jerry Bruckheimer in my morning paper. He made himself extremely unlikable. What a jerk! As someone who is into PR I also cringe at it. Sweden might be a small market, but I still think that it pays off in the long run to be nice to journalists and make an effort. Look at Tom Hanks, all the praise he gets thanks to his attitude. Even if his latest movie seems to be somewhat lacking according to some reviews I can't help thinking I might want to see it just because he's such a nice guy.

But mr Bruckheimer. Doh. I thought: "I don't want to support this guy seeing his movies" but then I realized I don't see them as it is anyway....
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Post by: Bill Thompson on August 19, 2011, 06:22:18 AM
I'm going to see an occupational health specialist today, and depending on what he/she says I may be done in the field of EMS. I had a bad ride along the other day, that resulted in me throwing up and being dizzy for the second half of the day and still a bit dizzy two days later. I've always had bad motion sickness, but it's never affected me in the back of an ambulance before. They currently think I have adult onset vertigo/severe motion sickness, and if this doc doesn't clear me then all my hard work all these years was for naught as I have to find a new career path, a new job, and some way to pay all the bills I have at the end of the month. Ugh...
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Post by: Lobby on August 19, 2011, 06:36:31 AM
That's just awful Bill. I hope it won't turn out that badly.
/comfort
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Post by: MartinTeller on August 19, 2011, 10:26:01 AM
Maybe shaving the beard threw off your equilibrium.

Seriously though, I hope that works out for you.
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Post by: Junior on August 19, 2011, 10:56:46 AM
That's horrible.
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Post by: oneaprilday on August 19, 2011, 11:19:15 AM
Oh, no, Bill.  I'll be hoping the situation is better than it seems.
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Post by: Bill Thompson on August 19, 2011, 04:55:24 PM
Thanks for the concern guys and gals :)

The doctor cleared me to work, but the problem is he cleared me on the idea that there's really nothing he can do for me. I have to start taking dramomine again, try taking ginger as well, and wear those pressure point wrist bands. There's no guarantee those will work, and honestly, I still feel somewhat dizzy today and am dreading when I'm in the back again. We'll see what happens I guess.  :-\
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Post by: michael x on August 19, 2011, 06:16:41 PM
If it's similar to the vertigo I get occasionally, then it's a symptom of migraine and can be alleviated (to some extent) by care in diet. Aged and preserved foods have tyramine in them and, if consumed heavily, can act as a vertigo or headache trigger for me. Pickles, wine, sharp cheeses, sausage, lunch meat, and soy sauce are some of the biggest culprits.

Your symptoms sound somewhat different than mine, but I figured I'd share the information I have.
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Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on August 19, 2011, 06:18:58 PM
Good thing you still get work though, right? I do hope things get better for you.
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Post by: oldkid on August 19, 2011, 06:28:41 PM
Well, I'm glad you don't have to quit, but constant dizziness on the job could be bad in the long run.  I hope things work out to change that for you.
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Post by: Bill Thompson on August 19, 2011, 06:32:49 PM
If it's similar to the vertigo I get occasionally, then it's a symptom of migraine and can be alleviated (to some extent) by care in diet. Aged and preserved foods have tyramine in them and, if consumed heavily, can act as a vertigo or headache trigger for me. Pickles, wine, sharp cheeses, sausage, lunch meat, and soy sauce are some of the biggest culprits.

Your symptoms sound somewhat different than mine, but I figured I'd share the information I have.

I've heard of that kind, it's the reason I cut most caffeine out of my diet. I don't get dizzy from it, but I do get massive migraines.

Good thing you still get work though, right? I do hope things get better for you.

Well, I get to work as long as there isn't another flare-up. If there is then I will be fired, because they have no use for an EMT who can't tend to patients in the back.  :(

Well, I'm glad you don't have to quit, but constant dizziness on the job could be bad in the long run.  I hope things work out to change that for you.

It's not just dizziness, that's the main problem, it's intense dizziness and nausea, to the point where I can't ride in the ambulance, stand-up, or stop throwing up for hours.

Again, thanks for the concern everyone. :)
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Post by: Monty on August 19, 2011, 06:57:38 PM
Bill, I sorry to hear about this. I hope things work themselves out, for the best for you Bill.
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Post by: 'Noke on August 19, 2011, 07:01:39 PM
I hope things end up well for you Bill.
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Post by: oneaprilday on August 19, 2011, 08:17:29 PM
It's not just dizziness, that's the main problem, it's intense dizziness and nausea, to the point where I can't ride in the ambulance, stand-up, or stop throwing up for hours.
Bill, we just visited my brother in law recently and were talking about "vertiginous disorders" - he's  physical therapist (has been one for 10+ years but just bought his own practice) and has begun to specialize in vertigo (he's just completed a second degree with that emphasis).  Did your doctor mention any kind of physical therapy as being a possible solution?

(Here's one article I found related to physical therapy and vertigo: http://www2.wsls.com/lifestyles/2008/jun/25/physical_therapy_often_best_treatment_for_vertigo-ar-397642/ (http://www2.wsls.com/lifestyles/2008/jun/25/physical_therapy_often_best_treatment_for_vertigo-ar-397642/)  I'd be happy to ask my bro-in-law for more/better info, too, if you're interested.)
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Post by: Bill Thompson on August 20, 2011, 06:44:21 AM
It's not just dizziness, that's the main problem, it's intense dizziness and nausea, to the point where I can't ride in the ambulance, stand-up, or stop throwing up for hours.
Bill, we just visited my brother in law recently and were talking about "vertiginous disorders" - he's  physical therapist (has been one for 10+ years but just bought his own practice) and has begun to specialize in vertigo (he's just completed a second degree with that emphasis).  Did your doctor mention any kind of physical therapy as being a possible solution?

(Here's one article I found related to physical therapy and vertigo: http://www2.wsls.com/lifestyles/2008/jun/25/physical_therapy_often_best_treatment_for_vertigo-ar-397642/ (http://www2.wsls.com/lifestyles/2008/jun/25/physical_therapy_often_best_treatment_for_vertigo-ar-397642/)  I'd be happy to ask my bro-in-law for more/better info, too, if you're interested.)

No, the doctor I went to see looked at it from a strict medical/medication perspective, I'll have to look into the physical therapy side more, thanks.
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Post by: Clovis8 on August 20, 2011, 08:09:15 AM
One of my closest friends died in a freak ATV accident driving on road she had driven on for years while doing forestry research. Today there was a random sink hole that swallowed her up. Life is so random sometimes.
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Post by: Lobby on August 20, 2011, 08:32:44 AM
It so is. :( I'm sorry to hear that Clovis. It must be quite a bit of a shock.
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Post by: zarodinu on August 20, 2011, 11:50:38 AM
I'm going to see an occupational health specialist today, and depending on what he/she says I may be done in the field of EMS. I had a bad ride along the other day, that resulted in me throwing up and being dizzy for the second half of the day and still a bit dizzy two days later. I've always had bad motion sickness, but it's never affected me in the back of an ambulance before. They currently think I have adult onset vertigo/severe motion sickness, and if this doc doesn't clear me then all my hard work all these years was for naught as I have to find a new career path, a new job, and some way to pay all the bills I have at the end of the month. Ugh...

That is terrible Bill, I hope it was some weird stress/infection/food poisoning thing that will go away forever.  My dad is a Neurologist and he always does everything in his power to keep people from losing their professional license that they need to feed their family.  I would consider nursing school though, so you have insurance in case it comes back.
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Post by: zarodinu on August 20, 2011, 11:55:11 AM
One of my closest friends died in a freak ATV accident driving on road she had driven on for years while doing forestry research. Today there was a random sink hole that swallowed her up. Life is so random sometimes.

Sorry about your friend Clovis, life is cruel sometimes.

I worked in a hospital next to the local dunes, and I have seen enough ATV related fractures, concussions, and spine injuries to know I never want to go near the damn things.
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Post by: oneaprilday on August 20, 2011, 11:57:01 AM
How awful, Clovis; I'm so sorry.
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Post by: Bondo on August 20, 2011, 12:54:35 PM
@Clovis: I've been fortunate not to have any people close to me go in such a way, but the world can definitely be fickle. My condolences.

@Bill: Have you considered being an ER Tech? My mom (an RN) says that should be an option for someone with EMT training that doesn't require riding around in the vehicle.
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Post by: oldkid on August 20, 2011, 01:19:02 PM
That's awful, Clovis. 
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Post by: Bill Thompson on August 20, 2011, 04:28:59 PM
@Bill: Have you considered being an ER Tech? My mom (an RN) says that should be an option for someone with EMT training that doesn't require riding around in the vehicle.

That is an avenue I have been exploring for some time now, hopefully I get some calls back at some point. :)
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Post by: oldkid on September 18, 2011, 01:04:50 PM
For the third time in the last six years a couple in our church had their infant taken away from them by the state of Oregon's "Child Protection Services."  Each time, the couple had a bad past and were homeless in the past, but they had cleaned up their act and had dedicated their whole lives to caring for the baby.  In this case the dad had a great job, they had a good apartment, good health care and all was well.  Three days after the baby was born, not even home from the hospital, CPS took the baby away.   The last time it happened, the mother went into a terrible depression and disappeared, using drugs again.  The father worked and waited with CPS for two years until they told him that they just wouldn't give the baby back because it was "too damaging for the baby to be moved to a new place".

I am so angry and mournful.  For this couple, they are angry and ready to fight, and they will be seeing a judge tomorrow.  This is all good, but... but... what kind of a system judges people with taking their baby away without any evidence?  I am beside myself with fury.
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Post by: Bondo on September 18, 2011, 01:19:09 PM
Yeah, I'm a supporter of the idea that government can be a force of good but I'm even more a supporter that the we need to set a very high bar of due process for the government to intervene in our lives against our will (not including taxes). It seems unless they have proof of actively negligent or abusive treatment of the child, there isn't good reason to take the child away. Hope they are able to resolve things through the legal process.
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Post by: Sandy on September 18, 2011, 02:16:39 PM
I wish they would use the resources they have in supporting and helping that family unit. I'm very sorry to hear about that oldkid.
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Post by: zarodinu on September 19, 2011, 12:56:54 AM
For the third time in the last six years a couple in our church had their infant taken away from them by the state of Oregon's "Child Protection Services."  Each time, the couple had a bad past and were homeless in the past, but they had cleaned up their act and had dedicated their whole lives to caring for the baby.  In this case the dad had a great job, they had a good apartment, good health care and all was well.  Three days after the baby was born, not even home from the hospital, CPS took the baby away.   The last time it happened, the mother went into a terrible depression and disappeared, using drugs again.  The father worked and waited with CPS for two years until they told him that they just wouldn't give the baby back because it was "too damaging for the baby to be moved to a new place".

CPS are dangerous people, I heard some horror stories about these reptiles.  They are the only government agency I know of that operates based on rumor and suspicion and presumes guilt until proof of innocence.  Any finding of guilt is going to be with you forever, there is no clean page or statute of limitations with CPS.  Granted there are some scumbags out there that need to have their kids taken, but this agency has way, way too much power and seems to be operating outside of the standard law and justice system.  As always,  the worst tyranny is done not out of outright malice but for the greater good.   
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Post by: Bondo on September 19, 2011, 01:00:10 AM
The Greater Good
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Post by: jdc on September 19, 2011, 01:08:21 AM
Yeah, I'm a supporter of the idea that government can be a force of good but I'm even more a supporter that the we need to set a very high bar of due process for the government to intervene in our lives against our will (not including taxes). It seems unless they have proof of actively negligent or abusive treatment of the child, there isn't good reason to take the child away. Hope they are able to resolve things through the legal process.

Curious, why do you think the gov't should not be held to high level of due process when it comes to taxes?  It is one area where the burden of proof is already on the guilty instead of the prosecutor.  I don't see why the IRS should not have to show the same burden of proof when it comes to due process.
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Post by: Bondo on September 19, 2011, 01:09:53 AM
Well, if you mean IRS audits or something I would agree, but taxation as a generality is one of THE essential functions of government. It shouldn't be held to some weird standard of due process in order to prove that it should be able to collect taxes.
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Post by: Clovis8 on September 25, 2011, 12:31:18 PM
My mother went in for minor, over night, shoulder surgery and now she is on a ventilator in ICU. They are saying everything will be fine but this is pretty weird.
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Post by: saltine on September 25, 2011, 12:38:11 PM
I'm so sorry, Clovis.  Keep us informed.
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Post by: ferris on September 25, 2011, 12:42:58 PM
My mother went in for minor, over night, shoulder surgery and now she is on a ventilator in ICU. They are saying everything will be fine but this is pretty weird.

OMG I'm very sorry to hear this!  Is she in town or back East?  (I don't remember if you've mentioned this in the past)  I do hope things get better.  Have you heard any details yet?  Was the "minor surgery" cancer related?  Did things go south do to a medical mistake?  (Sorry - you're probably asking yourslef all the same things right now - and it's probably way too soon to tell)

Please let us know how it goes...
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Post by: Clovis8 on September 25, 2011, 12:59:39 PM
It was just rotator cuff repair but it sounds like combination of undiagnosed sleep apnea, a bit of pneumonia, and all the surgical drugs combined to labour her breathing. They are confident everything will be fine but still surreal.

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Post by: ferris on September 25, 2011, 01:01:05 PM
It was just rotator cuff repair but it sounds like combination of undiagnosed sleep apnea, a bit of pneumonia, and all the surgical drugs combined to labour her breathing. They are confident everything will be fine but still surreal.

scary to be sure
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Post by: oneaprilday on September 25, 2011, 04:23:24 PM
How awful, Clovis - I'm so sorry. Sounds like things are a bit better now (?), but I'll be thinking of you and hoping for a quick recovery for your mom. Keep us posted.
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Post by: oldkid on September 26, 2011, 07:41:47 AM
Any updates on your mom, Clovis? 

Just another reminder that every surgery is serious...


Also, just an update, the judge ruled in the couple's favor and last Friday they got their baby back after they both took UAs.  Because the judge ruled in their favor, the mother may get her other child back who was taken years ago.
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Post by: Clovis8 on September 26, 2011, 08:09:07 AM
Any updates on your mom, Clovis? 

Just another reminder that every surgery is serious...


Also, just an update, the judge ruled in the couple's favor and last Friday they got their baby back after they both took UAs.  Because the judge ruled in their favor, the mother may get her other child back who was taken years ago.

She is doing better. Hopefully off the ventilator today.

Great news on the custody front too.
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Post by: saltine on September 26, 2011, 08:15:23 AM
My hopes for her continued recovery, Clovis. 
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Post by: 'Noke on September 26, 2011, 09:43:14 AM
That's good news Clovis, I hope things continue to get better.
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Post by: Sandy on September 26, 2011, 10:40:05 AM
Clovis, glad to hear things are improving. Catching the sleep apnea could be the silver lining in this cloud.

oldkid, that is wonderful news. I am so happy for them. I hope they are part of your community, so that they can get additional help and support.
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Post by: jim brown on September 28, 2011, 07:24:58 PM
Just got back from the vet.  My older dog, Shady, has a tumor on his leg that's cancerous.  He has a sonogram tomorrow to see if it has spread to his internal organs.  Once we get the results, I have to assess his prognosis & care against my non-existent disposable income.  The mental logistics I'm going through now (how to fund the operation, what to tell the kids, how my other dog will react) is fairly straightforward, but upsetting nonetheless. 

Sadder still is to think that I live in a country where there are people facing similar circumstances at far greater costs. 
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Post by: Bondo on October 02, 2011, 10:03:27 AM
Bigger and smaller whimpers.

Big: My grandmother (last remaining grandparent) fell and broke her hip. She seems to have gotten out of surgery well. Close on the heels of losing my grandfather (on the other side) it would be very tough.

Small: I've got a 40 mile bike race next Sunday so I was gonna go get a slightly shorter ride in today only to discover that the last time I was out mountain biking I smashed a hole through the side of my rear tire. Tubes I can replace easily, the tire will take a trip to the bike shop. Not a big deal ultimately but I'd have liked it to happen a different week. I'm really curious how I got that big a hole in my rear tire/tube without noticing it on the ride.
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Post by: FLYmeatwad on October 02, 2011, 10:07:39 AM
Sorry to hear that Bondo. My grandmom just had hip surgery a couple of week ago as well and she's been slow to recover, but she's started moving around again and is back in her home. Hope yours has a good recovery as well.
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Post by: oldkid on October 02, 2011, 11:50:26 AM
That's hard on your grandmother.  I hope she pulls out well.
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Post by: MartinTeller on October 02, 2011, 03:19:47 PM
The job I interviewed for just turned me down.  They couldn't meet my salary requirements.  I was really, really hoping it would work out.  It's at Reed College, where I had my first job in Portland 12 years ago as a data entry clerk.  The only reason I left was to get into programming.  I would have loved to work there again, but I gotta be able to pay the bills.
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Post by: Lobby on October 02, 2011, 04:07:02 PM
Sorry to hear that Martin.  :(
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Post by: Sandy on October 02, 2011, 06:32:26 PM
Me too.                Hope your Grandmother is doing well Bondo.
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Post by: Melvil on October 31, 2011, 11:49:13 PM
The last two days have been pretty rough. After a long down-hill slope, my cat died a few hours ago. He had a good long life, and I'm glad he got to spend some months living with me (moving from my parents house) before the end, but it sucks nonetheless.

Also pretty sucky to have to dig an actual grave on Halloween night.
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Post by: MartinTeller on November 01, 2011, 12:06:16 AM
I'm so sorry to hear that Melvil :(

We recently went through a tough time with our older kitty, for a while it looked like he wasn't going to make it.  He's getting healthier now, but I know it won't be very long before we have to say goodbye and that's going to be hard.
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Post by: oneaprilday on November 01, 2011, 12:28:10 AM
So sorry to hear that, Melvil. :(
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Post by: jim brown on November 01, 2011, 12:35:04 AM
My condolences, Melvil.
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Post by: edgar00 on November 01, 2011, 12:48:53 AM
Sorry, Melvil.
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Post by: Melvil on November 01, 2011, 03:46:39 PM
Thanks everyone.
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Post by: jim brown on November 03, 2011, 03:05:36 PM
Some days you get the bear, some days the bear gets you.

Right now I'm lodged somewhere in the bear's lower intestine.   :-\
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Post by: oneaprilday on November 03, 2011, 03:21:03 PM
:(

I'm trying to think of something encouraging to say that will continue your bear metaphor, but I'm afraid that sort of continuation involves you being in a pile of something on the ground.  So that doesn't work at all.

I'll just hope that the bear disappears completely, OK?  Hope things look up soon, jim.
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Post by: jim brown on November 03, 2011, 03:24:46 PM
:(

I'm trying to think of something encouraging to say that will continue your bear metaphor, but I'm afraid that sort of continuation involves you being in a pile of something on the ground.  So that doesn't work at all.

I'll just hope that the bear disappears completely, OK?  Hope things look up soon, jim.

Sorry - I didn't mean for the metaphor to be so...grizzly.

Thanks OAD!  :)
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Post by: MartinTeller on November 03, 2011, 03:28:56 PM
Just grin and bear it, jim.
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Post by: oneaprilday on November 03, 2011, 03:29:49 PM
Sorry - I didn't mean for the metaphor to be so...grizzly.
Oh, I take full blame for continuing along that intestinal tract.  ;)
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Post by: Sandy on November 03, 2011, 03:37:52 PM
I wish for all of your troubles to scat!


(Hope all is going to be okay jim.)
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Post by: jim brown on November 03, 2011, 03:42:02 PM
Thanks for the laughs, OAD and Sandy.  Everything gets better after 6pm.  Like clockwork. 
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Post by: Sandy on November 03, 2011, 10:55:25 PM
Glad to see you're regular.
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Post by: jim brown on November 03, 2011, 11:01:54 PM
You are incorrigible!   ;)

Frankly, I'm done with this sh*t.
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Post by: Totoro on November 08, 2011, 07:09:04 PM
I'm depressed.

I can't get Stats. I just don't get it. I got my second F on a test that I studied for and took many notes on. My professor was disappointed. I have another test next week.

The second actor for my film just dropped out. He was ready, prepared, everything, then he told me he's too busy. We were going to shoot next weekend.

I'm sick. I couldn't sleep all last night. I have too much built up anxiety. My mother and father had an argument that got completely out of control. Someone got physically hurt, but I can't say who. This is the first instance of physical abuse in my family for the past 15 years. I don't know what to do.

I want to get in a car and drive away from this entire mess, but my Dad got in a car accident last week and it's still going through repairs that we can't pay for because rent was due and we budgeted poorly last month.

I also have a documentary film due for class next week that I've restarted several times, but since I didn't have a car, I couldn't go to any of the two interviews I planned.

My life is in complete disarray and I have few people to share it with because my mom swore me to secrecy about last night's incident. I'd like to carry on with my life, but I keep finding myself at odds. What's the point?

What do I do?
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Post by: AAAutin on November 08, 2011, 07:21:59 PM
Drugs.

(Whatever you do, do not consult the internet. You want help? Seek out professionals and/or real people with your best interests at heart.)
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Post by: Bondo on November 08, 2011, 07:24:25 PM
Sorry to hear about all that. I can't really provide advice about the really heavy stuff, but I am pretty knowledgable about statistics so if you have any questions about that feel free to PM me and I'll see if I can find a way to talk about it that maybe the teacher or textbook haven't (I've had teachers and textbooks and thus know they aren't always useful enough).
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: jim brown on November 08, 2011, 07:28:10 PM
I'm very sorry to hear this, Totoro.

Hang in there.  Things are bound to look up.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: jdc on November 08, 2011, 07:38:29 PM
Sorry to hear about all that. I can't really provide advice about the really heavy stuff, but I am pretty knowledgable about statistics so if you have any questions about that feel free to PM me and I'll see if I can find a way to talk about it that maybe the teacher or textbook haven't (I've had teachers and textbooks and thus know they aren't always useful enough).

The most I remember from my Statistics class was the professor always telling us if we encounter certain situations that we should "consult our local statistician."  I think he was getting kick backs.

I was finance major so I did well in that course but the first exam was one I never will forget.  We had for 4 weeks of him solving math equations on the board, all those standard things.  We all spent a lot of time doing homework solving standard deviations and all those standard things.  I thought I was very prepared for the exam, there was no question you could ask me that I wouldn't be able to solve the equation for... except... what it actually meant.

We got into the first exam and there wasn't one problem to solve.  Every question gave us the results and then just ask us what does it mean... most of the people bombed the first test as all we knew what to do was solve the equation.  I thought a bit of a cheat of him, but after that I stopped worrying about the math and learned what it actually means when you get to the answer.

Anyway, sorry for off topic, not much I can advise Totoro, I think Bondo's advise is good as far as where to turn to for help....


Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on November 08, 2011, 10:14:03 PM
That is awful, Totoro. 

As far as Stats go, Bondo is right, you need a tutor.  But that seems to be the least of your problems.

For your parents-- you need to wait and see what happens.  If there is physical abuse again, it is best to call a crisis line (not 911, but like a woman's crisis line) and ask for counsel.  Otherwise, wait.  If physical stuff hasn't happened in so long, a line has been drawn.  Something will change.  Their relationship may get worse, but what is more likely is that they will both rethink all that was said and done and try to work it out.

Do you have anyone who can help for your movies?  Another person who can act last minute?  Someone who can loan you a car?  Call in favors, ask for favors-- now's the time to ask for help.

It's no wonder you are anxious and depressed and upset.  You've got good reason for it.  If you can't sleep, watch a movie-- relax.  Do what you can to get your mind off of your stresses.  More anxious thought won't help you, and if you get your mind off of all this stuff you might be able to think about how you can get out of it.  Watch a movie you can laugh at.

And I'll pray for you.  It'll help, really.

Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sandy on November 08, 2011, 10:28:39 PM
I was going to write some stuff, but oldkid is the voice to listen to. Take good care.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Clovis8 on November 08, 2011, 11:03:24 PM


For your parents-- you need to wait and see what happens.  If there is physical abuse again, it is best to call a crisis line (not 911, but like a woman's crisis line) and ask for counsel.  Otherwise, wait.  If physical stuff hasn't happened in so long, a line has been drawn.  Something will change.  Their relationship may get worse, but what is more likely is that they will both rethink all that was said and done and try to work it out.



I have to disagree with OK here. Domestic violence should never be tolerated and certainly not multiple times. The fact that his mother is swearing him to secrecy is very concerning. My advice would be to contact 911 next time it happens and to also contact 1−800−799−SAFE (7233) the national domestic abuse crisis line.

It's a terrible situation for a young person to be in to be sure. I am sure things will work out in the end Totoro. Just remember that while right now it's incredibly tough, it will get better.

In 15 years when you have won your first Oscar this will be the "character building" part of your Biography episode.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Lobby on November 09, 2011, 01:29:21 AM
There's so much I want to say but I'm in a place where I barely have an internet connection. For now just a quick *hug*

And make your priorities. Go into survival mode and focus on what's most important to you right now.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: pixote on November 09, 2011, 01:57:35 PM
This is a rough thread to catch up on all at once. Hugs for everyone!!! (And a bear hug for jim brown.)

pixote
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Totoro on November 09, 2011, 06:09:13 PM
That is awful, Totoro. 

As far as Stats go, Bondo is right, you need a tutor.  But that seems to be the least of your problems.

For your parents-- you need to wait and see what happens.  If there is physical abuse again, it is best to call a crisis line (not 911, but like a woman's crisis line) and ask for counsel.  Otherwise, wait.  If physical stuff hasn't happened in so long, a line has been drawn.  Something will change.  Their relationship may get worse, but what is more likely is that they will both rethink all that was said and done and try to work it out.

Do you have anyone who can help for your movies?  Another person who can act last minute?  Someone who can loan you a car?  Call in favors, ask for favors-- now's the time to ask for help.

It's no wonder you are anxious and depressed and upset.  You've got good reason for it.  If you can't sleep, watch a movie-- relax.  Do what you can to get your mind off of your stresses.  More anxious thought won't help you, and if you get your mind off of all this stuff you might be able to think about how you can get out of it.  Watch a movie you can laugh at.

And I'll pray for you.  It'll help, really.

Thanks for including me in your prayers. I really appreciate your advice, Oldkid. My mother told me to never call those lines (I wanted to) so it's good to hear that I should if it happens again. Luckily our professor gave us an extra week for the documentary. A movie did help. I think they'll continue to help.

Thanks, everybody. I was at the end of my rope last night. I contacted my personal friends, but they were equally clueless as I was.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on November 09, 2011, 06:51:24 PM
Good to hear that things are closer to being able for you to handle.  Hang in there!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ses on November 09, 2011, 09:55:17 PM
My thoughts are with Totoro.


I got in a car accident today.  It sucks, guy blew a red light.  Everyone is okay, but I am sore as can be on my left side.  What stinks is that my car isn't drivable now, and I have to borrow family's cars to get to work, and I can't drive to Chicago to see my boyfriend now.  It's hard, we have been doing this for 4 years now, and it never gets any easier.  In fact it gets harder.  We get barely any time together as it is, maybe 4 days a month if we are lucky.  It used to be more, but both of us are so busy with our research fellowships that there are times when we are working over the weekends.  I'm just really bummed and sore and irked that my car, that I just spent $518 getting repaired and tuned up, is now sidelined until a claims adjuster comes and looks at it.  Then who knows how long after that to get it fixed.


Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: mañana on November 09, 2011, 10:03:36 PM
That sucks, all of it. Glad your injuries aren't too serious.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: jim brown on November 09, 2011, 10:18:08 PM
ses!  I'm so glad you're okay!  Car accidents are horrifying even when nothing terrible happens. 

Feel better, first and foremost.  Then all your other issues will seem more manageable.

Be well.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: FroHam X on November 09, 2011, 10:20:11 PM
I'm so glad you're safe, ses!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: saltine on November 09, 2011, 10:24:06 PM
So glad you're only sore and nothing worse. 

Sorry about the car...losing your transportation is serious. 

Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ses on November 09, 2011, 10:26:05 PM
Thanks everyone. I appreciate the sentiments.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: jdc on November 09, 2011, 10:30:53 PM
I can't drive to Chicago to see my boyfriend now.  It's hard, we have been doing this for 4 years now, and it never gets any easier.  In fact it gets harder.  We get barely any time together as it is, maybe 4 days a month if we are lucky.  It used to be more, but both of us are so busy with our research fellowships that there are times when we are working over the weekends.  I'm just really bummed and sore and irked that my car, that I just spent $518 getting repaired and tuned up, is now sidelined until a claims adjuster comes and looks at it.  Then who knows how long after that to get it fixed.

How far do you live apart?  I wasn't intending to (and really tried to stop it from happening) but have managed to get into another long distance relationship which will mean seeing each other once or twice a month at most but will a lot of effort.  But I don't imagine doing it for 4 years, I will try to fix it within the next year.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ses on November 09, 2011, 11:17:09 PM
About 5 hrs, which isn't terrible, but our demanding jobs make it worse when trying to make time to see each other
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sandy on November 10, 2011, 12:58:38 AM
ses, I'm so sorry to hear about your accident. I hope your recovery is swift.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on November 10, 2011, 01:57:13 AM
Ses, I'm glad you're okay.  If you feel really sore tomorrow morning, you might want to get checked out anyway.

