I hate to make this personal, but it seems that you are just as much condemning my lifestyle as T and G's. Not that I really have a problem with that, and you might see what I do as different than T and G, but if so, it is only a matter of degree. Because G certainly doesn't have a problem with confronting Mary when she crosses a line that T and G find unacceptable. T and G don't have any responsibility to confront their friend until their standards are upset.
So, Totoro, are you getting on their case because they don't judge people when you feel they should be judged?
I don't know how to put it any clearer.
So are you saying that if you knew one of your depressed and lonely friends tried to come on to your daughter sexually, you'd still be friends with them because they're depressed and lonely for years and years?
Anyway. They don't really confront her to change her so much as they say, "Well, you can't do that." Which is fine! But with all of the supposed "love" they give them, all of it is quite shallow. It's such an odd thing to have friends who are lonely, depressed, and broken people for such a long time. They aren't helping these people. It isn't in their moral duty to do it. They aren't exactly a person of God as you are. They just listen in on their loneliness and depression, feed them, and give them a place to stay.
Strange door I've walked into with this thread.
I suggest everyone in this thread read the short story, "Hunters in the Snow". I rather have a friend who tells me when I'm wrong when I'm wrong instead of telling me I'm right. Or worse. If they didn't say anything at all.
Perhaps I am not being clear?