This isn't going to go over well, but I have to say it. (I saw this well over a year ago so my details about it are fuzzy; forgive me if I err.)
**SALTY LANGUAGE AHOY**
To accuse Zachary's grandfather of misogyny, because he kept referring to that psychopath as "that bitch" is splitting hairs in a way I cannot possibly fathom.
Remember: this woman KILLED HIS SON and then KILLED HIS GRANDSON. I am all for equal rights of all people, but this woman was a colossal bag of shit. If someone had done the things to my family that she had done to Zachary's family, you can bet that "bitch" would be the 15th worst word that I would use about her.
Furthermore, if I remember correctly, he was saying all this in retrospect, after the fact ... after all the facts. Can you imagine something happening to your loved ones that was so preventable? The fury that would well up inside me would send me into a rage I don't ever want to have to have to experience. (I get mad about blown calls in playoff games; I can't imagine what this must be like.)
I think to compare him calling this woman a "bitch" to if he had used the "N-word" (the example cited) is not quite parallel: one is a reference to a person's nationality, the other is a reference to a person's personality. We all would have been taken aback if he had used any kind of ethnic slur (had it applied to the situation), because ethnic slurs are based not on a person's character, but on their race; that's why ethnic slurs always come off as ignorant, they are a prejudice based on physical appearance only. Whereas calling the woman a "b" -- while generally reserved for females -- is a commentary on her character as an enormous pile of shit. It's not as if he said "that lesbian" or "that women's libber" or any other gender-specific, personality-neutral term as a slur, just as you wouldn't call just any ol' woman a "bitch" or any ol' male an "asshole" (which is generally reserved for men, I find). If it were a man who did this, I don't know that we would begrudge him calling the perp a "son of a bitch."
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