Does your insurance cover a rental for you?
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ses on November 10, 2011, 06:14:50 AM
Unfortunately it does not.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Corndog on November 10, 2011, 08:07:38 AM
If it was the other driver's fault, does their insurance cover one for you?
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oneaprilday on November 10, 2011, 11:29:51 AM
A little late but,

Totoro, I'll be thinking of you - what a difficult situation.

ses, I'm so glad you're ok, and I'm so sorry about everything.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ses on November 10, 2011, 05:33:38 PM
If it was the other driver's fault, does their insurance cover one for you?

It doesn't.  I am driving my grandma's car at the moment.  I can use that during the week until I get my car fixed.  The damage isn't terrible, but my wheel is bent, so I can't drive it.  Hopefully it won't take long to fix.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: jim brown on November 12, 2011, 12:04:12 PM
The one day I take Max to services they decide, apparently, to read the whole Torah.  Twice.

 :-\
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on November 12, 2011, 12:24:24 PM
While I'm sure that was trying for him, and you, I think it's cool that they still do that.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sandy on November 12, 2011, 12:39:22 PM
In Hebrew? :)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on November 12, 2011, 12:51:20 PM
Oh man, don't get me excited.  ;D
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: FroHam X on November 12, 2011, 12:55:07 PM
What would be the point in listening to it read in Hebrew if you cannot understand the language?
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on November 12, 2011, 12:59:20 PM
I understand...some.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: FroHam X on November 12, 2011, 01:00:06 PM
Why???
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sandy on November 12, 2011, 01:00:23 PM
It would be excruciatingly torturous.  Kids need that sometimes. :)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on November 12, 2011, 01:02:01 PM
Why???
Because I'm esoteric and decided to learn dead versions of Greek and Hebrew instead of a useful language.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Corndog on November 12, 2011, 03:17:36 PM
I took 4 years of Latin. It has helped with my language skills more than had I tried to learn a second language.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: jim brown on November 12, 2011, 03:58:31 PM
I took 4 years of Latin. It has helped with my language skills more than had I tried to learn a second language.

That's why I'm making my older son take Latin. 
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: AAAutin on November 12, 2011, 07:12:24 PM
I took 4 years of Latin. It has helped with my language skills more than had I tried to learn a second language.

That's why I'm making my older son take Latin.

Not to mention how handy it is during the weekly summonings...
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on November 12, 2011, 07:14:39 PM
I took three years of Koine (1st Century) Greek.  And I still can't speak it...

If I had the time I'd take Biblical Hebrew.  But to listen to hours of Hebrew, knowing only a word or two?  I agree, torture.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bondo on November 14, 2011, 10:51:38 AM
I'm just feeling super depressed today feeling like I've been trapped into failure by past decisions, namely in education. I got a BA in Geography and MA in Political Science, not exactly "useless" humanities degrees. Yet they are proving entirely useless in finding a job and I can't seem to even get positions that only require a HS diploma. Coming out of HS I was quite strong in math and enjoy it to some degree but I was always interested in people so I shied away from it in college. Now in reading about the unemployment rate and salary of different programs, actuarial science sounds like it would have been a good fit, especially because it is a less social type of job. But now having 30k in student loans I can hardly go back to school for multiple years and take on another 50k in debt, though maybe I should just say screw it and take on more. At least it would give me a reprieve for a few years.

It just feels weird that getting two college degrees, always having at least a 3.6 GPA, doing a few different internships, etc isn't enough to make me qualified for anything in the opinion of employers. I can almost certainly get a teaching position in South Korea and may end up doing that for lack of a better option and it does offer certain enticements of getting the chance to travel, but I already know that teaching isn't something I enjoy and doesn't really lead toward a career. But you know, judging from how other generations treat mine, I'm probably just an entitled whiner who can't take responsibility and wants his path paved in gold or something.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Lobby on November 14, 2011, 10:58:59 AM
Bondo, at least where I live having double examina isn't a strange thing; it's more or less standard for people who are heading for a career. It's people like me who don't have that who should feel frustrated and whine a little since it's basically too late to do anything about it.

I think your South Korean adventure sounds like a too good opportunity to miss. You need to get out of where you are, honestly. I think broaden your horizons would make you good.

BUT if you don't feel as if teaching really is something you want to do for the rest of your life, you should consider studying further, if it's a realistic option from a financial poit of view.

I don't doubt for a second that you have the capacity to get a stimulating and rewarding job. Get out of the chat room. Go conquer the world.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on November 14, 2011, 12:26:13 PM
I agree with Lobby.  We are in a terrible economic slump, but history dictates that it is temporary.  Do what you need to do t. o survive-- your degrees will help you in the long run, although not necessarily in the areas you studied.  Degrees teach one a higher level of thinking, which can be used in a wide variety of arenas.  You just have to be patient enough to find your particular niche.

You could go to any number of countries, not just South Korea.  You could go to any third world country, for example, get a good job and that would be a wonderful adventure.  That's pretty much what I did and it completely changed the direction of my life.

If you really want to get a job for a high school graduate, then don't tell prospective employers about your degrees or previous work.  They won't hire someone who will leave at the first possible opportunity.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oneaprilday on November 14, 2011, 12:44:25 PM
Hang in there, Bondo, you're not alone. 

Uri's in very much the same position as you (but I'm guessing he's maybe even older) - he has a B.S. in zoology and a Masters in Divinity and did well in both - and yet he's struggled for years to find a place in either field.  He's owned his own construction company (2008 hit and that went down the toilet - but he wasn't all that happy in it anyway even though he was good at it).  He's most interested right now in still trying to find something in the sciences with his B.S., but it gets more and more difficult the farther away his degree is from him and he can't build up volunteer work since he's trying to support a family, too (my job is much less than half of our income).  At this point he's working for DirecTV as an installer and doing his best to be happy and not feel like a failure.  He's not, of course - we are very secure right now with a good wage and very good benefits - but it's still difficult to see himself in a job he doesn't love and that doesn't demand the intellectual ability he has - and also to see all those years behind him and his degrees and the loans we both still have and not feel burdened. 

So - I hear you and feel for you.  And I guess I'd encourage you to find what you can now to support yourself and to just keep looking for opportunities to find work in the field you'd love to be in.  (And you don't have people to support, right?, so you're actually in a really good position to try something new like South Korea.)  At this point, Uri's still constantly looking for stuff and has some good leads - but those may not come to fruition for a few years, probably until the economy strengthens.  But what he's doing now is good work - he's not living the dream, but I think we've both learned that "the dream" is not what most people live.  Maybe that just happens in the movies. :)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bondo on November 14, 2011, 01:26:18 PM
You could go to any number of countries, not just South Korea.  You could go to any third world country, for example, get a good job and that would be a wonderful adventure.  That's pretty much what I did and it completely changed the direction of my life.

I have a few reasons for picking South Korea, from the ease of getting around knowing only English (though I'd try to learn some Korean) to relatively higher pay than many locations that don't need specific certification in TEFL, to having a friend already there. Though admittedly I do know a bit of Spanish and have the basic grammatical/pronunciation side so just picking up more vocab would go a long way, which could argue in favor of Latin America, which also has the benefit of being closer.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on November 14, 2011, 01:39:57 PM
Plus, Starcraft!  ;D
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ¡Keith! on November 14, 2011, 02:03:21 PM
he has a B.S. in zoology and a Masters in Divinity and did well in both 

Holy cow! sorry
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sandy on November 14, 2011, 02:24:15 PM
When pigs fly!



I heard somewhere that actuaries and music conductors live the longest.  :) Can't quote a source though. Tutoring math is less stressful than teaching a room full of students. It could give you an idea if you really like it that much still. Good luck Bondo.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oneaprilday on November 14, 2011, 02:34:02 PM
he has a B.S. in zoology and a Masters in Divinity and did well in both 

Holy cow! sorry
Heh, I know, right?
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: jdc on November 14, 2011, 06:44:53 PM
You could go to any number of countries, not just South Korea.  You could go to any third world country, for example, get a good job and that would be a wonderful adventure.  That's pretty much what I did and it completely changed the direction of my life.

I have a few reasons for picking South Korea, from the ease of getting around knowing only English (though I'd try to learn some Korean) to relatively higher pay than many locations that don't need specific certification in TEFL, to having a friend already there. Though admittedly I do know a bit of Spanish and have the basic grammatical/pronunciation side so just picking up more vocab would go a long way, which could argue in favor of Latin America, which also has the benefit of being closer.

Perhaps I am biased, but the Korean girls are nicer.  For that fact, the boys probably are as well if I am to believe my female coworkers so you are covered on both sides.

I wouldn't look at it as leading to any type of career as much as it will be an experience that may lead to so much more.  You could start of teaching English but learn Korean and get other type of work there.  Most likely, you won't go in a career of teaching but it most likely will lead to some other life changing career.  One of the first guys I met when I was working from our Japan office years ago was a Canadian that moved there 14 years previously to teach English.  It lasted a couple of years but by that time he had learned Japanese and learned other skills and took a job in a Japanese company as well as wife and child. 

But just two last bits of advise.  First, why wait?  If you are not working now and could get the job now, just go.  Don't stop to consider and think about it too much.  I woke up one morning without a thought of trying to move overseas one day until I got to work and decided I didn't like the direction they were pushing me.  Within 3 weeks I had mostly given away a lot of my stuff, sold my car and started a new job in a new country.  I don't know, sometimes the biggest decisions should just do and not contemplate.

Second, learn to drink.  I know some good drinkers (I tend to work with a lot of sales people from many countries including Australia) but most have been shamed when they first visit there and are taken out for dinner and drinks. 

I am still hoping to visit one day, I think it is the only place that I support though not visited yet for work. 
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bondo on November 14, 2011, 07:34:10 PM
First, why wait?

Getting my passport renewal and FBI background check (for visa) takes a month or two. Probably looking to start in March or something, might do a TESOL course in January so I'm more prepared.

P.S. I went to grad school and learned quite well how to drink.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: saltine on November 14, 2011, 07:41:35 PM
If you need the FBI background check for the visa, you'd best start right away.  Go to the FBI office and pick up the form, then go to the police station for the fingerprinting, then get it in the mail without folding, bending, spindling, or mutilating it.  Once it's sent to the FBI, it can take 3-6 months.  Be sure you read the directions on the card carefully and do everything exactly right or they simply send whole lot back to you without processing it. Good Luck. 

I'm on my third try. 
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Clovis8 on November 14, 2011, 07:50:59 PM
If you need the FBI background check for the visa, you'd best start right away.  Go to the FBI office and pick up the form, then go to the police station for the fingerprinting, then get it in the mail without folding, bending, spindling, or mutilating it.  Once it's sent to the FBI, it can take 3-6 months.  Be sure you read the directions on the card carefully and do everything exactly right or they simply send whole lot back to you without processing it. Good Luck. 

I'm on my third try.

What hell!!!!!!!

That's insane. America is crazy.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: jdc on November 14, 2011, 07:57:38 PM
P.S. I went to grad school and learned quite well how to drink.

that good, just keep practicing...

Often the hard part is being the guest as you often will have to multiple your drinking by the number of guests.  For example, on a trip in China we were (another SG coworker) I was invited to their team dinner which was 15 people.  After dinner which was already quite a bit of cheers, the team lead stands up to thank of for the visit and we do a bottoms up of a cup of beer with him.  That is followed, one-by-one of the other 14 locals coming up to do a cheers and bottoms up.  It was just 1 for each of them, but about 14 for us.   I hear the Koreans often do the same though with Shoju which is my downfall. 

I never had to deal with the FBI check when I moved, I guess SG didn't require it at the time.

Good luck...maybe we get a Korea filmspotting meetup sometime...
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bondo on November 14, 2011, 08:05:48 PM
Go to the FBI office and pick up the form

Which form is this? I printed out the basic form from online and will pick up a standard fingerprint card to send in. The website says two months right now but maybe they are being optimistic.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: saltine on November 15, 2011, 02:00:48 AM
I think you have to pick up the fingerprint card at an FBI office, but maybe your law enforcement has one that will work for the FBI as well.  It's the fingerprint card that can be rejected by the FBI, therefore, costing you time.  The FBI won't fingerprint you.  They send you to local law enforcement.  Then they don't like the prints they get back and you have to do it again.  My advice is to try to find a police dept that uses the laser printing method.  You'll know immediately if the prints are good, as in show enough markers for a match.  With the ink prints, they have to evaluate those at the FBI which costs time if the prints don't have the markers.  Your fingers are young and if you haven't done a lot of manual labor, you're probably OK for prints.

Also be sure to follow the directions carefully on the sheet you downloaded. 

jdc, all this is post-911.  My original permanent residency/visa did not require that my identity be verified by the FBI or that I have a criminal background check.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bondo on November 15, 2011, 07:55:11 AM
Well, I've done fingerprinting numerous times before, though not necessarily for the FBI (it was Peace Corps, Census and sub teaching license) and never had an issue. The sample fingerprint card on the FBI website looks like the standard card.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: jdc on November 15, 2011, 08:32:56 AM
You have to finger print for census?  Of you worked for it?
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bondo on November 15, 2011, 11:13:32 AM
Haha, yeah, only to work for the Census, not to fill out the Census. The civil libertarians would self-immolate if that were the case.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: MartinTeller on November 17, 2011, 05:23:08 PM
My wife brought two cats into the marriage.  We ended up giving Phoebe away to my mother after her cat died.  Bobo stayed with us.  Meet Bobo:

(http://i.imgur.com/p83ca.jpg)

Bobo is a 17 year-old purebred Himalayan, and the undisputed ruler of the household.  The very definition of "Alpha Kitty", he even bosses around our 120-pound golden retriever.  He's utterly fearless and always in charge.  He may have started out as my wife's cat but over the years he's become my cat, coming to me first when he feels like getting some attention and affection... which I was always happy to give, and honored to be chosen for the task.

Over the past few weeks, the little man has been slipping away from us.  He was diagnosed with pancreatic problems (possibly cancer), eats erratically, shuns all dry food, relieves himself outside the litter box, cries, wobbles, and mostly just sits in the big chair with his head down.  It is decidedly un-Bobolike behavior.  The poor guy is clearly suffering.  My wife and I just made the decision to put him out of his misery.  We'll be saying our goodbyes tonight.

This never gets any easier.   :'(
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: jim brown on November 17, 2011, 07:00:45 PM
So sorry, Martin.  My thoughts are with you.

And, by the way, Bobo is an absolutely beautiful feline.  Majestic.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ses on November 17, 2011, 07:03:21 PM
I'm really sorry Martin.  A pet is a member of the family.  My thoughts are with you and your wife. 
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on November 17, 2011, 08:16:26 PM
Sorry to hear that you're losing a part of your family.  And its even harder to make the choice yourselves.   At least he'll be at peace.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sandy on November 17, 2011, 09:22:27 PM
Martin, that is very sad news.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oneaprilday on November 18, 2011, 12:24:20 AM
So sorry to hear that, Martin.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: MartinTeller on November 18, 2011, 12:30:48 AM
Thanks guys.  It was a sad day, but I think we did the right thing.  He lived a long life, and he did it as king of the castle.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: 'Noke on November 18, 2011, 11:13:42 AM
I'm sorry to hear that Martin.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Lobby on December 01, 2011, 02:11:53 AM
I'm sad over that Froham has logged out from the forum for good. He didn't write any proper farewell letter, but he has and he has taken measures so he can't access his account to post here.

Sure, I can debate about the latest Tintin movie with him in the chat, but it's really not the same as the proper discussions we run here, which also involve more people.

And we'll never see him complete his crazy marathon.

But most of all I miss the good old hamster, cheerful and opinonated and talkative as he was. I haven't been here for more than a few months but I had gotten used to having him around.
:(
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: jdc on December 01, 2011, 03:02:11 AM
I'm sad over that Froham has logged out from the forum for good. He didn't write any proper farewell letter, but he has and he has taken measures so he can't access his account to post here.

This was his farewell:

Calling it a day and going to take a shower.

Sorry to hear that, not sure what would prompt him to do that but then I never really know what goes on behind the scenes in these parts.  Forums can be a funny places at times.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Lobby on December 01, 2011, 03:05:08 AM
Aye. That was his way of taking farewell. I wouldn't call it a proper one though considering how much time he's spent here and how many friends he has made. I doubt many people even realized it was a farewell. So I thought I should mention it, for those who only know him through the forum.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: saltine on December 01, 2011, 03:49:32 AM
Taking a break isn't the same as logging out of the forum for good. 

Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bondo on December 01, 2011, 08:13:06 AM
It's a very long shower.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sandy on December 01, 2011, 09:20:25 AM
I'm sad over that Froham has logged out from the forum for good. He didn't write any proper farewell letter, but he has and he has taken measures so he can't access his account to post here.

Sure, I can debate about the latest Tintin movie with him in the chat, but it's really not the same as the proper discussions we run here, which also involve more people.

And we'll never see him complete his crazy marathon.

But most of all I miss the good old hamster, cheerful and opinonated and talkative as he was. I haven't been here for more than a few months but I had gotten used to having him around.
:(


Scott, any friend of Lobby is a friend of mine. Welcome to our cushy little den.

The last thing I read of FroHam's was this. I must have missed something.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Lobby on December 01, 2011, 09:23:29 AM
He's posted a bit after that, but he's left or is on a break now. I hope for a break of course. I just know that I'll miss his presence in the forum. Let's hope for the best.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on December 01, 2011, 04:08:25 PM
Actually, the forum will certainly feel empty without him.  Perhaps this is his way of saying, "You'll miss me when I'm gone".  Well, I do miss him.  Hope to see him back soon, refreshed and ready to take on the movie world again.

I note that he hasn't posted on his movie blog since the 17th.  That's a long time for the Hamster.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: smirnoff on December 01, 2011, 04:13:41 PM
It's good to take a break. You can over-do it, even on forums.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: St. Martin the Bald on December 01, 2011, 04:24:57 PM
Yes - I took one myself...
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: 1SO on December 01, 2011, 04:43:56 PM
For a moment I thought I read that smirnoff was going to take a break. I was going to email CDC to investigate what virus is causing people to leave this site.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: smirnoff on December 01, 2011, 04:57:32 PM
Scurvy!

*eats a lemon*

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Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: AAAutin on December 01, 2011, 07:59:33 PM
Now, show us your lion face!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: smirnoff on December 01, 2011, 11:47:13 PM
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Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Beavermoose on December 02, 2011, 07:12:43 AM
Go over to Sound on Sight to get your Atad fix!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sandy on December 03, 2011, 09:29:23 AM
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You captured it perfectly, even the @ curls!

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Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sandy on December 08, 2011, 05:57:52 PM
The class I'm slated to take next semester is described as "intensive analysis of a single major traditional media genre". I just found out the genre is horror. I was hoping for western, noir, musical, melodrama, anything else...  I need a pep talk.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Corndog on December 08, 2011, 06:25:44 PM
Horror is jawesome!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: sdedalus on December 08, 2011, 08:08:34 PM
Horror is a lot of fun to analyze and talk about.  It isn't all gore and splatter either.  Actually, hardly any of it is gore and splatter.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Clovis8 on December 08, 2011, 08:19:15 PM
The class I'm slated to take next semester is described as "intensive analysis of a single major traditional media genre". I just found out the genre is horror. I was hoping for western, noir, musical, melodrama, anything else...  I need a pep talk.

Ugh. Do you have to take it? It sounds awful. Maybe you can watch The Descent over and over.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on December 08, 2011, 08:23:58 PM
That's tough, Sandy.  I wouldn't like that, myself. 

However, there are a lot of good horror films out there-- The Shining, Halloween, and, of course, classic horror.  I suspect that the teacher will lean toward the good and avoid the awful.  Although you will almost certainly have to endure some zombies and perhaps the Texas Chainsaw Massacre.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Junior on December 08, 2011, 08:29:49 PM
Texas Chainsaw Massacre is in my top 100. Horror is the best genre.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: AAAutin on December 08, 2011, 10:12:22 PM
The class I'm slated to take next semester is described as "intensive analysis of a single major traditional media genre". I just found out the genre is horror. I was hoping for western, noir, musical, melodrama, anything else...  I need a pep talk.

Don't worry, I'm sure there'll be plenty of NOSFERATU and Vincent Price. "Horror" covers a wide spectrum. Like Sean said, it's not all gore.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sandy on December 08, 2011, 10:53:37 PM
 :) You guys are the greatest! Nosferatu is definitely more my cup of tea. I read every Shocktober review and you all are much more fearless than I. Things that go bump in the night rob me of my sleep (especially the undead). I have a little while to decide, but it's the class that best fits my schedule and I think I'm safe from The Descent--it's a pretty tame school.  I'll keep telling myself "It will be fun to analyze."  Thanks!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Junior on December 08, 2011, 10:57:43 PM
Horror is among the best genres to watch to learn about filmmaking. Everybody knows what's going on, so the technical elements are the ones that shine. Watching The Shining and The Exorcist multiple times enhanced my skills as a movie watcher.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: AAAutin on December 08, 2011, 11:13:05 PM
Horror is among the best genres to watch to learn about filmmaking. Everybody knows what's going on, so the technical elements are the ones that shine. Watching The Shining and The Exorcist multiple times enhanced my skills as a movie watcher.

This is a very astute point; and one that makes me lament that I don't dig modern horror more.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Junior on December 08, 2011, 11:16:10 PM
I think the 00's were a good decade for horror. Maybe not as good as the 70's, but a good decade nonetheless. Especially in the foreign department.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Clovis8 on December 08, 2011, 11:17:50 PM
Horror is among the best genres to watch to learn about filmmaking. Everybody knows what's going on, so the technical elements are the ones that shine. Watching The Shining and The Exorcist multiple times enhanced my skills as a movie watcher.

That is a good point but I think horror is a little different that other genres in that it's the only one that a person might not literally be able to watch. Someone might hate westerns but nobody cant watch a western.

I cant watch gory horror. It makes me ill and nauseous. No amount of appreciation for the art form can compensate for the basic biological reaction.

Of course there is lots of horror that is not gore, but I assume if she takes a full class on the genre she will not be able to escape all gore.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Junior on December 08, 2011, 11:21:01 PM
I guess that's a good point. Might email the teacher and have us vet the movies for you first?
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sandy on December 08, 2011, 11:31:15 PM
Horror is among the best genres to watch to learn about filmmaking. Everybody knows what's going on, so the technical elements are the ones that shine. Watching The Shining and The Exorcist multiple times enhanced my skills as a movie watcher.

Oh, I forgot about The Exorcist. :o I take it back, it's not the undead that I worry about, its the possessed! I'm starting to hyperventilate. ;) Now I also have to keep telling myself to breathe. Clovis, you're right about the nausea. Oh boy.

Junior, that's a great idea. I'll get back with you on that.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: StudentOFilm on December 09, 2011, 12:40:37 AM
Not to say this doesn't matter for other genres, but my teachers are always recommending horror and comedy for pacing/editing because blocking is often taken into heavier consideration. With drama, many mainstream directors will just let the actors improvize their movement in relation to the camera.

Random thought that isn't in the random thought thread.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Totoro on December 09, 2011, 02:33:12 AM
Calling it a day and going to take a shower.

This will forever be code for "I'm taking a break from the forums for a while".

It reminds me of the part in Winter's Bone where she offers her uncle the guitar, but he refuses it.  :'(

Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: pixote on December 09, 2011, 05:27:57 AM
Stop whimpering, start shouting.

pixote
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sandy on December 09, 2011, 09:42:04 AM
Stop whimpering, start shouting.

pixote

"I'm scared as hell and I'm not going to take it anymore!"
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: AAAutin on December 09, 2011, 09:55:54 AM
"I'm scared as hell and I'm not going to take it anymore!"

Good practice for when you quit your horror class.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ¡Keith! on December 09, 2011, 10:03:05 AM
Dear Sir, I have a complaint... can't remember what it is.  Doesn't matter anyway.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sandy on December 09, 2011, 01:23:11 PM
"I'm scared as hell and I'm not going to take it anymore!"

Good practice for when you quit your horror class.

 :D You're right!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on December 09, 2011, 02:50:50 PM
I believe horror is one of the most compelling and interesting genres because it often deals with the various evils that the world seeks to repress and hide by forcing those evils up and dealing with them. Yes, it's nasty, yes, it can be frightening, but time and time again I find that Horror provokes the idea that evil is not something we can simply repress. Eventually we will have to face it, eventually it will surface and I think horror provides a creative conduit for us to explore how we go about dealing with these issues.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sandy on December 09, 2011, 03:58:19 PM
I believe horror is one of the most compelling and interesting genres because it often deals with the various evils that the world seeks to repress and hide by forcing those evils up and dealing with them. Yes, it's nasty, yes, it can be frightening, but time and time again I find that Horror provokes the idea that evil is not something we can simply repress. Eventually we will have to face it, eventually it will surface and I think horror provides a creative conduit for us to explore how we go about dealing with these issues.

I believe Sam, you should be teaching the class. Can I quote you on my first essay?
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on December 09, 2011, 09:59:47 PM
You'd only be cheating yourself.  ;)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: verbALs on December 10, 2011, 02:16:41 PM
The class I'm slated to take next semester is described as "intensive analysis of a single major traditional media genre". I just found out the genre is horror. I was hoping for western, noir, musical, melodrama, anything else...  I need a pep talk.

As a practical suggestion, open up a thread here, and post your thoughts about the films you watch, then we can all contribute. Then whether you integrate others peoples' thoughts and call them your own is entirely up to you. Part of study is using all the resources available and plagiarism is academically acceptable up to a point, and if you need to give your opinion then this is opinion central surely. About time all this posting was put to good use, I hope people agree.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sandy on December 10, 2011, 07:38:15 PM
verbALs, I love the idea of discussion and getting a better understanding through all of your ideas. I'm doing that all the time here. It's a fine line between internalizing information and putting it in your own words from your own perspective and allowing others to do the work for you. I would definitely give Sam full source credit in my essay.  :) I've already quoted Steve twice this semester (with full annotation). I love sharing other's ideas and want to give credit where credit is due.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on December 11, 2011, 12:16:52 AM
Sandy, we can be your assistants, or interns, doing some of your research for you :)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sandy on December 11, 2011, 12:49:00 AM
Sandy, we can be your assistants, or interns, doing some of your research for you :)

 :)) :)) :)) :)) :))

If you only knew how much you have done already. Because of the forum I can incorporate Sunrise, Ikiru, Wild Strawberries and Winter Light into my final paper.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Clovis8 on December 11, 2011, 08:13:55 AM
verbALs, I love the idea of discussion and getting a better understanding through all of your ideas. I'm doing that all the time here. It's a fine line between internalizing information and putting it in your own words from your own perspective and allowing others to do the work for you. I would definitely give Sam full source credit in my essay.  :) I've already quoted Steve twice this semester (with full annotation). I love sharing other's ideas and want to give credit where credit is due.

It's a great idea but be careful to always cite everything (as you have been doing). There is software now, which I have used when teaching, that scans papers for plagiarism from the net.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sandy on December 22, 2011, 01:14:35 AM
Update :D   I contacted the professor about the class and she had neglected to update the description. The genre is not going to be horror. It's Musicals!!!

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Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Junior on December 22, 2011, 01:21:32 AM
Somebody should make a (good) horror musical. I think that one episode of Buffy is as good as we're gonna get.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: jdc on December 22, 2011, 01:25:33 AM
Update :D   I contacted the professor about the class and she had neglected to update the description. The genre is not going to be horror. It's Musicals!!!
   I feel much better now.

That sound like Horror to me:)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sandy on December 22, 2011, 01:48:42 AM
That sounds like Horror to me:)

:))
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: MartinTeller on December 22, 2011, 08:27:17 AM
Somebody should make a (good) horror musical. I think that one episode of Buffy is as good as we're gonna get.

The Wicker Man!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bondo on December 22, 2011, 09:01:41 AM
Somebody should make a (good) horror musical. I think that one episode of Buffy is as good as we're gonna get.

Thriller!
Repo: The Genetic Opera!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: 1SO on December 22, 2011, 09:05:15 AM
Little Shop of Horrors
Phantom of the Paradise
The Rocky Horror Picture Show
Sweeney Todd
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: FLYmeatwad on December 22, 2011, 09:22:49 AM
Timmy B has done the job already.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Junior on December 22, 2011, 10:55:40 AM
I just got schooled. And I've seen all but 2 of these. But I only love one (The Wicker Man).
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Corndog on December 24, 2011, 07:08:01 PM
On a night when I was worried about dealing with stupid customers at Best Buy, it turns out I had to deal with a stupid company who pulled a bait and switch on its employees, deciding at the last minute to stay open an extra two hours. When I showed up to work I was expecting to be a little late to my family dinner, not to miss the entire thing. It is one thing to stay open to 7 and a whole other thing to not tell your employees until the day of that they have to stay later than expected. I at least get to eat the sloppy seconds of my family's dinner, who is nice enough to bring me something home. As Best Buy would have it I would have stopped at Taco Bell on my way home instead and gotten Grade D meat, because that is all I am to them apparently. I do not blame my supervisors or my coworkers, in fact I sympathize. I do not blame the customers because they had nothing to do with it. I blame the company of Best Buy for souring  my mood at a time of year when I should be happy and joyous, spending time with my family and friends, not getting tricked into having to stay at work an extra hour and a half and completely miss my Christmas Eve plans. What a joke, and the language in this doesn't even come close to how I really feel. Can't wait to work the day after Christmas!

Was going to post this on facebook, but decided on a more concise, less nasty approach.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: MartinTeller on December 24, 2011, 07:20:31 PM
That sucks, Corndog :( 
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: jim brown on December 24, 2011, 07:52:27 PM
CD - You deserve better than this. 

