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Re: I just need to whimper
« Reply #1140 on: October 24, 2013, 02:35:06 PM »
There's a great book by Deborah Tannen called You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation.  It's a great book which talks about all kinds of cross-cultural communication, and refers to what OAD mentions above.   It should be required reading for everyone, but mostly women pick it up.  That is a tragedy.
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Re: I just need to whimper
« Reply #1141 on: October 24, 2013, 04:36:17 PM »
Well, the impression I got over the phone is that she was never interested in dating me and basically knew she was leading me on the whole time . I guess she was just scared to say no in the moment.

What sucks the most is that she was a really neat person, we had a lot similar interest, and I enjoyed talking with and this whole experience means that's gone.
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Re: I just need to whimper
« Reply #1142 on: October 24, 2013, 06:36:45 PM »
There's a great book by Deborah Tannen called You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation. 

Added to my Amazon cart. 

I think even if you are pretty good and understanding the differences when observing others it is still quite difficult to apply the same keen observation to your own personal situation.

 
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Re: I just need to whimper
« Reply #1143 on: October 24, 2013, 07:21:02 PM »
There's a great book by Deborah Tannen called You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation. 

Added to my Amazon cart. 

I think even if you are pretty good and understanding the differences when observing others it is still quite difficult to apply the same keen observation to your own personal situation.

 

It certainly takes practice.
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Re: I just need to whimper
« Reply #1144 on: November 25, 2013, 06:55:26 AM »
Sorry to hear that.  :-\
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Re: I just need to whimper
« Reply #1145 on: November 25, 2013, 09:50:13 AM »
Sorry about that as well Totoro.

Having that fabulous new avatar, hopefully will cheer you up. I know it's doing that for me. :)

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Re: I just need to whimper
« Reply #1146 on: November 25, 2013, 10:15:29 AM »
That's hard, Totoro.  :(
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Re: I just need to whimper
« Reply #1147 on: November 25, 2013, 10:50:34 AM »
Now is the best time to become a celibate monk of the cinema.

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Re: I just need to whimper
« Reply #1148 on: November 25, 2013, 11:24:15 AM »
How long had you two been dating?

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Re: I just need to whimper
« Reply #1149 on: November 25, 2013, 11:37:17 AM »
How long had you two been dating?

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