Was away last week so I missed this. My heart stopped when you started with A Matter Of Life And Death. Introducing this to a ten year old is so challenging and fantastic. It's a film we saw a lot in the UK on the BBC as a kid (Black Narcissus was the other one which is slightly more off the wall). Kind of fits next to The Wizard of Oz but the British version of same.
Didn't she find Charade a little gruesome? My problem is it tries to be a light romcom but the nasty deaths ruin the tone (personal opinion). Since my rites of passage with my 15 yr old was Alien I shouldn't talk.
I saw
A Matter of Life and Death (it was called
Stairway to Heaven in the U.S.) on TV when I was just slightly older than Charlotte and was dutifully blown away. It changed my perceptions about "older" films as dry and uninteresting. I am happy to report that she had a similar opinion. And I'm glad you brought up
Black Narcissus - it might be a bit intense for her now, but maybe in a year or so.
Regarding
Charade: she actually has seen it before but did not remember it well. She loves Cary Grant (from
North by Northwest and
To Catch a Thief) so this was a no-brainer. She was not put off by the deaths. I, like you, found them a bit gruesome when I saw this as a child. But she's seen worse in the video games her brothers play and even in some PG movies that we see. And besides, she (like me) was so enamored by the chemistry between Grant and Hepburn that everything else was secondary.
Speaking of
Alien, they had a double-feature of
Alien/
Aliens at a local cinema last Halloween and I took my (then) 13 year old son. Great minds run in the same slime, as my old art teacher used to say.