Merry Christmas my friend.  Sending the bestest of thoughts your way.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: edgar00 on December 24, 2011, 08:58:40 PM
That's bull. Sorry, dog.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: skjerva on December 24, 2011, 09:03:23 PM
sorry dog, that totally blows. i hope the rest of your xmas is xcellent!

(i ate a corndog yesterday at hot doug's!)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bondo on December 25, 2011, 12:31:07 AM
CD, did they at least pay you time and a half or something for holiday/overtime type of pay?

Anyway, I would have been all worker's rights and said no, but then I'd also have gotten fired. Stupid man, I hate the man.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Corndog on December 25, 2011, 12:54:45 AM
Nope, regular pay. And thanks for all the support here. I really really wanted to just walk out, because it was a complete load of crap, but I didn't want to get fired either. I want a normal job with normal hours that I am qualified for instead of getting treated like an idiot when I have a college degree. Really starting to grow tired of working at Best Buy, and surprisingly not because of the customers, but the managers. They weren't really to blame tonight, but their ability to communicate with their employees does seem to astound me.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: verbALs on December 25, 2011, 03:31:19 AM
Best Buy opened stores in the UK then very soon after shut them all. Firstly, it makes you despair for all those people who committed to work there only to be dismissed soon after. secondly it makes you wonder what state a company is in when they make such horrendous business decisions, smells of panic to me.

On Friday I made the comment when my boss decided people ordering late could stuff it because it would have meant sending drivers out late to deliver to them, that that is why I made a terrible manager. My attitude was that here are times when people should be winding down and enjoying life. On a Saturday I used to misdirect deliveries (put them on the wrong van so the guy would just return them undelivered) because it would have sent the regular driver too far out of his way and I wanted them back early. You do things like that for guys and they positively trip over themselves to help out at other times. The company doesn't like it but to me its good long term management practice.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bondo on December 25, 2011, 03:46:24 AM
And here I thought repeatedly kicking your employees in the balls was good management practice.

/American capitalist
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: jim brown on December 26, 2011, 07:24:13 PM
FIRST, THE BAD NEWS:

1.  Charlotte was just diagnosed with "generalized epilepsy". 

2.  Max recently diagnosed with ADHD and depression related to having had undiagnosed ADHD for so long.

3.  Jack just started sleepwalking.  Went downstairs and opened the front door at 3AM the other night.

ON THE UP SIDE:

1.  "Generalized Epilepsy" is the "best" kind of epilepsy you can have, according to our neurologist.  (Me to neurologist upon hearing this: "You are f*cking kidding me, right?")

2.  Now that he's been diagnosed and has medication, this could really be a positive turn for my Max, who has been such a sad guy for years. 

3.  Well, we've already got two kids going to a neurologist, so maybe we can get a family discount.


Years ago I was "consoling" a friend who had just had a miscarriage.  She said to me, quite stoically, "You want your own problems."   Too true.  God has not given me anything (so far) that I cannot handle.  So I'm not complaining.  Just a low whimper.

Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Shaw13 on December 26, 2011, 07:29:25 PM
FIRST, THE BAD NEWS:

1.  Charlotte was just diagnosed with "generalized epilepsy". 

2.  Max recently diagnosed with ADHD and depression related to having had undiagnosed ADHD for so long.

3.  Jack just started sleepwalking.  Went downstairs and opened the front door at 3AM the other night.

ON THE UP SIDE:

1.  "Generalized Epilepsy" is the "best" kind of epilepsy you can have, according to our neurologist.  (Me to neurologist upon hearing this: "You are f*cking kidding me, right?")

2.  Now that he's been diagnosed and has medication, this could really be a positive turn for my Max, who has been such a sad guy for years. 

3.  Well, we've already got two kids going to a neurologist, so maybe we can get a family discount.


Years ago I was "consoling" a friend who had just had a miscarriage.  She said to me, quite stoically, "You want your own problems."   Too true.  God has not given me anything (so far) that I cannot handle.  So I'm not complaining.  Just a low whimper.

Sorry to hear about all the stuff going on for you. At least now these things have been recognized, it'll make things easier, particularly, it seems, for Max.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: jim brown on December 26, 2011, 07:36:29 PM
Thanks Shaw.  It is definitely good news for Max.  Part of the testing process revealed that he is incredibly intelligent (which I already knew  ::)) and as we address the ADHD he will truly be able to shine.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sandy on December 26, 2011, 07:44:10 PM
Sorry to hear about all the stuff going on for you. At least now these things have been recognized, it'll make things easier, particularly, it seems, for Max.
Yes.


jim, you are, hands down, the man for this undertaking. You have instilled in your kids strength, perseverance, creativity...

(http://i40.tinypic.com/29xj0xj.jpg)

They are blessed to have you as their father. Best wishes.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: jim brown on December 26, 2011, 07:53:47 PM
Sandy, you bring kindness and warmth wherever you go.  Thank you for existing. 
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sandy on December 26, 2011, 08:05:25 PM
 :) That's very sweet.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on December 26, 2011, 09:51:41 PM
Yeah, Sandy.  I was saying to my wife just the other day about how you need to tone down this niceness stuff, or else you'll hurt yourself. :)

Sorry to hear about all this, Jim.  When this kind of thing happens to me (in a non-medical context) then I quote Mother Theresa:

"I know that God doesn't give me more than I can handle.  I only wish He didn't trust me so much."

God must trust you an awful lot.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: saltine on December 26, 2011, 11:31:05 PM
jim brown, I wish you the best in a tough situation. 
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Lobby on December 27, 2011, 01:37:25 AM
You have every right to whimper. I'm really sorry for you. Bad stuff tends to happen in bunches. At least that's my experience. Hopefully things will be quiet now for you for many years.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sandy on December 27, 2011, 05:45:58 PM
Yeah, Sandy.  I was saying to my wife just the other day about how you need to tone down this niceness stuff, or else you'll hurt yourself. :)

 :))
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Junior on December 27, 2011, 09:46:20 PM
I have a friend (23) who had/has ADD and was severely depressed for years because it went undiagnosed and his parents were not knowledgeable about it. He's pulling out of it, slowly, but it could have been avoided with proper medical attention. It is a medical condition that can be addressed by people with medical knowledge. I hope that you do right by your kid (and knowing you, I'm sure you will). It's not an end, it's a beginning.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ses on December 27, 2011, 09:50:43 PM
I just want to echo everyone's thoughts here, jim.  Best wishes in this tough situation, I will be thinking about you and your family.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: jim brown on December 27, 2011, 10:06:22 PM
I have a friend (23) who had/has ADD and was severely depressed for years because it went undiagnosed and his parents were not knowledgeable about it. He's pulling out of it, slowly, but it could have been avoided with proper medical attention. It is a medical condition that can be addressed by people with medical knowledge. I hope that you do right by your kid (and knowing you, I'm sure you will). It's not an end, it's a beginning.

Thank you, Junior. 

I had a lengthy argument with a relative on Christmas Eve because I refused to acknowldge any stigma attached to this condition.  In fact, that is while I freely talk about it in this forum.  If anybody here has any Qs about ADHD please feel free to IM me.  I'm ignorant, but learning.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Junior on December 27, 2011, 10:22:17 PM
No problem. If you want, I might be able to put you in touch with him so you could ask him some questions from the child's point of view.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oneaprilday on December 28, 2011, 11:23:05 AM
I just want to echo everyone's thoughts here, jim.  Best wishes in this tough situation, I will be thinking about you and your family.
Me, too.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: jim brown on December 28, 2011, 02:17:37 PM
Thanks oad and ses.   :) 

We are all quite happy (in spite of my boundless capacity for self-pity) and (relatively speaking) healthy here at the Brown house.  I'm just kvetching.   :o
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bondo on January 09, 2012, 11:57:58 AM
I'm in a nasty catch-22. I'm depressed about being economically dependent and rather lacking hope that this will change, but to get full treatment for depression would cost a fair amount of money (which my parents would probably be willing to put up) but that would make me feel more dependent and thus depressed. Yet the depression also probably makes me less active in the job search and thus less likely to get economic independence.

But maybe this is just January speaking. January is usually a bad month. One year older with nothing to show for it.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Junior on January 09, 2012, 12:01:17 PM
If your parents are willing to help, get help. Seriously. It's kind of what they're there for.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Lobby on January 09, 2012, 12:03:25 PM
It's January speaking. Being dependent is nothing to be ashamed of, especially not since you're trying to get your life into a positive spiral, looking for jobs and other opportunities. I'm sure your parents are happy to help you out.

*hug*
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: MartinTeller on January 09, 2012, 12:08:25 PM
I know how you feel Bondo, but Junior and Lobby are right.  Just about when I was your age, I abruptly switched career paths and lived off my dad's support for almost a year.  Even now sometimes I need to ask him for money (on top of the annual too-generous Xmas check) and it sucks, but hey... he has savings and I don't.

I don't have kids, and at this point chances are I never will.  But if I did, I would want to be able to help them through tough times like you're having.  If you feel your depression is compounding your dependence, then you need to work on the depression before you can get independent, even if that means temporarily increasing your dependence level.  How's that for a convoluted sentence?
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: jim brown on January 09, 2012, 12:36:24 PM
Get a good therapist; he/she will give you good guidance as far as whether or not medication is necessary. 

I have tried a number of anti-depressants over the years and unfortunately none of them have worked for me.  However, I know a number of people who owe their lives to such medications. 

But therapy is definitely your go-to for depression.  Ideally, I would have a session once a week, depression or not.  It's like getting a massage for your psyche.  Treat yourself, you will feel better.

Regarding being dependent on your parents, don't get hung up on that.  I'm pretty sure they want to be there for you and this is kind of crucial.  There is no stigma in getting help, whether it is financial, medical or psychological. 

Good luck and feel free to whimper here if you ever need to bend someone's ear.  You've got friends.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bondo on January 09, 2012, 12:50:50 PM
Get a good therapist; he/she will give you good guidance as far as whether or not medication is necessary. 

I have tried a number of anti-depressants over the years and unfortunately none of them have worked for me.  However, I know a number of people who owe their lives to such medications. 

Well, I'm on a medication already, a generic so it is very cheap. Takes the edge off anyway I expect.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: jim brown on January 09, 2012, 12:57:20 PM
Get a good therapist; he/she will give you good guidance as far as whether or not medication is necessary. 

I have tried a number of anti-depressants over the years and unfortunately none of them have worked for me.  However, I know a number of people who owe their lives to such medications. 

Well, I'm on a medication already, a generic so it is very cheap. Takes the edge off anyway I expect.

Good for you.  Don't be afraid to tell your MD if it's not ideal for you - your feedback is all they have to go on.

Also - and I can't stress this point enough: never quit the meds cold turkey, even if you don't think they aren't working.  This is no joke, I've found myself on the brink of suicide because I quit instead of tapering down.   

Again - be well.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sandy on January 09, 2012, 01:02:27 PM
Bondo, with your great skill at being an advocate for others, don't forget to be your own advocate. With you on your side (which means utilizing the people and resources around you), the sky's the limit. Wishing the best for you.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: verbALs on January 09, 2012, 02:09:52 PM
My son has a third copy of our credit card whilst he does his Masters. I couldn't give a toss how much he spends. His future is more important.

The form of assistance your kids need is unimportant, and you don't get to choose whether you help them or not. It doesn't work that way.

Your kids are supposed to stand on your shoulders so they can go higher.

Hope that makes sense and helps, B.

Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on January 09, 2012, 02:15:32 PM
If my father did buy a house for us in a time of serious crisis, we wouldn't be able to do half of what we do for the needy.  I completely agree with V-- ideally, our family is there to support us in crisis, and to help us have a step forward in our life goals. 

The reason people are homeless is because they didn't have the support network families should provide in crisis.  The way the world works, we all need that support, at times.  Don't be ashamed to take it.  Just accept it as a way for you to do your work to make the world a better place.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Beavermoose on January 09, 2012, 09:48:54 PM
I'm glad this topic has come up, I've been considering dropping a class I'm taking because I can't afford the textbook and didn't want to ask my parents for money. Its pretty silly because I'm probably the least dependent of all my friends and have sort of taken pride in it.
After what everyone's been saying, I think I'm willing to give in a bit so that I can get by and keep the class.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: jim brown on January 09, 2012, 09:57:46 PM
I'm glad this topic has come up, I've been considering dropping a class I'm taking because I can't afford the textbook and didn't want to ask my parents for money. Its pretty silly because I'm probably the least dependent of all my friends and have sort of taken pride in it.
After what everyone's been saying, I think I'm willing to give in a bit so that I can get by and keep the class.

verbALs said it best.  Stand on the shoulders of giants.  No matter what happens, I will always be there for my kids.  I'm sure your parents feel the same way.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on January 09, 2012, 11:53:04 PM
I recently had the same thing.  I had to borrow money from my father for the first time since I'd first been married.  He was so happy to help, that even though I felt a little of my dependence slipping, I was glad to have him participate in my life.  Again.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ¡Keith! on January 10, 2012, 12:20:20 AM
Hmm... I lend my parents money and credit... how can I get in the opposite situation?

Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: edgar00 on January 10, 2012, 12:28:45 AM
I can only reiterate what others have said. Take no shame in asking your loved ones for help. That's one of the many reasons they love you: they like helping you.
I've been in some fixes back in my day as a student. It wasn't fun, but I knew when I had to give in and ask my father for some help.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Clovis8 on January 10, 2012, 08:08:38 AM
Hmm... I lend my parents money and credit... how can I get in the opposite situation?

Me too.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on January 10, 2012, 09:01:48 PM
Hmm... I lend my parents money and credit... how can I get in the opposite situation?

Me too.

I think most of us would be happy to be in that state-- to pay back what our parents gave to us, rather than still taking.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: jdc on January 10, 2012, 10:41:06 PM
Hmm... I lend my parents money and credit... how can I get in the opposite situation?

Me too.

I think most of us would be happy to be in that state-- to pay back what our parents gave to us, rather than still taking.

This is a common practice in Singapore.  Most children stay at home until they get married so they start usually start giving their parents a bit of money every month when they start working regardless if the parents need it or not.  It can be a token amount or more depending on the needs but usually all the children start giving back and then supporting parents in older age if needed. 
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: jdc on February 06, 2012, 03:30:47 AM
cough cough cough cough cough cough cough... starting to get painful...
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: saltine on February 06, 2012, 03:46:29 AM
cough cough cough cough cough cough cough... starting to get painful...

Oh, no...see a doc!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: jdc on February 06, 2012, 03:48:46 AM
cough cough cough cough cough cough cough... starting to get painful...

Oh, no...see a doc!

Already done so, I am one week in on 3 weeks medication treatment.  I think it is helping but part of it maybe causing me to have to cough so much.  Hopefully after the 3 weeks this is cleared as it been way too long..
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: saltine on February 06, 2012, 04:04:05 AM
I hope you feel better soon!  It's so hard to kick a cough!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: saltine on April 17, 2012, 08:01:16 PM
I assume these meds were prescribed by your health care professional?  If so, you need to make an appt and describe this physical sensation to her and get her advice.  Meds sometimes need adjusting, especially in early days of taking.  Everyone's body handles drugs differently.  Be sure to disclose all others meds, drugs you're taking, if any, to her.

Good luck.  I hope things are better for you soon.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Clovis8 on April 17, 2012, 08:11:45 PM
I hope things work out for you and I would follow Saltine's advice. However I am concerned that some people close to you are suggesting you have something to be ashamed of, you don't. Taking antidepressants is no different than taking any meds. You would never feel ashamed taking penicillin right?

Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ses on April 17, 2012, 08:12:42 PM
Totoro-

I agree with saltine and Clovis, you should tell your doctor about your symptoms.  I dated someone with bipolar disorder and he went through many different types and combinations of meds until he found out what worked for him.  I know that it takes time for the meds to start working.  I wish you the best of work, and I hope that you find what works for you.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: saltine on April 17, 2012, 08:19:35 PM
One more thing...

Commonly the term "light-headed" means dizziness, not the sensation you are describing.  So you may need to depend on a full description of the way you feel, instead of applying the term light-headed, to avoid confusion with simple dizziness or feeling faint.  Lots of meds can make you feel dizzy.  Not so many meds result the sensation you're experiencing.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on April 17, 2012, 09:37:25 PM
Ditto on all the above.  Especially on the talk to your doctor part and the don't be ashamed part.

Did you know that 40% of all Americans have been diagnosed with a mental illness at some point, and have been prescribed medicine for it?  This is nothing to be ashamed of, rather it is becoming a normal part of modern life.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: MartinTeller on April 17, 2012, 10:02:40 PM
You should see all the stuff my wife is on.

Definitely call your doc.  You shouldn't even have to make an appointment, it can probably be resolved over the phone.  Sounds like you might need a lower dosage.  Are you eating enough?  A lot of antidepressants kill your appetite.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Junior on April 17, 2012, 11:04:23 PM
Yeah, don't know much about the medication part, but my friend went through something similar last year. It's important to remember that mental illness is like any other illness. Your brain is broken like your arm could be broken. These are physical problems that can be fixed. It involves a bit of the talking cure usually as well, but the meds are good things.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: 1SO on April 17, 2012, 11:46:37 PM
Wow, these people are all so much better than me on giving advice. (Must be my heart of stone Martin, Sam and Corey are always talking about.)

All I can add is I've always found the boards - these boards in particular - to be a nice, safe, friendly environment. We're all accepting of each other's quirks and for all the disagreement, a rather fiercely loyal bunch. When one of our members leaves we feel the loss because everyone contributes something to our unique and flavorful stew. We can even sometimes tell when one of our own is having an especially up or down day. But what's important is we do not JUDGE each other's character and we will not stand for others to do so. The Mods are especially good at keeping debate away from the personal.

So for many of us, these board make for good therapy and often it isn't related to any personal subject. You simply join in on a discussion, comment on a post or start your own idea, and what's bothering you can move to the back of the brain and continue working itself out without all that shouting for attention. Meanwhile we get to share and talk about movies, and who doesn't like to do that? Best of all, if you feel a conversation is getting too heated for you (like the recent piracy discussion did for me) you simply stop paying attention to those posts. It's not like anyone is aware that you've tuned them out.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on April 18, 2012, 12:06:09 AM
Wow, these people are all so much better than me on giving advice. (Must be my heart of stone Martin, Sam and Corey are always talking about.)

All I can add is I've always found the boards - these boards in particular - to be a nice, safe, friendly environment. We're all accepting of each other's quirks and for all the disagreement, a rather fiercely loyal bunch. When one of our members leaves we feel the loss because everyone contributes something to our unique and flavorful stew. We can even sometimes tell when one of our own is having an especially up or down day. But what's important is we do not JUDGE each other's character and we will not stand for others to do so. The Mods are especially good at keeping debate away from the personal.

So for many of us, these board make for good therapy and often it isn't related to any personal subject. You simply join in on a discussion, comment on a post or start your own idea, and what's bothering you can move to the back of the brain and continue working itself out without all that shouting for attention. Meanwhile we get to share and talk about movies, and who doesn't like to do that? Best of all, if you feel a conversation is getting too heated for you (like the recent piracy discussion did for me) you simply stop paying attention to those posts. It's not like anyone is aware that you've tuned them out.

This should be referenced in your signature.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Lobby on April 18, 2012, 12:31:16 AM
@Totoro: I have nothing to add to the advice you got from the others - go back to your doctor. And as others have pointed out - being on medication is neither shameful, nor unusual. And this forum is a safe spot. Let it embrace you like the darkness in a theatre. You're in company even if we don't know your name.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Antares on April 18, 2012, 08:33:00 AM
I suffer from Clinical Depression too, and have, in the past taken medication for it. Unfortunately, if there is a side effect to a medication, I can be 99% sure that I am going to feel the effects of those side effects. It's good that you are attempting to treat your malady with medicines, but I would also recommend holistic treatments too. One of the causes of depression is a lack of dopamine being created in your brain. Dopamine is the thing that can create a natural high in human beings. IIRC, it is created whenever your body pumps out endorphins, as in after exercise. This is how I treat my depression symptoms now, because I really can't take meds for it. I exercise at least once a day for about an hour or two on work days, and 2-3 times a day on my days off. I'm pumping so much dopamine on my days off, I'm practically flying through my day. Another key about exercise is that it can get you outdoors, and if part of your CD is Seasonal Affective Disorder (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Seasonal_affective_disorder) (Which I suffer from), you get enough sunshine to combat it also.

Another thing to consider is your diet. A diet which is loaded with simple carbohydrates and sugar can also trigger depressive moments because of the amount of insulin released by your pancreas to fight the high glycogen levels in your bloodstream. You'll start to crash and burn repeatedly throughout your day, and this roller coaster effect can exacerbate depressive feelings.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oneaprilday on April 18, 2012, 11:32:18 AM
I don't have anything practically useful to add - just want you to know I'll be thinking of you, Totoro, and I want to join the other voices here in support of you. We're with you, as much as that is possible!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: verbALs on April 18, 2012, 12:36:43 PM
Hey T we've had some grumpy conversations, but I think you can feel the support here which I echo.

When reviewing Melancholia oldkid and myself were talking around this subject. Being English and repressed (it's compulsory) my own manic depressive feelings weren't ever discussed or diagnosed, apart from the standard "pull yourself together" or "cheer up" lines (we're an awkward bunch).

The sort of up and down feeling Antares was mentioning is something that with age I have come to recognise, and take account of. I don't think it was ever bad enough for medication, but something i had to keep in mind because being too manic is as harmful as being depressed in some ways. SAD is also something I experienced which is difficult in a wet miserable country (when it used to rain here, doesn't anymore- now we have drought in April).

I don't say this to diminish from the experience you are going through. Just to say it is common even in a small population like this forum.

Also it's a sign of intelligence!! Smart people can see the downside more easily, it's easy to be optimistic when you can't imagine the pitfalls.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Junior on April 18, 2012, 12:46:24 PM
It takes smarts to imagine the pitfalls and ignore them, too. Not all of us optimists are dummies.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: verbALs on April 18, 2012, 12:49:04 PM
wtf?

Completely beside the spirit and the tone of the previous conversation but what sort of fool ignores pitfalls? (ITS A JOKE)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Junior on April 18, 2012, 12:54:50 PM
I'm sorry I was so offensive.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oneaprilday on April 18, 2012, 01:09:22 PM
When reviewing Melancholia oldkid and myself were talking around this subject. Being English and repressed (it's compulsory) my own manic depressive feelings weren't ever discussed or diagnosed, apart from the standard "pull yourself together" or "cheer up" lines (we're an awkward bunch).
(Not sure I should put this in a different thread since it's not directly in line with the effort to support Totoro but I'll go ahead and hope it's ok) 

Was listening last night to Marc Maron's conversation with Stephen Merchant and they touched on your point a bit, Merchant explaining that Brits would never talk about "being in therapy" as freely and openly as Americans do, as such an admission would seem embarrassing or childish, and the idea of a "normal" person being in therapy is a strange one to most Brits.  Would you agree with Merchant, verbALs, about therapy and/or the open discussion of being in therapy as uncongenial to the typically British way of being?  And if so, do you think that's changing at all, viz. that the American openness about therapy is leaking over to your side of the pond?
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: verbALs on April 18, 2012, 01:40:04 PM
I think a lot of the "things people don't talk about" are loosening up. However, the idea that a person would have a therapist the same way they might have a dentist; i.e. mental and dental health, isn't a natural one in the UK (but I don't want to talk like a spokesman for the whole country). The attitude that you "always look on the bright side of life" or don't want to appear too sincere, worthy or pompous about anything- because someone will "take the mickey" out of you, works against being too open about things that can be viewed as weaknesses. Part of that is a very working class attitude, where, in groups of blokes particularly, you would expect not much sympathy and a lot of personal comments.

I feel like I am only talking about a very specific point of view. People are a lot more relaxed where I live, but where I grew up......they weren't. So I only have that narrow city-dweller attitude with all the sharp edges intact. However the middle class attitude from what I have seen is "we don't like to talk about those things". So I think that adds up to a general desire to sweep things under the carpet. I could name a few other things that would contradict everything I have just said. "A quite air of amused embarrassment" how about that? You can't sum up a country, even a small one like this.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oneaprilday on April 18, 2012, 03:08:13 PM
Yes, all of that makes sense, based on my impressions.  But you're absolutely right - one can't sum up a country.  And while I implied that Americans are comfortable with the idea of therapy, that's a gross generalization, too.  In the community I live in/grew up in, people would never talk openly about that sort of thing; I noticed it much more in the conversations I had with those living in Southern California (when I lived there) and especially in the conversations with my friend who is an actor in L.A.  But I suppose I can't even generalize and say all L.A. show biz folks happily or openly discuss being in therapy.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bondo on April 19, 2012, 11:42:13 PM
A few months back I all but had a job lined up but federal funding fell short and they didn't fill the position. Recently I knew I was going to have at least a contract position writing a grant, they changed the terms of the grant such that the place I was gonna do the work for isn't eligible.

Fate and the federal government seem to be conspiring to keep me unemployed.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Lobby on April 20, 2012, 12:22:38 AM
:( So sorry to hear this Bondo.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: mañana on April 20, 2012, 08:18:57 AM
Damn, that stinks.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oneaprilday on April 20, 2012, 10:14:19 AM
So sorry to hear that, Bondo.  :(
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: MartinTeller on June 08, 2012, 09:53:32 AM
Feeling inadequate and frustrated with myself.

It's come to my attention that certain types of things I say in my reviews ("well shot", "couldn't relate to the characters") are quite shallow and pretty laughable to some people, people whose opinions and writings I respect.  I set myself up for disappointment in my own reviews.  I want to be respected (who doesn't?) but I usually don't really put in the effort to articulate myself or explore the reasons I have certain reactions.  I feel like my reviews are generally useful to no one, so why do I bother putting them out there?  I could write better & smarter than I do, but after half an hour of sitting at a keyboard, I just want to get on with my life, move on to the next film or whatever.  But then why write anything at all if I'm not going to a good job of it?  I have no enlightening insights, no astute observations.  I'm just another asshole with opinions about things.  I've often thought there's too many of those cluttering up the internet.  It's disheartening to realize I'm one of them.

How do I make this not sound like a pathetic "fishing for compliments" post?  I suppose I am fishing.  Is there any value to what I do, what I write?  Or should I stop wasting my time reviewing movies?
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sandy on June 08, 2012, 10:05:55 AM
Keep writing. I'm reading. I want to know if the characters are relatable and if the film is shot well. But that's not all that you are providing. Your view of a film is uniquely yours and valuable and provides me access to films that I may never get the opportunity to see.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Monty on June 08, 2012, 10:13:18 AM
Sounds like Songwriters, no Movie critics block. From someone who doesn't really have the time or patience to write reviews, I really admire those who do have the time and patience to keep writing reviews. Stick with it MT, you'll work it out.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: sdedalus on June 08, 2012, 10:31:24 AM
I read Emerson's post too, Martin, and also thought of myself.  We can only resolve try to do better.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: 1SO on June 08, 2012, 10:36:10 AM
First of all, I hope you know by now that once I finish a film I go to your site first because I have a good understanding of what you like and I know you've seen whatever obscure film I just watched. I especially like when there's more than 1 review because that means you rewatched it so A) you loved it and B) you have 2 different aspects to comment on. Sometimes I think my comments are just replies to your reviews.

It reads like you have a very clear idea of where you believe your writing falls short. It's just a question of answering 'why'. I re-read my reviews before I post and whenever I find the words 'think' or 'feel' I ask why. Why does a film earn the descriptor "well-shot"? Why couldn't you relate to the characters?

If you stop reviewing movies that just leaves me, verbALs, Bondo, Lobby, Antares, the occasional others and flieger's image collages. Keep building your body of work. Having all those reviews will actually feel like an accomplishment.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on June 08, 2012, 10:56:45 AM
The thing is, Martin, I read your reviews not for flowery prose or for deep insights in a film, but for a basic idea of what a movie is like before I see it.  You are one of the few writers I can trust to read before I watch a film-- you won't say too much and you'll give me a good idea of what to expect from the film.  I need those kind of reviews because I'm not in the mood to watch any kind of film, and I need to know what I'm getting into.

The fact that you say something basic about the film is important.  Maybe not insightful for those who have already seen the film, but essential for those of us who have not.  You are out there, watching stuff the rest of us have not and giving us an idea whether its the kind of film we would like.  Not that we would necessarily agree with you, but you give us the basic, essential information.

Please, don't change a thing.  There are other reviewers you respect because they do what they do.  But don't change what you do to try to be more like them.  Your writing, as it stands, is important already.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: verbALs on June 08, 2012, 11:57:17 AM
To ask, what I am aware is, probably, a stupid question, but what is the primary aim of the reviews you write? By this I mean, what do you aim to get out of writing?

You mentioned that you thought the reviews were useful to nobody. What use are they to you?

1) With the volume of films that you have seen, is the primary value in cataloguing your library of films; using your rankings to order them?

2) Do your reviews help to crystallise your thoughts on a movie? Writing thoughts down and following a train of thought to a (hopefully) coherent conclusion, that makes you understand a film, more fully.

3) Do you enjoy writing and, using film reviewing as a way to practice the skill of writing, do you expect your writing to improve; simply by repitition?

It is inevitable that sometimes what you write won't get a response, and expecting responses seems, to me anyway, hubristic. At those times, if you don't get a response, you may end up asking yourself what was the point. If you aren't writing primarily to serve a personal purpose, then that's a difficult question to answer.




Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Junior on June 08, 2012, 12:06:04 PM
If you like doing the writing there's no reason to stop. If you feel like you need to improve, just try doing something different. You'll screw up a few times, but you'll have given it a shot, at least. But don't change for others, change for yourself.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Antares on June 08, 2012, 12:10:17 PM
The thing is, Martin, I read your reviews not for flowery prose or for deep insights in a film, but for a basic idea of what a movie is like before I see it.

This
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: pixote on June 08, 2012, 12:12:53 PM
I write reviews mostly for myself. If anyone else cares, that's a bonus.

Oh, wait, I seem to have stopped writing reviews. Nevermind.

pixote
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: MartinTeller on June 08, 2012, 12:23:43 PM
Thanks for the responses, everyone.  I'm going to respond specifically to verbALs because he asked questions, but I appreciate all of your input.

To ask, what I am aware is, probably, a stupid question, but what is the primary aim of the reviews you write? By this I mean, what do you aim to get out of writing?

I don't know anymore.  That's a sobering thought.  Maybe I can flesh it out a bit...

You mentioned that you thought the reviews were useful to nobody. What use are they to you?

1) With the volume of films that you have seen, is the primary value in cataloguing your library of films; using your rankings to order them?

I suppose it is largely a way of tracking what I watch, keeping tabs on my likes and dislikes.  But at some point I must have thought I had something valuable to say or else I wouldn't have put them on the internet.  What's really depressing is when I started my reviews were even more shallow (and often ill-informed) than they are now.

2) Do your reviews help to crystallise your thoughts on a movie? Writing thoughts down and following a train of thought to a (hopefully) coherent conclusion, that makes you understand a film, more fully.

Yes, but sometimes I find myself saying "X is a good thing" when I could just as easily say "X is a bad thing" (or vice versa) and then I don't feel like I've come to any coherent conclusions at all.  Maybe it's time to stop thinking in terms of good/bad... that's a feeling that comes to me a lot but I don't know how to get past it.  I don't think I've developed the critical skillset to write about much beyond what I liked and what I didn't like.

3) Do you enjoy writing and, using film reviewing as a way to practice the skill of writing, do you expect your writing to improve; simply by repitition?

I enjoy it occasionally, when I feel I've written something clever.  Or when I've tried to promote a film I really loved (though I don't know how successful I am).  I think my writing has improved, but ever so slightly.  I'm wondering if I've plateau'ed.  Without devoting a lot more time to it than I care to, I don't see it getting better.

It is inevitable that sometimes what you write won't get a response, and expecting responses seems, to me anyway, hubristic. At those times, if you don't get a response, you may end up asking yourself what was the point. If you aren't writing primarily to serve a personal purpose, then that's a difficult question to answer.

You're right, it is hubristic.  It's my nature to crave validation for my efforts, no matter how minimal those efforts may be.  It's a characteristic I don't like about myself, and I don't like when I see it in others.


I think part of the reason I keep writing is just habit, some weird sense of obligation that I have to keep doing this.  That's not good.  Then again, being a quitter isn't good either.  This has been a pattern with me throughout my life... I want to be great at stuff without having to work hard at it.  When it doesn't pan out, I get discouraged.  Childish.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: sdedalus on June 08, 2012, 12:34:31 PM
I can only speak for myself, but I feel a lot better about my writing now that I've stopped trying to write about every movie I watch, instead waiting until I actually have something I really want to say before writing anything.  Watching as many movies as I do, it just got oppressive trying to keep up, such that a lot of what I would end up writing would be some variation on "well-shot, needs editing".  Now, I write less often, but what I do write is, I think, much more interesting.

We're all amateurs at this.  Which means, literally, we only do it because we love it.
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Post by: verbALs on June 08, 2012, 12:38:56 PM
That first point about cataloguing and ranking is interesting. You are certainly a lot further down the road towards "completism" than all but a few people here. However, there is only a finite space between the absolutely perfect masterpiece and the complete crap "worst film ever". If you are ranking everything into this finite space, it is no wonder if the gap into which to put a film on its own merits is narrowing, and you won't be able to see the wood for the trees.

You might be experiencing something that any devoted film fan must come across eventually. You want to treat each film as a precious entity, but the subtle differences get lost in the crudity of rankings and listings; and language only exacerbates that feeling. There are only so many ways of saying good rather than great.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on June 08, 2012, 12:41:42 PM
We can't respond to EVERYTHING you post, Martin.  That's a lot.  But between you and Bondo, you two are creating a backlog of reviews that are helpful to go back and look at before we watch a film, and the two of you are coming from very different perspectives, which is helpful.

And frankly, Martin, your reviews are more helpful because you are more generic. 

We all want to be told that our writing is provocative, or inspiring, or compelling.  But we can't all write that way.  What you are doing, Martin, is providing a reference work.  No one expects a reference work to be inspiring.  But when we need to get some basic information, we all turn to the reference, not to the inspiring. 

I hope that boosts your ego enough to keep you going  ;)

I write because I get inspired, which is why I don't write on movies all the time.  I watch a lot of films, but only get inspired occasionally.  In the end, we write because we must write, or because we love to write, and perhaps we hope that someone else will read what we've written.  But in the end, our writing has to be for ourselves, and we can invite others along for the ride.  Sometimes that works, sometimes it doesn't. 

I can't believe how many blog posts I poured my heart in only to have five hits on it.  That is so discouraging.  Sometimes discouraging enough that I will re-post it on another of my blogs, just to see if I can get more traffic.  But then I remember that it's okay.  I'll probably end up writing the same thing in a different way another time.  My writing evolves over time and one idea inspires another.  I need to not get frustrated about my audience.  I write because I need to write.  If anyone reads, well, that's not my responsibility.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: MartinTeller on June 08, 2012, 01:01:57 PM
I think I'm getting more depressed.  I know you meant to be encouraging, but... reference work?  Like IMDb?

I like the idea of not reviewing everything I watch.  I'm not sure the completist in me will allow it.  But maybe I could go back to my old 2- or 3-liner reviews for movies I genuinely don't have much to say about, instead of forcing myself to flesh out reviews that are never going to be very substantial, no matter how many extra words I squeeze in there.

And no, I don't expect responses to everything I post, and this isn't really about that anyway.  Well, I guess in a roundabut way it is, because my lack of confidence in my reviews is partially exacerbated by the lack of response to them.  But this honestly wasn't meant to be a "Why is everyone ignoring my reviews? waaaah" post.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Lobby on June 08, 2012, 04:36:25 PM
Feeling inadequate and frustrated with myself.


That's not necessarily a bad thing. I don't know any good writer who doesn't.


I could write better & smarter than I do, but after half an hour of sitting at a keyboard, I just want to get on with my life, move on to the next film or whatever.

So there is your issue in a nutshell, isn't it? The question is if you want this. If the enjoyment you get from it outweights the pain and effort of it. Only you can answer that.

Just so you know: I spend HOURS on every review and every musing I write. Insanely lot of time, which I don't even dare to think of adding up. My night sleep is suffering badly from it and I guess it's not sustainable over time.

I too am frustrated when the texts don't bend, don't touch, don't hook the way I want them to, when it all feels bland and meh. And sometimes my texts resonate with noone. But I keep doing it because - at the moment at least - the enjoyment I get out of writing, the feeling of selffulfilment - how false and shallow and self deceptive it may be - overshadows the frustration.

Considering how you think of your older texts I think actually see how you're developing over time. I think it would be a pity and a mistake if you went back to writing threeliners, even if those too certainly have a value.

But only you can tell what satisifies you as a writer. The best advice I can give is to dare to go a bit crazy. Be experimental. Try writing a review as a haiku once in a while. Or a letter. Try to write about the same movie in two different ways, with completely different audiences in your mind, one being an 80 year old lady, the other one a 15 year old kid. See what happens with your writing.

Just a couple of suggestions to loosen up your mind a bit. You need to relax. But also to not give in when it becomes tough. I believe you have a lot in you Martin, stuff that needs to be said and that there are people who want to hear. Please don't go silent.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on June 08, 2012, 06:18:19 PM
I think I'm getting more depressed.  I know you meant to be encouraging, but... reference work?  Like IMDb?

Well, then that's a fail on my writing.

No, not like IMDB.  You are a person, not a committee.  But perhaps I'd better not keep this line going for fear of depressing you more.  I just wanted to let you know that your work is appreciated as it is.
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Post by: MartinTeller on June 08, 2012, 07:00:36 PM
I appreciate that, and I certainly didn't mean to make you feel bad about trying to make me feel better.

And thanks again everyone for the words of advice and encouragement.  I haven't really figured out yet where I'm going with this, for now I guess I'm just going to keep chugging along, trying to feel out the right direction for me to go with my review writing.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: smirnoff on June 08, 2012, 09:53:44 PM
You can pour an ocean pool through a kitchen funnel, but if you try to do it in a day much of it will overflow and be lost. I believe that same principle can be applied to movie watching. There is a limit to the rate at which the mind can accumulate and store significant memories. It IS possible to have more film experiences than you can process over a given period, so, in a way, reviewing becomes supplemental storage. You can put down in words thoughts and feelings that would otherwise evaporate. Because lets be honest, what's the difference between a film you can't remember and a film you never watched? When you watch THAT many movies, sometimes, if the film isn't particularly impactful, the only way to mark the occasion is to force yourself to say something about it, otherwise it basically didn't happen. And nobody wants to feel like they just wasted 2 hours. That creates a kind of obligation though, and pressure to keep up. Especially if you have a completists' drive like Martin.

Ultimately I think you have to take a look at what your priorities are. Is it enough to just enjoy the 2 hours and then let the experience fade, if that is indeed its fate? Or is important for you to accumulate a broad knowledge and experience base, among other things?
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: 1SO on August 06, 2012, 05:57:33 PM
I don't understand medical insurance. I started work on the 26th. Turned in my paperwork, including signed insurance information on the first day. Got my appendix taken out on the 28th. Insurance company is saying my coverage didn't take effect till Aug 1st. This makes no sense to me. What if I was injured on the job on Monday or Tuesday before my coverage was considered in place?

Not looking forward to fighting the system on this and I feel like somehow I'm going to lose.
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Post by: smirnoff on August 06, 2012, 06:26:03 PM
That's awful!
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Post by: jdc on August 06, 2012, 07:32:16 PM
I don't understand medical insurance. I started work on the 26th. Turned in my paperwork, including signed insurance information on the first day. Got my appendix taken out on the 28th. Insurance company is saying my coverage didn't take effect till Aug 1st. This makes no sense to me. What if I was injured on the job on Monday or Tuesday before my coverage was considered in place?

Not looking forward to fighting the system on this and I feel like somehow I'm going to lose.

If you were injured on the job, most likely the company's Workmen's comp insurance has to cover you, not the personal insurance that you are now covered on.  Workplace injuries often will become the company's liability (same while on business travel).  But that really is of no help to you.

This really sucks, I think you really need to see if HR can help your case showing that you signed and submitted the papers before this occurred.  Insurance companies are not likely to budge. 

Sorry, win or lose, the fight will be frustrating.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sandy on August 06, 2012, 08:39:05 PM
The worst. I'm so sorry 1SO.
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Post by: Lobby on August 07, 2012, 01:05:10 AM
Sorry to hear about your troubles 1SO.

Once again I feel so grateful about having access to free healthcare, not having to worry about insurances.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on August 07, 2012, 02:06:50 AM
1SO, be sure to contact the hospital and tell them about your woes with the insurance company.  They will have other options for you, hopefully.  But contact them immediately.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bondo on August 07, 2012, 06:30:54 AM
My insurance at work doesn't start until Sept. 1, over 5 weeks after I started. I do have my old insurance continuing up to that point though. Either way, this just isn't a sane way to organize health insurance for a people.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Emiliana on August 08, 2012, 11:06:10 AM
I just got home (comparatively early) from a really stressful day at work (think 'close to tears' levels of stress). Boy who lives in my building has his 18th birthday today and is celebrating in the garden with 15 friends and abolutely dreadful German hip-hop (turned up really loud). He announced it in advance and asked for understanding on this special occasion, but still, it's almost causing my second nervous breakdown of the day. Thank God I am leaving in an hour to go to a friend's house and see Terminator 2 for the first time!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: AAAutin on August 08, 2012, 11:20:25 AM
Thank God I am leaving in an hour to go to a friend's house and see Terminator 2 for the first time!

Hate to be the bearer of bad news, but: Schwarzenegger raps his entire part in German. (And yet, somehow, it's still not as obnoxious as Eddie Furlong's incessant whining.)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Emiliana on August 08, 2012, 11:53:54 AM
Hate to be the bearer of bad news, but: Schwarzenegger raps his entire part in German. (And yet, somehow, it's still not as obnoxious as Eddie Furlong's incessant whining.)

Hah! Schwarzenegger and both his English and German can be a great source of comedy for me, so that may be just what I need today ;)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: pixote on August 08, 2012, 12:06:22 PM
Hate to be the bearer of bad news, but: Schwarzenegger raps his entire part in German. (And yet, somehow, it's still not as obnoxious as Eddie Furlong's incessant whining.)

Hah! Schwarzenegger and both his English and German can be a great source of comedy for me, so that may be just what I need today ;)

His Spanish is a treat in T2 as well. Your time of whimpering is at an end.

pixote
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Tequila on August 08, 2012, 12:36:54 PM
You should try to smile every once in a while (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1ANUP5-aW4E).
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Post by: smirnoff on August 08, 2012, 04:03:13 PM
T2? First time? Your day just went from worst to best! At least I hope it will. :)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Emiliana on August 09, 2012, 06:01:53 AM
Thanks, you three! The day turned around completely once I was at my friend's - we laughed at Arnie's attempts at smiling and speaking (whatever language he was going for there...), and a good time was had. I think I slightly prefer Terminator part 1, but I was surprised how many iconic images I recognized in T2.

Friends are awesome (and that includes real life as well as online ones).
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Post by: oneaprilday on August 09, 2012, 11:39:42 AM
Glad it all turned out so well, Em!
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Post by: Clovis8 on August 12, 2012, 01:33:44 PM
My insurance at work doesn't start until Sept. 1, over 5 weeks after I started. I do have my old insurance continuing up to that point though. Either way, this just isn't a sane way to organize health insurance for a people.

The connection between employment and health insurance might be the single most backwards and illogical aspect of the US social system.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bondo on August 31, 2012, 02:14:12 PM
My grandmother, last of my grandparents, has been fading the past year and then suffered a stroke this past week. I was planning to visit on Monday to see her a last time but she passed away this morning. Thankfully my new employer is being very accommodating to let me get to the funeral.

Given her state it is somewhat a tender mercy but it still feels sudden.  :'(
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Post by: smirnoff on August 31, 2012, 02:23:47 PM
Sorry to hear that Bondo.
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Post by: MartinTeller on August 31, 2012, 03:23:19 PM
Sorry for your loss, Bondo.
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Post by: oneaprilday on August 31, 2012, 03:32:42 PM
Such sad news - I'm so sorry, Bondo.
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Post by: Junior on August 31, 2012, 04:08:33 PM
Sorry, Bondo.
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Post by: Lobby on August 31, 2012, 04:15:43 PM
*hugs*
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on September 01, 2012, 12:09:10 AM
It is so hard to lose a loved one suddenly.  The same thing happened to one of my grandparents, the one I was closest to.  Be at peace.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: FLYmeatwad on September 01, 2012, 10:01:53 AM
Sorry to hear, Bondo. Always tough.
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Post by: Sandy on September 01, 2012, 11:38:03 AM
Sad to hear this Bondo. Take care.
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Post by: 'Noke on November 23, 2012, 06:28:55 AM
I had to do an essay for a module of mine about Modern Europe, and the question I picked to do it on was the Cold War entitled "Why Did the Cold War last as long as it did?". I thought it would be interesting to look at presidential elections and transfers of power between Russian leaders and why that kept passing power over to Cold War hawks or at least people who couldn't . However, I was worried that wouldn't quite fly with my tutor (who grades the essays), so I asked her if I could focus on that one particular area of the Cold War and politics of the Cold War and she said I could, that I just need to make it explicit that I was focusing on that one area. So I wrote that essay, making sure I spelled out what I was looking at, and that I was focusing on a particular area. 

I ended up getting a D-, and the main reason for it was because "While the role of leaders in the US and Russia are a contributing factor to the length of the Cold War, it is not the only factor. In order to analyse the essay question to its full potential, you need to address a number of other issues, such as politics (esp post WWII), economies (eg Marshall Plan) the Communist-Capitalist division/tension, nuclear arms race, space race, and economics - one reason is not really sufficient." The essay is worth 40% of my final grade for this module.

Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Lobby on November 23, 2012, 07:35:12 AM
Sorry to hear that. Perhaps you can talk to her referring to what she earlier had said to you and see if she can change her mind about the grade.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bondo on November 23, 2012, 08:16:13 AM
How long was the essay meant to be? Hard to picture usefully addressing all those topics unless it was quite substantial.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: mañana on November 23, 2012, 08:20:43 AM
How long was the essay meant to be? Hard to picture usefully addressing all those topics unless it was quite substantial.
Yeah, no kidding.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: 'Noke on November 23, 2012, 08:31:33 AM
How long was the essay meant to be? Hard to picture usefully addressing all those topics unless it was quite substantial.

About 1,500 words. We were just meant to go over all the reasons, not really go deeply into them.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: mañana on November 23, 2012, 08:48:35 AM
I don't like this marker one bit. Clearly a total dud.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sandy on November 23, 2012, 10:24:03 AM
I'm sorry to hear that 'Noke. :( I don't know if this is helpful, but your tutor's need for power/control is strong. If you approached her in an apologetic/submissive manner like, "I'm sorry I wasn't able to communicate with you better," or "I'm sorry I misunderstood... but wonder if there was something I could do to make it right." Acknowledging her power over you and giving her the opening to bestow her benevolence could work.


I don't like playing that game, but when it comes to a grade, a little acting might be called for.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: 'Noke on November 23, 2012, 10:50:36 AM
I'm sorry to hear that 'Noke. :( I don't know if this is helpful, but your tutor's need for power/control is strong. If you approached her in an apologetic/submissive manner like, "I'm sorry I wasn't able to communicate with you better," or "I'm sorry I misunderstood... but wonder if there was something I could do to make it right." Acknowledging her power over you and giving her the opening to bestow her benevolence could work.


I don't like playing that game, but when it comes to a grade, a little acting might be called for.

Heh, that's an idea. the thing is though, she's actually really nice and not a hard marker, I'm sure if I explain where I was coming from she'll be sympathetic and let me get away with something a bit higher.

(It also doesn't help that I messed up one or two things through complete sheer stupidity.)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sandy on November 23, 2012, 11:04:28 AM
I really hope that will work out 'Noke.

And, by what I've read about your knowledge of that subject, there isn't a sheer stupidity bone in your body. :)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Junior on November 25, 2012, 08:06:14 AM
My 29 year old cousin had to have an emergency wedding before being put into an induced coma because her cancer has become too much for her to handle. They had a wedding date of December 8th, but it didn't look like she'd make it to then. She's too young for all of this bullshit.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sandy on November 25, 2012, 11:31:42 AM
Junior, that's sobering, but having the wedding early is really touching and readjusts my perspectives overall. Thanks for sharing.
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Post by: oldkid on November 25, 2012, 01:25:10 PM
Dang.  We'll be praying for your family, Junior.
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Post by: Lobby on November 25, 2012, 03:20:06 PM
That's heartbreaking.
Thoughts.
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Post by: ses on November 25, 2012, 03:43:33 PM
I'm so sorry Junior, I am thinking of you and your family.
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Post by: Junior on November 25, 2012, 03:53:57 PM
Thanks guys, I really appreciate your words and thoughts.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: 'Noke on November 25, 2012, 05:01:41 PM
That's so sad Junior. I hope things turn out for the best.
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Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on December 12, 2012, 11:40:40 AM
What's with all the crankiness spreading in these parts?
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on December 12, 2012, 11:43:40 AM
On the boards in general or this thread?

Perhaps it's the spirit of the season?
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Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on December 12, 2012, 11:53:43 AM
In general. Seems like I can't open a thread without some general hyper-negative attitude towards something lingering in the air.
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Post by: FLYmeatwad on December 12, 2012, 11:56:19 AM
Forget it, Jake. It's Awards Season.
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Post by: St. Martin the Bald on December 13, 2012, 03:14:50 PM
What's with all the crankiness spreading in these parts?

Noticed this as well.
Buncha bah-humbugs...
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ses on December 31, 2012, 10:32:17 AM
One of my dad's best friends slipped while he was snow shoveling and hit his head, he has been in a coma and unresponsive since.  The have decided to take him off life support.  He is only 60 years old.  When I saw him last week, he was talking about driving across country with my uncle to help haul my stuff to Denver when I move.  I used to make him special cookies for my dad's Superbowl party every year.  My heart is really heavy today.
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Post by: oldkid on December 31, 2012, 10:36:07 AM
That's terrible, ses. 
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Post by: oneaprilday on January 02, 2013, 01:32:24 AM
One of my dad's best friends slipped while he was snow shoveling and hit his head, he has been in a coma and unresponsive since.  The have decided to take him off life support.  He is only 60 years old.  When I saw him last week, he was talking about driving across country with my uncle to help haul my stuff to Denver when I move.  I used to make him special cookies for my dad's Superbowl party every year.  My heart is really heavy today.
Just saw this. I'm so sorry, ses. 
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Post by: ses on January 02, 2013, 02:09:24 AM
One of my dad's best friends slipped while he was snow shoveling and hit his head, he has been in a coma and unresponsive since.  The have decided to take him off life support.  He is only 60 years old.  When I saw him last week, he was talking about driving across country with my uncle to help haul my stuff to Denver when I move.  I used to make him special cookies for my dad's Superbowl party every year.  My heart is really heavy today.
Just saw this. I'm so sorry, ses.

Thanks.  They took him off life support today and he did not breathe on his own, so his family made the decision to let him go.  It's very sad.
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Post by: Emiliana on January 02, 2013, 06:34:18 AM
I somehow missed this. I am so sorry, ses! Thinking of you!
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Post by: worm@work on January 02, 2013, 06:53:21 AM
I somehow missed this. I am so sorry, ses! Thinking of you!
Same here. Am so sorry :(
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Post by: ses on January 02, 2013, 08:49:52 AM
Thank you all.
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Post by: Sandy on January 02, 2013, 09:13:51 AM
I'm so sorry about the loss of your friend ses.
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Post by: ses on January 02, 2013, 09:18:34 AM
Thank you Sandy.
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Post by: ¡Keith! on January 04, 2013, 01:56:00 AM
thats terrible ses, so sorry :'(
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Corndog on January 14, 2013, 09:38:06 PM
I'm not quite sure where better to put this, though I feel it doesn't truly belong here. It is not so much a whimper as it is a dilemma and more of a bind and tough decision(s). But I know I can always trust the Filmspotters out there to at least listen.

As some of you know, I began my first "grown up" job back last February. I love it. The company I work for is great, and the people I work with are great. I love my boss. My position has been some what of a hybrid one. Speaking in generalizations that are specific enough to understand the situation, I work for a software company. I am currently in a group that helps educate the customer on how to generically use the product. But I was hired on to be an on site consultant, meeting with customers, learning their business, and how they should use the software based on their business. So in recent months, I have been travelling quite a bit, and being on the road for whole weeks. I knew this was the goal for my role in the company when I was hired.

I am open minded and wanted to give it a shot and see if I would take to it, even though I had my apprehensions before I started the travelling. I love seeing new places and meeting new people. I am very amiable and make friends quickly; I am not shy about talking to strangers. I am young and unattached (no girlfriend, still live at home - which is another thing, I want to move out, but since I travel so much it doesn't make much financial sense to pay for an apartment when I am only going to be there half the time). These are things that make me a pretty good fit for the job. However, I am a very passionate person, and I am not passionate about this new role I have started to evolve in to. Part of it is the job itself, of which I lack any real confidence. But a lot of it also has to do with the travel. I love my family and friends and being gone all week is tough on my social life. Being single leaves me unattached, but a travelling career may also leave me that way, which is the complete opposite of what I want out of life. I work to live; I am not a workaholic and do not live to work. I have also felt very strung out, stressed and over extended with my feet in both rings at the same time. I find it difficult to get the work done I need to get done in either area since I basically have two jobs now. This is no fun.

As my transition moves forward, I obviously intend to talk to my boss about my future and my feelings on the situation, it is the only logical step. But there is another wrinkle as the company is reorganizing slightly, and the generic education side of things, the side I much prefer and very much enjoy, is falling under new management, completely separate from the other, consulting side. So where it could have been easy to just tell my boss that I prefer to stay on this side of things, now it gets somewhat complicated with the unknown of the reorganization and what would be a new boss if I leave consulting. I am standing on the rope bridge over the middle of a gorge with people cutting from either side. From a fundamental perspective, I am struggling to decide which side I run to, with the thought in the back of my mind that either choice I make, I may still not make it end of the bridge before it gets cut. I don't know if I stay in consulting if I will ever grow to like it, and I don't know anything about what could happen if I stay in education with the uncertainty of the reorganization.

Oh, and my friends and I have started a serious discussion about moving out west somewhere we would be closer to awesome national parks and mountains and such things. The great thing about my job is I can do it remotely when I am not travelling for it, but this discussion just seems to have added pressure to my ultimate decision, even if it doesn't really affect it from a job choice perspective. Deciding to make such a huge life choice, which also seems to go against the whole being away from family and friends qualm, can be stressful. I am very unsure of my future and a lot of it has to do with not quite knowing what I want I suppose.

I'm 24 and at the point in my life where I have the ability to make these huge decisions without too much affect, save the future. But it is definitely difficult finding the right conclusions that will make me happy, which is my main #1 goal.

Thanks for letting me air my thoughts and for any potential advice or thoughtful things you can send my way,
Adam

P.S. And yes, I did just watch Up in the Air to try and find the answers lol. I am a movie buff after all. I am definitely leaning toward one way over the other (towards education), but I also feel I do not want to disappoint my current boss and what she had in mind/expected from me (even though I know this is about me and my future and I shouldn't think about it that way).
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Post by: oldkid on January 14, 2013, 09:47:13 PM
In a sense you have a "good" problem.  This is a conflict in the midst of a pretty good space.  You are getting some professional experience and heading toward settling in to a relatively successful life.

Even though the current job is a bit uncomfy, I would keep at it for a bit to see what materializes in the transition.  You may not want the job long term, but you can change later, and in the meantime you are making good contacts that could help you in the long term.  To remain in a position for at least a year shows stability and asking for a shift after that shows that you want to move up (or at least that you aren't interested in being a Clooney kinda guy). 

On the other hand, it can't hurt to discuss your options with your boss.  Just to see what those options might be, whether you want to make a move now or not.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: jdc on January 14, 2013, 09:58:48 PM
A few things to consider... Usually I tell an employee that just took a job if they come wanting to switch that there is an expectation that they stay for at least a year to 18 months.  Tough too suddenly change for the boss when it takes time to find a suitable person for the job.

I am biased towards the travel.  It has allowed me to see a lot, learn to deal with people from many countries, learn differences in culture and form a lot of new relationships on top of the friends that I always have. 

Sometimes I do miss a lot of things going on "back home" if I am gone for extended periods which a few times has been months at a time. But the things I miss are just different from the things I experience.

I can't say it ever hurt my social life.  As a pretty anti-social person most of my life, it did mostly the opposite.  My social life expanded in ways I never imagined vs if I had stayed in a local job and hanging around the same group of friends I always hang out with.  I probably would have never grown out in the way I have.

Anyway... you are in a lucky position it seems.  I sometimes try to tell people don't worry about being over passionate about what you are doing now.  It still offers a lot of changes to learn and grow and give a means for those things that you are passionate about which are hopefully outside of work.

Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bondo on January 15, 2013, 06:42:14 AM
To some degree, if you've proven yourself an excellent employee, a company will want to work with you to find a position (fill a need they have) that will suit you, because they don't want to lose good employees who are trained in.

After six months in my job, I've just transitioned into a new position (a move that no one at this company would consider rushed). For me, the dual considerations in terms of long-term are location, what is it worth to try to get back to Colorado nearer my family, and perhaps more immediate, whether I think I can keep working overnights in a longer term. I expect I've averaged five hours of sleep the past six months. It greatly abridges many social opportunities (though I have a great group of overnight shift friends).
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on January 16, 2013, 12:21:12 AM
Not a good week.

Last week my phone was stolen. 

Today my computer was stolen.

:P

Lost some of my writings, all of my account records, all the pictures I edited. 

Don't know how often I'll be able to get on until I get a new computer.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: 1SO on January 16, 2013, 01:26:46 AM
Today my computer was stolen.

:P

Oh No!. One of my biggest fears. It makes me bend over in pain, as if you said "Today I lost an appendage." I seriously hope it just magically turns up. Or someone finds your contact info on the computer and reaches you.
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Post by: Sandy on January 16, 2013, 02:07:48 AM
I'm so sorry oldkid.  :(
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Post by: saltine on January 16, 2013, 03:36:27 AM
That is terrible, oldkid, just awful. 
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Post by: Totoro on January 16, 2013, 07:10:04 AM
That CINECAST!ing sucks, Oldkid. Losing an ipod last November was difficult for me, I cannot imagine losing my laptop.

Praying that it shows up.
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Post by: ses on January 16, 2013, 07:36:39 AM
I'm sorry oldkid, that really stinks.
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Post by: oldkid on January 17, 2013, 12:11:04 AM
Thanks for the sympathy, folks.


To add more damage to it, I just remembered that my back up hard drive was in the same case, so I lost everything, except what is posted on the internet.  Also my Kindle.  Much sadness. 

On the other hand, my friends are raising funds so I can get another computer.  Friends are better than computers (although it's nice to have both).
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Post by: smirnoff on January 17, 2013, 11:22:32 PM
I feel so bad. :(

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Post by: AAAutin on January 18, 2013, 05:08:26 AM
I feel so bad. :(

Because you stole it? THEN GIVE IT BACK!

On the other hand, my friends are raising funds so I can get another computer.

If you were to set up a PayPal account, I'm sure there'd be plenty of people around here who would be willing to kick in a little coin. (Not me, of course, but y'know, people.)

Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on January 18, 2013, 10:04:43 AM
I do have a paypal account, but I have received enough to get me a new one.  Thanks.  New computer ordered, waiting for shipping.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on March 08, 2013, 01:44:39 PM
Got 3 rejection letters from PhD programs today. Unless UCLA accepts me and offers me a pretty sweet financial offering/TA position, PhD isn't going to happen right now.

Yea, it's a bit disappointing, not completely unexpected. I could have done certain things to be a more desirable candidate, but I didn't go into Graduate School thinking I would want to do PhD, it wasn't until the last year where I ended up having a lot of family/medical problems that distracted me from being more focused on that goal.

Still, I think it could be good getting into the workforce after 6 years of education. A change of lifestyle and scenery would probably bode well for my personal growth.
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Post by: ses on March 08, 2013, 01:53:43 PM
I'm sorry Sam, will you be able to apply for next year?  How specialized is your program?  Are there alternative options?
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Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on March 08, 2013, 03:46:24 PM
There's nothing to keep me from applying against next year, although I imagine I would have to do a lot in the next year to get accepted given the fact I've been almost unanimously rejected so far.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: saltine on March 08, 2013, 10:17:24 PM
Sam,you already know the part about the shut door and the open window so I'll just say that I'm sorry your first choice didn't work out.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on April 10, 2013, 03:52:47 PM
I have a friend and housemate who is in ICU.  He is old before his time (he's 67) because of living on the street for so long and other issues, and us in the house talked about the possibility of dying sometime.  I thought I was prepared, but I'm really not.

If he had just dropped dead, or not woken up one day, I was ready for that.  But death doesn't seem to work that way anymore.  I've had dozens of my friends die, but usually it is sudden, or they make choices to (basically) end their lives by their actions.  Mike wasn't like that, neither was Rick who was in my house last year.  And death isn't sudden, but a long, drawn out process.  When we have hope and very, very gradually, that hope is dashed until we realize that they will linger, as different people, and just fade away, as completely different people than who they were the rest of their lives.

Not only that, but I find myself (as a pastor of people who are often estranged from their family) making life and death choices that family should be doing.  I'm not complaining about this so much as realizing that I am not emotionally prepared to deal with this.  Almost all of us have to make these kinds of choices for our parents as they grow older, but to have this long-term grief, and anger, and being "wise" (or at least boldly faking it) for many people is too difficult for anyone.

I remember a few years ago wishing that family didn't have as much power over people they didn't really know.  I've had family call me and tell me that they were glad that their homeless family member was dead.  I've had family call me and blame me for their deaths because I didn't force them to make better choices.   Family like that shouldn't really be making life and death decisions.  On the other hand, the burden of making these choices, and not knowing if one has the right to make these decisions, as well as wondering if I'm smart enough or wise enough or worthy to make such choices. 

Especially when I am struggling deeply with the ethical issues that our increased medicine gives us.  More and more often choices have to be made for people who are mentally incapacitated.  We-- family members or otherwise-- are asked "what would they chose in this situation?", and there is, of course, no answer, unless they have a living will.   They haven't been in this situation before.  And hardly anyone talks to their friends about what they would want if they were going to live their lives in a lower mental capacity for the rest of their lives.  It's all guesswork.

Sorry, just rambling.  Not looking for answers.  I guess I'm just processing my grief, and as a pastor there's very few venues to vent.
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Post by: Monty on April 10, 2013, 06:37:15 PM
Hi oldkid, I sorry to hear about this. The only experience I have of this is of my grandfather (my mom's dad) who hung on (grimly) until he had seen all of his children (told them he was ok, ready to meet their mother), tried to make sure everything was in order, then he passed rather quickly, he was in his nineties at the time though. Maybe this is the same sort of scenario with your houseguest, he's hoping to make some final connection with his family before he passes over. Have you tried to contact his family?
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: AAAutin on April 10, 2013, 06:45:25 PM
I guess I'm just processing my grief, and as a pastor there's very few venues to vent.

Hey, man, you've earned the right; and especially in our current cultural era of mundane self-martyrdom, you have more right than most.
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Post by: Sandy on April 10, 2013, 07:17:56 PM
Yes, process away oldkid. I don't have any answers, except, be kind to yourself. Whatever choices you make, I know they will be good ones. Even though it doesn't take away your burdens, know I'm/we're listening.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on April 10, 2013, 08:38:52 PM
It made me feel just to write it out and know that someone was listening.  Thanks, folks.

Monty, I am desperately trying to get a hold of his family-- he has a daughter, and no one knows her name or anything about her other than she has a son and lives locally.  He didn't put her as "next of kin" on his medical forms a couple years ago, so I don't know what that means.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Lobby on April 11, 2013, 01:46:21 AM
@Oldkid: Last night I watched Mea Maximus Culpa: Silence in the House of God.

I don't know if you've seen it; it's about the sexual abuse of children and the cover-up of it in the Catholic church. And I was absolutely sickened by it. It made me feel at loss about what to think of the entire Catholic church and somehow this started to shade my view on Christianity as such.

Then I read your post, once again mirroring your concerns, your compassion, the way you don't just preach the word but live it. It felt like a remedy, restoring something of what had been lost watching that documentary. What you share here makes a difference.

Thank you.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on April 11, 2013, 08:56:15 AM
I haven't watched that doc, but I have watched Deliver Us From Evil, which covers the same subject, particularly in California.   The Catholic Church has much to answer for.  However, that same church has helped literally millions of people escape the worst of poverty.  It's a mixed bag, as is all Christianity.

Which is why, although I must shamefacedly admit that I am a Christian, I much more readily associate with Jesus.  I'd rather be not a Christian with Jesus than to be a "normal" Christian. 

But now we are heading into Religion thread territory.  Thanks, Lobby.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Antares on April 11, 2013, 10:04:54 AM
I remember a few years ago wishing that family didn't have as much power over people they didn't really know.  I've had family call me and tell me that they were glad that their homeless family member was dead.  I've had family call me and blame me for their deaths because I didn't force them to make better choices.   Family like that shouldn't really be making life and death decisions.  On the other hand, the burden of making these choices, and not knowing if one has the right to make these decisions, as well as wondering if I'm smart enough or wise enough or worthy to make such choices. 

But at least you're making an effort to enrich these people's lives and are showing a level of care that their real families can't or won't attempt to achieve.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on April 11, 2013, 12:47:50 PM
I just got a call from my friend's daughter.  Turns out he hadn't seen her for 15 years, when he told us he was visiting her regularly.  It's a sad time for her to get back involved in his life.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oneaprilday on April 11, 2013, 05:43:04 PM
Thanks for sharing, oldkid. My warmest thoughts and prayers to you.  It's all so sad. It's so wonderful though that you have been such a strength in your friend's life - there to the end and there for the family, too.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: MartinTeller on April 15, 2013, 06:42:07 PM
I got laid off today.  Looks like I'll have plenty of time to watch movies now.
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Post by: Junior on April 15, 2013, 06:46:00 PM
That super sucks, Martin. Here's hoping you don't have too much time between jobs and that the time is full of good movies.
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Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on April 15, 2013, 06:59:15 PM
What a bummer. Good luck with finding a new job.
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Post by: oneaprilday on April 15, 2013, 07:16:51 PM
Oh, no, Martin - I'm so sorry. That's really rough. Wishing you all the best in the days to come.
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Post by: Sandy on April 15, 2013, 07:23:01 PM
Sorry to hear that Martin. I echo the other's sentiments. Hope there are good things coming your way.
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Post by: mañana on April 15, 2013, 08:23:34 PM
I'm really sorry to hear that.
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Post by: jdc on April 15, 2013, 08:39:49 PM
sucks.. sorry to hear that
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Post by: AAAutin on April 15, 2013, 08:43:28 PM
I got laid off today.

S'rough all over; but your many years of experience should help. Best of luck.
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Post by: george96 on April 15, 2013, 08:46:12 PM
I hope you land on your feet, Martin!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on April 16, 2013, 12:43:02 AM
Sorry to hear that, Martin.  Hopefully a better job will come your way.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Monty on April 16, 2013, 01:59:04 AM
Sorry to hear that Martin :(. Hope you get something soon, enjoy your movie watching in mean time though :).
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Lobby on April 16, 2013, 02:25:07 AM
Oh dear. I'm really really sorry about this Martin, echoing everyone else in my hopes that you'll find a new one quickly.
*hugs*
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: MartinTeller on April 16, 2013, 02:40:02 AM
Thanks for the kind words and support, all.  My wife is still out of work, so this is an especially tough blow.  After moving, job hunting is the thing I hate doing the most.  Losing the health insurance sucks majorly too.

I had a fairly good attitude about it for a few hours, but now the anger is starting to creep in.  I was with that company almost 9 goddamn years, but do they let go the kid fresh out of college who they hired a few months ago?  No, they let go me, the more expensive one.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Lobby on April 16, 2013, 03:01:51 AM
The idea that healthcare requires insurances paid by your employer and that you stand without it, only with access to basic level healtcare, if you lose your job... it's absolutely mindboggling to me. One of the things I'll never ever understand about the system in US.

http://www.theatlantic.com/business/archive/2013/04/the-myth-of-low-tax-america-why-americans-arent-getting-their-moneys-worth/274945/

But I guess this is more a topic for the political part of this forum. I'm just sorry that you're affected this way too.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: AAAutin on April 16, 2013, 04:45:32 AM
Losing the health insurance sucks majorly too.

I'd assume you'd be COBRA (http://www.dol.gov/ebsa/cobra.html)-eligible in the interim.
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Post by: Bondo on April 16, 2013, 07:11:45 AM
Yeah, COBRA should be available through January 2014 when the Obamacare exchanges go into effect and you'll be able to get individual coverage in the market without any discrimination on preexisting conditions (or lack of continuous coverage) and the like and get subsidies to pay for it. But COBRA certainly isn't cheap. It would have been crushing for me a couple years ago when I lost my job if not for the subsidy at the time that was part of the stimulus package.

Depending on your medical needs (i.e. routine costs), an alternative would be a short-term (for the rest of the year) policy that has a high-deductible to basically cover you in the event of a major medical issue. This would probably be cheaper than COBRA.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: MartinTeller on April 16, 2013, 11:13:16 AM
The COBRA coverage is crazy expensive.  I need to look into other options.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: don s. on April 16, 2013, 11:19:24 AM
The idea that healthcare requires insurances paid by your employer and that you stand without it, only with access to basic level healtcare, if you lose your job... it's absolutely mindboggling to me. One of the things I'll never ever understand about the system in US.

You and me both.

I'm fortunate that my company offers a subsidy for COBRA (for a term based on my years of service; in my case, five months) that basically means I'll be paying the same amount out of my severance checks that I did for my original health plan. (I was laid off two weeks ago, along with nine other people in our department of 12. I'm also extremely fortunate in that my 23 years of service entitle me to almost six months' worth of severance income.)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: MartinTeller on April 16, 2013, 11:22:37 AM
Sorry to hear that, don, but at least you got a good package.  For me, 9 years of service = 6 weeks of severance pay.  Plus my vacation time payout.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: don s. on April 16, 2013, 11:48:54 AM
Yeah, I'm fortunate. And my vacation payout was eight weeks' worth -- another benefit of having hung around as long as I did.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Dave the Necrobumper on April 16, 2013, 04:37:22 PM
I got laid off today.  Looks like I'll have plenty of time to watch movies now.

I'm fortunate that my company offers a subsidy for COBRA (for a term based on my years of service; in my case, five months) that basically means I'll be paying the same amount out of my severance checks that I did for my original health plan. (I was laid off two weeks ago, along with nine other people in our department of 12. I'm also extremely fortunate in that my 23 years of service entitle me to almost six months' worth of severance income.)

Sorry to hear about this Martin and Don. Hopefully employment finds you both, soon.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: sdb_1970 on April 16, 2013, 05:41:19 PM
I got laid off today.  Looks like I'll have plenty of time to watch movies now.

I was laid off two weeks ago, along with nine other people in our department of 12. I'm also extremely fortunate in that my 23 years of service entitle me to almost six months' worth of severance income.

No matter how competent you are at whatever you do, it's only a matter of time before almost all of us have to go through moments like this in life.  Certain goods and services become no longer needed.  Businesses are mismanaged and/or "consolidated".  Sometimes it just comes down to "fit."  Whatever the case may be, I will just relay the best piece of advice I have ever received in such a situation:  "Don't take it personally."
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on April 17, 2013, 10:49:04 PM
The plant explosion (http://www.kwtx.com/home/headlines/Explosion-Injuries-Reported-At-West-Fertilizer-Plant-203505331.html) in West happened near a rest home that houses several of my older relatives, including my grandmother. I've heard a couple of them are safe, but still haven't heard about my grandmother. Half my family went up to the local hospital in order to see if she is there. Hoping that she is okay.
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Post by: MartinTeller on April 17, 2013, 10:53:29 PM
I hope so, too, Sam.
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Post by: ses on April 17, 2013, 11:00:49 PM
I hope so too Sam.  Thinking of you and your family.
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Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on April 17, 2013, 11:30:57 PM
I just got word that she was admitted to the ER minutes ago. My parents are already up at the hospital so hopefully I'll get an update soon. Glad we know she's being taken care of as we had no idea where she was or how she was doing for the past 3 and a half hours.
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Post by: oldkid on April 17, 2013, 11:37:31 PM
I pray that she is well.
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Post by: saltine on April 17, 2013, 11:53:20 PM
Oh, Sam, please keep us informed.  It's a real tragedy for that little town and its residents.
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Post by: oneaprilday on April 17, 2013, 11:57:52 PM
Praying all will be well, too.  Keep us posted, Sam
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Post by: Sandy on April 18, 2013, 12:05:26 AM
Waiting alongside you Sam.
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Post by: Lobby on April 18, 2013, 12:07:01 AM
Hoping for the best Sam.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on April 18, 2013, 12:12:18 AM
I haven't heard anything new. Going to try to stay up and try to keep extended family informed as my parents are the only family members I know who are at the hospital right now.

I did just watch the press conference and it's sad to hear that they have confirmed that their are a number of casualties. As far as I've heard, the rest of my extended family is fine, so I've very grateful for that.
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Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on April 18, 2013, 12:27:44 AM
Just got the word that my grandmother is still in ER, but that she is fine. Hopefully I'll have more details soon.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on April 18, 2013, 12:40:17 AM
She just left ER and got admitted to a regular room so it would appear she's doing fine now.
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Post by: oldkid on April 18, 2013, 12:42:33 AM
That is a relief.
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Post by: Sandy on April 18, 2013, 12:44:38 AM
Good news Sam. Hopefully you can get some rest soon.
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Post by: saltine on April 18, 2013, 12:48:38 AM
Wow, what a night you've had, Sam!  So grateful all seems well.
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Post by: oneaprilday on April 18, 2013, 12:58:38 AM
So happy you got good news!
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Post by: BlueVoid on April 18, 2013, 03:51:22 AM
She just left ER and got admitted to a regular room so it would appear she's doing fine now.

That is great news Sam! Very relieved for you. Such a scary situation.
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Post by: Dave the Necrobumper on April 18, 2013, 03:58:56 AM
My thoughts are with you and your family Sam.
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Post by: Junior on April 18, 2013, 07:35:08 AM
A very scary happening. I'm glad it seems to have turned out well for your family.
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Post by: mañana on April 18, 2013, 10:11:19 AM
Saw this on the news, how awful. Glad to hear she's ok.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on April 18, 2013, 01:48:35 PM
Saw my grandmother for the first time since the explosion. She's fine. Doesn't remember much about it. Says she remembers a piece of ceiling falling on her head and that she had to pick cotton out of her hair (probably insulation). She's very talkative, which hasn't always been the case in the past.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sandy on April 18, 2013, 03:10:44 PM
All I can think of is adrenalin in the system. :)

Very glad she's doing well Sam.
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Post by: george96 on April 18, 2013, 06:51:20 PM
It's good to hear she's doing fine.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Totoro on April 23, 2013, 07:10:38 PM
I didn't get into the film production option at my school.



It's not the end of the world, I will continue to do screenwriting, but still. Still.



It's just another failure, prompting me to question if I should pursue film at all. Questioning everything. Questioning all of my "talent", every film I've made, every project I have been part of, everything I have studied. Was it worth it? Was I going about it the wrong way all of this time? What do I do now?
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Beavermoose on April 24, 2013, 06:59:35 AM
Eh, I did film studies instead of film production. Most people in production know absolutely nothing about cinema. Just do your own independent stuff. Find a coop, borrow some equipment. Read about how directors started off and very few went to film school.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Lobby on May 29, 2013, 04:41:09 PM
It's late night and I'm sitting here feeling sad and at the same time ridiculous for feeling this sad since it's basically not my business. My 19 year old daughter just came home in tears and told me that she and her boyfriend since two years had broken up. It was a common decision, but she was sad of course and we hugged, and then she went to bed, not wanting to talk about it today.

It feels so strange. He was a very nice guy, a bit of an ideal son-in-law to be honest, and we've seen him a lot over the years. He has stayed over here and she has stayed over at his place and gone on vacation with him and his family, which she loves and feels at home in. And now all those ties are all of a sudden cut off. He's not in our life anymore, she's not in his families life, from one day to another.

Deep down I realize it was probably for good. She's still young, she has plans on travelling with her best friend for the upcoming months before she'll consider settling down for uni etc. It might not have worked that well to have a bf at a distance at home under those circumstances. And again: the decision was her as much as her bf:s. So everything should be well and I need to just be there for her and support her in her decision, if she asks for that support. And being sad on her behalf doesn't really help.
So I'll pull myself together tomorrow morning. But right here, this moment, I feel sad.


Btw I googled the phrase daughter breaking up with bf and got loads of links to sad rants written by mothers in the same situation. It appears to be very common to feel this way.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Dave the Necrobumper on May 29, 2013, 06:31:13 PM
<hug>



Sorry I know no words that will help
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Clovis8 on May 29, 2013, 08:16:27 PM
It's natural to be sad but take solace in the fact that few people end up with person they dated at 19. Furthermore, it's clear given your description that you raised an emotionally mature young woman capable of being both a partner in a healthy relationship and its aftermath. This is something to be proud of.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on May 29, 2013, 08:38:05 PM
I didn't even date at 19...still haven't.  :-\
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: MartinTeller on May 29, 2013, 08:46:39 PM
I didn't even date at 19...still haven't.  :-\

I think Totoro knows a nice girl on OkCupid who is available.....
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: AAAutin on May 29, 2013, 09:04:17 PM
I didn't even date at 19...still haven't.  :-\

I think Totoro knows a nice girl on OkCupid who is available.....

But you better bring your "A" Game. Apparently, (s)he's hard to impress.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: don s. on May 29, 2013, 10:31:49 PM
Start with a dick pic.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Lobby on May 30, 2013, 12:21:57 AM
@Dave: thanks! Virtual hugs are not to be underestimated.

@Clovis: Deep down I know you're right. She's very mature in every aspect. She's just about to finish the "gymnasium", senior high school and the last step before uni. At the big farewell party in her class everyone was given a title to describe their special quality. Her: "The 40+-er of the class", referring to her grown-up approach to life.

@Sam: I'm familiar with that situation too. My oldest daughter is turning 21 this year and still hasn't dated (You can imagine the frustration watching her younger sister being in her second long relationship). We assured her that things would sort out once she hit university, that she would find friends and boys to date and everything. This has yet to happen. :(
But that's just how life is I guess. Some people, like you and my oldest daughter, have to wait a bit longer before their life line crosses with the one of their soul mates. Eventually it will happen. Just hang on there.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Lobby on June 12, 2013, 02:26:59 PM
I'm in a state of exhaustion after spending the entire day trying to support my daughter who headed out for her first Eurorail hiking trip through Europe today.

I blame all the trouble on the French.

The idea was that Tuva and her friend were to take a flight to Nice, starting their 3 week journey from there. Turned out there was a huge strike going on among air control staff, so the flight was cancelled. They rescheduled to another flight via Denmark. But once in Denmark their next flight was cancelled, so they were stuck. Finally they managed to be rescheduled to Bologna in Italy where they landed this evening, only to find out that all their luggage was lost somewhere on the way.

She called me and cried and cried (being particularly emotional and vulnerable after her recent breakup with her bf) and just wanted to give up on everything, wanting to go home.
I know things will get better, which I assured her of course. But it breaks your mummie heart to hear your children so tired and sad and vulnerable. I wished I could just fly in there like a superhero and help her out, flying her home again.

Oh well. Now she's found a place to stay for the night at least and hopefully they'll find the luggage in the next few days. That's what travelling is like. Up and down. It's a bumpy ride, it's a part of the deal.
But it's tough to be at the sideline when all you want to do is to hug her.

End of whimper.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on June 12, 2013, 10:58:31 PM
It's good to blame the French.  We Americans do that all the time and it makes us feel much better.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oneaprilday on June 12, 2013, 11:20:54 PM
Sorry to hear that, Lobby - hugs to you and Tuva! Here's to her Eurorail hiking trip getting better - NOW!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Emiliana on June 13, 2013, 04:14:23 AM
Argh, Lobby, how stressful! Sending hugs as well. And if all else fails, tell Tuva to catch the next train to Munich - she is more than welcome to crash on my couch and borrow a T-Shirt!  ;)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ses on June 13, 2013, 09:16:12 AM
Sorry to hear that, Lobby - hugs to you and Tuva! Here's to her Eurorail hiking trip getting better - NOW!

I couldn't say it better, I wish you and her all the best of luck.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Lobby on June 13, 2013, 03:19:29 PM
Thanks for your support! This is really starting to get at us all. They're stuck in Bologna still waiting for their luggage, which seems to have vanished without a trace.

I try to convince her to start making other plans. The have insurances that will cover everything so they should just go and shop what they need tomorrow and then travel on. But she's too exhausted to think clearly and every time we're in touch she has a breakdown, just crying.

I've even started to look at quick return trips to Bologna to just come there and do my mum thing and organize their life so they can move on. But I try to restrain myself. She's 19 and even if they had a rough start at their trip, they need to overcome this hurdle. I know they can do it....

Today I tried a bit more stern approach, telling her exactly what she needs to do tomorrow. I'm not sure if she'll do what I told her, but at least she stopped being hysteric.

To be continued I guess.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sandy on June 13, 2013, 03:34:52 PM
I was hoping for a better update for your sake Lobby. I like the way you're handling it and am taking notes. Just think of the stories she'll have to tell--much later when the trauma is long past.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Lobby on June 13, 2013, 03:54:27 PM
Yes, I think everything will turn out great for them once they get going on their trip. The worst thing would be if she gave up and returned home to Sweden, defeated, with no other plans and a heavy rain to greet her. That must be avoided.

We'll get through this somehow, but as a mother you know how heartbreaking it is to hear your child crying on the telephone, in need of a hug, when you're thousands of miles away from each other. She could as well be three with a bruised knee, she's my daughter and she's in pain. That hurts.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on June 13, 2013, 05:34:30 PM
It reminds me of when I was 20 and I was stuck in New Delhi for a week, knowing no one, while I waited for my baggage that was necessary for me to leave the country back home.  It's easy for me to be wistful about it now, but it was pretty upsetting at the time.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Clovis8 on June 21, 2013, 06:40:27 PM
It's pretty surreal here in Calgary. Worst disaster in Canadian history. The entire core is under water. I've been incredibly lucky with myself, family and friends largely spared.

I've been up for 24 hours volunteering. Home now but can't sleep.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ses on June 21, 2013, 09:29:00 PM
Good luck Clovis, thinking of you.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: saltine on June 21, 2013, 09:35:45 PM
Good for you lending a hand, Clovis8.  I hope your city recovers quickly.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: smirnoff on June 21, 2013, 10:24:27 PM
I don't know what the tone is in Calgary right now but from the outside looking in the general attitude seems to be "eh, what're you gunna do".
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Clovis8 on June 22, 2013, 07:06:17 AM
The community here has been amazing. We evacuated 100k people and only 1500 ended up in shelters because so many people opened their homes. CNN did a segment which was amusing as they couldn't figure out where all the people went.

The phones lines have been jammed with volunteers and they are turning away donations.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oneaprilday on June 22, 2013, 12:04:40 PM
Wonderful to hear that, Clovis, the way the community is pulling together. Thinking of you and everyone there.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on June 22, 2013, 03:48:34 PM
The community here has been amazing. We evacuated 100k people and only 1500 ended up in shelters because so many people opened their homes. CNN did a segment which was amusing as they couldn't figure out where all the people went.

The phones lines have been jammed with volunteers and they are turning away donations.

Makes me want to move to Canada.  You should be proud of your city.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sandy on June 22, 2013, 04:28:42 PM
 :D

Echoing oldkid. I love how your community has pulled together.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: smirnoff on June 22, 2013, 06:46:26 PM
What flood?

(http://i.imgur.com/OBYkNyB.jpg)



Don't worry Clovis, Harper is coming to save you in his showpiece military fatigues.

(http://i.imgur.com/uu2pocU.jpg)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Clovis8 on June 24, 2013, 07:13:13 PM
The devastation here is beyond belief. During cleanup I ran into a guy who literally lost everything. Not only was his house washed away but the land it sat on is also gone. It's a rocky river bed now. The land is gone! How do you recover from that? Where do you rebuild?

Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: smirnoff on June 24, 2013, 07:55:21 PM
I was wondering the same thing talking to my dad last night. What happens in a situation where the actual land is gone? That's awful.

Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on October 01, 2013, 08:46:45 AM
Went to the doctor yesterday because I've not been feeling great lately. He thinks I have depression so he's going to give me some medication. In retrospect, this would explain a lot. My interests in a lot of things has  flat-lined in the past month or two, one of those obviously being movies (and, by extension, this community). It's also probably a result of a lot of stuff I'm worrying about I'm still jobless, and have a lot of general anxiety about various life situations.

On the one hand, it's nice to know I probably have a legitimate problem because for a while I just thought I was getting ridiculously cynical about everything. On the other hand, having another medical problem just feels like more baggage I've got to lug around. My friends already noticed something wrong with me and I've already told some of them. They're wonderfully supportive, but I just keep feeling like the problem person of ever group I'm in.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ses on October 01, 2013, 08:51:48 AM
It's good that you went to the doctor and got diagnosed, now you can start to get better.  I would recommend counseling along with medication if you can, it can do wonders for depression, just to be able to talk to someone about your problems, someone impartial.  Good luck, Sam, we are pulling for you!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oneaprilday on October 01, 2013, 10:40:58 AM
It's great to hear you've been able to identify the problem, Sam; I have two friends who I'm certain struggle with depression, but they refuse to seek any kind of professional counsel - and I fear for them. It sounds like you're taking some really healthy steps - that's so good. And it's wonderful to hear you have a supportive group of friends - and I doubt they think of you as a "problem person"! It's clear they care about you, and we all have baggage in one way or another, you know? I imagine you will be there for them when they need it - or, more likely, you already have.

As ses says, we're pulling for you! Keep us posted if you can.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: MartinTeller on October 01, 2013, 11:10:18 AM
I take Effexor, it helps a lot.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Verite on October 01, 2013, 01:11:17 PM
Went to the doctor yesterday

With the steps you have taken and will take, hopefully you start to feel better and better. 

Diet-wise, Omega-3 fat (seafood, algae) has a very strong evidence base that shows it helps reduce depression for those with major depression.  The evidence base is weaker for minor depression but that might change in the future.  Furthermore, Omega-3s are great for reducing blood triglycerides (which may reduce cardiovascular disease risk); good for reducing blood pressure, inflammation, cortisol, and vLDL cholesterol; and are promising for brain health (dementia/Alzheimer's prevention), cancer prevention, insulin sensitivity, even bone health, etc.

Ketogenic* low carb diets might exacerbate/cause depression.  Low-carbing (not just kegoenic) can reduce serotonin which might be part of the explanation.  Change in glucose metabolism in the brain and hypoglycemia occur.  Some people have a hard time sleeping on low carb diets (not just ketogenic).  Some studies comparing diets have shown that the low carb diets result in adverse mood and reduced cognition. 

(*Not all low carb diets are ketogenic; ketosis is usually reached by limiting carbs to 30-50 grams or fewer daily.)

Researchers have looked at various forms of meditation/relaxation breathing.  They may help in reducing anxiety and depression.  Changes in neurotransmitters, brain waves/activity, metabolites, heart rate, breath rate, etc. have been observed which may partly explain their potential effect on reducing anxiety and depression.

Exercise can enhance mood.  But like with nearly everything, too much doesn't mean better.  Overreaching can make you tired.  Overreaching may lead to overtraining and depression might occur.

Good luck, Sam.  You'll always have a support system here at Filmspotting.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on October 01, 2013, 02:20:27 PM
Thanks for the tips. My diet is pretty low carb right now (I have celiac/colieac disease).
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sandy on October 01, 2013, 02:30:28 PM
Can you eat yams? They made a big difference for me. Recommended to me by another filmspotter, and no, it wasn't yam-osity. :)

Sam, you are an amazing person, who possesses a great amount of tenacity. You've been through a lot and this one more thing won't slow you down for long. We're here for you.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Tequila on October 01, 2013, 04:14:14 PM
Sam, you're never the problem person. You're objectively awesome and don't you forget it.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Junior on October 01, 2013, 04:57:53 PM
I had a friend with similar issues much of last year. Lean on your friends. If they are true they will be your support. I was the leaning post for him and things turned around after a while. Just talk.

We can also be your internet posts!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on October 01, 2013, 10:35:07 PM
I've struggled with depression ups and downs most of my adult life.  While I've never gone the medication route, I think it's a good route to go on.  I take large doses of B vitamins and I get some other help, but the important thing is to follow up on your plan.

Hang in there, Sam!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bondo on October 01, 2013, 11:26:37 PM
I'm also part of the depressionista. I've tended toward prescription/talk therapy in bursts to deal with the worst periods. I'm wary of the cost and marginal efficacy of longer-term treatment.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on October 02, 2013, 09:06:22 AM
Yea, I really don't like the idea of having to take medication for it all of my life.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on October 02, 2013, 08:49:41 PM
"Depressionista"... is that a FS cabal?  Could we make it one?
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: JakeIsntFake on October 14, 2013, 06:12:08 PM
When I was four, we got a golden retriever that we named Trevor (Trevor the retriever). About three years later, he got a disease that made him blind, hurt his eyes for a while, and frankly, made him look like an alien. Hearing, "there's something wrong with Trevor" became nearly a monthly thing, especially when he started getting a ton of tumors.
 
CINECAST!ing picture won't attach so long story short, I had to carry my dog's seizing, foam covered body to the car yesterday only to watch him die in the trunk.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sandy on October 14, 2013, 06:31:45 PM
Poor thing. Sorry you had to see your dog go through that, Jake.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Devil on October 14, 2013, 06:50:44 PM
That's awful to hear. At least he isn't in any pain anymore
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: MartinTeller on October 15, 2013, 01:02:09 AM
I'm so sorry, Jake.  That's rough.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ses on October 15, 2013, 01:49:46 PM
I am so sorry Jake, pets are members of our families, it's heartbreaking, and my thoughts are with you.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Monty on October 15, 2013, 02:01:42 PM
That's terrible Jake. Google 'Rainbow Bridge (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rainbow_Bridge_%28pets%29)', it always makes me feel better after the loss of a pet.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: FLYmeatwad on October 20, 2013, 08:58:56 AM
Well friends, FLY got colossally CINECAST!ed over once again, which at this point ought to come as little surprise. Today I should be seeing The Congress, Blue Is The Warmest Color, and A Touch Of Sin in what would be a pretty CINECAST!ing killer triple feature one would like to imagine, but that shit isn't happening because Friday night my mom tells me she's having minor surgery tomorrow morning and I need to take her and pick her up. Fine, no big deal, the stuff I had to do on Monday wasn't going to need doing until later in the day, so I ask her how long the procedure is going to take since I had Sunday cleared out for the festival but if Monday would be going late then I guess I would move it. Naturally, out of anxiety of not hearing back and dread of what will happen my body wakes me up almost every two hours Friday night to check my phone to see if I was texted or called back, so I got very little sleep which would guarantee that Saturday I would be physically fighting myself most of the day regardless.

Ultimately, she waits CINECAST!ing fourteen hours to respond to this text to tell me it would be done by 11 am, well before I had to do my shit, unfortunately fifteen minutes earlier I made calls to change plans around in case it ran late rather than waiting until the last minute to cancel everything, the earlier these calls were made the better for all parties involved. Not really sure why she couldn't take CINECAST!ing two minutes to text me back Friday night, but now I'm going to be doing my Monday shit today, which will be awful, I will be awake way early tomorrow morning, which will be awful, and this is the last showing of The Congress until God CINECAST!ing knows when that hopefully hits theaters while A Touch of Sin screens again Thursday night when I already have plans that can't be cancelled, so I'll be able to go see BitWC on Tuesday night, but big CINECAST!ing deal that shit will be released around in here like two weeks any way probably.

The lesson learned is that I should never anticipate much of anything or drum up any kind of excitement at all. Here's so level talk, FLY has had a pretty CINECAST!ing terrible 2013, and he's had a painfully awful past two weeks. This was basically it, just like two days out of 365 1/4 where he could just escape from everything for a little while. Didn't have to worry about family stuff, didn't have anything to do with friends, could just see some hopefully killer films and talk with a bunch of other people who love films about these movies. Just two days. But now CINECAST!ing nothing. Now one day with The Immigrant, Journey to the West, and Blue Highway where I was mostly so pissed off the whole day that I didn't even feel like talking with the ticket vendors to ask them for tickets let alone with any random people. So what the CINECAST! ever, I guess I'll say the same thing I said last year and just figure I can't wait until next year so I can have a more complete festival experience, but I will now say so knowing that in all likelihood something else will CINECAST!ing come up at the last second next year too to shit all over my plans. Pretty CINECAST!ing upset, pretty CINECAST!ing tired.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on October 20, 2013, 12:39:06 PM
I know it's difficult because you were anticipating some rest, but your mom is more important.  It's upsetting now, but a movie is a fleeting thing, especially for us who watches so many. It would have been better for your mom to have texted you earlier, it's true.  But perhaps she is so stressed about the surgery or life in general, she let it slip her mind.  Unfortunately, that happens to me a lot.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: MartinTeller on October 20, 2013, 02:53:53 PM
Yeah... you sure got CINECAST!ed over by your mother's dumb surgery.  That sucks, bro.  Hope you get to watch some movies soon.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on October 20, 2013, 03:10:11 PM
Having parents is hard work.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: FLYmeatwad on October 21, 2013, 11:01:12 AM
Word, dental surgery. Like I had my wisdom teeth taken out and she didn't even take off of work, just told my grandmom to take me and then drop me off at home after, but she gets hers out and the world has to stop. That shit is CINECAST!ed. It's not even a major procedure and she's probably just going to be sleeping the rest of the day any way because that's what the medication makes you do.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on October 22, 2013, 08:34:23 PM
Shoulda seen this coming from a mile away.

Asked a girl out about 9 weeks ago. She says yes, but won't set a time to meet. Many e-mails later, I finally ask for her number and call her tonight and she basically told me what she should have said 9 weeks ago, that she isn't interest.

There were big, flashing roadsigns. I pretty much ignored them all. She just broke up with someone, back in the spring and I knew it ended really poorly. She seemed really distant after I asked her out and more than once she didn't answer my messages until a couple of days later.

Part of it is certainly my fault, but she seriously led me on. Now it's way worse than if she had just said no up front. I basically even told her this much when I was getting to know her and didn't really think I would be interested in dating her.

Right now I don't know what I feel about it. It's just another one of the many bad situations in my life that keep piling up, so I'm sorta just used to the bad pile becoming bigger by the week. Right now I'm just gonna shrug and laugh at my own stupidity. Probably just an emotional defense mechanism.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sandy on October 22, 2013, 10:00:51 PM
Guys have it rough, having to be the ones doing the asking out. She doesn't sound like she knows her own mind or has the ability to make decisions. You may have dodged a more painful bullet.  (I may not be helping, but do want to send my support. :) )
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: jdc on October 22, 2013, 10:43:16 PM
Sometimes just wish people could be more relaxed and not take the dating thing all too seriously.  For women, if not interested, should just say so but I think sometimes they worry too much to hurt somebody's feelings so get in the mode of saying sure but then express some kind of indifference thinking the guy will get the message that she is not interested. 

But honestly, it not the end of the world to just say no.. we will recover:)

Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: pixote on October 22, 2013, 10:52:46 PM
Not totally on point, but this Nada Surf lyric came up on my iPod the other day and made me smile all over again:

Three important rules for breaking up:
Don't put off breaking up when you know you want to
Prolonging the situation only makes it worse
Tell him honestly, simply, kindly, but firmly
Don't make a big production
Don't make up an elaborate story
This will help you avoid a big tear jerking scene
If you wanna date other people, say so
Be prepared for the boy to feel hurt and rejected
Even if you've gone together for only a short time,
And haven't been too serious,
There's still a feeling of rejection
When someone says she prefers the company of others
To your exclusive company,
But if you're honest, and direct,
And avoid making a flowery emotional speech when you brake the news,
The boy will respect you for your frankness,
And honestly he'll appreciate the kind of straight forward manner
In which you told him your decision
Unless he's a real jerk or a cry baby--you'll remain friends

:-)

pixote
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bondo on October 22, 2013, 11:57:25 PM
Yeah, women hide behind the "nice" thing, and I get that there are gender pressures that contribute to it, but it really messes everything up. If someone said I'm not interested or especially "because of this" honestly, then I'd have something to learn from in going forward, I could hone my own behaviors or my ability to read body language. Instead, you get all kinds of soft lies. She'll say she's just not ready to date or something so either you take her at her word and try again later, making her uncomfortable if she actually meant she wasn't interested, or you are forced to assume she is lying, which has its own problems, namely resentment. The doubt caused by this makes you question every perception you make about who might be interested or whether things are going well, making you more hesitant. Surely this comes back to hurt women because guys who might ask them out that they'd want to be asked out by aren't doing it because they've ruined the whole process in the attempt to be nice.

But I agree that the being led on thing makes it worse. There was someone this spring who if she just said up front that she wasn't interested or only wanted to be friends, I'd be fine with. Instead, we went on what I thought were dates and generally thought I was picking up signs that it was going well and got invested before she gave the spiel about it being just a friends thing. Now an emotional bond has been built that can't just be waved away in an instant and to the degree that even a friends thing is desired, it is kind of messed up.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on October 23, 2013, 08:44:42 AM
Yea, these are all things that help. I think the main thing I'm realizing now is that I need to not beat myself up for the situation. Sure, I could have seen the signs, but she said yes. I wasn't wrong for asking and I wasn't wrong for trying to get her to talk to me after that.

If we're going to be adults, I'm going to have to trust you say what you mean. She didn't mean what she said. I get why she might have led me on, I think she was taken off-guard and still a bit disoriented from her last relationship, but she was wrong to do it. I'm glad we didn't actually start doing stuff together before she said it because that would have been way worse.

Going forward, I'm really going to try to keep the experience from leading to hesitation. I'm a pretty bold person. If someone else interesting comes along, I plan on asking.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sandy on October 23, 2013, 09:05:56 AM
You are very wise-Sam. :)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: jdc on October 23, 2013, 09:22:57 AM
Going forward, I'm really going to try to keep the experience from leading to hesitation. I'm a pretty bold person. If someone else interesting comes along, I plan on asking.

This is good...

There comes a time when these things get much easier to deal with and you have a better understanding what women may be trying to tell you by not directly saying.  Then you have a much clearer idea of how to react.  I think it probably is a combination of being a bit older, wiser or reduced hormones
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oneaprilday on October 24, 2013, 12:15:41 PM
I'm so sorry to read about you having to go through this, Sam, but as Sandy says, you are wise in your response, and I applaud you for that kind of insightfulness!


Yeah, women hide behind the "nice" thing, and I get that there are gender pressures that contribute to it, but it really messes everything up.
From my own experience - when I was dating, very long ago, thankfully! - niceness wasn't something I was trying to hide behind, and in my mind, saying yes to a date or two and then trying to avoid others later wasn't a scheme to deceive anyone or to, as everyone seem to characterize it, "lead someone on." Because here's the thing: when I said yes to a date, I genuinely liked the guy; I perhaps wasn't initially attracted to him, but my thinking was something like, "I like him; I'll give it a chance; maybe my feelings will change. I hope so." The problem comes when, two or three dates later, you still really like the guy, you would love a friendship with him, but you still have no feelings for him, and clearly, he has some for you. So what to do? It is, perhaps, "wrong" not lay everything out on the table, viz. "Look, I really, really like you as a person, and I want to hang out still, but I don't have romantic feelings for you. Not yet. Maybe I will at some point?" But that's hard to say/do because that conversation means, essentially, you're cutting the guy out of your life; he assumes the "let's be friends" speech is a deception, and in any case, he won't want to be with you if the romantic feelings aren't reciprocated. But you want to maintain a relationship - you even hope romantic feelings might evolve.

So it isn't as simple to characterize all that as hiding behind niceness - the niceness was genuine and the feelings were confused: "I like him, but I don't like him, but maybe I could like him, but I don't know . . . " I get, Bondo, that men might want a direct message, but a woman isn't necessarily being deceitful or immature because she doesn't give one. There is a messy mass of feelings going on, and women, generally, tend to hope men and women can be just friends more often, perhaps, than men do. I remember so often thinking a date was just a fun evening out with a male friend - and then finding out later, he viewed it completely differently - and in the time that followed, to him, I was someone who had "led him on" by going out with him in the first place.  :-\  As jdc says, I often wished dating could be viewed much more casually.

Anyway, Sam, I'm not sure how much this has to do with your situation, and it sounds like you're being kind and philosophical about it all. In my mind, this girl just didn't know what she wanted; she probably shouldn't have said yes to you in the first place, but these things can be tricky, you know? She was perhaps, I'm guessing, genuinely interested in you as a person and thought, in the moment, "I can do this; I'll move on" - and then a rush of other feelings later complicated what she'd done and she didn't know what to do or what she felt. Who knows, I guess? The human heart is a maze of contradictions - and so often, our actions tend to be selfish and contradictory themselves.

Apropos of this, btw, I just finished Norwegian Wood, last night, actually, and I suppose all those feelings and contradictions, those tangles of relationships, especially at that time of life, 19-20-something, is particularly fresh in my mind.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on October 24, 2013, 02:35:06 PM
There's a great book by Deborah Tannen called You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation.  It's a great book which talks about all kinds of cross-cultural communication, and refers to what OAD mentions above.   It should be required reading for everyone, but mostly women pick it up.  That is a tragedy.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on October 24, 2013, 04:36:17 PM
Well, the impression I got over the phone is that she was never interested in dating me and basically knew she was leading me on the whole time . I guess she was just scared to say no in the moment.

What sucks the most is that she was a really neat person, we had a lot similar interest, and I enjoyed talking with and this whole experience means that's gone.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: jdc on October 24, 2013, 06:36:45 PM
There's a great book by Deborah Tannen called You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation. 

Added to my Amazon cart. 

I think even if you are pretty good and understanding the differences when observing others it is still quite difficult to apply the same keen observation to your own personal situation.

 
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on October 24, 2013, 07:21:02 PM
There's a great book by Deborah Tannen called You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation. 

Added to my Amazon cart. 

I think even if you are pretty good and understanding the differences when observing others it is still quite difficult to apply the same keen observation to your own personal situation.

 

It certainly takes practice.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on November 25, 2013, 06:55:26 AM
Sorry to hear that.  :-\
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sandy on November 25, 2013, 09:50:13 AM
Sorry about that as well Totoro.

Having that fabulous new avatar, hopefully will cheer you up. I know it's doing that for me. :)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on November 25, 2013, 10:15:29 AM
That's hard, Totoro.  :(
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: roujin on November 25, 2013, 10:50:34 AM
Now is the best time to become a celibate monk of the cinema.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: MartinTeller on November 25, 2013, 11:24:15 AM
How long had you two been dating?
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ¡Keith! on November 25, 2013, 11:37:17 AM
How long had you two been dating?

roujin and the cinema? since before time was time.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oneaprilday on November 25, 2013, 12:27:09 PM
I'm sorry to hear that, Totoro; that's rough.  :(



How long had you two been dating?
roujin and the cinema? since before time was time.
;D
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Dave the Necrobumper on November 25, 2013, 01:01:46 PM
Bummer Totoro.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Totoro on November 25, 2013, 02:19:59 PM
How long had you two been dating?

6 months.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on November 25, 2013, 05:38:41 PM
Now is the best time to become a celibate monk of the cinema.
I'm down for this.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on November 26, 2013, 09:56:27 AM
Yeah, I think Sam is the founder of the Order of the Aisle Seat.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Lobby on January 09, 2014, 01:37:25 PM
Trying to sort out the rights for a movie we want to show at our film club this year and it's killing me.
The movie in question is Purple Rose of Cairo. We would love to include it in a theme of "movies about cinemas" that we want to run as a celebration of our theatre's 100 year anniversary. Our theatre is restored to historical shape and is the very same where Ingmar Bergman watched his first movies in his childhood. Don't you think Woody Allen would have loved to have his movie screened in this very theatre?

Our problem is the following: according to the licence that we have as a non-profit organisation to screen movies, we can only show movies from certain distributors and only copies that have been issued in Sweden. Currently there is no edition of this film available from Sweden. The only one we can get is imported, an MGM edition from UK, with Swedish subtitles. Because it's been published in UK we need to contact the company to get permission to show it (once for about 20 people...) I have spent weeks trying to track down the right one to ask. First I couldn't find any way to contact MGM in UK. Then I googled it and found that their rights currently are administred by Fox. Then I tried to get in contant with Fox, internationally and in Sweden. When people finally were back from holidays I reached Fox in Sweden. They said that the rights had been given over to another film distributor in Sweden, SF. So I called them and wrote to them. But they directed me back to MGM, to a licensing shop of some sort where you had to register. The web form didn't work though so I couldn't register. I found an e-mail address so I've written to them now in the hope that someone will get the mail and try to help me, directing me to the correct person.

Time is running out, we really need to set this programme on Sunday, but I'm starting to despair. Unless someome writes back to me tomorrow and manages to put me in contact with the right person, I won't be able to get a permission and we won't be able to screen the movie. We have the copy, but we need the rights. I guess the likeliness that someone would find out about the screening is small, but we want to do this the legal way.
Purple Rose of Cairo would be such  perfect fit. So now I need to whimper a bit.

If someone happens to have a great, working e-mail-adress to someone at MGM who can help us out, it would be much appreciated. It's a longshot, but who knows? There are a lot of people hanging around in this forum...
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bondo on January 09, 2014, 01:55:37 PM
Yeah, if it wasn't for an official organization I'd say just show it but being organized makes it more at risk, even if it is tiny. On the other hand, I never bothered with any rights when I was teaching, because meh and fair use, though fair use probably wouldn't have stretched that far. Never had any issues arise from my complete disregard for copyright.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Lobby on January 09, 2014, 02:04:14 PM
Apparently there has been some episode years back in time when they did a screening that wasn't cleared out copyright wise. Somehow the movie company in US found out and they had to pay a hefty fee.
But it's not only because of that that we are cautious. We actually care about those things. But it's getting tougher and tougher since movies nowadays have so short lifespans on DVDs before they move to online access which doesn't work at all for us. We have all sorts of projectors and can show 35 mm, 16 mm and whatnot. Well not 3D and such. But the old stuff. Silent films and so on. However this is of very little help when we either can't get hold of movies or can't get hold of copyright owners. :(
Many film clubs have given up these days. We're one of the few carrying on, despite the difficulties. I wonder though sometimes for how much longer, if this will even be possible in the long run.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Dave the Necrobumper on January 12, 2014, 04:21:33 PM
Lobby, I hope you were able to contact the copyright holder in time.

My whimper: It is not going to be fun riding to work this week. The temperature for the week goes: today 35C, then 41C, 39C, 41C, 40C. Sleeping will not be much fun either as it is only dropping to the mid 20s overnight. Thursday night it will only drop to 28C. My wife has run away to her parents, for the week, where there is air conditioning. So I figure I will be half baked by Wednesday.

41C is about 106F for those who need a conversion.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Lobby on January 12, 2014, 04:28:01 PM
That is so warm! Where do you live? Is it Australia?

I've kept struggling with the copyright thing. I might have gotten a bit closer now. After a few more e-mails I was directed back to MGM where I started and then asked to fill in a form. I didn't have all the information tey requested for the form so I forwarded it to one in the board of our club so he could complete it.
I just hope they're kind enough not to charge us as if we were a commercial theatre. We could pay a little something, but not very much. We never make any surplus and we don't have big margins. We're only able to exist thanks to the contribution from our city council.
I still have hopes for us to succeed. I'll let you know if we do.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oneaprilday on January 12, 2014, 10:24:31 PM
Such a tough/frustrating situation, Lobby. Do keep us posted.


Dave, cannot imagine that kind of heat!  :o
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Dave the Necrobumper on January 13, 2014, 01:20:04 AM
Yes it is Australia, Melbourne in this case.

Lobby, it sounds like you have some progress, fingers crossed.

oneaprilday, it is hard to describe, walking outside tomorrow will most likely feel like you do when you open the oven door.

Whimper update, tomorrow's forecast has changed, it will now be 43C.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: jdc on January 13, 2014, 01:33:28 AM
My wife has run away to her parents, for the week, where there is air conditioning.

You have no AC and your temp can get that high??? That sounds painful..
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Dave the Necrobumper on January 13, 2014, 04:10:06 AM
It is not too bad in the house, the north wall has some shade (and we added more yesterday) and it is an old house with 10.5 foot ceilings, so it takes a while to heat up. Only trouble is that once it does heat up it takes a while to cool down.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on January 13, 2014, 09:33:24 AM
Please don't melt!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Dave the Necrobumper on January 13, 2014, 02:03:27 PM
I will do my best
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Corndog on January 13, 2014, 03:18:47 PM
stomach flu
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on January 13, 2014, 03:35:29 PM
Boo! The flu has been something fierce this year. I got a very light touch of something over the winter break that was on again off again fever for about a week.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Corndog on January 13, 2014, 04:13:16 PM
The worst part is it leaves me sitting about, yet not in a mood to do anything, i.e. watch/write about movies.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on January 13, 2014, 04:29:21 PM
I know that feeling. I pretty much never watch movies when I'm sick.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on January 13, 2014, 07:50:13 PM
My wife and I are out of town for a few days for our anniversary.  That's when she gets pneumonia.   On the plus side, a hotel is a great place to recover.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: mañana on January 13, 2014, 10:59:42 PM
That stinks.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oneaprilday on January 13, 2014, 11:02:43 PM
stomach flu
:(

My wife and I are out of town for a few days for our anniversary.  That's when she gets pneumonia.
:(


Feel better, Filmspotters!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sandy on January 13, 2014, 11:45:39 PM
Sorry to hear this Corndog and Mrs. oldkid.

Get well soon!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Dave the Necrobumper on January 14, 2014, 12:48:51 AM
Get well soon Corndog and Mrs oldkid.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ses on January 15, 2014, 03:13:04 PM
Riley has been sluggish the past couple of days, just not himself, not really eating, not running around.  If he isn't better by Friday I am taking him to the vet.  It's probably nothing, but he has never been like this, and I'm really scared.

(http://i42.tinypic.com/11273uq.jpg)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: pixote on January 15, 2014, 03:29:38 PM
:'(

Feel better, Riley!

pixote
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ses on January 15, 2014, 06:38:46 PM
I got him to eat some wet food since he hadn't eaten since yesterday, but he won't drink any water. Better than nothing, but I'm still worried.  He's usually so peppy.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sandy on January 15, 2014, 07:03:04 PM
:'(

Feel better, Riley!

pixote

pixote put it best.


Please keep us posted ses.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oneaprilday on January 16, 2014, 12:41:52 AM
How worrisome, ses! :( Yes, please do, keep us posted.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: jdc on January 16, 2014, 02:05:37 AM
Riley has been sluggish the past couple of days, just not himself, not really eating, not running around.  If he isn't better by Friday I am taking him to the vet.  It's probably nothing, but he has never been like this, and I'm really scared.


hmmm.. a cutie.. get better

Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ferris on January 16, 2014, 01:19:15 PM
I got him to eat some wet food since he hadn't eaten since yesterday, but he won't drink any water. Better than nothing, but I'm still worried.  He's usually so peppy.

I'm sure you're already thought of this, but when my dogs have had this in the past it was due to a blockage in the digestive system somewhere (like he swallowed something too big).   Has his (ahem) "outdoor activity" been similarly inactive?
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ses on January 16, 2014, 01:34:30 PM
I got him to eat some wet food since he hadn't eaten since yesterday, but he won't drink any water. Better than nothing, but I'm still worried.  He's usually so peppy.

I'm sure you're already thought of this, but when my dogs have had this in the past it was due to a blockage in the digestive system somewhere (like he swallowed something too big).   Has his (ahem) "outdoor activity" been similarly inactive?

He was a little more upbeat last night and finally ate some dry food and drank water and did his business outside (both 1 and 2, believe me, I'm paranoid, I monitor that kind of stuff).  Hopefully he is getting back to normal.  He has been licking his lips a lot in the past few days, which according to the internet means he may have indigestion.  He may have just eaten something that gave him an upset stomach.  My fiance said Riley was running around this morning before he left for work. 

Nice to hear from you again Ferris, hope all is well!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Lobby on January 17, 2014, 11:11:09 AM
So since you asked me to keep you updated, here's the situation with Purple Rose of Cairo:

After a lot of investigation, phone calls and e-mails I finally seem to have reached the one who handles the rights. However there's a problem: they have a minimum fee of about 500 dollars. Perhaps it doesn't sound that much, but for us it's a fortune for one single screening. So there won't be any screeing of it this term. Possibly we'll screen it during the autumn, but we'll have to think it over and check our bank account. I wouldn't be too hopeful about it judging from the reactions from the others who help out setting the programme.

Oh well.

We've got a pretty awsome programme this spring anyway so we'll manage. But it's a pity that it has to be that expensive to try to play it fair when your're a non-profit organisation.

Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sandy on January 17, 2014, 11:19:46 AM
How many in your group Lobby?

I know it's in honor of your theatre, but is it possible to gather in one of your homes, have a pot luck and watch the movie there? I'd so do that, :D because stuff like you've had to go through really irks me.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Lobby on January 17, 2014, 12:01:52 PM
An ordinary screening we're about 20 people. On our top nights we're 35-40 perhaps.
I don't know of how many members were have all in all, but I figure it could be a hundred over one term (some of our members only buy a three-movie pass). I don't think it would work to show it in a home. Besides, the idea of having a film club at all is that we can get to see movies on a big screen. A lot of the movies we show are available on dvd or streaming so people can watch them at home, but seeing them in a threatre makes for a different experience.

Anyway: thank you for your sympathies Sandy. I really appreciate it.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: 1SO on January 17, 2014, 05:01:22 PM
ses, how's Riley?
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Pseuds on January 21, 2014, 03:55:46 AM
Just had my heart ripped out of my chest. Wouldn't recommend it.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Beavermoose on January 21, 2014, 12:44:29 PM
Just had my heart ripped out of my chest. Wouldn't recommend it.

We've all been there. It gets better. After my break up a month ago I was constantly listening to music, which made me feel much better. Also I wrote down how I felt which helped a lot.
That is if you're speaking figuratively. Not like Temple of Doom heart ripping.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sandy on January 21, 2014, 12:53:38 PM
Just had my heart ripped out of my chest. Wouldn't recommend it.


Quick, get these to Pseuds STAT!

(http://i43.tinypic.com/2lswrb9.jpg)

(http://i44.tinypic.com/2nl4etv.jpg)

(http://i43.tinypic.com/34nha91.jpg)

(http://i40.tinypic.com/3128y38.jpg)


We've all been there. It gets better. After my break up a month ago I was constantly listening to music, which made me feel much better. Also I wrote down how I felt which helped a lot.
That is if you're speaking figuratively. Not like Temple of Doom heart ripping.


Echoing Bearvermoose's words too.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oneaprilday on January 21, 2014, 01:02:24 PM
Ouch, Pseuds - hang in there!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Tequila on January 21, 2014, 03:56:38 PM
What's that in the Popcorn Box? Boston baked..?
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: MartinTeller on January 21, 2014, 03:59:31 PM
beans
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Pseuds on January 21, 2014, 05:45:50 PM
Just had my heart ripped out of my chest. Wouldn't recommend it.

We've all been there. It gets better. After my break up a month ago I was constantly listening to music, which made me feel much better. Also I wrote down how I felt which helped a lot.
That is if you're speaking figuratively. Not like Temple of Doom heart ripping.

Nope it's definately a breakup and right now I'm thinking the Temple of Doom version wouldn't hurt as much. I really thought this year was going to be a new start but it's not looking so grand.

Sorry to hear about your breakup too Beavermoose, music has saved me a few times and I'm sure it will save me again. Thanks to everyone for your support. Boston Baked Beans, films and a puppy would be marvelous right now.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on January 21, 2014, 10:48:18 PM
Sandy, you sure know about comforting someone!  The puppy, the puppy!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Dave the Necrobumper on January 22, 2014, 04:28:33 AM
Big hug to Pseuds and Beavermoose.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sandy on January 22, 2014, 11:22:00 PM
The puppy, the puppy!

 :D

I know, right?!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ses on January 23, 2014, 02:50:24 PM
ses, how's Riley?

Thanks for asking.  He seems to be doing just fine.  He's been peppy and his same old self.  I guess he just had a stomach ache or was feeling a bit sick.  Like I said, I probably was worried for nothing, but in 6 years of me havin him, this was the first time he ws like that, so I was worried.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Junior on January 23, 2014, 02:54:35 PM
Happy to hear it. Sad dogs are the worst. You just want to cuddle.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: 1SO on January 25, 2014, 11:54:38 PM
Laundry detergent in my eye.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sandy on January 25, 2014, 11:58:48 PM
 :(

I'm hoping by being able to type that, you're doing a little better 1SO.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: saltine on January 26, 2014, 12:21:11 AM
Laundry detergent in my eye.

I laughed but I swear to god, not at you.  Just visualizing a position where that's possible. 

Hope you rinsed with lots of water and are better.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Dave the Necrobumper on January 26, 2014, 04:20:12 AM
Laundry detergent in my eye.
Ouch
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: 1SO on January 27, 2014, 12:36:28 AM
I laughed but I swear to god, not at you.  Just visualizing a position where that's possible. 

It was on my hand and I didn't know that when I reflexively rubbed my eye. I flushed out my eye many times and even strapped a washcloth to it like an eyepatch. The remaining burn appears to be inside my upper eyelid. Not as bad today, but every now and then there's a blink that stings.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: saltine on January 27, 2014, 12:41:47 AM
OK, your hand...got it.  Get better soon!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bondo on January 27, 2014, 12:46:17 AM
I've had some habenero incidents of that manner.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: saltine on January 27, 2014, 12:52:15 AM
You people need safety goggles.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ses on January 30, 2014, 08:33:01 PM
I once inhaled a bunch of powdered laundry detergent when I was a little kid.  Remember those commercials when they would scoop the detergent and smell the wonderful fresh scent?  Well I did that, and a bunch of it went up my nose.  It burned for hours.  I never told my parents until a few years ago.  Thanks Tide.

Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bill Thompson on January 30, 2014, 09:26:44 PM
I realize that not all people disregard police cars, ambulances, and fire trucks, but far too many people seem to not care about us anymore. Just think, when my ambulance is trying to get across icy roads and you refuse to yield to me, even though my lights and sirens are running, it could be your dad, mother, brother, sister, wife, husband, girlfriend, boyfriend, son, daughter, etc. who I am trying to save at that very moment. The amount of people who don't pull to the side of the road, or who will try and race me and cut me off when my lights and sirens are on has reached a level that I'm not comfortable with. It may sound cocky and arrogant, but that's our road people, the need of our patient in the back (or getting to the fire, or getting to the armed robbery) outweighs whatever need you feel to be macho or just be a ponce on the road.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ses on January 30, 2014, 09:40:17 PM
I don't understand people who do that.  Thanks for doing what you do, Bill.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Melvil on January 30, 2014, 09:54:08 PM
Yeah, that's really weird. I've actually never seen that behavior, around here at least people seem to pull over and make way properly, but I can't imagine what would make someone think it was okay to do otherwise.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: MartinTeller on January 30, 2014, 10:37:47 PM
Yeah, that's really weird. I've actually never seen that behavior, around here at least people seem to pull over and make way properly, but I can't imagine what would make someone think it was okay to do otherwise.

Same.  I don't think I've ever seen someone not yield to an emergency vehicle.  Maybe they're screwing around on their phones and not paying attention?


A guy rammed into the side of my car today as he was pulling away from the curb.  Nobody hurt and the car is still drivable, but it's still going to be an annoying inconvenience to be without a vehicle while it's getting repaired.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ses on January 30, 2014, 10:40:25 PM
Sorry to hear that, Martin. I'm glad to hear that no one was hurt, though.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: 1SO on January 30, 2014, 10:46:45 PM
A guy rammed into the side of my car today as he was pulling away from the curb.  Nobody hurt and the car is still drivable, but it's still going to be an annoying inconvenience to be without a vehicle while it's getting repaired.

I know the feeling. Glad that the car is repairable and you (or both of you) are okay.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: roujin on January 30, 2014, 10:51:55 PM
what kind of asshole doesn't get to the side?
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bondo on January 30, 2014, 11:21:04 PM
In Fargo they have little lights on the top of most stop light poles that flash if an emergency vehicle is nearby (or trains are crossing)...since the sirens actually don't seem that loud a lot of the time compared to music in the car, etc. having a visual cue is very handy.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bill Thompson on January 31, 2014, 07:03:53 AM
what kind of asshole doesn't get to the side?

A lot, unfortunately. Sometimes it is what Martin says, people screwing around on their cell phones and not paying attention. Those are difficult to deal with and they suck, but I can accept those instances. There are, however, people who will look right at us and turn in front of us, pull right along side the ambulance, or swerve in front of the ambulance; all while the lights and sirens are running. I don't know why these people don't respect the role of the emergency vehicle, but it's very frustrating and creates a lot of hazards for us, and them.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on February 13, 2014, 09:10:57 AM
Recovering from the most intense fever I've had in years, which involved getting a rejection letter from UT. Thanks, UT! :-\
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oneaprilday on February 13, 2014, 11:33:48 AM
Glad you feeling better, Sam, and I'm so sorry about UT - what a bummer!  :(  Do you have other applications in?
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on February 13, 2014, 11:40:43 AM
Oh yea, I applied to 5 other schools, but I probably won't hear from them until April.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oneaprilday on February 13, 2014, 11:42:25 AM
Keep us posted!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on February 13, 2014, 04:40:45 PM
I just heard that another of our homeless community members died today.  He was hit by a train, trying to save his dog from being hit.  Both died.

This is hard.  In the last few months, we've lost four of our regulars.  One drowned in a creek, drunk; another just collapsed from a brain hemorrhage; another died of cancer after a stroke.  I've done so many memorial services that I'm really good at them.

Damn, sometimes I hate this work.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Lobby on February 13, 2014, 04:52:35 PM
That's really tough Oldkid. It always appears to me that death comes in clusters. First there are years without anyone among friends and family dying and then suddenly you have several funerals within the same year. It's devastating and it all melts together to a big pool of grief. I hope you'll get out of this cluster now, that you'll get a break.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oneaprilday on February 13, 2014, 07:57:06 PM
That's awful, oldkid. I'm so sorry.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sandy on February 13, 2014, 09:24:34 PM
I'm sad to hear that about your friends, oldkid. I'm sorry for the burdens on your shoulders. Your community is so blessed to have you.




Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: jdc on February 23, 2014, 03:53:30 AM
Damn, sometimes I hate this work.

That is very tough but it really takes somebody special to be able to do what you do..

i was about to post a snarky comment about the local alcohol tax being increased 20% but all seems very trival thing to whimper about..

Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on February 23, 2014, 05:31:29 PM
Thanks, guys, for the kind words.

Just had his memorial service yesterday and it was sad but quite good, lots of both family and friends there, and we all had a good cry.

Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ses on February 24, 2014, 11:37:31 AM
I'm so sorry oldkid.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: JakeIsntFake on March 07, 2014, 09:41:06 AM
Got a concussion while on vacation, but at least it was on the last day.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on March 07, 2014, 11:11:35 AM
Ooof, that sucks. Hope you feel better soon.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oneaprilday on March 07, 2014, 06:28:42 PM
Got a concussion while on vacation, but at least it was on the last day.
Yikes!! Hope recovery is going well!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: The Deer Hunter on March 07, 2014, 06:39:30 PM
I read a story yesterday about a tattoo artist in America that tattooed his dog while it was under during an operation. I don't have the link on me but it was one of te most disgraceful thins I've ever seen.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Dave the Necrobumper on March 07, 2014, 06:57:04 PM
Why? Almost all dogs these days are tattooed (in the ear for identification purposes).
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sandy on March 08, 2014, 12:13:05 AM
Got a concussion while on vacation, but at least it was on the last day.

What happened Jake?


Welcome back. Did the vacation all go too fast?
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: The Deer Hunter on March 08, 2014, 04:10:02 AM
Why? Almost all dogs these days are tattooed (in the ear for identification purposes).

My dog has one in her ear for either her microchip or that she's desexed. I forget which one. I can understand that. It has a practical use. But this, this is just pathetic.

(http://i62.tinypic.com/29ol849.jpg)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: JakeIsntFake on March 08, 2014, 10:36:57 AM
What happened Jake?

Well, it's a bit of a long story, but I hit my head on a speaker mounted into the wall and broke it. (the speaker, that is.) The concussion's not too bad, but the recovery process will be obnoxious. (No electronics...but I'm obviously not following that rule.)

Welcome back. Did the vacation all go too fast?

Thanks, and yeah it sure did. Good to be back home, though. I got a lot of catch-up to do here in the forum!

Thanks, everyone, for the support. Restin' up.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on March 08, 2014, 10:38:39 AM
Glad you're resting.  Take it easy, Jake!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: verbALs on March 08, 2014, 07:00:57 PM
@Jake admit it you still wish you were in London  ;D

The phrase goes Tired of a London tired of life.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: JakeIsntFake on March 09, 2014, 08:10:13 PM
@Jake admit it you still wish you were in London  ;D

The phrase goes Tired of a London tired of life.

It's true. :D  I do wish I was still there.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: JakeIsntFake on March 13, 2014, 07:19:41 PM
For the last 2 days, my mom suddenly decided to fully enforce everything the doctor said about my concussion. No electronics was hard enough, but that added on to no physical activity, no reading, and only rest proved to be difficult. That basically limits everything but sleeping. It was so boring, and the worst part is that I had to do that over Spring Break.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: saltine on March 13, 2014, 07:48:15 PM
If it saves your brain, it's worth the sacrifice, Jake.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sandy on March 13, 2014, 07:52:45 PM
Welcome back Jake and saltine is right.

Moms are the worst. :)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: smirnoff on March 13, 2014, 08:09:23 PM
Moms are the worst. :)

And they're everywhere! :))
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bondo on March 13, 2014, 11:29:25 PM
Moms are like a$$holes? :o
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: JakeIsntFake on March 14, 2014, 09:40:51 AM
Moms are the worst. :)
If it saves your brain, it's worth the sacrifice, Jake.

I didn't mean to sound like I was complaining, just venting I guess. I understand it was completely necessary and that my mom had to do it.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on March 14, 2014, 10:47:36 AM
I actually think Spring Break would be a good time for it to happen when you don't have the pressures of other obligations. I've been ailing from sinuses all week, but I'm actually glad it happened over Spring Break because I really can't afford to take more sick time for a couple more months.

However, it still stinks. Glad you're doing better now.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: JakeIsntFake on March 14, 2014, 12:14:46 PM
I actually think Spring Break would be a good time for it to happen when you don't have the pressures of other obligations. I've been ailing from sinuses all week, but I'm actually glad it happened over Spring Break because I really can't afford to take more sick time for a couple more months.

Yeah that's true, but I'm not forward-thinking enough to appreciate that right now.  :)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sandy on March 14, 2014, 01:30:02 PM
 :)



I didn't mean to sound like I was complaining, just venting I guess. I understand it was completely necessary and that my mom had to do it.

Vent away Jake! I just thought it was funny that even here, you can't escape moms.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on March 27, 2014, 01:06:37 PM
Think I'm developing carpal tunnel syndrome again, so I'm probably going to have to back-scale how much I'm on the boards and how much I write for a couple of weeks.  :-\

In better news, this means I plan on doing a lot more reading and movie watching that I have in the past month.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: smirnoff on March 27, 2014, 09:13:04 PM
In the process of fixing my ps3 controller I smashed  my French press and put a dent in my hardwood floor. If I had known what I was in for I would've thrown the controller in the garbage and bought a new one. Unbelievably frustrated now.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: heisenbergman on March 27, 2014, 09:49:13 PM
In the process of fixing my ps3 controller I smashed  my French press and put a dent in my hardwood floor.
...whathowhuh? :o
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on March 27, 2014, 10:19:09 PM
In the process of fixing my ps3 controller I smashed  my French press and put a dent in my hardwood floor. If I had known what I was in for I would've thrown the controller in the garbage and bought a new one. Unbelievably frustrated now.

Post the video?
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sandy on March 28, 2014, 12:10:43 AM
...a dent in my hardwood floor.

 :'(


"l think the sofa should go right there." (Name that movie.)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: colonel_mexico on March 28, 2014, 12:17:02 AM
WHILE YOU WERE SLEEPING
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sandy on March 28, 2014, 12:24:50 AM
 :))
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: 1SO on March 28, 2014, 11:53:30 AM
Not really as bad as a whimper in the grand scheme but I don't know where else to put this.

My job situation changed this month and the biggest downfall is with the workload and the hours I don't have the time for movies or the boards that I used to. All my lists and plans and responses have slowed to a trickle because of this.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: smirnoff on March 28, 2014, 11:55:29 AM
Its hard to explain heh
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: JakeIsntFake on March 28, 2014, 05:01:10 PM
the hours I don't have the time for movies or the boards that I used to. All my lists and plans and responses have slowed to a trickle because of this.
but I don't know where else to put this.

Well, this is now our whimpers... :'(
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: smirnoff on March 28, 2014, 05:02:10 PM
It'll be that much sweeter when you get time again! :D
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: jdc on March 28, 2014, 06:33:35 PM
My job situation changed this month and the biggest downfall is with the workload and the hours I don't have the time for movies

I had the same starting in Dec and now only manage to get in a few films a month. 
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on March 28, 2014, 07:26:59 PM
That's horrible for us all.  :(
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: smirnoff on March 29, 2014, 02:47:33 PM
In the process of fixing my ps3 controller I smashed  my French press...

Follow-up story

(http://i.imgur.com/OASYfbR.jpg) (http://i.imgur.com/sFkmrVg.jpg)

My teapot may never forgive me for this.

ps... don't anyone say anything about my floral teapot! I inherited it alright!

(http://i.imgur.com/uZO7Wq5.jpg)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oneaprilday on March 30, 2014, 12:50:22 AM
Think I'm developing carpal tunnel syndrome again, so I'm probably going to have to back-scale how much I'm on the boards and how much I write for a couple of weeks.  :-\

In better news, this means I plan on doing a lot more reading and movie watching that I have in the past month.
That's a bummer. :(  Hope resting up will help!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ses on March 31, 2014, 11:33:31 PM
I like your teapot.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: smirnoff on April 01, 2014, 05:08:02 PM
:))
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: verbALs on April 17, 2014, 02:01:40 AM
I'm a healthy sleeper, and what I get when I wake up from a long kip is......less than two pages of posts from the part of the world that has been awake all the time. It's become the norm. Guess Letterboxd is doing well.

EDIT: Twice as many pages today during the same period of waking hours! Knew we could do it!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bondo on May 09, 2014, 02:38:10 AM
So Monday I was officially offered a promotion that I had applied for at work. It was only a temporary thing (at least for the time being), subbing for someone on maternity leave, but it would be a good chance to try my hand at some more responsibility at work, challenge myself a little. The slight pay bump (very slight really) would be nice but the most important thing in some sense is I'd be working normal weekday schedule for the first time.

Sounds like a good thing, no? Well, today I found out that they decided not to fill the position and so I'm staying in my present position/shift. Definitely have the carpet pulled out from under me feeling. I mean, I was set to start the new position on Monday and suddenly no. It had gotten close enough that I had had to tell some teammates at work that I was leaving the team/shift and now I had to immediately kind of embarrass myself by saying that isn't happening. It just isn't a proper way to treat an employee (especially one with an exemplary record who by qualification is drastically underpaid and underutilized).

This may be the bump I need to finally get serious about applying for positions outside the company, back home in Colorado. I hate the job market so it takes something to do this but in theory I should be able to get a position that is both more interesting and pays vastly better, the downside, naturally, will be a bit more stress but I just don't feel like I can pursue life goals where I am right now.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on May 09, 2014, 07:02:59 AM
Sorry to hear that. It is an unprofessional way to treat someone and I'd be frustrated, too, especially since I told other people I would have worked with already.

It stinks to be somewhere where you don't feel you're being respected or is suited to the qualifications you have.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on May 09, 2014, 09:16:50 AM
That's awful, Bondo. 
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: mañana on May 09, 2014, 11:20:20 AM
That totally sucks.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sandy on May 09, 2014, 12:22:27 PM
I'm sorry they've put you through that Bondo.

I do like your attitude about the situation. With management not able to make and keep decisions, it may be in your best interest to find a position with more professional surroundings.

Your co-workers will be very happy you are staying with them and I wonder if the management realized what would happen if you left that spot.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ses on June 26, 2014, 03:44:42 PM
I took Riley to the vet today because I noticed an unusual growth on his backside (well, rectum).  Initial cytology results seem to be malignant.  They are sending the cells off to a pathologist, so I will know more next week.  He will most likely need surgery to remove it.  It's about the size of a large blueberry, but where it is could cause so many other complications post surgery.  I have no idea how much this is going to cost, because of its location the vet wants a board certified surgeon to perform it because she is concerned about complications following the surgery like fecal incontinence.  The vet is at the same place where I board him, so it will most likely happen while I'm at my wedding/on vacation, some of which I will be camping and out of cell phone range.  This is just not what I needed now, and I'm worried about Riley.  It doesn't bother him at all at the moment, and they did a "probe" and it doesn't seem to be on the inside, so those are both good things. 


(http://i42.tinypic.com/11273uq.jpg)
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Post by: tinyholidays on June 26, 2014, 03:49:38 PM
Oh my gosh. Poor Riley and you. Animal health care is very stressful in the best of times. Our own beloved cat has been in the pet hospital for four days now, and we are trying to save money for a house and move back to Canada next month. Pets are so wonderful and expensive. I hope Riley's blueberry gets worked out as smoothly as possible.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ses on June 26, 2014, 03:51:40 PM
Thanks, tiny.  I hope your cat gets better soon too.  It is so stressful, I just hope it won't be too expensive, and they can get all the malignant cells out.  He's only 8 years old.  I want a lot more time with him.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: sdb_1970 on June 26, 2014, 06:22:02 PM
Sorry to hear that.  For me (who does not have kids), there's nothing worse than having a sick companion animal - the frustration of not being able to communicate is particularly heartbreaking because you just want to do whatever you can to make him/her feel better.
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Post by: saltine on June 26, 2014, 06:24:25 PM
So sad for you and for Riley, ses.  I hope it all works out.
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Post by: oneaprilday on June 26, 2014, 06:56:18 PM
So sorry to hear that, ses. Wishing you and Riley all the best!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ses on June 26, 2014, 08:34:06 PM
Riley and I thank you all for the well wishes.  I will know more next week when they get the pathologist's report.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Tequila on June 27, 2014, 02:58:46 AM
Sorry to hear that, ses and tiny.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Dave the Necrobumper on June 27, 2014, 05:10:42 AM
ses, that's lousy, I hope Riley makes a full recovery.

tiny, I hope your cat gets better soon.

And for both, I hope the bills are unexpectedly low.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ses on June 27, 2014, 09:14:47 AM
Thanks, Tequila and Dave.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: tinyholidays on June 27, 2014, 10:20:00 AM
Thanks, everyone. I'm picking Haircut up from the vet today after 4 nights being tube fed. They say she's still not eating well, but they want to try her at home. I'm not thrilled about paying them a few thousand dollars, but we do love her.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ses on June 27, 2014, 10:29:13 AM
Haircut! Love the name.  :)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: tinyholidays on June 27, 2014, 10:43:44 AM
Thank you. My husband named her. She's ridiculous. (https://twitter.com/lesliewolfhard/status/456843134308069376)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: 1SO on June 27, 2014, 11:59:20 PM
ses, I've known Riley from when I first joined the boards. In my thoughts and prayers.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Junior on June 28, 2014, 12:32:15 AM
As I think I've said before, sick pets are the worst. So helpless. Feel better Riley and Haircut!
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Post by: ses on June 28, 2014, 06:35:24 PM
Thank you guys! 
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Post by: tinyholidays on June 29, 2014, 01:24:47 AM
Thank you for your kind thoughts for Haircut. We had to put her down this morning. It sucked. It still sucks.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: MartinTeller on June 29, 2014, 02:29:56 AM
So sorry, tiny.  Such a hard thing to do. 
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Dave the Necrobumper on June 29, 2014, 06:02:38 AM
Thank you for your kind thoughts for Haircut. We had to put her down this morning. It sucked. It still sucks.

It does indeed suck, my commiserations to you.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on June 29, 2014, 07:49:44 AM
Sorry to hear that. Always tough to lose a pet.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on June 29, 2014, 08:50:07 AM
That's horrible, tiny.  It's so hard to lose a good friend like that.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Monty on June 29, 2014, 11:15:20 AM
Sorry to hear about your cat tiny, I was in bits when my last cat died. Also, it's nice to see you back on the forum.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Tequila on June 29, 2014, 12:01:47 PM
So sorry, tiny.
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Post by: oneaprilday on June 29, 2014, 09:59:58 PM
That's awful, tiny - I'm so sorry.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ses on June 29, 2014, 10:29:49 PM
Oh, tiny.  I'm so very sorry for your loss.  They truly are members of our family, and they hold such a special place in our hearts.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: jdc on July 05, 2014, 07:11:30 PM
Went fishing today and a Bass took revenge on me and managed to get a treble hook embedded deep in my thumb. Couldn't pull it out due to the barb and pain so now been waiting in the emergence room for the last 2 hours with a lure hanging from my thumb.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on July 05, 2014, 07:49:21 PM
OWWWW!   My deepest sympathies.  Obviously more than the emergency room administrators.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: jdc on July 05, 2014, 07:57:35 PM
Now it out and the painful part will come shortly...the bill
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on July 05, 2014, 08:07:17 PM
First they take it out and then they stick it to you again.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ses on July 07, 2014, 02:11:27 PM
Riley will be going into surgery on Thursday to remove his tumor, I will be in Wyoming, since it's two days before my wedding.  I'm glad he will be there at the same place they will perform the surgery so he can be monitored, but I still wish I could be there. I'm going to be a nervous wreck for more than one reason.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: tinyholidays on July 07, 2014, 02:14:19 PM
Good luck, Riley!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Dave the Necrobumper on July 08, 2014, 03:04:32 AM
Good luck, Riley!

Yes
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on July 11, 2014, 07:56:33 PM
Riley will be going into surgery on Thursday to remove his tumor, I will be in Wyoming, since it's two days before my wedding.  I'm glad he will be there at the same place they will perform the surgery so he can be monitored, but I still wish I could be there. I'm going to be a nervous wreck for more than one reason.

Be confident.  All will be well.  Have a wonderful day!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bill Thompson on July 22, 2014, 11:54:39 AM
One of the neighbor kids is always opening our front and back door without knocking or ringing the door bell. Up until today it's just been obnoxious. But, today my truck broke down and when my wife came to get me she forgot to lock our front door. The neighbor kid came over while we were gone, opened the door, came inside, then left without closing the door. Thanks to her actions our cat got outside and we can't find her anywhere. We've printed up flyers and handed them out around the neighborhood, and we're going to post them on light poles in the neighborhood, as well as local businesses. We've also shared the flyer on Facebook and in various groups and city pages on Facebook. We love that cat, but she's a house cat, she's not an outside cat in any way.

The thing I don't get is how can someone be so inconsiderate and ill mannered, and how can her parents not care? Multiple times we've told the kid, who is 9, about how she can't come inside without knocking/ringing the door bell. We've also had conversations with her parents about this, but we know they never addressed it with her because they thought it was cute. I know I'm all full of anger right now, but I seriously want to rip that kid, and her parents, a new one for losing our cat.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: MartinTeller on July 22, 2014, 11:59:02 AM
How frustrating, Bill!  I would be absolutely livid with the neighbors.  I hope you find your cat. 
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: JakeIsntFake on July 22, 2014, 11:59:50 AM
Kids are stupid, Bill. This sounds extremely frustrating.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bill Thompson on July 22, 2014, 12:29:31 PM
Positive outcome, right as we were going out to look some more she hopped onto the front doorstep and I grabbed her and got her inside. Still pissed at that kid though.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oneaprilday on July 22, 2014, 12:32:31 PM
So glad you found her, Bill!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: MartinTeller on July 22, 2014, 12:39:06 PM
Yay, happy ending!

Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: JakeIsntFake on July 22, 2014, 03:17:17 PM
Positive outcome, right as we were going out to look some more she hopped onto the front doorstep and I grabbed her and got her inside.

...Oh, the cat? Glad you guys found her!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: jdc on July 22, 2014, 06:39:30 PM
Positive outcome, right as we were going out to look some more she hopped onto the front doorstep and I grabbed her and got her inside. Still pissed at that kid though.

cats are smart... kids are stupid..
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Antares on July 22, 2014, 06:48:52 PM
We've also had conversations with her parents about this, but we know they never addressed it with her because they thought it was cute. I know I'm all full of anger right now, but I seriously want to rip that kid, and her parents, a new one for losing our cat.

Hey Bill, tell the parents this...

You know, I'm kind of worried about burglars breaking in to our house, so I've set up a shotgun pointed at the door in case one of them tries to break in.

That might do the trick.  ;)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: pixote on July 22, 2014, 07:17:38 PM
Yeah, that's probably a better tact than, "No, I love when he stops by. He's damn sexy for a nine year old."

pixote
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: smirnoff on July 22, 2014, 07:20:48 PM
Or keep leaving cat poops at their front door and say you think it's cute when they ask you about it.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: JakeIsntFake on July 22, 2014, 08:01:16 PM
Or move.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: The Deer Hunter on July 22, 2014, 11:04:33 PM
Do we have any computer whiz's here? I'm having an issue with overheating and/or power supply.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sandy on July 22, 2014, 11:08:44 PM
[quoting my son]

The first thing to try with overheating is to give it a really good blow out with either canned air or an air compressor. Is it a laptop, desktop?
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oneaprilday on July 22, 2014, 11:30:49 PM
Or keep leaving cat poops at their front door and say you think it's cute when they ask you about it.
  :D
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: The Deer Hunter on July 22, 2014, 11:31:19 PM
It's a desktop. I've posted my problem on a random computer forum so I'll just paste what i wrote there.

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Recently my computer has started shutting down while I'm playing a game or trying to do something that uses a lot of memory. I've dusted off my fans and cleaned out the inside of my computer as best i could but it didn't help. I downloaded SpeedFan to see what my temperatures are like and the GPU and CPU were 75 and 71 respectively. That's just idling which i figure is too high. I realized my dual screens was adding to the issue so i removed one of them and the temperature went from 75 and 71 to around 50 and 45. I thought that would sort it out so i tried updating/optimizing Diablo III which originally lasted 5 minutes before my pc shut off but it still didn't work. My pc still shut itself off. But my temperatures only reached 54 and 50 before it did.

I'm not sure exactly what it is since the temps didn't raise when it turned off but I figure it's still to do with overheating or power supply. My pc is around 4 years old but here are the specs.

(http://i58.tinypic.com/zo6xjk.jpg)

*The RAM has been upgraded to 8GB since then.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sandy on July 22, 2014, 11:41:51 PM
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Nice computer. None of those temps look too alarming. I am amazed that your GPU and CPU dropped so much after getting rid of the second monitor. That seems strange. At four years, it might be your power supply. Do you have a volt meter that you can test it with? It may seem silly, but check all your power cables going to the computer.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Melvil on July 23, 2014, 12:03:49 AM
Sandy and son are giving good advice. :)

To get a bit more info, describing what exactly happens when the computer shuts down could help tell what kind of problem it is. You can also look in the windows event logs (Type Event Viewer in the start menu, and then look for Windows Logs>System) to see if there's any crash reporting being recorded.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: The Deer Hunter on July 23, 2014, 12:11:16 AM
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Nice computer. None of those temps look too alarming. I am amazed that your GPU and CPU dropped so much after getting rid of the second monitor. That seems strange. At four years, it might be your power supply. Do you have a volt meter that you can test it with? It may seem silly, but check all your power cables going to the computer.

I do have a volt meter actually. I'll give it a go later.

Side question. If i plug my second monitor back in what would i do to lower the temperature?

Sandy and son are giving good advice. :)

To get a bit more info, describing what exactly happens when the computer shuts down could help tell what kind of problem it is. You can also look in the windows event logs (Type Event Viewer in the start menu, and then look for Windows Logs>System) to see if there's any crash reporting being recorded.

I took a look and found nothing out of the ordinary referencing a crash.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sandy on July 23, 2014, 12:39:16 AM
Son has gone to bed, so hopefully Melvil can answer the second monitor question. :)

I keep thinking of those big computer rooms with the huge fans. What if you took a floor fan and set it right up next to the computer and kept it cool that way? :D That's my non computer savy advice.

Good luck Deer Hunter!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on July 23, 2014, 07:50:47 AM
Yea, it sounds like a power supply deal to me if it's shutting off like that without you getting any kind of crash message. In my experience, random shutting down without any sort of error or beeping from the motherboard has always been a power supply issue.

Honestly, I don't think there's a quick way to lower the temp with the second monitor unless you decide to get a second video card for the second monitor. It'll tax your machine more, but it should run fine and shouldn't be shutting off like that. You could look into buying better fans/some kind of water cooling system, but I think that's a bit of an extreme solution in this case. If you have the computer right up against a wall, the air flow won't quite be as good. As long as it's say about a half a foot from the wall or so it should be getting good airflow.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: smirnoff on July 23, 2014, 05:45:52 PM
Is there some sort of temperature threshold in the bios that's being triggered? I've run into that before. My kamikaze solution was to simply disable all the thresholds. I don't remember how long the computer kept working after that. :))
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: The Deer Hunter on July 23, 2014, 07:25:37 PM
Is there some sort of temperature threshold in the bios that's being triggered? I've run into that before. My kamikaze solution was to simply disable all the thresholds. I don't remember how long the computer kept working after that. :))

I have no idea but that's probably not the best idea.  ;D

Yea, it sounds like a power supply deal to me if it's shutting off like that without you getting any kind of crash message. In my experience, random shutting down without any sort of error or beeping from the motherboard has always been a power supply issue.

Honestly, I don't think there's a quick way to lower the temp with the second monitor unless you decide to get a second video card for the second monitor. It'll tax your machine more, but it should run fine and shouldn't be shutting off like that. You could look into buying better fans/some kind of water cooling system, but I think that's a bit of an extreme solution in this case. If you have the computer right up against a wall, the air flow won't quite be as good. As long as it's say about a half a foot from the wall or so it should be getting good airflow.

I'm thinking it's power supply. The temps are low when it shuts down and I've tried running it with the sides off.

I've had the dual screens for well over a year now so maybe it's just wear and tear on the hardware. I'm going to drop by a local computer shop soon to get their opinion. Hopefully I'll just need to replace the power supply. That's probably the cheapest solution. Although i have looked at buying a new system. It's not too expensive since i can keep some of my old gear but i probably shouldn't waste the money.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: The Deer Hunter on July 23, 2014, 11:56:57 PM
New power supply. Same problem. Hmm...
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on July 24, 2014, 07:33:54 AM
At this point, I could see it being a motherboard issue. Maybe part of the board is blown that isn't quite perceptible. You could either look at rebuilding or take it in somewhere and have them test everything for you.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Tequila on July 24, 2014, 02:32:24 PM
I had an overheating problem with my GPU. What happened is that the screen just went blank because it lost the signal but the computer kept on running. Things would go back to normal once I turned off the computer entirely and waited for a few minutes. If that sounds at all familiar, you might want to try to simply clean out the passive cooler on the card. In my case, I'd always shied away from that because it was hidden under a case that was ridiculously difficult to open but it did solve the problem.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: The Deer Hunter on July 28, 2014, 02:31:40 AM
My problems appear to be over. I put it in at a local computer shop and they told me that 2 of my 4 memory slots (the 2 i was using) were screwing up. They swapped them into the other 2 and now everything seems good. Beforehand when i tried updating Diablo III it turned off 5 minutes in. Now I'm at least 15 in and it's going strong. Turns out i probably didn't need to buy a new PSU. ha
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: heisenbergman on July 28, 2014, 03:35:30 AM
So worried right now because:

- something appeared on my wife's chest xray. it was read as a "calcified lymph node." Both google and the pulmonologist said that it's not a cause for worry. However, our family's pulmonologist made my wife take new xrays from a different angle for comparison. WORRIED.

- also worried about my 18 month old daughters speech development. everything else (cognitive, physical, etc.) about her seems to be normal... also she understands what we tell/ask her and she communicates a lot by way of pointing and gestures... but she barely talks! -_- and it's starting to freak us out. WORRIED.

:(
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Dave the Necrobumper on July 28, 2014, 05:59:54 AM
heisenbergman, bummer about the lump.

As for your daughter, do not worry, my son did not start talking until just after he was 2 and very quickly increased his vocabulary. Now a year and a bit later and you would not be able to tell. Still I do remember that there was concern in this household for a while there. Kids develop at different rates for different things. As Brian said 'You're all individuals... You're all different'.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on July 28, 2014, 07:39:07 AM
My problems appear to be over. I put it in at a local computer shop and they told me that 2 of my 4 memory slots (the 2 i was using) were screwing up. They swapped them into the other 2 and now everything seems good. Beforehand when i tried updating Diablo III it turned off 5 minutes in. Now I'm at least 15 in and it's going strong. Turns out i probably didn't need to buy a new PSU. ha
That's awesome! Always great when it's something simple like that.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oneaprilday on July 28, 2014, 01:18:49 PM
I'm sorry to hear about these worries, heisenbergman - so difficult. Will be wishing your wife all the best - keep us posted. With Dave, I'd also say, at this point, don't worry about your daugther's preference not to speak. Many children do not speak much until 2 or even 3; for one of my close friends', all five of her incredibly bright, talented, verbal boys, who all excel in school and who are socially very much at ease with communication, did not really speak until they were 3.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sandy on July 28, 2014, 04:42:32 PM
Just echoing the others. :)

I teach a weekly class for 18 month to 3 year olds. None of them come in talking, or even really attempting to speak. Around two, I start to see some good attempts and by three, I can't get them to shut up!


Wishing your wife the very best, heisenbergman.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: heisenbergman on July 28, 2014, 06:53:00 PM
Thanks folks! I'll try not to worry too much about my daughter and my wife is going to the doc tomorrow to have her xrays checked. Hoping for all the best :)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ses on July 31, 2014, 12:01:22 AM
Thinking about you and your family, heisenbergman, I hope everything has turned out okay.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: heisenbergman on July 31, 2014, 12:21:57 AM
My wife's X-Rays came back all clear as confirmed by two pulmonologists, so yay and thanks! :D
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ses on July 31, 2014, 12:23:09 AM
So glad to hear that!
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Post by: Junior on July 31, 2014, 12:25:20 AM
Good news! Hooray!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oneaprilday on July 31, 2014, 12:42:31 AM
Great news, heisenbergman!!!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: MartinTeller on July 31, 2014, 12:44:32 AM
Great news!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Dave the Necrobumper on July 31, 2014, 01:58:03 AM
My wife's X-Rays came back all clear as confirmed by two pulmonologists, so yay and thanks! :D

 :)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Tequila on July 31, 2014, 01:59:22 AM
\o/
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on July 31, 2014, 07:42:06 AM
Awesome! Great news!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: saltine on July 31, 2014, 08:52:46 AM
So happy to hear your wife had such good results.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sandy on July 31, 2014, 12:19:21 PM
Great news, heisenbergman!!!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on July 31, 2014, 07:54:33 PM
What a relief!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: MartinTeller on August 02, 2014, 10:51:59 PM
this (http://spilledinkwell.wordpress.com/2014/08/03/farewell/)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ses on August 02, 2014, 11:00:42 PM
I just read your post with tears streaming down my face.  I know someday that day will come for my Riley, and even thinking about it tears me up inside.  I'm so sorry, Martin.  I've had to make that decision in the past, and I will have to in the future.  Pets are our family.   I'm sure Cooper will be dearly missed.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: MartinTeller on August 02, 2014, 11:27:30 PM
Thank you, Sarah
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: tinyholidays on August 02, 2014, 11:48:01 PM
I'm so sorry, Martin. I am sure you did the right thing, but that's such a difficult choice to make. We had to put our beloved cat down last month, and I've had a difficult time dealing with the images of that day. Pets make our hearts grow bigger.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: MartinTeller on August 03, 2014, 12:26:46 AM
Thank you too, tiny.  The worst part of having pets is letting them go.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Dave the Necrobumper on August 03, 2014, 04:38:31 AM
A difficult choice, but the right one. It is a horrible time, my commiserations.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bill Thompson on August 03, 2014, 07:39:10 AM
Condolences Martin.

Yesterday was a terrible day for me. Had a lady die on my stretcher despite me doing CPR for about twenty five minutes straight. Then I came home from a 60 hour shift to my wife telling me that our 8 year old beagle/pointer mix had just urinated nothing but blood. A bunch of tests and money later we luckily found out that it was only a very bad UTI.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: JakeIsntFake on August 03, 2014, 11:06:12 AM
So sorry Martin. I lost my dog last October. It was a terrible time.

Bill, sorry about all this stuff. There is calm after the storm.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: tinyholidays on August 03, 2014, 11:12:07 AM
Bill, that sounds so stressful and terrible. You must have a lot of inner strength to be able to handle these tough situations as a profession. You have my respect.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sandy on August 03, 2014, 11:42:03 AM
I'm so sorry Martin. You have written such a beautiful tribute to Cooper. Thank you for sharing your story.


Oh Bill, your work is a hallowed one. I'm so grateful for you and those that care for others in this way. It's a line of work that would be devastating for me. You're strength and fortitude, I hold in great respect.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on August 03, 2014, 05:25:34 PM
Martin, it is so hard to lose someone you love, even if they aren't the same species.  It is harder to lose someone who loved you just as much.  I'm so sorry you lost your friend.

Bill, I understand, I really do.  It is so hard to face death everyday.  I can't imagine doing what you do, getting up everyday, not knowing what illness or emergency you have to deal with.  Well, I can imagine it, but it's difficult.  God bless you for your strength to keep doing this essential work.


*  *  *

Now it's my turn.  I guess it's been a tough month for us all.

You guys know my job, that I'm a pastor to the homeless.  Six days a week, we open our church to the homeless, offer food and rest and resources to those in need.  Mostly we treat them like normal human  beings.  It sounds not too difficult, but living with people's stories and needs 24 hours a day is difficult.  And many decisions I make can be life-or-death decisions, the difference between someone dying in the cold, or going hungry for a week or not. 

This summer has been the toughest summer yet.  Usually winters are the worst.  A struggle to force the city to allow us to open and finding volunteers to keep an eye on the people while we have between thirty and ninety people sleep inside, safe from the freezing temperatures.  This summer, however, our two main cities and the county and the department of transplotortation all decided to spend this summer pushing the homeless out of their areas, which includes pretty much all the land in our county.  Many of our folks find themselves just staying on our property all the time because it's the only safe place they know where to go.  We've had a general agreement that people can stay while we are open, but leave when we are closed, but that didn't work this summer because they are much more afraid of the police (who have killed a couple homeless folks this summer) than me. 

One of my jobs is to mediate between the homeless needs and the middle class neighbors and the middle class churches who run the property.  My priorities are all screwed up this summer.  Honestly, the homeless need the security.  But the middle class people are afraid of my friends and church members, as if they would do them harm (which they wouldn't).  The neighbors see the homeless sleeping in our lot (which is legal) and in the park (which kinda isn't) and call me telling me that I am "harboring" the homeless.  One neighbor pulled out a 2 x 4 and threatened everyone sleeping in the park and on our property, scaring a couple of people half to death before our security person saw and asked him to leave.

At the same time we are financially broke and our long term volunteers are going into the hospital for various conditions.  I get yelled at by the very people I help because I don't help them enough, I get yelled at by the churches because I'm "too lenient" and I get yelled at by the neighbors because I'm "ruining" their neighborhood.  One of my dear friends who lived on the street for years is dying quickly of cancer and the family won't let any of us see him in hospice because... well because of whatever families blame us when their family members were homeless for years.

Meanwhile, I've been at this for twenty years and I know that I need to stop.  I'm trying to keep my patience, to keep up my peacemaking skills, to keep the organization together, and I'm just losing it. I'm snapping at people, I'm exhausted and overwhelmed with stress.  A couple weeks ago I determined I was done and I came very close to going to every meeting and day shelter and saying, "That's it, we're closing".   A fellow worker convinced me to have a board meeting instead, and my board sat there, unable to say anything. 

I got some of my sanity back and I agreed not to just up and close.  If we aren't open this winter, how many people will die in the cold?  If we don't take in some of the more desperate folks, what will happen when they inevitably face down the police, forcing them to leave the only home they have?  In our part of the world, we are the only option these folks have. 

I've been expressing my anegr in blog posts about the horrendous prejudice against the homeless and what people can do to establish justice for the homeless.  Here (http://stevekimes.blogspot.com/2014/08/if-i-told-you-what-this-post-was-about.html) and here (http://stevesbasics.blogspot.com/2014/06/community-x.html) and here (http://stevesbasics.blogspot.com/2014/07/justice.html). But I don't know how long I can go on.  Very few people will work as hard as I do for almost no pay.  Few people will take as much crap as I do and try to walk that line between justice and people's false fears (I'm in full whimper mode now).
...
I'm writing all this because you are my friends and because I don't have anyone else to tell where there are no ramifications.  As a pastor, if I told people how weak I am, they'll withdraw support or pull me out or something.  I'm sure some of you think I should just quit, but I can't do that without blood on my hands.  I am trying to slow down, spend more time in meditation... but I feel like a ticking time bomb.  My one friend is afraid I'm heading for a nervous breakdown and while I feel that may be coming, it's not immediate. 

Anyway, thanks for listening.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ses on August 03, 2014, 05:36:39 PM
oldkid, you truly are a unique soul.  So many people would not take on what you do, and I commend you for that.  I'm so sorry to hear what you are going through, I wish I could say more, just know that I'm thinking of you.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: sdb_1970 on August 03, 2014, 06:00:20 PM
@oldkid:  On the one hand, I can sympathize, if not empathize.  Who knows how tired you must feel, in your bones - only you can know that, as well as your own limitations. ... On the other hand, it seems to me that in a world brimming with the apathy of so many souls wrapped up in his or her own personal minutiae - infinite and infinitely small reasons not to care about anything else - you've also been endowed with a true and truly rare gift - a righteous anger.  For that, I am also envious - with just enough fortitude and creativity, you could move mountains. ... But whatever road you take, I (as one of your friends here) would surely never presume to know what it feels like to have walked all those miles in your shoes.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on August 03, 2014, 06:17:01 PM
Oh yeah, I got all kinds of righteous anger.  I pray I use it rightly and for the benefit of others.

Thanks, guys.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: tinyholidays on August 03, 2014, 06:48:17 PM
Steve, I'm sorry for the pain and responsibilities that are tearing at you. I'm glad that this is a safe space for you to say what's on your mind. You're an amazing person, but you're one person who lives within one body, and a body can't always handle the labors demanded by a fighter's spirit. I think of it in those terms because one of my uncles is a Methodist minister who started and for many years ran an organization in an underserved area of Appalachia (redundant, I know) providing safe spaces and meals for children who don't have them at home (or don't have a home). It was always full of people, and he took many in to his own home as well. But he began to collapse, and he was extremely fatigued all of the time. It eventually was discovered that his parsonage was toxic and that living there had given him a neurological disorder. He can't pastor a church or work at his ministry any more, and he's supporting a family on disability. I guess my point is that if the community that you serve is at a breaking point, you shouldn't have to be the thing that gets broken.

But I can't imagine how complicated the situation you face is. The grace that you show is seen here, even by the faithless like me. Thank you for sharing your blog posts about ways to help. We care about you.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: MartinTeller on August 03, 2014, 07:20:53 PM
Bill, I'm sorry for your hardships.  I could not do what you do.

Steve, I couldn't do what you do either.  No one has infinite generosity and patience, but you've got a hell of a lot more of it than most folks.  Even you are allowed to reach your limit.  I hope your troubles improve, or that you find a way to renew your strength, or both.  Know that people are rooting for you to fight the good fight, and that they also don't want you to burn out.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sandy on August 03, 2014, 07:29:33 PM
oldkid, the words that have already been spoken are far better than I can express, but I've read your articles and am ready to get to work.

Please take care of yourself first.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: 1SO on August 03, 2014, 08:00:46 PM
I hate this thread.

I hate to read that my friends are suffering. I hate that I lead a soft, sheltered, happy existence and that all I am able to do is send words of comfort. And that I'm not even able to do that. This thread has been very busy lately and every time I try to respond, I find the words fail me. I am terrible at comfort, but I'm pretty good at being pissed off. So I'm taking it out on the thread. This thread is terrible.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Antares on August 03, 2014, 08:33:08 PM
this (http://spilledinkwell.wordpress.com/2014/08/03/farewell/)

I'm glad I read this, because I'm starting to go through the same thing with my oldest Dachshund, and I'm feeling all the emotions that you were. When the time finally comes, and thankfully, he's doing better, I'll be ready for it.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: sdb_1970 on August 03, 2014, 09:01:33 PM
I am terrible at comfort, but I'm pretty good at being pissed off.

That would be me as well (as spousal unit would attest).
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: heisenbergman on August 03, 2014, 09:05:19 PM
this (http://spilledinkwell.wordpress.com/2014/08/03/farewell/)
So sorry for your loss :(
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on August 03, 2014, 09:17:45 PM
Bill, sorry to hear about your week. I have a close friend in hospice and I can see it in his eyes when he's dealt with a death that week. I can't even imagine what that feels like, but it hurts enough just seeing how it affects someone you love on a regular basis.

Steve, you do amazing work and have touched more lives than you probably can imagine. I know pastoring alone can take a toll, trying to stand up for those no one else wants to be around seems near impossible. As a brother, I'll tell you to look to Christ, who also came to work with those no one else wanted to be around. He will give you the strength you need when you think you've reached your end. He'll also give you the peace you need when this work is done.

I hate this thread.

I hate to read that my friends are suffering. I hate that I lead a soft, sheltered, happy existence and that all I am able to do is send words of comfort. And that I'm not even able to do that. This thread has been very busy lately and every time I try to respond, I find the words fail me. I am terrible at comfort, but I'm pretty good at being pissed off. So I'm taking it out on the thread. This thread is terrible.
It's sad to read of other's pain, and it's horrible that pain and suffering exists in the world, but I'm glad this thread exists because it's a great way for us to comfort each other in that pain when we feel like we can't turn elsewhere. Just hearing other people are thinking of you and empathize with your pain can be a great relief. I think that's priceless.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on August 03, 2014, 11:34:08 PM
It is so hard to hear that our friends are hurting and there is nothing we can do about it.  But it means so much to know that we have friends who will listen and care about us.  It helps to just share the burden.  It doesn't take the burden away to have people care, but in a way it makes the burden bearable.

Thank you all.

As a brother, I'll tell you to look to Christ, who also came to work with those no one else wanted to be around. He will give you the strength you need when you think you've reached your end. He'll also give you the peace you need when this work is done.


This means a lot, thanks.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Dave the Necrobumper on August 04, 2014, 04:24:54 AM
Bill and Steve, you both have stronger stomaches and hearts than I could ever hope to possess. A virtual hug may not help, but I will send one anyway in the hopes that it does.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oneaprilday on August 05, 2014, 11:57:48 AM
Bill and Steve, thanks for sharing your pain and difficulties with us. You are both amazing men - and those you come in contact with are blessed for it.

Steve, know my thoughts are with you in your incredibly difficult situation - praying that you'd find as yet unknown strength for what faces you and wisdom to discern the path you should take, both relative to yourself and to those you love so much.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on August 06, 2014, 12:41:18 AM
Thanks, oad, I really appreciate it.

 I'm trying out taking a day of quietness and reading and writing once a week.  It was good today.  Hopefully this will help me make it through this period.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: sdb_1970 on August 06, 2014, 12:23:21 PM
I feeeel so inar, inar, inar, inar, inar, inarticulate!

Spent the whole day at work yesterday to barely produce two pages ... Two abandoned blogposts in the last month (White Dog and the Thomas Ripley films) - about 1,000 words in, and it's just pants.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: verbALs on August 06, 2014, 12:37:09 PM
Have you watched all the Ripleys. Delon's version puts the rest in the shade. He's so pretty!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oneaprilday on August 06, 2014, 02:27:31 PM
I feeeel so inar, inar, inar, inar, inar, inarticulate!
Always so maddening.  :-\
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sam the Cinema Snob on August 06, 2014, 03:24:11 PM
Haven't had the energy to write in a while. Kinda feel like I'm in a writing rut, honestly. Feel like a lot of my creative energy is being channeled into work right now, which isn't a bad thing, but it doesn't quite feel the same.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: sdb_1970 on August 06, 2014, 06:41:53 PM
Have you watched all the Ripleys. Delon's version puts the rest in the shade. He's so pretty!

4 out of 5 (would have needed to track down 2005 Ripley Under Ground)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: saltine on August 06, 2014, 06:57:16 PM
I just got the best haircut of my life.

Why whimper?

I'll never be back in Chicago!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: 1SO on August 06, 2014, 07:35:47 PM
Reminds me of the baguette and cheese I ate while walking through Paris.


Never again.  :'(
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: The Deer Hunter on August 07, 2014, 12:39:44 AM
I want to go back to Japan just so i can have some grilled chicken and mugi meshi at Nagashi Cow Tongue.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: tinyholidays on August 07, 2014, 07:33:00 AM
The chocolate mochi balls in the Tokyo subway...
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: jdc on August 12, 2014, 08:34:27 PM
as my business group is being sold off to another company we are all preparing for the separation which is a lot of projects.  Seems as soon as we get through one, I get pulled into another and they all have daily status calls in my night... Sometimes just have to remind myself it still is a good problem to have
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bill Thompson on August 15, 2014, 09:36:50 PM
Another thirty minutes of CPR today. Managed to bring the lady back, but she died pretty much the moment we handed her off to the ER. What I'm venting about this time is the people who can't seem to understand that certain people handle this stuff in certain ways. Had a nurse tell me I was inhuman because minutes later I was in the EMS room drinking a soda and joking around with some guys from another department. I get that the lady died, and that it sucks anytime anyone in our care or around us dies. But, I can't let the death get to me, because if I do I can't do my job and I can't move on to the next call. That doesn't mean I'm inhuman or that I don't have feelings, but I compartmentalize and move on because that's what my job requires and my next patient would be in trouble if I were still lingering on the last patient who died.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Sandy on August 15, 2014, 10:21:04 PM
I would think a nurse would understand better than most, the need to decompress. Sorry she added to your already difficult day.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on August 15, 2014, 11:22:50 PM
We don't have room in our lives to judge people under serious stress.  Stay strong, Bill.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: jdc on August 16, 2014, 06:26:57 PM
Another thirty minutes of CPR today. Managed to bring the lady back, but she died pretty much the moment we handed her off to the ER. What I'm venting about this time is the people who can't seem to understand that certain people handle this stuff in certain ways. Had a nurse tell me I was inhuman because minutes later I was in the EMS room drinking a soda and joking around with some guys from another department. I get that the lady died, and that it sucks anytime anyone in our care or around us dies. But, I can't let the death get to me, because if I do I can't do my job and I can't move on to the next call. That doesn't mean I'm inhuman or that I don't have feelings, but I compartmentalize and move on because that's what my job requires and my next patient would be in trouble if I were still lingering on the last patient who died.

My mum was a nurse and mostly worked intensive care baby ward so she was often emotionally effected by these kind of things.  But your reaction seems to be the proper approach and for most part what I figured most doctors were like.  Curious, how did you react to the nurse?
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bill Thompson on August 17, 2014, 08:08:50 AM
To be honest I'm not a big fan of nurses, so I've developed the tact over the years of nodding and moving on whenever they say anything, positive or negative. I know not all nurses are bad, but the overwhelming majority I've dealt with have been, and I steer clear as a result
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: heisenbergman on August 28, 2014, 04:47:57 PM
My laptop won't boot up anymore -_-

I left it on overnight and I woke up to see a black DOS-like screen with technical details and something about how it can't find a bootable device...

Then when I tried to hard restart it (long press of the power button), there would be a clicking sound inside and I'd end up ok the same black screen described earlier...

...RIP laptop??? :( I hope not. Crossing my fingers this can still be repaired....
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Tequila on August 28, 2014, 05:09:48 PM
There's even a Wiki entry for it. (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Click_of_death) :(
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: roujin on August 28, 2014, 05:16:18 PM
Hope you backed up your stuff, buddy. Happened to me recently.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: heisenbergman on August 28, 2014, 05:22:42 PM
Not everything..... :(( what i'm most worried about are my daughter's pics and videos....

Is the click of death usually not repairable??
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Melvil on August 28, 2014, 05:26:04 PM
A clicking hard drive is usually a really bad sign as it's a symptom of mechanical failure. Data recovery for that kind of problem generally has to be done in a clean-room environment where they can remove the magnetic platter (read: pricey). :(

Other than the data issue, the good news is putting a new hard drive in is not difficult and probably only about $60. The only complication being you may need to track down installation media for your OS license if you don't already have recovery discs.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: heisenbergman on August 28, 2014, 06:06:20 PM
Thanks Melvil.  This is so sad.... :(
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: smirnoff on August 28, 2014, 06:50:45 PM
My laptop hard drive bit the dust in much the same way. The clicking confirms it.

My solution was to pull the drive out completely and simply run Ubuntu from a flashstick. On the bright side my laptop is lighter now and the battery seems to last longer. I've been running it this way for over a year now. :) The best part is it's a free "fix" (assuming you have a 4gig or better flashstick kicking around). Also, you get an OS and filesystem you can carry around in your pocket and plug in to any computer.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: heisenbergman on August 28, 2014, 07:37:10 PM
Huh interesting. Is Ubuntu easy to use? I could see that as a possible solution just so I could use my laptop.

As long as Ubuntu could easily be setup to connect to the internet, I'll be thankful that it's not a total loss.

Also, can I do the ff on Ubuntu?
- torrents
- connect my iPhone for file transfer

Thanks for the idea smirnoff!
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: heisenbergman on August 29, 2014, 05:26:04 AM
Hello from Ubuntu :) Thanks again smirnoff for the tip!

(http://i.imgur.com/6PBI7bU.png?1)
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: smirnoff on August 29, 2014, 07:06:24 AM
Now you're cooking! :D Yea, it's a fully functioning OS. Everything the average person needs really.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bill Thompson on August 29, 2014, 04:12:23 PM
For, oh, the past 8 or so months my wife and I have been in the process of me adopting her daughter. We figured it would be a pretty slam dunk case, my wife and I have been together for 4 years, married for three, and Kaitlin has been my daughter for half of her life, she's 8. We relocated to get her into a better school district, I'm presently her sole provider as Sarah, my wife, is a full time college student. I pay for everything for Kaiti, gimmick my work schedule so I can be present for as many of her activities as possible, etc. Her biological father is a deadbeat who has never had anything to do with her. Plus, everyone else we talked to about this said that stepfather adoption cases where the biological father is a deadbeat are usually very easy.

This adoption has been anything but easy, and it's now at the point where I may not even get to adopt her. It took forever for us to get our lawyer to realize that her biological dad is not around and will not show up for anything or sign any papers. So, after five months the courts finally declared in in default of his fatherly status. We figured that would be great as it now meant there was nothing in the way of me adopting Kaiti. Well, our lawyer told us we didn't need to be at a hearing a couple of months ago, and he then proceeded to get our marriage date wrong as well as how long Kaiti has been living under the same roof as me. For some reason the judge decided to knock down our motion to adopt and instead ruled that we needed a Guardian ad Litum to declare me a fit father, because in her words, "I don't know this guy, and he's not related by blood, so why would he adopt her?"

A little bit of research showed that the GAL shouldn't even have been brought into our case. Kaitlin is a blood adoption since Sarah is the biological mother and I am the acting stepfather. Today we went before the judge one more time to try and waive the requirement for a GAL and get the motion to adopt passed. The judge said she needed more time to think about it because she's never heard of an adoption case where a GAL isn't needed. I don't know where this judge is getting her information, because a GAL is never used in a stepfather adoption case, ever.

So, in two weeks she gives her final ruling. If she says we have to go with the GAL that's a process we may not be willing to go through. We found out that basically if the GAL doesn't like the fact that we're Atheists, that we have dogs, a cat, and a bunch of reptiles, that we live in an older house with some issues, or basically that my favorite color is green then she can enter a motion of unfit parenting and our daughter would be taken by the state from both of us.

We've already sunk over 2 grand into this process, and the GAL will cost 500 more. Needless to say we don't have the money for that, but we're more worried about the GAL ruling against us. Basically our lawyer is an idiot, the judge is even worse, and it looks like instead of using our tax money to go on vacation next year I'll be using it to procure another lawyer and go through this entire process again. Ugh...
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: ses on August 29, 2014, 04:20:40 PM
Bill, I'm so very sorry.  You are such a good father to Kaitlin, it has to be so frustrating to deal with such a messed up system.  I wish I could do more than offer my hopes that everything turns out in the end, and that the adoption will be successful. 
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: saltine on August 29, 2014, 04:25:53 PM
That's too bad, Bill T.   Too many kids can't point to their fathers with pride nowadays.  I know that Bug is much better off with you in the picture and having you as her father will be great for her.  I hope it works out for all of you.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: heisenbergman on August 29, 2014, 04:42:12 PM
So sorry to hear that Bill! :( Reading your post made me furious at your lawyer. Not sure what is more frustrating: the lawyer or the judge - but that just didn't need to happen. I hope that everything turns out well. Are you forced to comply with the GAL ruling now? Or do you have the option to drop the current adoption so that you can start again from scratch with a new lawyer and hopefully a different judge?
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: Bill Thompson on August 29, 2014, 04:47:47 PM
First, thanks Ses, Candace, and heisenbergman. Second, as far as we are aware, we do not have to move forward with the GAL if we don't want to. We can drop the case, and then wait until tax time and get a new lawyer and start the process all over again. I think there's even a possibility we can do it in a different County, since the only reason we had to do it in Dekalb County to start with was because of the need to find Kaitlin's biological father in default of his duties as a father. Since that has already happened I think that any new process can take place in our home county of Ogle, so completely new judge in that case.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: saltine on August 29, 2014, 04:49:36 PM
Yes, you need a new judge!  One who knows what she's talking about.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: oldkid on August 29, 2014, 04:50:10 PM
It sounds like you just need a new judge.  This has to be very disappointing, as well as spending so much money for something that has been, thus far, fruitless.  I hope that you get a break with this.
Title: Re: I just need to whimper
Post by: sdb_1970 on August 29, 2014, 07:24:17 PM
I don't know what jurisdiction you're in, but I've been a probate lawyer in 16 years in three different states, and I personally have never heard of the court NOT appointing a guardian ad litem (and in some cases, an attorney ad litem) in an adoption, especially where one natural parent whose rights were being terminated is not participating.  (In TX, for example, a guardian ad litem is ALWAYS - without exception - appointed where parental rights are being terminated and a licensed adoption agency is not involved.)  Sorry, but the "messed up system" doesn't  take the removal of a natural parent's rights light